Respected sir I have a son and two daughters and my husband works out of country and and all my children are adults and only take care of them.my son is eighteen years of age he is in engineering first year but don't study and engaged in girls and bussy in Instagram and phone calls whole night .if I scold him he misbehave with me.what should I do iam mentally disturbed because of him pls suggest good advice.

Ans: Dear Sanjeev,
I will be surprised if your 14-year old didn't give you a challenging time.
Embrace this phase as a part of stepping into the peak adolescent phase where he is striving to establish his independent identity before stepping into adulthood.
You will see him talk back rudely, ignore you, challenge your advice, give you the silent treatment and more...

The best ways to tackle him is:
Be a friendly parent and not a friend to him.
Ask questions more than instruct him.
Listen to him patiently without any interruptions so that he feels heard.
Don't threaten to withdraw his allowance or change the wi-fi password; this will only make him rebel more.
Tackle his screams/rude talks or rebellious streaks with a gentle smile at the end which will leave him guessing.

A magic statement that always breaks the ice in any relationship is: 'What will make you feel better?'
At the end of the day, don't worry. He has been raised with the values of your home; he will turn around...but do keep an eye as this is the age of digital media and the temptations are heavy and more. So, if you see something that is fishy or dangerous, seek an appointment with an expert who can guide him appropriately.

All the best!

Ans: Pravin Sir,

Addition to electronic gadgets is one of the problems, some parents face nowadays.

First of all, approach a good Professional / Qualified Student Counsellor along with your son in your locality. Make sure, the Counsellor has Psychology Background also. There might be some changes. If needed, you can approach a Psychologist, having specialised knowledge in Counselling the children of your son's age.

Follow-up counselling sessions with the counsellors are also important until he changes his attitude.

If possible, visit his college and request for couselling your son. Almost all colleges have counsellors who can help.

Some other tips:

1) Tell him, he also can become YouTuber. But ask him what plans he has to become a YouTuber?
2) Switching off WiFi & being authoritarian will not work.
3) Communicate or interact with him politely whenever possible.
4) Tell him he can use his mobile but, at the same time should focus on his studies as well.
5) Make sure, atmosophere at home is good. Such as, parents also should avoid spending too much time on Electronic Gadgets. Most of the children imitate only their parents.
6) If possible, tell him to participate in physical activities as well.

All the BEST for Your Bright Future.

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Ans: OMG Mr Manoj...please take external help, take him to a doctor and get your beautiful son back into the family fold. He needs help and a father/family needs to stand with him like a rock to get him back to living a good life. See where he goes, what he does and then talk to him!! Don't blame, don't criticize...your son needs you... Just be there for him, he is yours ...nobody can do what you can do. Love him , cherish him... get him back!!Pls take action in the best interest of your son. All the best..