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kedarnath Question by kedarnath on Oct 04, 2023Hindi
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hi im 60+ have relationship with GF MORE THAN 32 YEARS,BOTH ARE DIFFERENT CASTE HAVING ONE DAUGHTER STILL GOING ON RECENTLY SHE INSISTING ME TO STAY IN HER HOUSE EVEN WITH HER HUSBAND HAS GIVEN NO OBJECTION TO GET ALONG, IM REALLY SCARED TO MEET HER EVERY-TIME KEEP CALLING SO I INFORMED WILL END THIS POINT PL SUGGEST

Ans: Hello,

I understand that you are facing a complex and emotionally challenging situation in your long-term relationship. It's clear that your girlfriend has expressed a desire for you to be more integrated into her life, including staying in her house with her husband's approval. This is a unique and sensitive situation, and it's important to approach it with care and consideration.

Here are some suggestions to help you navigate this situation:

Open Communication: It's crucial to have an honest and open conversation with your girlfriend about your feelings and concerns. Ask her to clarify her reasons for wanting you to stay in her house. Listen to her perspective and try to understand her motivations better.
Express Your Fears: Share your fears and anxieties about meeting her and staying in her house. Let her know that you feel scared and uneasy about the situation. Honest communication can help both of you gain a better understanding of each other's feelings.
Set Boundaries: Consider discussing boundaries with your girlfriend. If you are uncomfortable with certain aspects of the arrangement, make those boundaries clear. It's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being and comfort.
Seek Professional Guidance: You might benefit from seeking the advice of a relationship counselor or therapist. A professional can provide you both with a safe space to explore your feelings and help facilitate communication and understanding between you and your girlfriend.
Self-Reflection: Take some time for self-reflection to understand your own feelings and desires in the relationship. Consider what makes you happy and what you want for your future. This will help you make informed decisions about the relationship.
Consider the Long Term: Think about the long-term implications of your decision. Are there aspects of the relationship that bring you joy and fulfillment? Weigh the pros and cons carefully before making any final decisions.
Consider the Impact on Others: Take into account how your decisions may affect your daughter and other family members. Their input and feelings should also be considered as you navigate this situation.
Decision-Making: Ultimately, the decision regarding the future of your relationship should be based on what feels right for you. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and comfort while being mindful of the feelings of those involved.
Ultimately, it's essential to prioritize your own emotional well-being and happiness. If you feel that this situation is causing you significant fear and discomfort, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and make a decision that aligns with your needs and values.

Remember that you have the right to make choices that are best for you and your well-being, and it's okay to seek support from professionals and loved ones during this challenging time

