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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2025Hindi

I think about a person most of the time , I might get an affection towards her. But I want to remove the thoughts of her from my head as I not in her priority list. How to do that? Moreover I am little shy so can't express my feelings

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It happens sometimes, yeah? You like someone and they don't! You have built a dream castle and made them a King/Queen there already...then reality hits that it has been one-sided and then your mind which has already jumped fences now finds its difficult to erase all of it. But, if there's no way that she is interested, then do just this...
But if you think that she also feels the way you but can't express, one of you has to break the ice. Be the one to do that and start by asking her out to coffee...if she says NO, respect this...she may have a change of heart sometime...

All the best!
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The challenge of What IS v/s What could have been!

Our minds over time have been trained to ‘CHASE’ what we don’t have/possess and dream of what it could have been if we had it in the first place.

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