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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 23, 2023

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Question by Sohail on Jun 07, 2023Hindi

Relationship

How to get rid of unwanted thoughts easily and fastly.

Ans: Dear Sohail,
1. What is the reason for the unwanted thoughts anyway?
2. Unwanted thoughts give you an indication as to what needs to be let go from the mind

Work at it:
1. Journal your thoughts and what triggered or occurred just before for such thoughts to present themselves
2. Deep breathe for 2-3 minutes
3. Replace every unwanted thought with 5 useful thoughts
4. Brisk walk the minute you start to feel stressed with these thoughts
5. Ask yourself: what am I gaining by indulging in these thoughts?

This should give you an indication on what is going on...and if some of these thoughts need to be worked on, kindly seek a professional to help you gain a perspective and let go.

All the best!

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Question by deepak - May 27, 2023Hindi

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Is there any solution to get rid of from negative thoughts or depression in mind please suggest

Ans: Dear Deepak,
To clarify to you:
Negative thoughts and depression are not the same. Also, negative thoughts that are not handled well can over a period of time lead to low moods, fatigue and in chronic cases lead to depression.

This should tell you that what you possibly are dealing with is negative thoughts or what i would like to call: Not-so-useful thoughts.
Does anything trigger this in you?
Is it any particular time of the day?

What you can do:
Introduce walking/jogging/exercise everyday at least for 30-40 mins
Journal your thoughts whatever they may be
Move around in social circles that talk about positive things
Check what you watch on the OTT platforms and if it's dark and dreary, change your watchlist
Spend a lot of time in Nature

All the best!

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Question by mahesh - Oct 11, 2023Hindi

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im 45 year old mere mind me negative thought bahut ate hai or overthinking bahut hai. mere man kisi kaam ko karne me nhi lagta hai , me apne kisi kaam me concentration nhi kar pa raha hu, plz iska koi solution dijiyga.

Ans: Dear Mahesh,
Negative thoughts kisi kaaran se hi aapke dimaag mein baith gaye hain. Inko agar hataane hain toh pehle woh kaaran ko hataana hoga. Is liye apne aap se poochiye: Kis wajah se mein yeh sab soch baitha hoon? Aise soch aane se pehle kya hua hai joh mujhe aise sochne pe majboor hota hoon...

Aisi soch ko door rakhne ke liye kuch sujhaav hain:
1. Koi physical activity ya exercise roz kiya kijiye (walk, gym, run)
2. Praanyaam karne se bhi bahut faayda hota hai
3. Dost ya kareebi pariwaar ke saath waqt bitaaiye
4. Apni zindagi mein joh accha hua hai ya ho raha hai, is baat ko aksar yaad aur zikr kijiye
5. Koi kaam karne se pehle, apna phone ko silent mode mein daal dijiye

Yeh sirf sujhaav hain, baaki aapko mehnat zaroor karna padega ki yeh negative soch ko aap zyaada panaah na de. Jitna zyaada inko paalenge, utna hi aapko pareshaani hogi. Yeh dhyaan mein le aaiye ki positive ya acchi soch se aapka kya faayda ho sakta hai; maansik tanaav kam hone se aapka shareer bhi swasth hoga. Is baat ko hamesha yaad rakhiye.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2025Hindi

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I think about a person most of the time , I might get an affection towards her. But I want to remove the thoughts of her from my head as I not in her priority list. How to do that? Moreover I am little shy so can't express my feelings

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It happens sometimes, yeah? You like someone and they don't! You have built a dream castle and made them a King/Queen there already...then reality hits that it has been one-sided and then your mind which has already jumped fences now finds its difficult to erase all of it. But, if there's no way that she is interested, then do just this...
But if you think that she also feels the way you but can't express, one of you has to break the ice. Be the one to do that and start by asking her out to coffee...if she says NO, respect this...she may have a change of heart sometime...

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My wisdom tooth is biting into my cheek. I am 41 but the tooth is still growing. It is causing a lot of discomfort. At what age does wisdom teeth stop growing? Should I fix it or get it removed? Pls suggest. I have already spent a lot of money trying to fix it every few years.

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Curiously, teeth never actually stop growing unless there's something blocking their growth. Like an opposing tooth, for instance. If an upper tooth is extracted and not replaced with an artificial tooth, the opposing lower tooth can theoretically keep growing into the empty space above.
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Hi Sir, I am 46 years old with a Wife and a daughter (12 years old). Planning to retire by age of 50. Current net worth includes - Stock Market portfolio (including Stocks, MFs, PMS) - INR 3 CR, 2 Flats worth INR 4.5 CR without any home loans. Long Term investments like NPS, Sukanya Samruddhi, LIC, EPF/PPF etc - 1 CR, FDs- 20L, Gold (Physical +ETF) - 70L. Current Monthly expenses - 60-70K per month. Now, I understand that my daughter's Graduation and PG education expenses may cost anywhere around 1CR (inflation included). Also the medical/health expenses will be required too. Considering all of the above, how do you recommend I can plan for retiring at 50? I do plan to stay invested in equities for long term even after retirement. Thanks for your advice.

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I brush twice a day and floss most nights, but I still keep getting cavities. My dentist says it could be my enamel or saliva, which honestly confused me. I also drink lemon water every morning thinking it’s healthy.

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You're one of very few people I know who brush and floss their teeth regularly. Keep it up!
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