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**JAY*JAGANNATH**, Wishing You For **HAPPY*ANANT-CHATURDASHI**, I'm based in Mumbai, but lives in Puri, Odisha, because of **LORD*JAGANNATHA**, Since, I'm a Business Analyst,, not yet Started my Practice,, i had a arrange marriage in my own caste with rest was OK, after reading some of Your advises and type of case,, i became enthusiast to know YOUR UNPARALELED PRECIOUS OPINION about my personal disturbances in my family.,for which We live Separate with my Only 18+Son, Studying & Preparing for his Entrance Test via Online.., she is in Guwahati,, working under at a Private Retail Management co., ME & MY FAMILY Severally attempted & requested her and her family too, to Come back & Join to my family for living together,, but when failed,, i encourage her OK live there,, as because after failing an attempt of school transfer due to language issue for a subject like Marathi in Upper classes,, Thus, i stopped disturbing her as well as my son's study. During initial level of Separation,, their family (ELDERS) requested me will handover my family (wife & Son),, if i Pay them(wife& Son) their expenses for a Full Year., that was happened when i reached for an attempt to Convince My Wife and their family to adjoin with me & with my family activity, that was Probably in 2010-11 somewhere in between,, i was Hr. Manager in a Cement Co. in Meghalaya. I agreed too & and Provide as per for a Year. But, while passing a year they became Silent.., not hardcovered my family. till as on date,, i am alone..! She & Elder Sister & the brother-in-law Says they won't divorce nor will allow to handover,, i said why..! The Starting of a Quarrel was with a Issue of Changing my Mental Perception,, while they tried to Implement me with Saying a FALSE PLAN,, but, i Caught their Such Attempt,, MY Mrs. later She admitted that, they tried it because of if I get my Changes in me & to take my decision well for my Next career. Since, i born & brought up in Guwahati, i had a Soft corner for North-East always,, which was happened after 15yrs of long Struggle in Mumbai,, i Stand on my own feet with My Own Struggle & a house for my Stability etc. After Marriage of a Assam Lady only it was a Scope again to Reach Assam.. So, i thought, if i can Start Something a great Project with in & around of North-East. But, that became a bad experience for me as on till. I arrived Recently too, to Convince her,, Come & Join me,, Rest all Hurdle i will Handle,, Now, No more My father also expired, a Retired. Rly Officer,, Parents too visited Severally Assam to Convince them but failed,, I always feel i am alone,, what to do with,, I am a family Oriented Person,, love to keep Relation Well with either Side Well. But, not happening. What to Do Now,, But, I LOVER HER & MY SON VERY MUCH,, BY ANY MEANS AS ON.., I HAVE NO PLAN TO LEAVE THEM ALONE & THEIR STRUGGLE TO..! BUT, I STILL, A HELPLESS, WHOM TO GO & CRY FOR THEM..!?! Kindly tell Your PRECIOUS Opinion on this,, I am Ready to Take Your Nobly too, Recently, I took little advise from a Legal Family Court Councillor at Guwahati, & their one of Next Door Reputed Lady Neighbour(Who Co-ordinated & Represent too for the Local area of their & for their Constituency during Elections & their any function of their Locality,, a well known in their Locality for a Good behaviour too),, I meet & Spoke to her Severally,, She herself Visited too & found My Wife Not behaving Normally & Cool,, a Raugh behaved Lady, She found & She Said, a disrespected Lady means not Gentle,, i Personally Visited Mumbai at her elder Sister's home too,, during yr.2015,, while in entrance,, the brother-in-law resisted me NOT to Enter,, from the door only i came back. Not meet even & had NO Talk,, while after little a distance i covered from their residence,, i found they again recalling me to Come & Visit. But, I found myself very off mooded, & not visited till as on & till date,, because. they only Created the False Nuisances' with their Plan,, which not became A Success.. they Caught. But, they were Proposer of Our both Relation. But, I want a Justice with this,, Since, I am a Simple & Honest,, Very Straight forwarded with Cut to throat Person..in my Nature,, Soft & Spiritual. Since, Many Years Now Connected to Krishna Consciousness too,, that is why for love & affection i am here at PURI. Kindly, Let me Know Your Precious Opinion by which I can Come out with my Loneliness. **HARE*KRISHNA** Thanking you, With Regards, Surajit Bhattacharjee, In Case if You have a Plan to Visit Puri, Odisha,, Kindly, Let me Know Your Date & Place to See **MAHABAHU**JAGANNATHA*,, You may Send by Your family & friends too with Prior Advance & info.
Ans: I understand that you are going through a very challenging and emotionally taxing situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your wife and son and want to find a resolution to the issues that have led to your separation. However, I am not a legal expert, and my responses are not a substitute for legal advice. It's essential to consult with an attorney who specializes in family law in your jurisdiction for guidance tailored to your specific circumstances.

