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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 23, 2024Hindi
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I failed UPSC thrice. I am 24 and jobless. My parents are apprehensive and want me to take up a job and start my career. But I want to try one more time. If I take up a job I won't be able to focus. Pls advice

Ans: It sounds like you're facing a challenging situation, and it's understandable that you're feeling conflicted. Here are some points to consider:

1. Evaluate your situation: Take some time to assess why you haven't succeeded in the UPSC exams so far. Is it a lack of preparation, exam strategy, or other factors? Identifying the reasons can help you address them effectively.

2. Discuss with your parents: Have an open and honest conversation with your parents about your aspirations and concerns. Explain why you want to give the UPSC exam another try and discuss any alternative plans you might have.

3. Consider a compromise: Explore the possibility of finding a job that allows for some flexibility in your schedule, or one that aligns with your long-term goals. This way, you can gain work experience while still pursuing your dream of clearing the UPSC exams.

4. Create a balanced plan: If you decide to continue preparing for the exams, make sure to create a structured study plan that allows you to dedicate sufficient time to both studying and earning a living. This might involve setting specific study hours each day or week.

5. Seek support: Consider seeking guidance from mentors, tutors, or coaching institutes to enhance your preparation for the UPSC exams. Additionally, joining study groups or online forums can provide you with valuable insights and motivation.

6. Take care of yourself: It's essential to prioritize your mental and physical well-being during this time. Make sure to incorporate regular breaks, exercise, and relaxation activities into your routine to avoid burnout.

Ultimately, the decision to continue pursuing the UPSC exams or to take up a job depends on your individual circumstances and priorities. Remember that setbacks are a natural part of any journey, and it's okay to reassess your goals and make adjustments along the way. Trust yourself and have confidence in your abilities to overcome challenges and achieve success, whichever path you choose.
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Dear Madam, I am 42 years old and have accumulated over 15 years of experience across various roles, including operations, report writing, quality management, and business development. Before the onset of COVID-19, I worked in an office environment and had a job that required travel, which I thoroughly enjoyed as it allowed me to engage face-to-face with people and discover new places. Since the pandemic, I have transitioned to working from home, where I have been compensated well. This arrangement has allowed me to spend quality time with my family, enjoy flexibility in my work schedule, and significantly reduce my commute. However, over the past 4-5 years, I have found myself increasingly disliking remote meetings. I often experience anxiety before these meetings, even when I am not directly participating. I feel a sense of relief when meetings are canceled or on days when I have none scheduled. I understand that remote work and virtual meetings are likely to be a lasting trend, and I would appreciate your guidance on how to overcome my disinterest in attending these remote team meetings. Thank you for your support.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Many people have disliked the 'work from home' option that involves a lot of virtual interface. But do remind yourself: What is the need of the hour? There are a lot of things that you may dislike as eating options but you do anyway knowing that they are good for health, right?
When you start obsessing over something that you don't want, it makes it bigger in your mind to tolerate and that can cause you a lot of struggle. So, why not instead find ways of dealing with the inevitable?
How can you make things better for yourself when you have virtual meets and presentations? What are the advantages/perks of doing these virtually? When you start to look at the brighter side of things, the disinterest kind of starts to fade away and it makes it easier for you to be a part of what your work demands.

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 13, 2025
I had a 2 years relationship with a girl. Last year she left me for another guy and gave him her virginity and got pregnant. After getting abortion that guy left her. Now she came back to me and talked to me for about 2 months just as friends but i loved her so much that i forgave her and accepted her and we got in relationship. But one night she told me about all her past with her 2nd boyfriend. Now i don't want to keep relationship as her past makes me shiver and i promised her for marriage but i can't get over the fact that she cheated me and lost virginity to another guy then came back and wants me to marry her. So if i am not sure of marriage should i involve in physical activities with her ( we never envolved in physical activities before ) or should i avoid doing that until i am sure of marrying her.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are not even sure whether you want to accept her past with the other guy. If you have not made peace with this, why talk of marriage and indulging in physical stuff with her? It's not her this time; it's YOU!
So, take a break from this association, clear your mind space on what you want from life and a life partner. If she is the person you know that fits the description, then perhaps the past will not matter. Mere love is not enough, what you value in a relationship is in question now...so, take time to think i through and then make a decision on it.

All the best!
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