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Dating Coach - Answered on Mar 27, 2024

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 26, 2024Hindi
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Hi Shalini ji i am married since 2007 last 18 years my life was going very we'll and we both have good understanding and we both taking care of our family having two kids very well last year i come to know that before marriage my wife were having one male friend this male friends usually meet my wife at that time and gossips and even he taken her to visit on some locations 4 to 5 times as per my wife this friend was taken her to his room also 4 time but as they were good friends only so they just gossiping there as well as per my wife she had no any feeling with that guy but in between one day he asked her that he want to marry her , as per my wife he was telling him that he has been broken by his old girl friend and now since my wife listening him very carefully he started liking her , my wife still meeting him in between and go for outing at that time one day he asked to visit her home for marriage than my wife reject his proposal, after that this man gone out of station and than not met her, as per my wife telling me that i have not liked him and not having any feeling at that time and she telling that my 1st love is my husband only i am not able to decide anything now and not able to sleep properly not able to focus on me my health and my work i am vey shocked that the girl i love how she met with other man in past why she gone for outdoor and his room in past i am vey upset from last one year now and nkt able to find any Solution what to do now how to live life ahead pl guide me

Ans: Whilst I comment on dating and how to find your person, I will like to comment on this

1. basis of what you have shared you are overthinking and ruining what you have had since 18 years. your wife decided to stay with you and invest in the relationship with you is the fact that she cares for you and the relationship so stop being upset, be kind to yourself, her and the relationship.

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2. marriage should not stop us from having close friends from the opposite gender.

3. if you are married, it means you are an adult which means if two adults consent to adultery its their responsibility to accept it. say if you are attracted to a woman and go all the way its not the woman who has lured you, both are in their senses and know what they are doing.

4. yes even after marrying or being in a committed relationship you can and will find others attractive and you will be found attractive to others. Its upto you and only you on how you wish to act if such a situation arises. As I shared you are an adult and someone who can not think but also overthink so you decide how to act in such a situation.
Asked on - Mar 27, 2024 | Answered on Mar 27, 2024
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Thank you ???? my problem is that I can trust my wife that she told me that she was not liking that man but why she went with him outside and also why she went in his room for just gossiping they can chose any public place , as per my wife told me that nothing happened in room but sometimes I went in shock thinking if my wife telling me anything lie on this . How ro trust my wife words actually my very big problem now
Ans: Unfortunately you have not read my response in completion - the 1st point talks about how you may wish to address the issue, please read and comprehend what has been written. You are overthinking - and messing it for yourself. wishing you the best.
Asked on - Mar 27, 2024 | Answered on Mar 27, 2024
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Ok thanks yes read the same pl help how to overcome on this overthinking problem within me how I can have beautiful life and better relationship again and happy life again
Ans: You need to help yourself, you need to talk to yourself to forget things...no one else can do it for you. Those who overthink usually have enough time in their hands, work in doing something productive in this 'overthinking time' - read a book, watch a fun movie with the wife, go for walks with the wife or without her, help her in the house , play board games as a family, learn yoga, join dance or painting classes together or solo.... You are responsible on how you behave and wish to lead your life. I may not be able to respond beyond this....however it will be nice to get an update after 30 days. All the best
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So, in a nutshell, you think your wife was flirting behind your back, you dropped some hints and then she has either stopped, or then stopped you from spying on her phone.

First of all, why are you dropping hints to her instead of talking straight? Which husband is going to appreciate his wife being wooed by other men with all this darling-baby love talk?

Even if she’s not having an affair, the flirty behaviour is bound to make you uncomfortable. Don’t you think you should call her out on it instead of pretending like some other man is making her uncomfortable?

Clearly, she’s enjoying the attention!

You seem very timid and intimidated by your wife. And if her behaviour has changed toward you for the better because you suspect she is guilty of something, all the more reason to get to the bottom of it!

Stop playing games and pussyfooting around her. Do some straight-talking for a change instead of going behind her back and reading messages!

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I can understand it is an impossible situation for you but this too shall pass. First things first, are you happy in a relationship that involves cheating, not once, but twice and who's to say there won't be a third? Ask yourself that. If the answer is no, it is quite understandable, but if it's yes, then why? Why would anyone be happy with a partner who cheats over and over again? Why do you think you deserve such a life? Granted, relationships are not all rainbows and butterflies all the time, but they should not look this grim either. You alone have kept it going for this long, and maintained harmony by accepting your partner's infidelity time and again; ask yourself what would happen if you allowed yourself to stop. You can stop tolerating it, you know?