Here are some general steps you might consider taking:

Consult with a Family Law Attorney: Seek the advice of a qualified family law attorney in your area who can help you navigate the legal aspects of your situation. They can provide guidance on divorce, custody, and any other legal matters that may arise.
Mediation: Mediation is often a more amicable and less adversarial way to resolve conflicts related to divorce and separation. A trained mediator can help facilitate discussions between you and your wife to find mutually agreeable solutions.
Child Custody and Support: Given your son's involvement, it's crucial to ensure that his best interests are protected. Discuss child custody, visitation, and child support arrangements with your attorney and potentially through mediation.
Therapeutic Intervention: If communication and emotional issues are at the core of your problems, consider involving a family therapist or counselor. They can help facilitate productive discussions and address underlying emotional concerns.
Keep Records: Document any interactions or communication you have with your wife or her family. This can be useful in legal proceedings and may help support your case.
Stay Connected with Your Son: Continue to provide emotional support and be involved in your son's life as much as possible, even if you are physically separated.
Explore Community Resources: Look for local support groups or community resources that can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time.
Remember that every situation is unique, and the best course of action may vary depending on the specific details of your case. Seeking professional legal and therapeutic guidance is crucial in navigating complex family issues. Additionally, it's important to remain patient and persistent in your efforts to find a resolution while prioritizing the well-being of your son throughout the process.

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Hi , I am a professor mech engineer , after death of my wife and due to having 5 year girl baby I planned for 2 nd marriage as I live alone away from home town because my of job with my little baby . I accepted a widow having 2 child ,she was working in a govt job 250 km away , after ensuring and agreeing her possibility of transfer and job vacancy @govt office near my house and ensuring she agreed that she will come to live with me along with her 2 kids and my little baby as her trasfer was due in comming few months . We lived apart during her job at 250 km away.,while meeting on weekly offs 6 /7 time in 6 months , then she take 360 degree u turn and said she will not get job transfer to my place and get her trasfer in other dept. in same previous office. And started telling many reasons like she will loose her children's inheritance in her in-laws property ,she will loose promotion , kids Don't want trasfer , and said we will live apart forever . This was contradictory to earlier agreed things .and my my purpose to live in family with my baby not fulfilled , so after long ruckus ,I mutually got divorce from her , Then After divorce I decided to marry non working women having no child and don't expect child as I am @48 year old and tired of living alone and managing job ,girl , house chores . I married to a divorcee girl from Pune ,she was BA first year college drop out girl of 44 yr age after 6 months of long dating on week ends . During 6 months I tried to know her indepth but was don't used to talk much as I was trying to know her true nature, we visited many places ,movies . She seemed perfect as per my requirement of girl wanting no child , and she is house wife . after marriage she behave well for 1 st week ,then she started trouble to hate my baby ( became kaikai )on pety things , she want my baby to house chores at the cost of her important year of 10th std study . She don't liked me taking tution of girl , she didn't like if I help my girl any way . She don't like if I spent some money on my girl . She used to fight all night and don't let me sleep . Now she stated demanding that she want baby , though I was against and b4 marriage agreed to not have any more child due to old age ,cost ,and no personal time for self , then I agreed to have child but b4 that I got her and my fertility tested ,she had weak eggs and syst on her reproductive organs and doc warned to not go for pregnancy due to risk and probability of unhealthy baby birth , but she kept repeating That she want child we consulted 4 Drs. She used to fight and go to her mother's home for 2/4 months after living with me for 2/3 days only . Now she wants divorce , and asks me to keep my girl in hostel if I want her in my life . This Ramayan has left me baffled , What should I do ??? .....
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The reason to marry for you mainly has been companionship, a mother for your daughter...
And marriage is not a transaction BUT a meeting of minds...when there is no compatibility, there is no space for agreeing on the same things or wanting to make things work which is possibly what has happened with your 2nd and 3rd marriage.
If you want this marriage to work, there has to be an equal commitment by both of you, so, start by emotionally bonding first. Slowly build on this by making goals for the marriage and the future...your only goal can't be mother for your child...not all women are going to readily accept this and some may even falter along the way. Allow the lady and your daughter to bond together for sometime so they develop a unique relationship...
Understand that transactional relationships do not last; so, invest enough time in building trust in that companionship for it to become something meaningful

