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I am sick due to mental illness Schizophrenia.
I am unable to think properly. I studied up to BA but could not pass.
I am unmarried at 53 and under psychiatric treatment since 1988. Is there any way to lead a peaceful life?

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Dear SD,

I can only imagine what you have been through so far. Be in touch with your psychiatrist who can guide you appropriately.

I also suggest some Behavioural Therapist who can monitor you closely from time to time which puts you at ease with day to day and regular activities with least amount of stress.

Meditate regularly and have a larger social circle who can be a part of your journey as well.

Life can be peaceful the way you can find peace with what IS.

So, never make the mistake of comparing your life with anyone else but be within your self to appreciate all the good things that you have and live with.

Being in gratitude brings in a lot of peace to anyone who is struggling with a situation.

Be happy and train yourself to see the good in every situation.

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I’m facing depression problem since last 28 years during that period I have shivering in hands and legs, have brain disorder, appetite is not proper, I don't enjoy anything. I don't like taking bath, don't like going out, don't like changing clothes, every moment feels suicidal but I have controlled myself these years. I have also opted for psychiatric treatment, I come out of it but again after a year or so I again get depression there is some chemical imbalance in my brain. I got Divorced because of this disease my life got shattered. I really don't know what to do.
Ans: Dear A, I can only imagine what you are going through. Do you want to feel better not for anyone else, but for yourself?

Break this mould that you are in please. You already have by sharing here on this platform. So that’s a courageous step towards a better life.

How can you do this?

This may sound very instructional, but since you aren’t a client that I work directly with, this is something I can offer you on top of my mind.

Firstly, please work with a Psychiatrist who also believes in alternate intensive Mind Therapy that you absolute need right now.

They need to work in tandem for you to get to a better state. There will be a point in time when the medication can be weaned off as the alternate therapy starts to work on you. That’s why both these experts need to see eye to eye and work for you and with you and not stick to their ground. Please touch base with groups/friends who can help you

In the interim, do the following almost like a prescription…it can be an ally to you.

  • I want you to cover your walls with pictures of positive quotes and images that you can see first thing in the morning
  • Hang out with people who nurture and nourish you
  • Eat only freshly cooked food without preservatives
  • Everyday pen down 5 things that you are grateful for
  • Spend time with Nature; walk barefoot on grass, immerse your hand into water for a few minutes everyday and let go of what doesn’t serve you
  • Spend time going back into places in your mind when you actually were happy; celebrate it

And most importantly, move in with your family and allow them to step into care for you till you are back on your feet.

Please take care and I wish you a good healing.

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I am 60 year old havig a family of a spouse and a son. since last two years our relation with spouse is not moving smoothly for everything there is an argument and no concensous in the matters of day tody life, son is also not lisoning properly I am under seveor stress which is leading to upset my health and I am facing epilepsy problen since last months I am unable to forget the things and move ahead. Thsere was no problem in leading a normal middle class life. I am facing in security and also I facinig negativities in my life and slowlely slipiing in depression I am trying too much to forget theses things but I am not in a position to lead a peacefull life inspite of adequate resources. Kindly advise me.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with your spouse and son. It sounds like the arguments and lack of consensus are causing you a lot of stress and impacting your health. It's important to prioritize your health and seek support if needed.

It might be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse and son about how you're feeling and see if there's a way to work together to improve the situation. It could also be beneficial to seek professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you manage your stress and emotions.

Additionally, taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and enough rest can also help improve your overall well-being. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards finding peace and happiness in your life.

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Sir, my daughter got 63836 rank in JEE mains , no reservations.. She is interested in CSE but she is not alloted any seat in Josaa..should we go with CSAB, if yes, which are good ? She agreed to take ECE or EEE also if CSE is not alloted in a good college.. Please guide us, We are thinking of taking a seat in ANITS vizag in CS cybersecurity which she got from APEapcet rank 10k...just in case she is not alloted any seat in CSAB in good colleges..
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