The question isn't how you should deal with your partner who is evidently a repeat cheater. The question is how you should deal with the situation and why are you reacting in a way that almost makes me think that you believe you deserve such a relationship. As for your kid, divorce or separation has much less effect on a child than a broken marriage with two unhappy parents.

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You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
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I purchased a flat under-construction in the year 2016. Till now I have not got the flat some dispute happen among the builder. The project matter is under court. I am paying huge emi bank is not ready to me listen they say if you do not pay emi your credit score will hamper what to do
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Regarding the Flat:

Review your Sale Agreement: This document outlines the terms of your purchase, including timelines for completion and any delay penalties the builder may owe.

Form a Flat Buyer Association: Connect with other buyers facing the same issue. A united front holds more power when dealing with the builder or legal proceedings.

Track Court Proceedings: Stay informed about the court case's progress. This might influence your next steps.

Explore Legal Options: Consult a lawyer specializing in real estate disputes. They can advise on pursuing compensation or withdrawal from the project depending on the court case and agreement.

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Hello, I am a Muslim wanting to Invest according to Shariah principle. I have a net Income of about 2 lakhs INR/month. I am 37 and looking to create a corpus of 1.5 crore by the time I am 50.. As a practicing Muslim, I want to ensure the investment is Shariah compliant. I have a strength of investing upto 50k/month and this may grow in the future too! kindly suggest what would be my best options.
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Understanding Shariah-Compliant Investing
Core Principles of Shariah Compliance
Shariah-compliant investing emphasizes ethical and responsible investment practices, steering clear of businesses engaged in activities incompatible with Islamic teachings, such as alcohol, gambling, and interest-based transactions. It prioritizes transparency, fairness, and social responsibility.

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Islamic Mutual Funds
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Systematic Investment Plan (SIP)
Implement a SIP approach, allocating a portion of your monthly income to Shariah-compliant investment avenues, fostering disciplined wealth accumulation over time. SIPs allow for regular and systematic investment, enabling you to benefit from rupee cost averaging and the power of compounding.

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Defining Financial Objectives
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Regular Portfolio Review
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Seeking Professional Guidance
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Continuous Learning and Education
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I recently graduated in my mid-20s with an entry-level job earning Rs 36 lakhs annually. How can I start building a strong financial foundation for the future, considering my current income and career stage?
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1. Track your income and expenses: This is the first crucial step. Understanding where your money goes will help you identify areas to save and budget effectively. There are many budgeting apps and spreadsheets available to help you with this.

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Sir, I'm 50yrs old. I earn rs 60p.m. kindly suggest low risk mutual fund so that I can get pension from ,60 yrs to 70 yrs.
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It's wise to plan ahead for your retirement years, and mutual funds can play a crucial role in generating a steady income stream. Let's explore a low-risk mutual fund strategy tailored to your needs.

Understanding Your Retirement Needs
Income Requirement
With a monthly income target of Rs 60,000 during your retirement years from 60 to 70, ensuring a stable and reliable income source is essential.

Risk Preference
Considering your preference for low-risk investments, prioritizing capital preservation while generating consistent returns is paramount.

Low-Risk Mutual Fund Selection Criteria
Stability
Focus on mutual funds with a history of stable performance and lower volatility, minimizing the risk of significant fluctuations in your investment value.

Consistent Returns
Prioritize funds with a track record of delivering steady returns over the long term, aligning with your goal of sustaining a reliable pension income.

Diversification
Opt for mutual funds that offer diversification across asset classes, such as a balanced mix of equity and debt securities, to mitigate risk effectively.

Recommended Mutual Fund Categories
Debt Mutual Funds
Allocate a substantial portion of your investment towards debt mutual funds, which primarily invest in fixed-income securities, providing stable returns with relatively lower risk.

Conservative Hybrid Funds
Consider conservative hybrid funds, which maintain a conservative allocation to equities while predominantly investing in debt instruments, striking a balance between growth and stability.

Short-Term Debt Funds
Explore short-term debt funds, which invest in fixed-income securities with shorter maturity periods, offering stability and liquidity while minimizing interest rate risk.

Retirement Income Strategy
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
Implement a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from your selected mutual funds, allowing you to receive a regular income stream while keeping your principal amount invested.

Regular Portfolio Review
Periodically review your mutual fund portfolio to ensure it continues to meet your income requirements and risk tolerance, making adjustments as needed.

