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Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 20, 2022

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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Apr 20, 2022Hindi
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Dear Love Guru
Offline college has started and, in the very first week, I have really, really liked this boy.
I am not a frivolous kind of person and I never thought something like this would happen to me college.
We don’t know each other really, we are just classmates. It’s all very awkward for me and my friends can see I like him and they tease me. It will be worse if he comes to know.
I cannot discuss this with my family, I don’t want advice from my friends who are my age.
Can you tell me what I should do now?
Confused

Ans:

It’s just a college crush, my dear…nothing to get so uptight about. It’s normal at your age.

You can tell your friends you don’t want him to know, but so what if he does? Maybe he likes you too or will ask you out?

There’s really no set course to follow in these matters. Just enjoy your college days and years!

 

Dear Love Guru
This is not exactly a love problem but kind of related.
My ex and my good friend are engaged and it’s left me feeling very awkward.
It’s uncomfortable to see her with him.
I don’t want to give up the group or them because we are all very good friends.
Everyone’s struggling to adapt to the new dynamics and I’m feeling bad.
How do I handle this?

The way you’re feeling is perfectly natural and this situation is more common than you think.

I know of someone who has been in the exact same position as you and he was the bigger person back then.

Today, things are so normal between him and the couple; they’re still good friends and laugh about what was a few years ago.

My point is, what you want to achieve -- a new normal -- is very possible.

Since you’re all within the same group, I’d suggest riding things out. You make an effort to normalise things and they will do the same. The new dynamic will become the norm in time, you’ll see.

Let time take away your discomfort. It will.

 

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Hello sir, im a doctor 37year.started practising last year. So no previous investment. I want suggestion for investment and regarding nps . Should I opt nps or go for mutual funds.. as I can't keep track on stocks. Please guide . I have corpus for child .and want retirement funds good for my standard
Ans: Hi Dr.

As you can't keep track of stocks, lets rule out direct stock/equity investment.

NPS - its a good tool for people who want regular income during retirement as pension. So thru your earning life you contribute to NPS and save for the future - contributions are until retirement age. There are prescribed allocation to Equity and Debt funds (similar to mutual fund schemes) that are managed by Fund managers. On retirement age you can withdraw 60% of the funds without any tax liability (its an option) and the remaining funs in the NPS will provide you with pension income. The pension income is considered a source of income in your hand and hence taxable as per prevailing tax laws.

Mutual fund - this investment option doesn't have a time limit for you to contribute. The allocation to different type of Mutual fund schemes are also at the discretion of the investor. Some schemes like ELSS do provide tax benefit under old tax regime. The withdrawal from Mutual funds do have tax implications but they are consider more tax efficient as they are not considered as income. Tax is on the gains (capital gains) only. Regular income can be derived from Mutual funds at the time of retirement using SWP (Systematic withdrawal plan) option or withdrawing a lumpsum amount - its flexible and again at the discretion of the investor.

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Thanks & Regards
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I am 40 yr old divorced man with a 10 year old son. I live in my own house in a tier 2 city. I have savings of around 5 Cr and no liabilities. I am expecting to live until I am 80. Can I retire now expecting 3 lac monthly income matching inflation for the rest of my life? I have accounted my son's education, medical insurance and yearly vacation in India. Would that be enough? If not, then how much should I save until I turn 45 yr old. Thank you!
Ans: Hi,

At age of 40, you have already accumulated 5 Cr with no liabilities and your own house, that is a tremendous achievement.

The monthly income of 3 lakhs (inflation adjusted) for 40 years - as mentioned will cover your requirements of son's education, medical insurance and vacation. If we assume inflation of 6% and average return on your corpus of 12% over the next 40 years, you will require approximately 6 Cr (not considering tax implications).