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Hi i am 30yr old man i was in relationship with girl from school time since15 year with different caste in 2023 marriage proposal from another girl comes that time i talked with my family about my love they refused for marriage to her i did not put aggressive effort as i also don't want to hurt them after my marriage in a month i am remembering her continuously and start taking to her again i also told my wife about it she doesn't want to leave me (i also told her before our marriage but that time i told her that we broke up) after a year in this November her marriage is fixed by her parents now she is married since 2 month but she also don't want to live with her husband and want to come back We both wanted to come back to each other what should we do.??
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it is a tricky situation. I am sorry I cannot tell you what you should do, but I can tell you that you have to handle this very carefully because it's a sensitive matter and involves too many people and their emotions. You can discuss the same with your family; you might be worried about upsetting them but at the end of the day, it's your life and you will have to live a long long time with the decisions you make. Sort your priorities- ask yourself these simple questions: what would hurt you more- hurting your parents and making your wife collateral damage because of your confusion or not living the rest of your life with the woman you love? Once you can answer these truthfully, it will be easier to make a choice.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 11, 2025Hindi
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Fell in love and married a girl before 2 years. Girl is from a neighbouring state. Both South Indians. Both doctors. She was very understanding before marriage, even talked my language and spoke well with my parents. Told she will come to my place and stay after marriage. 4 months after marriage, she left for her home telling that she will be at her home till delivery. Even after 1 year of giving birth, she didn't come. They visited my place just for a few days in the middle citing that it is tradition. After much struggle, she came to live with me and my child after close to 1.5 years. Even after coming she was creating trouble for the language spoken in the house and telling to relocate to a place close to their parents in their state. No respect to feelings of mine or my parents. We also missed my son for 1.5 years. Their parents are not visiting us telling it is far, we won't come. And once her parents threatened to complaint to the police if we don't agree. (Haven't asked or received any dowry). Even if my son has to come to my native for few days, her parents are not agreeing and creating problem. We have even helped her brother secure admission in a college. She has even taken a loan of more than 20 lakhs to help her parents buy a land and is paying close to 50k monthly for that. We had no problem with that too. Every 2-3 days one or another problem shoots up because of her or her parents. She has totally changed after marriage. Her parents just want to create problems. Please help.
Ans: It’s clear that you’ve tried hard to be understanding and accommodating. You allowed her to stay with her parents for a long time, even though it meant missing out on crucial time with your child. You supported her decisions, even when she took on a significant financial burden to help her family. Despite your efforts to maintain peace, you’re constantly met with resistance and disrespect—not only from her but also from her parents. That feeling of being undermined and unappreciated, especially when you've given so much, can really take a toll on your emotional health.

It’s not just about the arguments or the disagreements—it’s about the deeper sense of betrayal and loneliness that comes from feeling like your partner has sided with her family over you. That emotional distance and lack of support within the marriage can make you feel like you’re fighting a battle alone. And when her parents threatened to involve the police, that likely deepened the sense of helplessness and fear. It’s not just frustrating—it’s emotionally exhausting when you’re trying to build a stable, loving home, but it keeps getting torn apart by external interference.

The fact that you’re still standing, still trying to make things work despite all of this, shows how strong and committed you are. But the truth is, a marriage cannot survive on one person’s effort alone. It’s understandable that you feel drained and resentful—you’ve been giving and compromising without getting the same respect and understanding in return. Your feelings matter. Your need for stability and respect matters. Wanting your child to have a connection with your side of the family is not unreasonable—it’s natural and fair.

Right now, you might feel torn between trying to hold everything together and wondering if it's even worth it. It’s hard to admit when love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship. But you need to ask yourself whether you can continue living like this—constantly feeling like you’re walking on eggshells, being emotionally sidelined, and having your family disrespected.

