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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 17, 2023

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Question by Debayati on Apr 13, 2023Hindi

Hi, i really need a boyfriend. I meet a guy and felt for him, can't get him out of my way. I really need him. Please help me to impress him.ðŸ˜’ðŸ˜£

Ans: Dear Debayati,

I am glad to hear you found someone worth putting in the effort. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to impressing anyone, here are some general and proven ways to realistically impress someone:

• Don't force your feelings on him; let him fall for you because he wants to, not because you stressed him into doing so. Any relationship built on such foundations has ever worked out.
• Let him see your wit; emotionally-mature men like intelligent women who are not scared to put forward their opinion and challenge set ideas. Please don't play dumb; it is not attractive. And if your man thinks it's cute, you better reconsider your feelings for him.
• Be yourself. Overdoing and altering anything, be it the way you dress or the way you talk or your behavior in general will not help with impressing him. Instead, he will see a version of you that is made up and might or might not fall for that version; but it isn't you, and he isn't falling for you. So it's better you be yourself and see where it goes.
• Indulge him in talks about his interests and passions. Men have some interests that are known to bore most women, for instance, cricket. Talk about that topic and let him believe he has hit the jackpot by finding a woman who's interested in his passions.
• Humor and wit go hand in hand. Crack occasional jokes. Men, not unlike women, love to have a good laugh.
• Some flirting is healthy; send flirty texts once in a while, for instance, "You look cute," etc. Whatever you are comfortable with; the idea is to be present even when you aren't physically there with him.

Hope this helps.

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Dear Love Guru Offline college has started and, in the very first week, I have really, really liked this boy. I am not a frivolous kind of person and I never thought something like this would happen to me college. We don’t know each other really, we are just classmates. It’s all very awkward for me and my friends can see I like him and they tease me. It will be worse if he comes to know. I cannot discuss this with my family, I don’t want advice from my friends who are my age. Can you tell me what I should do now? Confused

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It’s just a college crush, my dear…nothing to get so uptight about. It’s normal at your age.

You can tell your friends you don’t want him to know, but so what if he does? Maybe he likes you too or will ask you out?

There’s really no set course to follow in these matters. Just enjoy your college days and years!

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This is not exactly a love problem but kind of related.
My ex and my good friend are engaged and it’s left me feeling very awkward.
It’s uncomfortable to see her with him.
I don’t want to give up the group or them because we are all very good friends.
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The way you’re feeling is perfectly natural and this situation is more common than you think.

I know of someone who has been in the exact same position as you and he was the bigger person back then.

Today, things are so normal between him and the couple; they’re still good friends and laugh about what was a few years ago.

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Since you’re all within the same group, I’d suggest riding things out. You make an effort to normalise things and they will do the same. The new dynamic will become the norm in time, you’ll see.

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