Please understand this amount will be exhausted over the next 40 years, so if you plan to leave behind any legacy for your son/grand children then you will need more.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 24, 2025Hindi
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I want guidance on retirement planning. Having corpus of 3 CR in liquid, 45l savings in FD. With no bank loans and own home. Have 2 more houses and getting rent of 37k .Kids are in class 1 and class 0 I need to provide support for their education which might overall cost around 2 CR. Is my corpus enough to retire now and take care of cost of living. My age is 37 years. My monthly expense is around 1.5 lakhs. I have medical insurance policy of 20 lakhs. And I have two polices like yearly 10L for next 5 years for the kids
Ans: Hi,

Current state of your finances
Liquid Corpus - 3 Cr
Savings FD - 45 lakhs
Rent income - 37000

Monthly expenses - 1.5 lakhs

If we consider the above, then the monthly expenses will be covered for about 35 years (assuming inflation of 5-6% and average returns of 8%). This doesn't include the education expenses for your 2 children.

Retirement is now typically planned for up to age of 85 years (i.e. 43 years for you). Hence in your situation you have a challenge to support monthly expenses for retirement and children education.

You have 2 more houses and without knowing your intent for their usage/sale and their value it becomes difficult to indicate if they would be sufficient to support the 2 major goals you have listed.
Also with current lifestyle and medical expenses, the health insurance of 20 lakhs may need to be ramped up to a much higher amount.
Also you have not shared much details of your Insurance policies to understand if they are the appropriate ones and if the risk cover is sufficient.

Another important aspect to consider for early retirement is - how will you keep yourself occupied. You will have a lot of time on hand and do you plan to monetize your time by engaging in some financially rewarding activities. This will also have an impact on the overall state of your well-being - financially and psychologically.

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What is minimum requirement for a Tamilnadu state board student to enter mbbs in AFMC?
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 10, 2025Hindi
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I'm 41 years old. My portforlio consist of 27L in mutual funds, 35L in stocks and 5L in NPS. I want to have a corpus of 30cr by 60. My monthly mutual fund SIP is 1.2L and NPS is 20K. Can you advise if my curent SIP will help in achieving my desired corpus by 60.
Ans: You are 41 and aiming for a Rs. 30 crore corpus by age 60. That gives you 19 years to build your wealth. You have a strong monthly SIP of Rs. 1.2L in mutual funds and Rs. 20K in NPS, which shows high commitment. Let’s analyse in detail whether your current strategy is enough, and what changes, if any, are needed.

Portfolio Snapshot
Age: 41

Goal: Rs. 30 crore by age 60 (retirement corpus)

Current Investments:

Mutual Funds: Rs. 27L

Stocks (direct equity): Rs. 35L

NPS: Rs. 5L

Monthly Investment:

Mutual Fund SIP: Rs. 1.2L

NPS Contribution: Rs. 20K

360-Degree Assessment: Can You Reach Rs. 30 Crores?
Let us now break your journey into parts:

1. Time Horizon – You Have 19 Years
That’s a decent long-term window.

Compounding will support you well over this period.

However, the earlier years are more powerful.

Your current age requires disciplined allocation, with some risk.

2. Current Corpus – Rs. 67L in Total
Mutual funds: Rs. 27L

Stocks: Rs. 35L

NPS: Rs. 5L

Total: Rs. 67L

This base amount gives you a strong head start.

You are not starting from zero. That’s an advantage.

3. Monthly Contribution – Rs. 1.4L Combined
Rs. 1.2L in mutual fund SIPs

Rs. 20K in NPS

That’s Rs. 16.8L per year

Over 19 years, that’s Rs. 3.19 crore invested capital

Now the key is the return you generate

4. Required Growth Rate – Let’s Evaluate That
To grow Rs. 67L + Rs. 3.2 crore to Rs. 30 crore in 19 years,

You’ll need an average return around 13% to 14% annually.

That’s achievable, but not guaranteed.

