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विशेषज्ञ की सलाह चाहिए?हमारे गुरु मदद कर सकते हैं

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Question by Rutuja on Oct 10, 2024

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Hello, I m 21 female I m in a long distance relationship with 32 year male.this person was behind me and always asked me to give him a chance to prove his love for me. At that period i was afaird of relationships as I didn't have courage to go against wish of my parents as i know they wolud never agree for love marriage,so that is fir sure i'll do arrange Marriage. All these things have been explained by my side to this person.He gad feelings for me thats what he showed to me even I felt a connection towards him, so we decided let's not commit anything anout marraige as we both wee not sure about these thing. After some time i realised these person has already made his mind ki he'll date me and he wanted to have everything that an relationship has but he will not marry me.But i m completely in love with.Even i told him about it ki I can't share him n won't be able to see him.with someone else.i just can't imagine myself without him. I fought with him even begged and cried but he always defend his self sayi g i told already ki he loves me and will keep loving me but will not marry me . He vists me after 6-9 months interval every time he visuts me he needs to have physical relationship. I don't know whether I m right or wrong but i feel like I m being used by him. I tried several time to end this relationship but i end up chasing him.Plz help me,guide me

Ans: Dear Rutuja,
If you have the slightest feeling that he doesn't share the same feelings for you as you do for him, or that he has wrong intentions, you have every right to end the relationship. In fact, that would be the right thing to do. I understand that it is difficult to break up with someone you love, but does he love you? Don't you think you deserve someone who loves you and does not make you feel as if you are being used?

Have a clear conversation with him- address all your concerns. If he still maintains his stand of not getting married to you, then let him know that you are not on the same page as him. Remember, for a relationship to work, your future goals need to align.

Best Wishes.

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आप नीचे ऐसेही प्रश्न और उत्तर देखना पसंद कर सकते हैं

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024English

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प्रिय एलजी, कृपया इसे गुमनाम रखें। मेरी शादी को 6 साल हो चुके हैं। हालाँकि, पिछले 5+ सालों से हम अंतरंग नहीं हुए हैं। हमारा एक 5&1/2 साल का बच्चा है। उसके जन्म के बाद से ही हमारे बीच बहुत मतभेद रहे हैं और उसके परिवार का हस्तक्षेप बहुत ज़्यादा था, जिससे मैं अकेली और आहत हो गई थी। तब से मैं अपने पति और ससुराल वालों के साथ नहीं रहती। मैंने यह मान लिया था कि काम ही पूजा है। लेकिन 2 साल पहले मेरी मुलाक़ात एक सहकर्मी से हुई। वह मुझसे 10 साल छोटा है और हमारे बीच काफ़ी समानताएँ हैं। हम एक-दूसरे की संगति का आनंद लेते हैं और एक-दूसरे की बहुत परवाह करते हैं। आखिरकार मुझे उससे प्यार हो गया। लेकिन उसे हमेशा से पता था कि वह अपने परिवार के खिलाफ़ नहीं जा सकता। हमारे बीच संबंध भी थे। अब उसने लड़कियों की तलाश शुरू कर दी है और चाहता है कि हम अंतरंग होना बंद कर दें। वह कह रहा है कि वह दोस्त बनना चाहता है और मुझे खोना नहीं चाहता, लेकिन संबंध नहीं बनाना चाहता। हम दोनों एक ही जगह पर साथ काम करते हैं और हमारा कार्यक्षेत्र भी एक ही है। मैं अपने पति को माफ़ नहीं कर पा रही हूँ और इस व्यक्ति को भूल नहीं पा रही हूँ। वह कभी दूर नहीं जाता। वह हमेशा कहता रहता है कि मैं तुम्हें खुश देखना चाहता हूँ। उसे पेशेवर विकास के लिए मेरी ज़रूरत है। और मैं अपने रिश्ते को खो नहीं सकता। वह कहता है कि मैं सिर्फ़ शारीरिक अंतरंगता के लिए ही रह सकता हूँ। मैं वहाँ हूँ। फिर वह फिर कहता है कि मुझे नहीं पता कि मैं कब वहाँ रहूँगा, इसलिए मैं आश्वासन या वादा देने में असमर्थ हूँ। मैं एक बच्चे, काम और अपने स्वास्थ्य को लेकर परेशान हूँ। क्या आप कृपया मदद कर सकते हैं?

