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गुम हुए पैसे: क्या मुझे अपने चाचा के बेटे पर शक करना चाहिए?

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Sanjay Question by Sanjay on Mar 12, 2025English
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नमस्ते मैडम, मेरे मित्र की ओर से पूछे गए प्रश्न पर आपका मार्गदर्शन चाहता हूँ - दो-तीन बार मेरे मित्र के बटुए से पैसे चोरी हो गए हैं, उसे अपने चाचा के बेटे के उनके घर में रहने पर संदेह है, लेकिन वह निश्चित नहीं है...कृपया सलाह दें!!

Ans: प्रिय संजय,
अगर आपके घर में ऐसा कुछ हुआ तो आप क्या करेंगे? अपने दोस्त को भी यही सुझाव दें।
लेकिन, किसी पर आरोप लगाने या संदेह करने से पहले, कृपया सुनिश्चित करें कि आपके दोस्त ने पैसे कहीं और नहीं रखे हैं।

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नमस्ते, मेरा 27 साल का इकलौता बेटा 22 साल की एक लड़की के साथ रिलेशनशिप में है और उसने उसे अपने 20 लाख के होम लोन में गारंटर के रूप में रखा था और मेरे बेटे से 5 लाख का पर्सनल लोन लिया था (जो उसने एनबीएफसी से लिया था और उसे दे दिया था) . यह सब हमारे परिवार में से किसी को भी बताए बिना किया गया। वह दूसरे राज्य से है और उसकी अकेली माँ के अलावा उसके परिवार का कोई सदस्य नहीं है। हमारा रूढ़िवादी मानसिकता वाला अविभाजित परिवार है। हमारे परिवार के सदस्य उसे परिवार में स्वीकार करने को तैयार नहीं हैं क्योंकि वह मेरे बेटे से अनुचित लाभ उठा रही है और खुद को अविश्वसनीय मानती है... कृपया सलाह दें
Ans: प्रिय श्रीनिवास,
हालाँकि परिवार के भीतर की चिंताओं को दूर करना महत्वपूर्ण है, लेकिन अपने वयस्क बेटे की व्यक्तिगत पसंद और रिश्तों का सम्मान करना भी महत्वपूर्ण है। चिंताओं को व्यक्त करने और स्वायत्तता की अनुमति देने के बीच संतुलन बनाना चुनौतीपूर्ण हो सकता है, लेकिन एक स्वस्थ परिवार को गतिशील बनाए रखने के लिए यह आवश्यक है, अपने बेटे को जिम्मेदार वित्तीय निर्णयों के बारे में मार्गदर्शन करते हुए उसे सहायता प्रदान करें। गारंटर बनने और पैसे उधार देने के संभावित परिणामों को समझने में उसकी मदद करें। लड़की के साथ अपने बेटे के रिश्ते की गतिशीलता को समझने की कोशिश करें। यह जानना आवश्यक है कि क्या उनके बीच स्थिर और स्वस्थ संबंध हैं या क्या कोई खतरे की घंटी है। अपने वित्तीय मामलों में अपने बेटे को शामिल करने के इरादों और कारणों को समझने के लिए लड़की के साथ बातचीत करने पर विचार करें। खुले संचार को बढ़ावा देने के लिए बातचीत को सम्मानजनक और गैर-टकरावपूर्ण रखें। रिश्तों में वित्तीय भागीदारी के बारे में स्पष्ट सीमाएँ स्थापित करें। महत्वपूर्ण वित्तीय प्रतिबद्धताएँ करने से पहले अपने बेटे को परिवार के साथ संवाद करने के लिए प्रोत्साहित करें।