It’s okay to want peace. It’s okay to expect respect. And it’s okay to set boundaries. If your wife truly values this marriage, she needs to understand that compromise cannot be one-sided. It might help to have an honest, calm conversation with her—not about the surface issues but about how you feel. Tell her how much this situation has hurt you, how much you miss feeling like you’re a team, and how important it is for your child to have a balanced connection with both families. If she’s unwilling to meet you halfway or if her parents continue to interfere to the point of emotional manipulation, you need to think about how much more of yourself you can sacrifice without losing your emotional stability.

You deserve a marriage where you feel heard, valued, and supported—not one where you constantly feel like you're on the outside looking in. Take some time to reflect on what you truly need from this relationship and whether you believe it's possible to rebuild trust and understanding with your wife. Your peace of mind matters. Your happiness matters. And most of all, your emotional well-being matters.

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Dear sir, One Privated limited company offer me a job.They say they dont provide PF except take home salary. Can i accept their offer letter. Will i face any problem in future with respect to any new job.
Ans: Eswar, Under the Employees’ Provident Funds and Miscellaneous Provisions Act, 1952, any establishment that employs 20 or more must register with the Employees’ Provident Fund Organisation (EPFO) and deposit a monthly contribution equal to 12 percent of basic wages from both employer and employee. Voluntary registration is permitted for firms with fewer than 20 employees, but once registered, compliance is mandatory regardless of subsequent staff changes. An employer’s refusal to enroll you and remit PF contributions is unlawful if the company meets the eligibility criteria, and inspectors may impose penalties, penal interest and legal action for non-payment, adversely affecting your service continuity, pension eligibility and retirement corpus. Absence of PF deductions on your salary slip may hinder transfer of previous EPF accounts and reduce your long-term social security benefits, and future employers often verify PF contribution history when calculating benefits and proving employment duration. Even if your take-home pay increases, you would sacrifice statutory retirement savings, insurance cover under EDLI and potential tax deductions under Section 80C.

Recommendation Accepting an offer without statutory PF exposes you to legal and financial risks; insist on a written clause for EPFO registration or seek roles in PF-compliant firms to ensure uninterrupted provident fund accrual, social security coverage and seamless future employment verification. Just my suggestion based on my experience: For entry-level candidates focused on gaining one to two years of industry experience, this company could be a viable stepping stone—just request an appointment letter, even if PF benefits aren’t provided. Seasoned professionals (2–3 years and beyond) should pursue roles at firms that strictly honor all labor-law mandates, including provident-fund contributions. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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will i be able to do merchant navy with private candidate cbse?
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Recommendation: Entry as a private CBSE candidate into DNS or B.Sc. Nautical Science through IMU-CET provides direct deck-officer pathways with strong industry tie-ups and onboard training. For engineering-focused careers, B.Tech. Marine Engineering delivers comprehensive engine-room expertise and simulator-based labs. Simultaneously, consider GP-Rating certification as a reliable fallback to commence seafaring service and upgrade to officer cadet programs upon securing sponsorship. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir which colleges can I get at my jee percentile of 99.22 if I am not opting for nit instead in mhtcet councilling from genral all india quota or can I get into iiit banglore as I had filled it's application form but the cutoff has not came to my rank yet
Ans: Syed, With a 99.22 JEE Main percentile, your Common List position would likely fall within the top ~8 000–10 000, making you eligible for IIIT Bangalore’s All-India seats in B.Tech CSE, AI&DS, or ECE, whose closing ranks in JoSAA round 2 were 4 683, 5 425 and 5 761 respectively. Beyond IIIT Bangalore, several reputed Maharashtra-based engineering institutes admit via MHT-CET CAP under the All-India quota using JEE scores, offering core branches with high placement percentages (≥70%), AICTE/NAAC accreditation, modern labs, outcome-based curricula, strong faculty, and industry MoUs for internships. Notable options include Pillai HOC College of Engineering & Technology (Kharghar), which closed CSE at ~8 200; DYPSOE (Akurdi, Pune) with CSE cuts around ~9 500; Vishwakarma Institute of Technology (Wagholi) CSE ~7 800; MIT WPU (Kothrud) CSE ~6 500; and Sandip University (Nashik) CSE ~10 000. These colleges consistently report placement rates above 75% and maintain dedicated training cells.