Final Thoughts
Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor your mutual fund strategy according to your retirement goals and risk profile, ensuring a secure financial future.

By strategically allocating your investments across low-risk mutual fund categories, you can build a retirement portfolio designed to provide a steady pension income during your golden years.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I am 39 year old. Invested in stocks upto 1 lakh.Invested in gold for 2lakhs. Invested in ppf upto 13 lakhs and continuing it, investing in SSY upto 1lakhs from 2019 for girl child.Invested in NPS upto 1 lakh. Having term insurance for 2cr paying 3800rs per month. Having endowment policy for next 21 years. Having medical insurance upto 30 lakh sum assured having premium about 70k per year for myself, dependant and a kid. Having medical insurance sum assured upto 5 lakh each for parents having premium of 42k per year. Having a car loan of 20lakhs for next 4 years, having a personal loan of upto 4 lakhs and will end up in December. Planning for retirement corpus of 5 cr in next 15 years, and planning for child higher education for 12 years with 2 cr and marriage in next 20 years for another 2cr. Planning to buy plot in 3 years worth 75 lakhs, Which mutual fund needs to be considered to achieve these goal?
Ans: Crafting a Mutual Fund Strategy for Your Financial Goals
It's commendable that you're actively planning for your financial future. Let's outline a strategic approach using mutual funds to achieve your goals.

Assessing Financial Goals
Retirement Corpus
Your target retirement corpus of 5 crores in 15 years requires a disciplined investment strategy with a focus on long-term wealth creation.

Child's Higher Education and Marriage
For your child's education and marriage, aiming for a combined corpus of 4 crores over the next 12 and 20 years, respectively, necessitates a balanced investment approach.

Plot Purchase
Planning to buy a plot worth 75 lakhs in 3 years requires short to medium-term investment options with capital appreciation potential.

Mutual Fund Selection Criteria
Goal Horizon
Align mutual fund selections with the time horizon of each financial goal, focusing on funds with proven track records of consistent returns over the required investment duration.

Risk Appetite
Consider your risk tolerance and opt for a diversified mix of mutual funds spanning various asset classes to mitigate risk while aiming for optimal returns.

Tax Efficiency
Select mutual funds that offer tax efficiency, such as equity-linked saving schemes (ELSS), to leverage tax benefits while investing for long-term goals.

Recommended Mutual Fund Categories
Equity Mutual Funds
Allocate a significant portion of your investment towards equity mutual funds for long-term wealth accumulation, considering the growth potential of equities over time.

Debt Mutual Funds
Include debt mutual funds in your portfolio for stability and capital preservation, especially for short to medium-term goals like the plot purchase.

Hybrid Mutual Funds
Explore hybrid mutual funds, which offer a balanced mix of equity and debt exposure, suitable for investors seeking moderate risk with potentially higher returns.

Final Thoughts
Regular Portfolio Review
Periodically review your mutual fund portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance, making adjustments as necessary.

Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor your mutual fund investment strategy according to your unique financial circumstances and objectives.

By strategically allocating your investments across equity, debt, and hybrid mutual funds, you can work towards achieving your financial goals efficiently.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Good morning sir. I am investing in SBI midcap, small cap and health care opportunities fund at the rate of Rs 10000 per month respectively and Rs 5000/- each in ICICI equity funds. Kindly suggest whether to contiue or to switch to other
Ans: It's great to see your proactive approach towards investing. Let's assess your current mutual fund investments and explore whether any adjustments are needed.

Reviewing Current Investments
Diversification Strategy
Your investment strategy reflects a diversified approach by investing in midcap, small cap, healthcare, and equity funds.

Performance Analysis
Evaluate the performance of your current funds against relevant benchmarks to gauge their effectiveness in meeting your financial goals.

Considerations for Continuation or Switching
Fund Performance
Assess the historical performance of each fund to determine if they consistently outperform their benchmarks.

Risk Appetite
Consider your risk tolerance and ensure your investment choices align with your risk appetite and financial goals.

Potential Action Steps
Consultation with a Certified Financial Planner
Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to review your investment portfolio comprehensively and ensure it aligns with your financial objectives.

Periodic Portfolio Review
Regularly review your investment portfolio to stay informed about market trends and make necessary adjustments based on changing economic conditions.

Final Recommendation
Stay Informed
Stay updated on market developments and seek professional advice when considering changes to your investment strategy.

By regularly reviewing your mutual fund portfolio and consulting with a Certified Financial Planner, you can make informed decisions to optimize your investments and work towards your financial goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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