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Debayati Question by Debayati on Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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Hi, i really need a boyfriend. I meet a guy and felt for him, can't get him out of my way. I really need him. Please help me to impress him.😒😣

Ans: Dear Debayati,

I am glad to hear you found someone worth putting in the effort. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to impressing anyone, here are some general and proven ways to realistically impress someone:


• Don't force your feelings on him; let him fall for you because he wants to, not because you stressed him into doing so. Any relationship built on such foundations has ever worked out.
• Let him see your wit; emotionally-mature men like intelligent women who are not scared to put forward their opinion and challenge set ideas. Please don't play dumb; it is not attractive. And if your man thinks it's cute, you better reconsider your feelings for him.
• Be yourself. Overdoing and altering anything, be it the way you dress or the way you talk or your behavior in general will not help with impressing him. Instead, he will see a version of you that is made up and might or might not fall for that version; but it isn't you, and he isn't falling for you. So it's better you be yourself and see where it goes.
• Indulge him in talks about his interests and passions. Men have some interests that are known to bore most women, for instance, cricket. Talk about that topic and let him believe he has hit the jackpot by finding a woman who's interested in his passions.
• Humor and wit go hand in hand. Crack occasional jokes. Men, not unlike women, love to have a good laugh.
• Some flirting is healthy; send flirty texts once in a while, for instance, "You look cute," etc. Whatever you are comfortable with; the idea is to be present even when you aren't physically there with him.

Hope this helps.

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Dear Love Guru Offline college has started and, in the very first week, I have really, really liked this boy. I am not a frivolous kind of person and I never thought something like this would happen to me college. We don’t know each other really, we are just classmates. It’s all very awkward for me and my friends can see I like him and they tease me. It will be worse if he comes to know. I cannot discuss this with my family, I don’t want advice from my friends who are my age. Can you tell me what I should do now? Confused
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It’s just a college crush, my dear…nothing to get so uptight about. It’s normal at your age.

You can tell your friends you don’t want him to know, but so what if he does? Maybe he likes you too or will ask you out?

There’s really no set course to follow in these matters. Just enjoy your college days and years!

 

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This is not exactly a love problem but kind of related.
My ex and my good friend are engaged and it’s left me feeling very awkward.
It’s uncomfortable to see her with him.
I don’t want to give up the group or them because we are all very good friends.
Everyone’s struggling to adapt to the new dynamics and I’m feeling bad.
How do I handle this?

The way you’re feeling is perfectly natural and this situation is more common than you think.

I know of someone who has been in the exact same position as you and he was the bigger person back then.

Today, things are so normal between him and the couple; they’re still good friends and laugh about what was a few years ago.

My point is, what you want to achieve -- a new normal -- is very possible.

Since you’re all within the same group, I’d suggest riding things out. You make an effort to normalise things and they will do the same. The new dynamic will become the norm in time, you’ll see.

Let time take away your discomfort. It will.

 

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I recently received 10 lakhs which was invested earlier. Currently i invest 18k in parag parekh flexi, 15k in Navi nifty50, 15k ICICI pru s&p index, 8k quant mid, 8 k quant small,8k Motilal Oswal mid, 8k Nippon India small, 12.5k elss quant, 7.5k gold, 20k debt. Will be doing this for next 20yrs. How do I put my lumpsum of 10lakhs in this? Should I bulk invest or slowly put money in to these over next 6 months
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Bulk Invest:

Pros: Takes advantage of rupee-cost averaging. The market fluctuates, so by investing everything at once, you capture some units at potentially lower prices. It's also simpler to manage, requiring just one investment decision.
Cons: If the market takes a dip right after you invest, your entire sum goes in at a potentially higher price.
SIP over 6 Months:

Pros: Provides a form of averaging as you invest across different market conditions. Offers some peace of mind if you're concerned about market volatility.
Cons: Misses out on the potential benefit of rupee-cost averaging if the market trends upwards. Requires more discipline to consistently invest each month.
Choosing the Right Approach:

There's no one-size-fits-all answer. It depends on your risk tolerance:

Comfortable with some risk? A bulk investment might be suitable.
Prefer to spread the risk? Consider SIPs over 6 months.
Here's a suggestion: Talk to a certified financial planner. They can analyze your existing portfolio (diversified across equity, debt, and gold - that's good!) and risk profile to recommend the best way to deploy your lump sum. They can even suggest a hybrid approach, investing a portion upfront and the rest via SIPs.