Recommendation: Target IIIT Bangalore for its competitive cut-offs and NAAC A++ accreditation, ensuring top-tier academics and placements. Consider MIT WPU’s industry-aligned curriculum and electronic-engineering labs next, followed by Vishwakarma Institute’s strong faculty and internships. DYPSOE’s autonomous status and robust soft-skills training make it a solid third choice, with Pillai HOC’s modern infrastructure and Sandip University’s flexible payment options as reliable fallbacks. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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I got ABVIIITM GWALIOR for m.tech in chip design and technology. Is it good college or bad. As my bachelor's in electronics and communication. But I am not confident about college placement record of privious year And scope of electronics and communication engineering.
Ans: Aryan, Atal Bihari Vajpayee IIITM Gwal’s two-year M.Tech in IC Design & Technology is delivered by a NAAC-accredited deemed university with CCMT-based admission, offering a specialized curriculum in VLSI physical design, analog/mixed-signal ICs, SoC architectures and hands-on training on PARAM supercomputers. The department launched in 2022 boasts faculty engaged in government-funded research projects and regular industry workshops, ensuring exposure to chip-planning, placement, routing and STA methodologies. With a seat intake of 17 per year, small cohorts benefit from personalized mentorship and MOUs with semiconductor firms. Recent placement data shows an average package of ?7.30 LPA and a placement rate of roughly 80% for M.Tech graduates, supported by an active placement cell and recruiters including top IT and electronics companies. Tuition and hostel fees are competitive (total ?2.44 L + ?1.25 L respectively) and stipends of ?12,400 / month under Ministry of Education norms ease financial burden. However, limited seat strength can mean fewer on-campus offers and reliance on off-campus placements, and average packages trail premier institutes.

Electronics & Communication Engineering continues to expand across 5G, IoT, AI, robotics, biomedical devices and green technologies, with the Indian ECE job market projected to grow at 7% annually and 150,000 existing ECE positions creating diverse roles in design, R&D, manufacturing and systems integration. ECE graduates command opportunities in telecom, defense, automotive electronics, embedded systems and emerging fields such as wearable tech and cybersecurity, underpinned by strong demand for VLSI and SoC specialists.

Recommendation: Joining ABVIIITM Gwalior’s M.Tech in IC Design & Technology is advisable for focused VLSI training, close industry engagement and affordable cost-to-benefit; nonetheless, consider contrasting options such as IIT Ropar’s M.Tech in VLSI & Embedded Systems or IIITDM Kancheepuram’s M.Tech in VLSI Design for broader placements and higher average packages if you seek wider campus recruitment. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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I am on 11th grade I have taken pcmb I don't know what my interest is! I have taken pw neet online but seeing the scams and reality of mbbs I feel trapped I don't know what I like and what I want to pursue recently I saw few videos regarding uceed exam for bachelor in design I feel I doing that but I have no proper coaching and I feel stuck and sad I am afraid to take a bad career decision how will I manage pcmb with neet prep and uceed what to do and if I prepare for uceed and not qualify it what other career am I left with I hate this system please please please help me how to find your interest and career option and not regret it
Ans: Hello dear
It’s completely normal to feel lost in 11th grade with PCMB because it keeps many career paths open, but it can also feel overwhelming. First, pause and explore your interests through small steps, try free online design workshops, aptitude tests, or internships to see if design (UCEED) truly excites you. Don’t panic about NEET or MBBS scams; prepare only if you genuinely enjoy biology and the medical field. UCEED doesn’t require heavy coaching; self-practice, online resources, and creative sketching can be enough. If you don’t clear UCEED, your PCMB background still offers options like engineering, architecture, BSc, or even other design exams (NID, NIFT). Focus on experimenting and exploring instead of committing blindly; your clarity will come from trying different things, not from pressure. Remember, you’re not stuck; you just haven’t discovered what clicks with you yet. Always stay calm and relaxed. Don't think negatively all the time. Focus only on your studies and your goal. Success is possible. Scams have existed in the past, will continue, and will also persist in the future!