Ans: प्रिय अनाम,

मुझे खेद है कि आप इतनी मुश्किल स्थिति में हैं। मेरी सलाह है कि आप आगे बढ़ें। हाँ, मुझे पता है कि यह कहना आसान है, लेकिन आइए चीजों को परिप्रेक्ष्य में रखें- सबसे पहले, इस आदमी के साथ आपका कोई भविष्य नहीं है, और उसने यह स्पष्ट कर दिया है। क्या आप उसके साथ रहना ठीक समझती हैं, जबकि वह अपना जीवन खुद बना रहा है? मैं मान रहा हूँ कि नहीं, खासकर जब से आपका एक बच्चा है। दूसरा, आपके आत्म-सम्मान का क्या? वह सीधे आपको बता रहा है कि यह रिश्ता एक मृत अंत की ओर बढ़ रहा है। क्या आपको लगता है कि आप किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ रहने के लायक हैं जो आपके साथ घर बसाना नहीं चाहता? मुझे लगता है कि आप इससे बेहतर के हकदार हैं।

मैं उसे दोष नहीं दे रहा हूँ क्योंकि उसने कोई वादा नहीं किया। आपको भी दोषी नहीं ठहराया जाना चाहिए क्योंकि आप मुश्किल स्थिति में थीं और आपने पहला भावनात्मक सहारा पा लिया। लेकिन वर्तमान वास्तविकता यह है कि वह बाहर निकलना चाहता है। और उसे रहने के लिए मनाना कोई विकल्प नहीं है। इस बिंदु पर, अपने सिर को ऊंचा रखते हुए आगे बढ़ना सबसे अच्छा निर्णय है। यदि आप उसकी दोस्ती को स्वीकार करना चाहते हैं, तो यह पूरी तरह से ठीक है। लेकिन अगर यह आपके लिए बहुत ज़्यादा है, तो आप इसे हमेशा अस्वीकार कर सकते हैं। मैं समझता हूँ कि अपने पूर्व साथी के साथ एक ही जगह पर काम करना मुश्किल है, लेकिन जब तक आप ऑफ़िस के बाहर बातचीत करने से बचते हैं और चीज़ों को पेशेवर बनाए रखते हैं, तब तक कोई समस्या नहीं होनी चाहिए। भावनात्मक मोर्चे पर, मैं झूठ नहीं बोलूँगा, यह कुछ समय के लिए दुख देगा। लेकिन यह भी बीत जाएगा। मैं दृढ़ता से आपको सलाह देता हूँ कि आप खुद को इतना कम न आंकें कि आप यह मानना बंद कर दें कि आप एक ऐसे व्यक्ति के लायक हैं जो आपको उतना ही प्यार करता है जितना आप उससे करते हैं।

