It is a strange relation she comes at home with our daughter enjoys with us we go on outing meet up during weekends in short we are living long distance relationship right from 17 years and i being not financially sound cannot take any further legal steps strange

Ans: Dear Gopi,
I don't think you and this lady have spoken about the structure of the live-in.
Live-in seems like a very fancy thing to do, but it lacks a structure that marriage provides. So, if you are one of those people who needs the security and stability that marriage can offer and live-in can't, then maybe you are in the wrong place. Live-in isn't going to give you any commitments unless you both have agreed to live-in and see if it can turn into a commitment. If both of you have agreed that it is going to be a live-in only, do factor in how you are going to raise your respective children and also explain this facet of live-in with them.
Marriage definitely will give the children the necessary stability but if both the partners are mature enough to take on a live-in, the love and support in that environment can also welcome the children warmly.
So, it's time to evaluate what you seek: a live-in or a marriage and she must answer the same. Sit down together and discuss this at length begore taking any big decisions.

All the best!

Ans: Hello,

I understand that you are facing a complex and emotionally challenging situation in your long-term relationship. It's clear that your girlfriend has expressed a desire for you to be more integrated into her life, including staying in her house with her husband's approval. This is a unique and sensitive situation, and it's important to approach it with care and consideration.

Here are some suggestions to help you navigate this situation:

Open Communication: It's crucial to have an honest and open conversation with your girlfriend about your feelings and concerns. Ask her to clarify her reasons for wanting you to stay in her house. Listen to her perspective and try to understand her motivations better.
Express Your Fears: Share your fears and anxieties about meeting her and staying in her house. Let her know that you feel scared and uneasy about the situation. Honest communication can help both of you gain a better understanding of each other's feelings.
Set Boundaries: Consider discussing boundaries with your girlfriend. If you are uncomfortable with certain aspects of the arrangement, make those boundaries clear. It's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being and comfort.
Seek Professional Guidance: You might benefit from seeking the advice of a relationship counselor or therapist. A professional can provide you both with a safe space to explore your feelings and help facilitate communication and understanding between you and your girlfriend.
Self-Reflection: Take some time for self-reflection to understand your own feelings and desires in the relationship. Consider what makes you happy and what you want for your future. This will help you make informed decisions about the relationship.
Consider the Long Term: Think about the long-term implications of your decision. Are there aspects of the relationship that bring you joy and fulfillment? Weigh the pros and cons carefully before making any final decisions.
Consider the Impact on Others: Take into account how your decisions may affect your daughter and other family members. Their input and feelings should also be considered as you navigate this situation.
Decision-Making: Ultimately, the decision regarding the future of your relationship should be based on what feels right for you. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and comfort while being mindful of the feelings of those involved.
Ultimately, it's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being and happiness. If you feel that this situation is causing you significant fear and discomfort, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and make a decision that aligns with your needs and values.

Remember that you have the right to make choices that are best for you and your well-being, and it's okay to seek support from professionals and loved ones during this challenging time

Ans: Dear

One cannot tick all the boxes in life there are always trade off.

Please be kind to yourself you are human, you cannot make happy everyone all the time? So please sit with your family and have open conversation ...you may not get solution in the first conversation between patient...listen to what everyone has to say...think what is the best trade off that is possible and go ahead with it.

You are capable of solving it.. Believe in yourself.

All the best.



All the best.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
My question was about whether you still live with your parents or not? That could be a definitive way out to put your marriage back together. Please read this with the previous answer given and again I find a lot of gaps in what you have shared for me to suggest much.
I still will say: The first attempt would be you and your wife wanting this marriage. If you two do not want this relationship based on what you have mentioned, then take appropriate steps towards that. You need to be clear about what you want for anyone to guide you or even you to guide yourself. Writing it down in paper actually helps the process. Ask yourself: What do I want?

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There maybe several reasons for no sexual relations within your marriage and since you have no listed much on what exactly might be the problem, there isn't much to guide you by.
So, in general, I can only suggest that you and your spouse can have a frank chat and it maybe a simple issue like tiredness during the day or something that requires medical attention. So, do talk and come up with a decision together in this...

All the best!
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