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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 16, 2024Hindi
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating from 5 years and now its my age to get married. My boyfriend and I dont share the same cast and religion. How am i supposed to convince my parents? My boyfriends family is not financially settled.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Caste shouldn't be an issue in this day and age, if not that goes against your family values. But, when it comes to finances, it is of utmost importance. Whether your partner's family is financially stable or not is not your concern; are you and your partner financially secure? That's more important. If not, I suggest finding a fix for that before you pitch the relationship to your parents. Otherwise, it would be very difficult to convince them, which is, to be honest, quite natural.

Best Wishes.

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Hello sir, I have been in relationship for 4 years, once my cousin elder caught me with my bf and told my parent. I told my parents that I wanted to get marry with him. But they denied. Due to my brother listening. Now it's been 4 years from that period. My bf is asking me for marriage. I wanted to convience my parents. But I m not able to tell them. And my Bf is less educated and I am employed graduate person. He works as a driver,but loves me a core. What shall I do to convience my parent. As Im of 25 years old and he is one year elder then me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are in a challenging situation. If you want to convince your parents, the first thing is to acknowledge their concerns. It is normal for parents to be worried about their child's future. You mentioned your partner is comparatively less educated than you and works as a driver; while every profession is equally important and as long as he is honest and hardworking and puts food on the table, he is doing well, parents can find the financial situation a little concerning. Instead of avoiding or being defensive about these concerns, address them. Let them know how you plan on tackling these differences in your relationship. Emphasize his character, personality, and all the qualities that drew you to him. Tell them how you have been in a stable relationship for 4 years, despite all the odds. In today's day and age, that is a huge thing. Convincing them would also require you to show that you are mature enough to make this decision so have the discussion once you and your partner have a solid plan and have the nitty-gritty all sorted.

Be practical and do not expect them to be onboard immediately. They have your best interest at heart and you know that your situation isn't ideal. Give them time to come around. It might take some compromises as well.

In the end, I would also urge you to think this through before introducing the relationship to your parents. Marriage is a big decision. Ultimately, it's your happiness and life at stake. Don't rush.

Best Wishes.

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Dear Doctor, I work as a corporate lawyer in Delhi. I’ve been considering undergoing a cosmetic procedure for my skin for some time now, but I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed by the number of surgeons available. I want to ensure that I choose someone who is experienced, as this is a big decision for me. Could you advise what I should look for when selecting a plastic-aesthetic surgeon? Are there any specific red flags I should be aware of when researching potential surgeons? I want to make sure I’m in safe hands. I’m 40 years old.
Ans: This is a beautiful question.
Before I dwell on your question, there are a few points which are very important for the patient to know.
1. You should roughly know what result you wish to have.
2. Never think of a perfect result. There is no such result.
3. You must think in terms of improvement and if you are sble to achieve more than 90% approx, it can be considred good.
4. Dont compare your results with any celebrity's result. There body structure is different, they have probably taken better care till now and importantly, the result you see on a public platform is after make up and not the real result. Some times it may be a photoshopped image
5. Let your doctor know if you have any medical history and addictions.
6. Don't go with pre concieved notion (especially if you have researched a lot online). Discuss with the doctor, listen to his/ her views and raise your concerns if any
7. Try and see some results of the doctors work (Remember, too good a result may not be the true result). Realistic result is what you should want to look at and believe.
8. Don't fall for less budget! its obvious a meticulous job needs more surgical time. This means that the doctor may charge more. Seniority also adds to the cost.
What I mean, there is a price to be paid for a good job.(whether medical or anywhere).
Now coming to the Plastic surgeon's choice.
1. Research well, but dont fall prey to only advertisement. Small and big centers, both advertise,
2. Dont fall for glamour. You are going to a surgeon. A plastic surgeon's clinic is clean but not lavish generally. At least I believe that the person coming is not a client, but a patient. A patient - Doctor relationship is more pure than a client-Professional relationship.
3. Talk and discuss with the doctor. A too busy doctor may not always be the best doctor for you. Plastic surgery is about thinking, planning and execution. A doctor who thinks aloud about your problem ( especially if ut us face, nose, breast etc) is applying his/ her knowledge for your betterment, because every oerson is different.
4. Check the resilts? Look for genuinity.
5. Be wary of arrogant, loud and boisterous people. There is a difference between confidence and fambloyence.
6. Doctors who are attached to reputed hospitals are generally good in their work.
7. A doctor who can talk about probable complications is also a doctor worth trusting.
I hope I am able to do justice to this difficult question. All the best. You can write again if you need any other clarifications.
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