I think about a person most of the time , I might get an affection towards her. But I want to remove the thoughts of her from my head as I not in her priority list. How to do that? Moreover I am little shy so can't express my feelings

I m 43 old male , looks ten year younger.sinc3 last 3 months i m infatuated with colleague 30 yr married lady with child .I m continuously thinking about her,her looks,her habits,her choice,her ,hobbies 24 hrs ,even in sleep like a teenager.I dont know how to overcome it.Her attitude is normal ,pure professional with me without any indication of liking. I don't know how to overcome?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 13, 2023

Question by Singh - May 12, 2023Hindi

Ans: Dear Singh,
What's the point being obsessed with a person who has nothing to do with you?
Respect where she is in her life and more importantly, respect your life, your time and energy.

Focus on things that can help you not just manage your mind, but can add value to your personal and professional life. For example: A hobby, working out, doing a certification course and so on...

What you focus on multiplies and when you focus on something that yields nothing, it's like pouring water in the desert hoping for it to turn into a farmland. So, treat yourself better and start this very moment, NOW!

All the best!

How to get rid of unwanted thoughts easily and fastly.

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Question by Sohail - Jun 07, 2023Hindi

Ans: Dear Sohail,
1. What is the reason for the unwanted thoughts anyway?
2. Unwanted thoughts give you an indication as to what needs to be let go from the mind

Work at it:
1. Journal your thoughts and what triggered or occurred just before for such thoughts to present themselves
2. Deep breathe for 2-3 minutes
3. Replace every unwanted thought with 5 useful thoughts
4. Brisk walk the minute you start to feel stressed with these thoughts
5. Ask yourself: what am I gaining by indulging in these thoughts?

This should give you an indication on what is going on...and if some of these thoughts need to be worked on, kindly seek a professional to help you gain a perspective and let go.

All the best!

Ma'am I m totally obsessed with her. Almost couple of years gone in my college btw she is my colleague in college despite that I never talked to her even for single minute till now what should I do my image in front of her is so arrogant and sincere although we have eye contacts several times in college she is in my batch St Stephen's College University of Delhi But unfortunately I never dare to ask her for an hangout I got stuck here for too long.at the same time I'm totally afraid of her what should I do actually I tried a lot erase her picture in my mind bcz she is bit different she is not a long term partner she just needs fun as it seems through her past experience in college witnessed through my eyes can you please help how to move on from this situation

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 15, 2024Hindi

Ans: Get another girl

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
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A humble effort in this direction can change the state that you are in.

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