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Dr Ashish Sehgal |119 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 01, 2023

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Question by Simon on Feb 22, 2023Hindi

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Hello Doctor, My son aged 25 years reluctantly agreed to study abroad initially but his visa got rejected.He re applied again and again yet his his visa got rejected.Now he is desperate and does not sleep till early morning just thinking.I am getting worried for him.How do I convince him that there could be better things for him and he should not be negative

Ans: I can definitely understand your concern for your son, and I'm here to help. It sounds like your son has been going through a tough time with his visa applications being rejected repeatedly, and this can be really frustrating and disheartening.

First and foremost, it's important to acknowledge your son's feelings and let him know that you're there for him. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed and stressed in a situation like this, and it's okay to take some time to process those emotions.

One thing you can do is encourage your son to take a break from the visa application process and do something he enjoys. This can help him relax and reduce his stress levels. You can also explore alternative options with him, such as studying in a different country or pursuing a different course.

It might also be helpful to discuss the reasons for the visa rejections with your son, so he can understand the areas he needs to work on before applying again. It's important to stay positive and optimistic during difficult times, and to remind your son that setbacks are a part of life, but with determination and hard work, he can overcome them.

If your son's stress levels continue to be high, it might be helpful to seek professional help. You can encourage him to speak to a therapist or a counselor who can provide him with tools to cope with stress and anxiety.

Remember, it's important to be patient and supportive during this time. With your help and encouragement, your son can overcome this setback and achieve his goals.

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Hello sir, my son is 18 year old after 10th i took his admission to electrical engineering 1st year of his engineering he is regularly going for college in 2nd semester got 5 subject ATKT due to government bless rule he got admission to 2nd year also but my son started avoiding to going to college hole day just watching mobile not studying for his ATKT subject also saying i dont want to study i want to become a youtuber but doing nothing hole day just watching mobile if i scold him and stop his wifi he is saying i will leave the house he is not bother about food nor about his health nor his Carrier just required WIFI for mobile i am very tense for his carrier and future he dont have friends also please advise how can i make him understand how study is important and how can i complete his engineering to get job to earn money thank you pravin k

Ans: Pravin Sir,

Addition to electronic gadgets is one of the problems, some parents face nowadays.

First of all, approach a good Professional / Qualified Student Counsellor along with your son in your locality. Make sure, the Counsellor has Psychology Background also. There might be some changes. If needed, you can approach a Psychologist, having specialised knowledge in Counselling the children of your son's age.

Follow-up counselling sessions with the counsellors are also important until he changes his attitude.

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1) Tell him, he also can become YouTuber. But ask him what plans he has to become a YouTuber?
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3) Communicate or interact with him politely whenever possible.
4) Tell him he can use his mobile but, at the same time should focus on his studies as well.
5) Make sure, atmosophere at home is good. Such as, parents also should avoid spending too much time on Electronic Gadgets. Most of the children imitate only their parents.
6) If possible, tell him to participate in physical activities as well.

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