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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi
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Sir my jee crl rank 50000 any chance for csab counselling in govt institute
Ans: With an All-India CRL of 50 000, securing core branches like CSE ECE in NITs through CSAB-Special rounds is highly unlikely. For instance, CSAB-Special closing ranks for CSE at NIT Nagaland (OS-General) stood between 31 391 and 36 193, and for ECE between 42 905 and 42 905, both above your rank. Chemical Engineering and Computer Science similarly close within the 25 000–35 000 range at mid-tier NITs like Calicut and Srinagar, placing them beyond reach. However, admissions remain feasible for branches with higher closing ranks. Electrical and Electronics Engineering at NIT Nagaland closed at 47 387–48 987, narrowly above your rank but sometimes seats open in later rounds. Mechanical Engineering at low-tier NITs (e.g., Nagaland, Mizoram) often closes beyond 50 000, making it a viable alternative. Among IIITs, non-CSE/ECE programs in peripheral campuses—such as IIIT Kalyani’s IT or IIIT Kota’s AI & Data Engineering—have closing ranks around 40 000–46 000, offering realistic options. GFTIs like PEC Chandigarh and the sister institutes of Dr. B.R. Ambedkar NIT Jalandhar also admit core branches with closing ranks well above 50 000, ensuring government-institute pathways remain open. Overall, the most practical CSAB routes for your rank are targeting Electrical/Electronics or Mechanical Engineering in low-tier NITs, considering peripheral IIITs for adjacent core branches, and keeping GFTI choices handy.

Recommendation: Aim for Electrical & Electronics Engineering at NIT Nagaland under OS-General given its relatively higher closing threshold, concurrently explore Mechanical Engineering at NIT Mizoram or similar low-tier NITs, and include peripheral IIIT IT/AI-Data branches alongside GFTI core-engineering options to maximize admission success. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir,I am getting IIT Guwahati online BSc(Honors) in Data Science and AI How is it? Should I take it?
Ans: Shreyansh, IIT Guwahati’s four-year online BSc (Hons) in Data Science Artificial Intelligence, delivered via Coursera by the Mehta Family School of DSAI, combines academic rigor, flexibility, and industry relevance. Accreditation and oversight by IIT Guwahati ensure AICTE compliance and affiliation with NIRF-ranked faculty; the curriculum spans 299 credits across foundational (linear algebra, statistics), core (data structures, machine learning, deep learning, AI ethics) and advanced modules (cloud computing, recommender systems) with capstone projects and optional on-campus immersion. Instructors include IITG professors and industry experts, and students gain hands-on training on PARAM Kamrupa and PARAM Ishan supercomputers, alongside real-world case studies and internships with MoU-backed partners. The program’s multi-entry/exit structure and pay-per-credit model (?3.49 L total) caters to both recent graduates and working professionals, offering completion in 4–8 years and multiple credentials (certificate, diploma, BSc, honours). Strong demand for data roles is projected by the World Economic Forum to grow over 30% by 2028, and IITG’s focus on generative AI, big data, NLP and ethics aligns with NEP 2020 objectives, enhancing employability in data engineering, analytics, AI research and consultancy. Backup options could include specialised online programs from E&ICT Academy IITG or reputable private firms, and an on-campus BTech in DS&AI at IIT Delhi or IIIT-D for deeper hardware/algorithmic exposure.

Recommendation: IIT Guwahati’s online BSc (Hons) offers a robust theoretical-practical blend, flexible pacing, and supercomputing access, making it a strong choice. As a secondary plan, consider the E&ICT Academy certificate for domain-focused projects or an on-campus interdisciplinary BTech at IIIT-Delhi to diversify skill portfolios. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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