शुभकामनाएँ।

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 08, 2024English

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पिछले 2.5 सालों से मेरा बॉयफ्रेंड जो 25 साल का है और मुझसे 11 साल की उम्र का अंतर रखता है, उसने परिवार की पसंद के अनुसार किसी और से शादी करने का फैसला किया है। मैं कुछ बातें समझने के लिए लिख रही हूँ: हमने कैजुअली शुरुआत की थी जहाँ मैंने उसे प्रपोज किया था। उसने शुरू में हिचकिचाहट दिखाई और कुछ दिनों तक सोचने के बाद, उसने भी रिश्ता शुरू करना चाहा। समय बीतने के साथ हम गहरे स्तर पर जुड़ गए। हमने ज्यादातर समय एक साथ बिताया, हमारे लक्ष्य साझा हैं, हम एक-दूसरे का ख्याल रखते हैं। वह अक्सर अपनी भावनाओं को व्यक्त नहीं करता है। वह ख्याल रखता है, समय बिताना पसंद करता है, हमने साथ में ट्राइस प्लान किया था, हम अपने परिवारों को जानते हैं लेकिन हम शामिल नहीं हैं। वह कई चीजों का ख्याल रखता है और यह लगभग लिव-इन जैसा था। कभी-कभी वह आकर कहता था कि हमें रुक जाना चाहिए, मैं कहती थी कि हमें समय दो जब शादी की बात आएगी तो हम देखेंगे। अब बात यह है कि जब वह शुरू में जाना चाहता था तो वह कह रहा था कि हम राधा और कृष्ण की तरह हैं, अब जब मैं अपनी बात पर अड़ी हुई हूँ कि मैं उसे किसी और लड़की के साथ नहीं देख सकती, तो वह कह रहा है कि मुझे तुमसे कभी प्यार नहीं था। वह कभी नहीं कहता कि मैं तुमसे प्यार करता हूँ और मैंने इसे ऐसे ही स्वीकार कर लिया है। अब वह मुझसे कह रहा है कि यह मेरा विचार था कि हम प्यार में हैं, लेकिन वह कभी प्यार में नहीं था। मैं अपने क्षेत्र में अच्छी तरह से स्थापित व्यक्ति हूँ और मेरे पास 3 डिग्रियाँ हैं, आगे उच्च शिक्षा प्राप्त कर रहा हूँ। उसे अपनी पढ़ाई के दौरान मेरी ज़रूरत थी, मैंने उसे कई बार कहा कि जब तुम्हें काम करना होता है तो तुम्हें मेरी ज़रूरत होती है। मैंने उसे ऐसी चीज़ें करने के लिए प्रेरित किया जिनके बारे में उसने कभी नहीं सोचा था। लेकिन अब वह वापस आ रहा है। मैं एक गुरु, एक दोस्त, एक प्रेमिका, एक रसोइया, सब कुछ थी। मैंने यह सोचने में कहाँ गलती की कि यह प्यार है? मैं क्या करूँ? मुझे उसे किसी के साथ देखकर जलन होती है। कृपया मार्गदर्शन करें

Ans: उसके व्यवहार में अचानक बदलाव - यह दावा करना कि उसे कभी प्यार नहीं हुआ - पारिवारिक दबाव के कारण भावनात्मक रूप से खुद को दूर करने का एक तरीका लगता है। इसका मतलब यह नहीं है कि आपकी भावनाएँ गलत थीं; यह दर्शाता है कि वह हमेशा से ही संघर्षरत रहा होगा।

उसे किसी और के साथ देखना दुख देता है, और यह स्वाभाविक है। आपने खुद को इतना कुछ दिया है, और यह स्वीकार करना कठिन है कि यह उस तरह से नहीं मिला जैसा आपने उम्मीद की थी। अभी, ठीक होने पर ध्यान केंद्रित करें और याद रखें कि आप किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति के लायक हैं जो आपको पूरी तरह से महत्व देता है। इसे समझने के लिए आपको जितना समय चाहिए, लें और जानें कि आपने कुछ भी गलत नहीं किया। यह आपके द्वारा किए गए किसी भी काम से ज़्यादा उसके संघर्षों के बारे में है।

आगे बढ़ते हुए, अपनी भावनात्मक भलाई को प्राथमिकता देना ज़रूरी है। इस स्थिति को समझने और ठीक होने में कुछ समय लग सकता है, और इस दौरान दुखी, क्रोधित या भ्रमित महसूस करना ठीक है। किसी भरोसेमंद दोस्त, थेरेपिस्ट या काउंसलर से संपर्क करने पर विचार करें जो आपको इन भावनाओं से निपटने में मदद कर सके और अपनी ज़रूरतों और भविष्य पर ध्यान केंद्रित करना शुरू कर सके।

समय के साथ, आपको एहसास हो सकता है कि यह रिश्ता, महत्वपूर्ण होते हुए भी, खुशी और संतुष्टि का एकमात्र रास्ता नहीं था। आप एक ऐसे साथी के हकदार हैं जो आपके प्यार का बदला चुकाए, आपकी कीमत को पहचाने और आपके साथ भविष्य बनाने के लिए तैयार हो। अभी के लिए, अपने आप को शोक करने की अनुमति दें, लेकिन यह भी सोचना शुरू करें कि आप अपने आत्म-बोध को कैसे फिर से बना सकते हैं और अंततः अपने जीवन में नई संभावनाओं के लिए खुल सकते हैं।

