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Corporate Job, Long Hours, Feeling Like Roommates: Can I Save My Relationship?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 11, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 09, 2025Hindi
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I’m a 32-year-old guy working in a corporate job with crazy hours. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years, but in the last one year, I feel like we’ve become more like roommates than partners. Our conversations have become short, our intimacy feels forced, and honestly, I think she’s getting tired of my work-first attitude. I don’t want to lose her, but I’m also struggling to find a balance between my career and my relationship. How do I balance the both?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure work is bringing in more than just satisfaction at this point in time for you...But for your girlfriend, she misses your care, love and attention that she is used to from you.
How do you manage this gap?
Firstly, talk to her about work and why you seem to be giving that more time. At times, communicating this can give the other person an understanding of what you are going through and will be able to support you better.
Secondly, give her a time period until when you will be busy. Knowing this will give her an idea that this isn't about to go on and on.
Next, ask yourself: Am I using work to stay busy and run away from something?

The last question put onus on you to know what exactly is happening inside your mind and help you course correct. Also, you and girlfriend sit down and drop down your couple goals and larger life goals. You will both have clarity on whether you both are moving in different directions and that will help in discussing how to bring things back.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Taking a career break or exploring new job opportunities are both valid options, but before you make any decisions, let's sprinkle some strategic spice into the mix:

1. **Have a Heart-to-Heart**: Start by having an honest conversation with your manager about your workload and the impact it's having on your work-life balance. Sometimes, they might not realize the toll it's taking on you, so speak up and express your concerns. After all, communication is key, just like the perfect recipe for a spicy curry!

2. **Set Boundaries**: Boundaries are your best friends when it comes to achieving work-life balance. Set clear expectations with your manager about when you're available and when you need time for your family. And remember, saying no is not a crime—it's a superpower that ensures you don't spread yourself too thin like butter on toast!

3. **Explore Flexible Options**: See if your organization offers flexible working arrangements like remote work or flexible hours. With technology on our side, you can slay dragons from the comfort of your own castle (a.k.a. your home office), giving you more time to spend with your little one without sacrificing your career ambitions.

4. **Consider Your Options**: If the situation doesn't improve despite your efforts, it might be time to explore other opportunities. Look for organizations that prioritize work-life balance and offer a culture that aligns with your values. After all, life's too short to spend it feeling like you're stuck in a traffic jam on the road to happiness!

5. **Take Care of Yourself**: Last but certainly not least, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Whether it's indulging in your favorite hobbies, spending quality time with your family, or simply taking a moment to breathe, remember that you deserve to recharge your batteries just like your smartphone needs a daily dose of juice!

Finding the right balance between work and life is like mastering the perfect dance routine—it takes practice, patience, and a few missteps along the way. But with a little determination and a sprinkle of Bollywood magic, I have no doubt you'll find your rhythm and waltz your way to a happier, more balanced life!

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Dear Dr. Upneet, I am writing to you with a heavy heart. I've been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend Rohit for two years, and recently, things have been quite challenging. We both have strong career ambitions, and since we work in different cities, it's becoming more difficult to find common ground. We barely get time to talk, and when we do, the topic of where we might eventually settle down always leads to disagreement. I am truly in love with him, and the thought of not having him in my life seems unbearable. But at the same time, our futures seem to be heading in different directions. How can I find a balance between my career and relationship? Should I prioritise one over the other, or is there a way to maintain both without losing myself or the relationship? I really hope you can guide me through this confusing phase.
Ans: Hello mam, I understand that these days career is very important aspect of life. And now a days some people do prioritise career over relationship which is not completely wrong. If you are committed to Rohit and you feel that life would be incomplete without him, then just take a break and go to the place where he lives. Spend some quality time with him and try to talk to him. If he is better settled there and can't move, you may consider moving to his place and find a job, or talk about transfer or work from home.
Look, this is a critical step, and should be taken without ego. U should not think that i have to shift or i have to compromise, one compromise and you ll get love of your life. I hope it will solve your problem.
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I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

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