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Anu

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 08, 2024English
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नमस्ते, मेरा 27 साल का इकलौता बेटा 22 साल की एक लड़की के साथ रिलेशनशिप में है और उसने उसे अपने 20 लाख के होम लोन में गारंटर के रूप में रखा था और मेरे बेटे से 5 लाख का पर्सनल लोन लिया था (जो उसने एनबीएफसी से लिया था और उसे दे दिया था) . यह सब हमारे परिवार में से किसी को भी बताए बिना किया गया। वह दूसरे राज्य से है और उसकी अकेली माँ के अलावा उसके परिवार में कोई सदस्य नहीं है। हमारा रूढ़िवादी मानसिकता वाला अविभाजित परिवार है। हमारे परिवार के सदस्य उसे परिवार में स्वीकार करने के लिए तैयार नहीं हैं क्योंकि वह मेरे बेटे से अनुचित लाभ उठा रही है और खुद को अविश्वसनीय मानती है... हमने अपने बेटे को स्पष्ट कर दिया है कि ऐसी स्थिति में आपको सब कुछ छोड़कर उसे या हमें चुनना होगा। पैतृक संपत्ति. उसकी प्रेमिका उसे यह स्वीकार नहीं कर रही है और उससे कहा है कि वह उसे तभी स्वीकार करेगी जब हमारे परिवार वाले उसे स्वीकार करेंगे। इससे हमारे घर की शांत प्रकृति में अराजकता आ गई है क्योंकि हमारा बेटा हर दिन नखरे कर रहा है और हमारे परिवार के प्रत्येक सदस्य की मानसिक शांति को परेशान कर रहा है। कृपया हमें सलाह दें कि इस परिदृश्य में क्या किया जा सकता है क्योंकि हमारे परिवार का कोई भी सदस्य उसे स्वीकार करने को तैयार नहीं है और अपने इकलौते बेटे को भी अलग नहीं करना चाहता। धन्यवाद
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
या तो आपका परिवार उसे ऐसे व्यक्ति के रूप में देखता है जो पारिवारिक स्वीकृति चाहता है और इससे खुश है या आप उस पर उस व्यक्ति के रूप में संदेह कर सकते हैं जो आपके बेटे को धोखा देने में कामयाब रहा है।
इनमें से कौन सा सच है, यह तो समय ही बताएगा...आपका बेटा प्यार में अंधा हो गया है...आप उससे कैसे अपील कर सकते हैं? आप ऐसा क्या कह सकते हैं जिससे उसे एहसास हो कि संभवतः उसे धोखा दिया जा सकता है?
एक तरीका यह है कि उसे अपने घर पर आमंत्रित करें और उससे इन पैसों के लेन-देन के बारे में स्पष्ट रूप से बताने के लिए कहें और यह भी बताएं कि आपके बेटे ने इस जानकारी को अपने परिवार से दूर क्यों रखा... यदि आप सभी उसकी ईमानदारी के बारे में आश्वस्त हैं, तो यह आसान होगा उसे परिवार में स्वीकार करें; अन्यथा संभावना है कि आपका बेटा उसके झूठ को समझने में सक्षम हो...
तो, वह आपके बेटे के लिए सही व्यक्ति है या नहीं, यह तब बेहतर पता चलेगा जब आप उसे गर्मजोशी से आमंत्रित करेंगे और बिना किसी आलोचना के उसे एक मौका देंगे...समझ में आ रहा है?

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 28, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 23, 2025
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Our estranged brother had taken away our mom's jewellery when she stayed with him for just 4 months. He also got papers signed by her to make himself nominee for her bank account where substantial amount is lying. We came to know of this after our mother's death. What legal action is possible?
Ans: You are going through a sensitive issue. Losing a parent is deeply painful. Facing a dispute with a sibling after that is more painful. I respect your courage in raising this matter. You are doing the right thing by exploring a legal route.

Let me guide you clearly and fully.

This answer will focus on:

Legal meaning of nomination

Jewellery taken away without consent

Rights of other legal heirs

Steps to claim rightful share

Documents and proof needed

Role of the bank in nominee disputes

Steps if the jewellery was misappropriated

What not to do during the legal process

How to act as a united family (if possible)

Role of Certified Financial Planner in family money

Final insights for long-term peace

Legal Meaning of Nomination:

Nominee is not the owner of the asset

Nominee is only a trustee of the money or asset

He must distribute it to legal heirs as per law

If there is no Will, all legal heirs get equal share

In your mother’s case, if there was no Will, all children are equal legal heirs

Nomination does not remove the rights of other heirs

So, even if your brother is nominee, he must share money

You can legally stop him from taking all funds

Banks often think nominee is full owner. But this is not correct by law

If challenged, nominee has to prove that the money belongs only to him

Otherwise, he must give others their rightful share

You can take legal action in civil court if needed

Jewellery Taken Without Family Consent:

Jewellery gifted to your mother is her self-acquired asset

If she carried jewellery with her during stay, that’s fine

But if your brother took it away forcefully or without sharing, that’s wrong

He must give it back or its value to all legal heirs

You can file police complaint if it was taken without consent

You can also file case for recovery in civil court

If he got mother’s signature by trick or pressure, that is invalid

Any property or jewellery taken by fraud can be recovered legally

You may need to show that others were not informed or consulted

This becomes stronger if other siblings support you

Statement from close relatives helps in such cases

Proofs like photos, bills, or locker details also help

Do not worry if you don’t have full documents. Legal process can still work

Your brother must prove he got it fairly. Not the other way around

Even if there was oral gift or Will, it must be valid under Indian law

Rights of Other Legal Heirs:

If your mother died without a Will, it is called “intestate death”

In such case, her children and spouse (if alive) are legal heirs

Each legal heir gets equal share in movable and immovable assets

Jewellery, money in bank, FDs and other valuables are all included

Nominee cannot claim 100% ownership unless proven by Will or gift deed

If you are 3 children, each gets one-third share

If there is father also alive, then all get equal share including him

You can file a case to divide the assets equally

No one has extra right unless mother gave it in writing properly

Steps to Claim Your Share:

Write to the bank asking not to release the money to nominee alone

Attach death certificate and legal heir certificate with the letter

If money is already released, ask for a copy of nomination form

File an application in civil court for partition and injunction

Ask court to freeze further movement of funds and assets

In court, ask for share in jewellery and bank balance

Share all available details of jewellery and assets

Court will call your brother to submit his reply

You must show you were unaware of the nomination and jewellery transfer

If he does not give satisfactory answer, court can order fair division

Legal heirs can also file a combined case if all agree

Documents and Proof Needed:

Death certificate of your mother

Legal heir certificate from Tehsildar or Municipality office

Identity proof of all legal heirs

Bank passbook copy of the account with nomination

Application form of nomination from bank (ask bank to share)

Statements, SMS records or any written exchange on jewellery

Bills or photos of the jewellery with mother if available

Affidavit from family members on ownership of jewellery

Any letter or note left by your mother regarding assets

Medical proof if your mother was not well during signing the nomination

All these documents support your case in court

Role of Bank in Nominee Disputes:

Banks follow nominee instructions as per form on record

They are not responsible to divide between heirs

But they must not release funds if legal heirs object before withdrawal

You can submit a stay request from civil court to block funds

Once bank is informed of the dispute, they must act neutral

They will not release full funds till matter is settled legally

If they release funds after dispute is known, you can hold them accountable

Try to communicate in writing and take stamped copies from bank

Steps if Jewellery Was Taken:

Try to collect basic proof of jewellery taken

Get statements from family or neighbours if needed

File a complaint with police if theft or misappropriation is suspected

Mention that she was under influence or pressure during that time

Police may ask your brother to explain his side

You can also go to civil court to demand value of jewellery

Court can ask him to return value or the items themselves

All legal heirs must sign this complaint jointly for faster results

What Not To Do:

Do not get into verbal fights or emotional threats

Do not block other heirs from attending rituals or family talks

Avoid public humiliation or WhatsApp group fights

Court looks at behaviour of both sides. Keep your calm

Let lawyer speak. You speak only with documents

Do not assume nominee becomes full owner – that is incorrect belief

Do not delay action – assets may be withdrawn or sold

How to Act as United Family (If Possible):

If other siblings support you, file a joint petition

Try talking to your brother before going to court

Explain that nominee is not sole owner by law

If he agrees, split wealth peacefully

If he does not, take legal action without delay

Family peace is always better than court, if possible

But if cheating is done, then court is the right option

Role of Certified Financial Planner in Family Assets:

CFP helps families keep joint asset records

CFP can guide on family wealth planning during life

CFP also advises on how nominations should be done properly

CFP ensures no confusion after death of any member

CFP can also guide heirs on division based on law

Certified Financial Planner is not just investment expert

He works with family goals, safety and legacy planning

Your family can benefit from one even after this legal case

Finally:

Your brother is nominee. That does not make him full owner

All legal heirs have equal rights if there is no Will

You must protect your family’s rightful share

Court can help divide bank money and jewellery fairly

Gather documents and file a legal claim

Try for family settlement, but prepare legally too

You are taking the right step by asking these questions

It is never too late to stand for fairness and truth

Family wealth must stay within all rightful members

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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I'm scoring 601 in NEET 2025. A lot of rank predictors are showing my rank to be less than 10000. Should I believe them? Will i get a government college? Please let me know if i should keep hoping or not
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The NTA has not yet declared the results and rankings for NEET2025. Generally, predictions are based on probabilities, and many factors are involved in determining the exact rank.

