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Shekhar Kumar is senior manager, talent acquisition, at the Shri Venkateshwara University in Gajraula, Uttar Pradesh. He has 18 years of expertise in the search and placement of executive leadership talent across various industries.
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Shekhar has a bachelor's degree in business management from Magadh University, Bihar, and a master's degree in human resource management from Annamalai University, Tamil Nadu.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 25, 2024Hindi
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Hi Sir I have completed my btech in 2018 after that i am preparing for govt job for 2 years but not getting result in 2020 starting a pvt job ...till now doing that job got promoted but as compared to other employe i feel underpaid bcz some employee at my position have direct approach to CEO ... I feel to start govt job preparation again but my age is now 28 ...pressure from family to do better in life fully stucked my father always force me to do some self employed type business... I am totaly frustrated .

Ans: It sounds like you're facing a lot of pressure and frustration regarding your career and future direction. It's understandable to feel overwhelmed when dealing with family expectations, job dissatisfaction, and uncertainty about your career path. Here are some suggestions to help you navigate this challenging situation in the future. Have open and honest conversations with your family about your feelings, aspirations, and concerns regarding your career. Express your need for support and understanding as you navigate your career journey. Explain your reasons for considering government job preparation or entrepreneurship, and discuss how your family can support you in pursuing your goals. Once you've clarified your goals and explored your options, take proactive steps to move forward. This may involve updating your resume, researching government job requirements, or developing a business plan for your entrepreneurial venture. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps and take consistent action towards achieving them. Remember that progress takes time, and setbacks are a natural part of the journey. It's essential to prioritize your well-being and mental health during this challenging time. Take time for self-care activities that help you relax, recharge, and maintain balance in your life. Seek support from friends, family, or mental health professionals if you're feeling overwhelmed or struggling to cope with stress. Research different career paths, including government job opportunities, entrepreneurship, and other alternatives. Consider the pros and cons of each option, as well as the potential challenges and opportunities they present.

Remember that your career journey is unique to you, and it's okay to explore different paths and make changes along the way. Trust yourself to make decisions that align with your values, aspirations, and well-being. With persistence, self-reflection, and support from others, you can navigate through this challenging period and find fulfillment in your career and life.
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