Remember, you've got a long investment horizon of 20 years. Stay focused and make well-informed decisions to grow your wealth!

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I am an NRI, 60 years old. Trying for the first time to invest in India. My friend suggest I do invest in SIP and recommend 4 funds - Nippon India large cap, DSP small cap, HDFC flexi cap and ICICI Pru multi assest funds. What do you recommend? How much should I start with? Is 5 k in each fund is ok and monitor? Pl.let mr know. Thank you.
Ans: Ah, coming back to invest in India after all these years, must be a wonderful feeling! It's like reconnecting with a piece of your history. But times change, and so do investments. SIPs (Systematic Investment Plans) are a brilliant way to build your nest egg over time, a bit by bit, just like that proverbial rice bag!

Your friend's suggestion of diversifying across large, small, and flexi-cap funds makes perfect sense. Think of it as having a well-rounded meal – you wouldn't want just dal, would you? You want the whole thali! Diversification helps spread the risk, just like having a strong support system in life.

Now, 5k in each fund is a good starting point. But remember, the amount depends on your overall financial goals. How much do you want this nest egg to be? Visualize it - a comfortable retirement by the beach? Helping your grandchildren with their education? Once you have that vision, a Certified Financial Planner can help you tailor your SIP contributions to reach it.

So, take that first step! It's like planting a sapling – it might seem small now, but with careful nurturing, it can grow into a magnificent tree. Happy investing!

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Hi Sir, I am currently working in PSB in the Middle management group and investing in different investment options to achieve the goal of financial freedom. I have one 6 years old daughter and want to accumulate a fund of 2.5 Cr for her education and marriage also. I am investing the monthly amount in below mentioned categories: A) Traditional: 1) Sukanya Sammaridhi account: 2K 2) PPF: 1K B) Market Linked: 1) DSP Small cap fund: 3K 2) SBI magnum Mid Cap Fund: 2 K 3) HDFC Mid Cap opportunities Fund: 3 K 4) Aditya Birla SL Pure value fund Reg (G): 1K 5) Mirae Asset Large & Midcap Fund Reg (G): 2 K 6) Canara Robeco Emerging Equities Reg (G): 3K 7) 3-4 K in share purchase for long term investment. I want to keep investing in MFs for the next 25 years with an annual increment in monthly investment figures as per the capability. Kindly advise me about these funds and share your suggestions to achieve my dream. Awaiting your reply. Regards, Bhuvneshwar.
Ans: Bhuvneshwar, your commitment to securing your daughter's future is commendable, and your diversified investment strategy reflects your dedication to achieving your financial goals. Let's break down your approach:

Traditional Investments: Sukanya Samriddhi and PPF provide a solid foundation with tax benefits and guaranteed returns. These avenues ensure stability and security for your daughter's future needs.
Market-Linked Investments: By investing in a mix of small, mid, and large-cap funds, you're tapping into the potential growth of the market. Your selection shows a balanced approach, spreading risk across different segments of the market.
Direct Stock Investments: Your involvement in direct stock purchases demonstrates your confidence in specific companies for long-term growth. However, ensure thorough research and prudent decision-making to mitigate risks associated with individual stocks.
To further enhance your strategy:

Regular Review and Rebalancing: Periodically assess the performance of your investments and rebalance if needed to maintain your desired asset allocation.
Risk Management: While market-linked investments offer growth potential, they also carry inherent risks. Ensure you're comfortable with the level of risk in your portfolio and adjust your investments accordingly.
Gradual Increase in Investments: Your plan to incrementally increase your monthly investments aligns with the principle of gradual improvement over time. Consistency and discipline in this approach will help you reach your target efficiently.
Remember, Bhuvneshwar, achieving financial freedom for your daughter's education and marriage requires patience, discipline, and a long-term perspective. Stay focused on your goals, continuously educate yourself, and adapt your strategy as needed along the journey. With dedication and strategic planning, you're well on your way to realizing your dreams for your daughter's future.