For example, you have only shared your marks, but not other important details such as category and domicile. If your category changes, it can significantly affect your predicted rank. To get a more accurate prediction regarding availability, you need to provide comprehensive details, including expected marks, category, gender, whether you are physically challenged, and relevant details..

With your score, changing parameters such as your category can lead to significant changes in predictions. The purpose of these predictions is to help you prepare for what comes next, especially before you appear for counseling. This process is crucial for your future. It is important to accept guidance—even if it’s virtual—because there are lakhs of candidates appearing and numerous seats available across the country, and seat allocation must be done fairly.

Since the information provided is freely available, it is not good to simply ignore or question it. A positive attitude is essential.

If you haven't shared the proper information with the predictor and gathered the necessary details, please do so.

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Dear Sir I am now 60 yrs and retiring next month. By god's grace I have no EMI, Loan and any liability. My present expenses is around 200,000 Rs/month. I have EPF of 85 lacs, PPF of 17 lacs, FD in Bank of 2 Cr and MFs of 85 Lac so far. I will get 3000 INR as Pension per month. I wish to understand if all this is sufficient corpus down the line for 10 yrs. Please advice how one can manage in this much for a couple.
Ans: You are entering retirement with zero loans, a high monthly budget, and a solid asset base. That is a great position. You now need a very simple, tax-efficient, and low-stress plan to manage this wealth for the next 10 years and beyond.

Let us break this into key sections to plan from every angle.

Your Financial Snapshot at Retirement

You are retiring next month at age 60.

You have no liabilities, which is excellent.

Your monthly household expense is around Rs. 2 lakh.

You have Rs. 85 lakh in EPF, which will now be withdrawn.

You have Rs. 17 lakh in PPF, which is maturing soon or can be extended.

You have Rs. 2 crore in bank fixed deposits already.

You also have Rs. 85 lakh in mutual funds.

Your monthly pension is Rs. 3,000, which is too small to count.

Retirement Corpus Total and Its Strength

Your combined corpus today is about Rs. 3.87 crore.

At 2 lakh monthly expense, your annual expense is Rs. 24 lakh.

You need Rs. 2.4 crore just to cover 10 years without interest.

But your funds will earn income also.

So your present corpus is strong enough for 10 years and more.

With proper planning, this can last 20 years or more.

Expected Inflation and Expense Growth

Inflation is likely to be 6% to 7% yearly on average.

So your Rs. 2 lakh monthly expense may rise to Rs. 3.5 lakh in 10 years.

Your plan should therefore give both income now and growth later.

Your Goals in Retirement

Have monthly income of Rs. 2 lakh that grows over time.

Keep taxes as low as possible.

Maintain full liquidity for any medical or family needs.

Grow part of the corpus for long-term safety.

Leave behind wealth for your spouse or children, if possible.

Problems to Avoid in Retirement

Do not put all money in FDs. Inflation will eat the value.

Do not depend only on interest. It will not grow with expenses.

Do not keep too much in savings accounts. Returns are too low.

Do not chase direct stocks or risky options. You are not working anymore.

Asset Allocation for Next 10 Years

Divide the Rs. 3.87 crore into 3 buckets.

Bucket 1: Income Bucket – For first 5 years of income

This should be around Rs. 1.25 crore.

Use this for immediate monthly income and any emergency needs.

Keep it in laddered fixed deposits (of 1-5 years) and bank RDs.

Also use ultra-short duration debt mutual funds through MFD with CFP support.

Ensure liquidity and steady income.

Bucket 2: Growth + Safety Bucket – For years 6 to 10

Allocate around Rs. 1.25 crore here.

Invest in hybrid mutual funds and short-term debt funds.

Rebalance every 2 years with help of a CFP.

This gives balance of safety and slow growth.

Bucket 3: Long-Term Growth Bucket – For after 10 years

Keep the remaining Rs. 1.37 crore here.

Invest in actively managed mutual funds only, not index funds.

Choose multi-cap, large-cap, and flexi-cap categories.

Do not choose direct mutual funds yourself.

Invest through MFD linked with a Certified Financial Planner.

This will grow money for medical costs, spouse’s future, or legacy.

