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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 16, 2023

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Aarti Question by Aarti on Mar 15, 2023Hindi
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My husband has been in a relationship with a woman for past 6yrs i came to know 3 yrs ago and confronted him.Initially he broke up with her but they came together again.Eqch time i confronted him he said to me you are my life and the relationship with the other woman is just a phase.It will die it's own death and then cries his heart out to stop me from leaving him. Where do I stand ? What should I do to know it's ended forever.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this situation with your husband. It's understandable that you feel hurt and confused about where you stand in your relationship.

First and foremost, you have to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected, loved, and secure. It's important to have a conversation with your husband and express your feelings about the situation. Let him know how his behavior has affected you and your relationship. Be clear about what you expect from him moving forward.

It's also important to set boundaries and make sure that they are respected. If you feel uncomfortable with him seeing or talking to the other woman, let him know that it's not acceptable. Consider seeking the help of a couples therapist or a marriage counselor to work through the issues in your relationship and communicate effectively.

Ultimately, it's up to your husband to end the relationship with the other woman and commit to your marriage. If he continues to choose the other woman over you, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and decide what's best for you in the long run. Remember, you deserve to be happy and have a fulfilling relationship.

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Hi Anu, it's been 5 years of my marriage. From the last few months I am feeling disconnected from my husband. I ask him about it. He mentioned that he met a guy somewhere in November and had a one-night stand with him. He explained to me the initiation was from him and that he likes him. After few days of conversation with him my husband started having feelings for him. But it was for limited time period coz that guy was trying on someone else or many others (according to my husband) A few days earlier he mentioned that he is being confused if he is gay or straight. He now has feeling for another guy but he has a family and sees him as friend. My husband is continuously telling me to understand him. He needs to find him etc etc... And deep down I know he has no future with any other man. He doesn't feel any physical attraction towards me (it's what I think). I do like him. Physically also. But he doesn't. We don't have any child. He is 36, I am 34.Now I am super confused what to do. I do love him. Please help.
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Dear KS,

It’s still unfortunate largely in our country and in few other places outside of India, sexual preferences and orientation is still considered a taboo or something to shoved under the carpet.

It’s treated as an illness that will go away like a cold and fever.

Your marriage possibly comes under this confusion and hence both you and your husband are struggling.

He never got a chance to figure out which gender he leans into more maybe due to societal pressure or from family; and it has surfaced after marriage.

For you, it feels like you have been cheated and though you love him, do know that it might not be a marriage that might work especially if he chooses to root himself to his current sexual orientation.

I suggest you weigh out the pros and cons of being in this marriage and have a frank discussion with your husband.

If he has nothing to offer to you and in this marriage, you know what is to be done.

Whatever it be, do know that this has happened at the right time; just imagine the confusions if there were children in the picture.

If after the discussion, it was just something that he experimented with, I guess there might be scope to grow into the marriage.

Have that discussion and do that NOW; a lot will ease.

Yes, it perhaps might be a heartbreak, but better to MOVE either way.

Be strong and all the best!

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I have been in a relationship for 12 years when I married the man I love. It is now 6 years of marriage and we have a kid. When I was pregnant my husband was in a relationship with another woman. When my kid was 2.5 years old I came know about the relationship and I am destroyed. My husband asked me not to leave him and since I didn't get any support from my family I stayed. Now I am still not able to overcome the situation. I know he doesn't love me though he says he does. I don't know why I am with him, he is trying to maintain our relation but there is nothing like before. I don't feel the same way. I even don't know whether I still love him or not.
Ans: Dear RGI am going to assume that you want the marriage to work and my suggestions below are based on this assumption.

It's time to get an independent person involved who will help in giving an impersonal view. This could be an elder member of the family or a Marriage Therapist.

What this person will help with is reevaluate your marriage, put things into perspective, clarify all your doubts.

Obviously, you have your doubts on whether he loves you or not after being cheated upon! But no amount of asking is going to convince you…that’s why it’s imperative for both of you involve a person who can guide you through this process of rebuilding your marriage in trust and love.

In the meantime, what I might suggest for you is: Remind yourself everyday as to why you married him and what he has brought forth to your life.

This helps you be in a sane space on a daily basis which also help you care for the toddler who needs a lot of care and love as well.

Spend time with friends that don’t just gossip and bad-mouth but can genuinely nourish you; you need this nourishment now.