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Ans: Sangeeta! It's great to hear that you're considering starting your investment journey with mutual funds. Since you have a monthly investment amount of 10,000 INR and a time horizon of 3-5 years, here's a suggested approach to diversify your investments:

Large Cap Funds: These funds invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable performance. They can offer stability to your portfolio.
Allocate around 30-40% of your investment amount to large cap funds.
Mid Cap Funds: Mid cap funds invest in companies with medium market capitalization, offering higher growth potential than large caps but with slightly more risk.
Allocate around 20-30% of your investment amount to mid cap funds.
Small Cap Funds: These funds invest in small companies with high growth potential but higher risk. They can add growth opportunities to your portfolio.
Allocate around 20-30% of your investment amount to small cap funds.
Diversified Equity Funds: These funds invest across market caps and sectors, offering broad diversification and potential for higher returns.
Allocate around 10-20% of your investment amount to diversified equity funds.
Balanced Funds: Balanced funds invest in a mix of equities and debt instruments, offering a balance between growth and stability.
Allocate around 10-20% of your investment amount to balanced funds.
Sectoral Funds (Optional): If you have a specific sector or theme in mind that you believe will perform well, you can allocate a small portion of your investment amount to sectoral funds. However, be cautious as these funds can be more volatile.
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Lastly, it's always a good idea to consult with a financial advisor to ensure your investment strategy aligns with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Happy investing, Sangeeta!

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I am 38 yrs old with 1lakh salary living in rented house, due to some family issue all my saving gone ,again i hv starting saving from this year through Sip of 1k in each companies ,BOI small cap, nippon india power&infra,quant small,motilal oswal midcap,icici prudential commodities ,icici bluechip ,kotak infra&economics reform,axis nifty IT ,icici pharma index , nippon small cap, quant elss , quant aboslute, bandhan sterling value fund, hdfc focus 30 ,nippon largecap, hdfc multi cap, quant flexi cap , mahindra small cap, prag parikh flexi cap, quant large cap, quant psu fund, sbi balanced advantage , aditya birla sunlife osu equity , sbi energy opportunities fund, ppf 8k. Whether i need to conssolidate or better to invest in all with this amount till 1 yr and then consolidate as i want to retire at the age 55yrs and how much corpus i need for retirement at 55yrs and what amount i need to save ,my monthly expense is 55-60k?? Please help!!
Ans: It sounds like you're taking a proactive approach to rebuilding your savings through SIP investments in a variety of mutual funds. However, having such a large number of funds in your portfolio can sometimes lead to over-diversification and increased complexity without necessarily providing significant additional benefits.

Here are some suggestions:

Consolidate: Consider consolidating your portfolio to a more manageable number of funds, perhaps around 5-10 well-chosen funds. Look for funds that cover different asset classes, investment styles, and market caps to ensure adequate diversification.
Review Performance: Evaluate the performance of each fund in your portfolio regularly. Keep funds that have consistently performed well over the long term and consider replacing underperforming funds with better alternatives.
Risk Assessment: Ensure that your portfolio aligns with your risk tolerance and investment goals. Since you have a specific retirement goal in mind, it's crucial to assess whether your current portfolio allocation will help you achieve that goal.
Asset Allocation: Consider your desired asset allocation based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon. Allocate a portion of your portfolio to equities for long-term growth potential, but also consider fixed income or debt investments for stability and income.
Retirement Planning: Calculate how much you'll need for retirement at age 55 based on your current expenses, expected inflation, and any other sources of retirement income (like PPF). A financial advisor can help you determine an appropriate savings goal and investment strategy to reach that target.
Emergency Fund: Make sure you have an adequate emergency fund to cover unexpected expenses, typically 3-6 months' worth of living expenses.
Seek Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a financial advisor who can provide personalized guidance based on your financial situation, goals, and risk tolerance. They can help you create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your needs.
By consolidating your portfolio, reviewing your investments regularly, and planning strategically for retirement, you can work towards building a more efficient and effective investment strategy.

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