From 5years we had ups and downs in live in relationship. Her age 40years and my age 53yrs. She had one son and got married living seperately. One daughter whom I have taken care of education and others like her father b'coz of her we have again separated. Living seperately. Now am confused whether I have continue or close our relationship
Ans: Dear Gopi,
I don't think you and this lady have spoken about the structure of the live-in.
Live-in seems like a very fancy thing to do, but it lacks a structure that marriage provides. So, if you are one of those people who needs the security and stability that marriage can offer and live-in can't, then maybe you are in the wrong place. Live-in isn't going to give you any commitments unless you both have agreed to live-in and see if it can turn into a commitment. If both of you have agreed that it is going to be a live-in only, do factor in how you are going to raise your respective children and also explain this facet of live-in with them.
Marriage definitely will give the children the necessary stability but if both the partners are mature enough to take on a live-in, the love and support in that environment can also welcome the children warmly.
So, it's time to evaluate what you seek: a live-in or a marriage and she must answer the same. Sit down together and discuss this at length begore taking any big decisions.
All the best!