Pick up a hobby and indulge in it; it helps not just distract you but also give you a ‘feel-good’ emotion and makes you have little moments of joy.

Of course, after you visit the expert, the choice of continuing in the marriage or not, rests with the two of you…choose wisely.

All the best!

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My husband of 23 years is emotionally cheating on me. He has been in touch with his school friend for 7 yrs...some of the earlier texts he sent her were very intimate ( i am hungry for you, i miss you etc)..then he promised to break it off once i found out..fast forward to dec2023. He went to US for 3 wks..once he returbed he was distant with me. I suspected something and checked his phone...found him calling her 8 times a day...upon confronting he said he was meeting her since past year and also just talking with her...assured me no sex took place but i doubt it..i am so heartbroken..he has lied before so i dont trust him anymore. I am seeking counseling but still very deprrssed. He refuses to apologize or show any remorse..does not promise hw wont see her again. What to do? Give up 23 yrs of marriage???
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry to hear this. I understand that these are challenging times and kudos to you for taking necessary steps such as seeking the help of a counselor to take care of your mind. Now coming to your question- it's essential to reflect on whether you genuinely wish to continue a relationship with a partner who not only lacks respect for you and your marriage but also shows no remorse for their actions. If you're inclined to give this relationship a second chance, you need to set ground rules. Seeking the guidance of a marriage counselor can help address the issues that have surfaced over the past couple of years, working together to mend the broken aspects and build a stronger future. But if you do not want to continue, if you want to give up, if you think your partner does not deserve these efforts, it is okay. Do not feel guilty for choosing self-respect and sanity over your marriage.

I cannot directly ask you to give up, but I will encourage you to reflect on what would truly be best for you, not for your husband or society. You.

Best Wishes!
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Dear sir, my brother was doing b pharm right now next year he will graduate,, please suggest what he will proceed after doing b pharm sir
Ans: Hello Lomina,

First and foremost, thank you for getting in touch with us. I am happy to hear that your brother is currently pursuing his Bachelor of Pharmacy (B.Pharm) and will graduate next year. To answer your question first, I would like to tell you that based on his interests and professional objectives, there are many career paths that your brother can pursue once he completes his degree. I would recommend that you consider the following:

Your brother can consider working as a pharmacist in retail pharmacies, hospitals, or community pharmacies. Remember that this is the most typical employment route for graduates of B.Pharm. Pharmacists provide medications, advise patients on how to take them safely, and other health-related services. If your brother possesses strong writing abilities, working as a medical writer, crafting content for regulatory bodies, pharmaceutical companies, or healthcare organizations, is one of the other jobs that he could choose from. Documents including clinical trial reports, regulatory filings, and instructional materials are created by medical writers. Your brother may choose to work as a hospital administrator, wherein he would be responsible for controlling pharmaceutical services in healthcare facilities, in turn, guaranteeing effective medication administration, and monitoring drug delivery networks. Another career path for your brother includes taking up a job as a clinical research associate (CRA) or working in other research-related roles in research institutions or pharmaceutical companies. Remember that in order to make sure new medications are safe and effective for use, this entails conducting trials to test them. He can also choose to work in drug safety and pharmacovigilance, checking if the medications sold are safe, looking into unfavorable incidents, and making sure safety rules are followed. Your brother can also take up a job in regulatory affairs, making sure that pharmaceutical items adhere to rules and norms established by regulatory bodies. This entails creating and submitting regulatory paperwork, verifying regulatory compliance, and coordinating with regulatory authorities. Your brother can also choose to work in quality control or quality assurance positions in pharmaceutical companies, making sure that products adhere to regulations and standards of quality. In addition to the above, I would like to let you know that your brother can also pursue further education, viz., a Master's degree (M.Pharm) or a Ph.D. in pharmaceutical sciences or associated disciplines. Remember that pursuing higher studies can lead to possibilities for teaching, research, or advanced roles in areas viz., pharmaceutics, pharmacognosy, medicinal chemistry, or pharmacology.

When choosing which career path to opt for upon finishing his Bachelor of Pharmacy (B.Pharm) degree, I would suggest that your brother takes into account his abilities, interests, and professional objectives. Lastly, I would like to say that acquiring practical experience through internships or entry-level work may prove beneficial, as this will allow your brother to investigate other career paths and learn valuable skills in the sector.

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