Your Monthly Income Strategy

From Bucket 1, start a monthly SWP (systematic withdrawal plan) from debt funds.

You can also break small FDs monthly or quarterly to support income.

Refill Bucket 1 every 3 years by transferring from Bucket 2.

From age 70 onward, draw from Bucket 3 if needed.

Always keep 6 months’ expenses in bank savings for liquidity.

Cash Flow and Tax Management

FD interest is taxable at slab rate. So spread FDs between yourself and spouse.

Use debt mutual funds for lower taxes with STCG at 20% and LTCG as per slab.

Mutual funds are more tax-efficient than FDs over time.

Withdraw smartly using SWP to stay within low tax slabs.

You can also use PPF extension with contribution for 5 more years.

That gives tax-free growth and safety.

Emergency Medical Planning

Keep Rs. 15–20 lakh in a separate liquid FD or debt fund for medical use.

This is your health buffer. Do not touch it unless for emergency.

Keep this in joint name with spouse for easy access.

If your health insurance is low, buy a super top-up plan with Rs. 25 lakh or more.

Managing PPF and EPF Corpus

EPF of Rs. 85 lakh can be withdrawn tax-free.

Use part of it to build Bucket 1 and part for long-term Bucket 3.

PPF of Rs. 17 lakh is also tax-free.

You can keep it locked or extend for 5 years with or without contribution.

Use it as a tax-free part of your safety bucket.

Mutual Fund Strategy – What to Do Now

Rs. 85 lakh in mutual funds is a good base.

Do not sell it all suddenly. Use part for Bucket 2 and 3.

Review each fund with your Certified Financial Planner.

Shift from mid or small cap to more stable large/multi/flexi-cap mix.

Use only regular plans. Avoid direct funds.

Direct funds may look cheaper, but you miss support and rebalancing.

A good MFD with CFP helps you avoid wrong switches and panic.

Asset Rebalancing Every 2 Years

Every 2–3 years, revisit your asset buckets.

Move money from growth bucket to income bucket when needed.

Use SWP, FD breaks, and PPF maturity to refill buckets.

This keeps your income smooth and your capital growing.

Legacy and Estate Planning

Create a simple Will. It avoids confusion later.

Nominate spouse or children in all investments.

Keep a record of assets, passwords, and bank details.

Talk to your family and explain the system you have set.

Keep one person trusted for future medical or financial help.

Expenses After 10 Years

At age 70, you may need Rs. 3.5 lakh or more per month.

By that time, Bucket 3 will start giving income.

The mutual fund growth and rebalancing will support this.

If health declines, medical spending can rise. Plan accordingly.

If any lump sum is required, break long-term FDs or redeem mutual funds.

What You Should Not Do

Do not buy new insurance or annuities. You don’t need them.

Do not go for index funds. They do not protect well in falling markets.

Actively managed funds perform better with a proper planner.

Do not invest in stocks or risky bonds for extra returns.

Do not take advice from unqualified persons or relatives.

Do not keep too much idle money in savings accounts.

Use a Certified Financial Planner to Monitor

A CFP will track your income plan, tax impact, and medical reserve.

Your needs will change over 10 years. Rebalancing is a must.

Without planning, even a big corpus can shrink due to wrong choices.

With proper strategy, your corpus can last for 20+ years with growth.

Investment Monitoring Checklist

Review all FDs every year. Renew or restructure as per needs.

Check mutual fund portfolio every 6 months with MFD.

Track income, expense, and surplus monthly.

Record all redemptions and tax impact.

Make your spouse aware of all decisions.

Other Important Tips

Keep a small part in gold only if needed for future gifting.

Avoid new real estate for investment. It reduces liquidity.

Use mobile apps only for checking balances, not for investing.

Always double check SMS and emails from banks or mutual funds.

Maintain a yearly summary sheet of all investments.

Keep one trusted CA or tax expert to help during filing.

Finally

You have built your wealth with care. You can now protect it with discipline.

Rs. 3.87 crore is enough for the next 10–15 years with smart withdrawal.

But you need structure. Divide your corpus into 3 buckets as explained.

Avoid risky new products. Stick to what you understand.

Take help from a Certified Financial Planner to do annual checks.

This will keep your income steady, taxes low, and worries away.

Plan for your spouse too. Ensure she can handle money if anything happens.

With this approach, your retirement can be peaceful and financially secure.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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