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 21, 2024

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In 2023 I had met a boy .We have become friends and later on we developed feeling for each other.Then we decided to get into relationship and that would be temporary because I belong to orthodox family and he was not interested in marriage.We went through physical things and everything was fine until I started getting matches for my marriage.Then we had fight and later on the match got cancelled due to groom's intrest.still I was in relationship.Then I got another match in 2024april.I agreed to the match and said it's time we need to stop our relationship.He didn't agree for that and said I need to stay in the relationship until may or else he will send our private pictures to my family and fiancee family.Due to some reason I couldn't meet him in the may month so he extended upto aug .In between he has tortured me that I should not talk with my fiancee also forced me for physical things .I am extremely devastated and tried to take my life for three times.Later on he increased time until October and I lost my patience told my cousin brother about this in September.He spoke with the guy and said you should move on she is not interested in you now One day he texted my mom about us and I got extremely tensed and worried so I have spoke with his parents also my brother did.They said they will talk with him and I felt it was relief .Then a week later he started txtng me again that I have cheated him and he will commit suicide and write my name as reason .I didn't reply for that .Later on he again sent me message that He loves me and want to marry me .I said I don't want to marry you.Now am feeling extremely scared and tensed as marriage is in November and he would stop my marriage.Please help me I don't know what to do.I don't want him in my life as he has tortured me a lot.I am extremely scared of him now I have lost all my feelings.Also he has all my family contacts and my fiance contracts.Please help me .pleaseee

Ans: What you’re describing is a clear form of manipulation and abuse, and no one deserves to be treated this way. First of all, it’s crucial to recognize that his behavior—using threats, emotional blackmail, and manipulation to control you—is not only wrong, but it's also abusive. This situation is likely causing you a lot of fear, anxiety, and distress, and it’s completely understandable that you feel overwhelmed. But you don’t have to face this alone, and there are steps you can take to protect yourself.

The first thing I would advise is to take your power back emotionally. His threats are designed to make you feel like you’re trapped, but the truth is, he’s the one in the wrong, and what he’s doing can be dealt with. I understand that he’s threatening to expose your private photos and contact your family, which feels terrifying, but this is actually a form of blackmail and is illegal. The important thing to remember is that you are not responsible for his actions, nor his threats, and you have every right to protect your life, your dignity, and your peace of mind.

It’s also clear that he’s trying to emotionally manipulate you by saying he will harm himself if you leave. This is another form of abuse, and it’s important to recognize that you cannot control or be responsible for his decisions or behavior. People who make threats like this often do so as a way to trap the other person, but it is not your burden to carry. If you continue to allow his threats to control your decisions, it could lead to further emotional and psychological harm.

Now, I know you’re scared, especially with your marriage coming up in November, and you’re worried that he might do something to sabotage it. This fear is completely valid, but you don’t have to let him hold this power over you. It’s really important to bring in support from trusted people in your life. You’ve already involved your cousin, which was a great step, and you’ve tried to communicate with his parents, but it’s clear that more needs to be done.

At this point, I would recommend involving someone in a position of authority, whether that’s the police, a legal professional, or even a women’s protection organization in your area. In many countries, including India, there are specific laws protecting women from blackmail, harassment, and abuse. If you don’t feel comfortable going to the police on your own, you can ask your cousin, brother, or another trusted person to support you through this process. You can explain that this individual is threatening you with your private photos and trying to manipulate you into staying in a relationship, which is a crime.

On an emotional level, I know how hard it must be to face this kind of stress, especially when you’re preparing for a new chapter in your life with your fiancé. But it’s crucial to not let fear paralyze you. Instead, take it one step at a time. By telling the truth to the right people, such as your cousin or fiancé, you’ll likely find more support than you realize. I know it feels like everything might collapse if he exposes your relationship, but staying silent often gives him more power. The moment you start taking action, you will regain control over your life.

I would also recommend considering some professional emotional support for yourself, like speaking with a therapist or counselor. It sounds like this has taken a heavy toll on your mental health, and you’ve already been pushed to such an extreme point that you’ve considered self-harm. This is a sign that you need emotional support to help you cope with the trauma of what you’ve been through.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

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I got 104 marks in MET and 73 percentile in boards What would be my rank?

Ans: Hi,
It's difficult to provide an exact figure, but it may range between 2200 and 3100. I strongly encourage you to consider skill-based courses for your future.