It depends on:

Fund categories

Asset allocation

Risk management

Market behaviour

5. Mutual Fund SIP – Is It Positioned Well?
You are doing Rs. 1.2L monthly in mutual funds.

It’s important to know how this SIP is spread:

Large-cap funds?

Flexi-cap funds?

Midcap, small-cap, or focused funds?

Any sectoral or thematic funds?

You need a strong tilt towards equity for this goal.

A suggested split (approximate):

40% flexi-cap + large-cap for stability

40% mid-cap and small-cap for growth

20% focused or thematic for alpha potential

SIP in actively managed funds through a Certified Financial Planner is key.

Avoid direct funds. They don’t offer ongoing reviews and rebalancing.

6. Stock Portfolio – Rs. 35L
Direct equity adds potential for high returns.

But it also adds volatility and risk.

Ask yourself:

Is your stock portfolio diversified?

Are you tracking and rebalancing regularly?

Do you have exposure to quality sectors?

Are you avoiding over-concentration?

A well-researched, long-term approach is needed.

If your equity portfolio underperforms, it will impact the 30 crore target.

7. NPS Contribution – Rs. 20K Monthly
NPS is good for disciplined retirement investing.

It gives tax benefits and partial equity exposure.

But it has liquidity restrictions till 60.

NPS equity cap is 75% (tier I) – may not match mutual fund returns.

Don’t depend on NPS alone for growth.

Use it as a stable secondary engine.

8. Inflation Consideration – A Hidden Threat
Over 19 years, inflation can reduce the purchasing power of money.

Your Rs. 30 crore should be inflation-adjusted.

So, real value might be around Rs. 10 crore in today’s money.

That’s still a strong and ambitious target.

9. Risk Management – Vital in This Journey
You are aiming high. So, managing downside risk is critical.

Follow asset allocation and rebalancing.

Add short-term debt or arbitrage funds gradually for stability.

Stay diversified across sectors and market caps.

Use SWP approach after 60 to withdraw smartly.

10. Things You Must Review Annually
Fund performance – replace consistent underperformers.

Asset allocation – rebalance equity vs. debt mix.

Goal progress – are you on track or lagging?

Market trend – adjust SIPs, if needed, during prolonged downtrends.

Tax planning – optimise long-term capital gains and exemptions.

11. Avoid These Common Mistakes
Over-exposure to single stock or single sector.

Stopping SIPs during a market fall.

Investing in direct mutual funds without professional guidance.

Reacting emotionally to market volatility.

Ignoring NPS or mutual fund reviews for many years.

12. Strategies That Will Help You Reach 30 Crores
Stay fully invested in equity-oriented funds for at least 14-15 years.

Use staggered allocation in mutual funds through SIP and STP.

Review your SIP growth annually and increase if surplus exists.

Keep emergency funds separate. Don't touch your investment portfolio.

Avoid ULIPs, endowment plans, or investment-linked insurance.

13. Should You Increase Your SIP Further?
Yes, if you can spare more each year, do step-up SIPs.

Even a 10% annual SIP increase will have massive impact.

Try to reach Rs. 2L/month SIP over next 5 years.

That alone can help you comfortably touch Rs. 30 crore or more.

14. Plan for Retirement Withdrawal Now Itself
Once you hit Rs. 30 crore, have a clear exit plan.

Use a bucket strategy post-retirement:

Short-term for next 2 years

Medium-term for 3–5 years

Long-term growth beyond 5 years

This ensures safe, inflation-beating, and tax-efficient retirement income.

Finally
Your current investments are strong and well-disciplined.

But Rs. 30 crore in 19 years needs growth, not just savings.

Equity mutual funds and stocks must stay efficient and well-reviewed.

A 13–14% average return is needed — possible, but needs active monitoring.

Review your SIPs yearly. Increase them as your income grows.

Get portfolio reviews regularly from a Certified Financial Planner.

Avoid short-term panic. Think long. Think big. Stay consistent.

With this discipline and structure, yes, you can reach your Rs. 30 crore goal.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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