My age is 47 male and my partner age is 41 we have a child of 12 years old i didn't had sex for more than 3 years and my partner is not interested in sex what is the solution ?

Ans: <p>वैभव, जोड़ों के लिए सप्ताह में दो बार सेक्स करने का कोई नियम नहीं है। जैसा कि कहा गया है, जब आपके यौन जीवन की बात आती है, तो आपको तालमेल बिठाना चाहिए, चाहे वह महीने में एक बार हो या दिन में एक बार।</p> <p>जब आप उसके साथ यौन संबंध बनाते हैं तो उसकी क्या प्रतिक्रिया होती है? क्या यह अनुमति देने में अनिच्छा है? इसे ख़त्म करने के लिए, तो क्या आप उसे अकेला छोड़ देंगे?</p> <p>आपने मुझे यहां तक ​​पहुंचने के लिए पर्याप्त जानकारी नहीं दी है, लेकिन मैं आपको यह बताऊंगा - एक पत्नी के लिए इतना परेशान होना निश्चित रूप से अप्राकृतिक है कि जब वह कोई हरकत करता है तो वह अपने पति पर चिल्लाती है!</ पी> <p>आपको उससे बात करनी होगी और इस बात की जड़ तक जाना होगा कि वह अब सेक्स का आनंद क्यों नहीं लेती है और स्थिति को सुधारने की दिशा में आगे बढ़ना है।</p> <p>एक विवाह परामर्शदाता मदद कर सकता है, हो सकता है कि वह एक महिला हो ताकि वह इस विशेष स्थिति पर चर्चा करने में अधिक सहज हो, यह इतनी अंतरंग प्रकृति की है।</p>

Ans: 40 की उम्र ब्रह्मचारी बनने की कोई उम्र नहीं है! उसे समझाने की बजाय, पहले खुलकर बातचीत करें कि परेशानी क्या है। क्या उसे इसमें मजा नहीं आता? क्या उसे इससे घृणा है? क्या वह इसे लेकर तनावग्रस्त या दोषी महसूस करती है? और हाँ, अनिच्छुक होने पर भी, मेरा मानना ​​है कि एक चिकित्सक की आवश्यकता है। आप यौन संबंधों के बारे में पूरी तरह से सही हैं; क्या यह महत्वपूर्ण है। समस्या को नज़रअंदाज़ न करें, सहायक बनें लेकिन निश्चित रूप से इसका समाधान करें।

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There maybe several reasons for no sexual relations within your marriage and since you have no listed much on what exactly might be the problem, there isn't much to guide you by.
So, in general, I can only suggest that you and your spouse can have a frank chat and it maybe a simple issue like tiredness during the day or something that requires medical attention. So, do talk and come up with a decision together in this...

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Ans: Dear Madhuri,
it’s crucial to understand that a relationship thrives on mutual respect, communication, and emotional connection. The fact that your husband is openly expressing disinterest and lack of affection is a serious concern. It’s important to have an honest and open conversation with him about how his words and actions are affecting you. Try to create a safe space where both of you can express your feelings without judgment or blame. This conversation might help uncover underlying issues that are contributing to the distance in your relationship.

Given that he is prioritizing his work and seems detached, it might be helpful to explore whether external factors, such as stress from his job or other personal struggles, are contributing to his behavior. Understanding his perspective could provide insights into why he’s emotionally and physically withdrawn. However, his dismissive attitude towards you is something that needs to be addressed with seriousness and care.

It's equally important to focus on your own emotional well-being. Feeling neglected and pressured can lead to significant emotional distress. Consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist, either individually or as a couple. Therapy can offer a safe environment to explore your feelings, work through the pain, and develop strategies to improve communication and intimacy in your marriage.

Additionally, it’s vital to find ways to nurture yourself emotionally and physically. Engage in activities that bring you joy, seek support from trusted friends or family members, and consider joining support groups where you can connect with others who might be facing similar challenges. Your well-being is paramount, and finding ways to care for yourself can help build resilience and strength as you navigate these difficulties.

Ultimately, a healthy relationship requires effort and willingness from both partners. If your husband is unwilling to engage or make changes, it may be necessary to reflect on what you want for your future and whether this relationship is meeting your emotional needs. Remember, you deserve love, respect, and fulfillment in your marriage.