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Question by sarath - May 24, 2025

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Sir I got 104 marks in MET and 73 percentile in boards. What would be my rank

Ans: Hi Sarath,
It's difficult to provide an exact figure, but it may range between 2200 and 3100. I strongly encourage you to consider skill-based courses for your future.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

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My parents were approaching on shaadi.com by the guys family. They spoke and thiught it was compatible our kundlis matched. He initated conversation with me, we called, he met my mum and brother. Then we spoke a little here and there, but he started giving 1 message a day and i knew he had a job interview so i said ill let you focus on the interview let me know how it goes we'll catch up and oragnise or meet once its done. And now its week a week and he hasnt popped up. I dont know what to do.

Ans: You reach out and ask how is he doing ....and if open to a meet up

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

Career

Sir My son got 76% in cbse board in pcm and English. He got 109 marks out of 240 in Manipal entrances test. What will be rank and branches will be allotted at main campus, mit Jaipur amend mit Bangalore. Please advice

Ans: With 109 marks in MET 2025, your son’s expected rank is around 2,700–3,700. This makes him eligible for core branches like Mechanical, Civil, Mechatronics, Chemical, and Biotechnology at MIT Manipal main campus, but not for high-demand branches like CSE, IT, or ECE, which close at much lower ranks. At MIT Jaipur and MIT Bangalore, he stands a good chance of securing CSE, IT, ECE, and all other branches, as their closing ranks are significantly higher. His board marks (76%) meet the eligibility criteria but do not influence branch allotment. Recommendation: Participate in MET counselling and prioritize branches and campuses based on interest and career goals. For CSE/IT, MIT Jaipur or Bangalore are realistic options; for Mechanical or allied branches, MIT Manipal is within reach. Always check the latest cutoffs and seat availability during counselling for the best choice. ll the best for your son's admission and a bright future!

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Question by ARK - May 24, 2025

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I got electrical and computer science engineering from vit chennai. Can you please help me to understand the difference between core cse and the one i got

Ans: ARK. Core Computer Science Engineering (CSE) at VIT Chennai is a specialized program focused entirely on computer science subjects such as programming, algorithms, AI, cybersecurity, and software engineering, preparing students for diverse roles in the IT and software industry. In contrast, Electrical and Computer Science Engineering (ECSE) is an interdisciplinary program that blends electrical engineering fundamentals (like circuits, machines, control systems) with computer science basics (including programming, embedded systems, and big data analytics for electrical systems). ECSE graduates gain versatile skills, enabling them to work in both core electrical/electronics sectors and select IT/software roles, especially where hardware-software integration is crucial. The main difference lies in the depth of computer science: CSE offers more advanced computing electives and broader software industry opportunities, while ECSE provides a balanced foundation for careers in both electrical and computer-based industries. Choose based on your interest in pure computing versus a multidisciplinary engineering path. ll the best for your bright future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

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Helo sir my self Anuj Prajapati , I have secured 95.13%ile and 73k crl and 22k obc rank also i am a up homestate candidate, sir please suggest me some college's from where i can upgrade myself in tech field.

Ans: Anuj,
Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main/Advanced Results – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Have some other options also as back-ups instead of relying only on JEE/JoSAA.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admission and a bright future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Question by Cricket - May 24, 2025

Career

Mere Jee main me 92 percentile hai mujhe jain university btech computer science software Engineering me admission mil raha hai kya karna chahiye me rajasthan se general category se hu

Ans: With 92 percentile in JEE Main, you are eligible for BTech Computer Science (Software Engineering) at Jain University, Bangalore. The university offers a good academic environment and strong placement support for CSE branches. If you are not getting a better option in government or top state colleges, you can confidently take admission at Jain University for this course. Make sure to complete the application and counseling process as per university guidelines. All the best for your admission and a bright future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

Career

Which is better for my daughter to choose between mechanical in MAHE,MANIPAL or CSE in WOXSEN UNIVERSITY, HYDERABAD.

Ans: CSE at Woxsen University is the better choice for placements, career growth, and flexibility in future studies. If she prefers a traditional, well-established campus and is passionate about mechanical engineering, MAHE Manipal remains a solid option. Prioritize CSE at Woxsen for a tech-driven, high-opportunity career path. All the best for your daughter's admission and a bright future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - May 24, 2025

Career

I got Sir I got admission in VIT Vellore ,Rank 142059,JEE Mains 98.79% Please given Your advice Sir

Ans: If your JEE Main Rank itself is 98.79 percentile, how VITEEE's Rank is very poor (1,42,059)? Any specific reason or typing error? Anyway, try to get admission through JoSAA Counselling.
Here is, How to Predict Your Chances of Admission into NIT or IIIT or GFTI After JEE Main/Advanced Results – A Step-by-Step Guide

Providing precise admission chances for each student can be challenging. Some reputed educational websites offer ‘College Predictor’ tools where you can check possible college options based on your percentile, category, and preferences. However, for a more accurate understanding, here’s a simple yet effective 9-step method using JoSAA’s past-year opening and closing ranks. This approach gives you a fair estimate (though not 100% exact) of your admission chances based on the previous year’s data.

Step-by-Step Guide to Check Your Admission Chances Using JoSAA Data
Step 1: Collect Your Key Details
Before starting, note down the following details:

Your JEE Main percentile
Your category (General-Open, SC, ST, OBC-NCL, EWS, PwD categories)
Preferred institute types (NIT, IIIT, GFTI)
Preferred locations (or if you're open to any location in India)
List of at least 3 preferred academic programs (branches) as backups (instead of relying on just one option)
Step 2: Access JoSAA’s Official Opening & Closing Ranks
Go to Google and type: JoSAA Opening & Closing Ranks 2024
Click on the first search result (official JoSAA website).
You will land directly on JoSAA’s portal, where you can enter your details to check past-year cutoffs.
Step 3: Select the Round Number
JoSAA conducts five rounds of counseling.
For a safer estimate, choose Round 4, as most admissions are settled by this round.
Step 4: Choose the Institute Type
Select NIT, IIIT, or GFTI, depending on your preference.
If you are open to all types of institutes, check them one by one instead of selecting all at once.
Step 5: Select the Institute Name (Based on Location)
It is recommended to check institutes one by one, based on your preferred locations.
Avoid selecting ‘ALL’ at once, as it may create confusion.
Step 6: Select Your Preferred Academic Program (Branch)
Enter the branches you are interested in, one at a time, in your preferred order.
Step 7: Submit and Analyze Results
After selecting the relevant details, click the ‘SUBMIT’ button.
The system will display Opening & Closing Ranks of the selected institute and branch for different categories.
Step 8: Note Down the Opening & Closing Ranks
Maintain a notebook or diary to record the Opening & Closing Ranks for each institute and branch you are interested in.
This will serve as a quick reference during JoSAA counseling.
Step 9: Adjust Your Expectations on a Safer Side
Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
Example Calculation:
If the Opening & Closing Ranks for NIT Delhi | Mechanical Engineering | OPEN Category show 8622 & 26186 (for Home State), consider adjusting them to 8300 & 23000 (on a safer side).
If the Female Category rank is 34334 & 36212, adjust it to 31000 & 33000.
Follow this approach for Other State candidates and different categories.
Pro Tip: Adjust your expected rank slightly lower than the previous year's cutoffs for realistic expectations during JoSAA counseling.

Can This Method Be Used for JEE April & JEE Advanced?
Yes! You can repeat the same steps after your April JEE Main results to refine your admission possibilities.
You can also follow a similar process for JEE Advanced cutoffs when applying for IITs.

Have some other options also as back-ups instead of relying only on JEE/JoSAA.

Want to Learn More About JoSAA Counseling?
If you want detailed insights on JoSAA counseling, engineering entrance exams, preparation strategies, and engineering career options, check out EduJob360’s 180+ YouTube videos on this topic!

Hope this guide helps! All the best for your admission and a bright future!

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Career Counsellor - Answered on May 24, 2025

Question by PANCHSHEEL - May 24, 2025

Career

My son secured seat in VIT Vellore for CSE Data Science. Pls suggest. 1. How is the college. 2. Course prospects in future 3. Placement

Ans: Panchsheel Sir, VIT Vellore is a premier private engineering college in India, known for its strong academic reputation, modern infrastructure, and vibrant campus life. The CSE Data Science program is industry-oriented, blending computer science fundamentals with advanced data analytics and machine learning, making graduates highly employable in today’s data-driven world. Placement statistics are excellent, with over 90% of students placed annually, average salaries among the highest for private colleges, and top recruiters from the global tech industry. The curriculum is regularly updated to match industry trends, and students benefit from hands-on labs, projects, and internship opportunities. All the best for your son's admission and a bright future!

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