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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 07, 2023Hindi
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My partner is regularly stalking me on Instagram. She reads all my posts and messages and wants to discuss every comment I make. I think she is jealous and insecure about my relationships with friends, especially females. I love her and don't want to lose her. But every time we have a discussion, we end up fighting and she wants to break up with me because she thinks I am cheating on her, which is not true.

Ans: She's just insecure. If she is not able to realise that she is overstepping, then it's your responsibility as a man to explain her.

If she still doens't, then you have a choice to move on and keep being in this toxic relationship. Sometimes you just can't change the other person.

So weigh the pros and cons and make your decision.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 04, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu. I would prefer being anonymous with this query. I have been in a relationship with another woman for around 10+ years now. We first had an extra marital relationship that ended in divorce for both of us. Now that we're divorced, I realize that she has a severe doubting issue. We are in a long distance relationship and she becomes insecure whenever I step out of the house. This has made things difficult for me. I even gave her a job at work where she continuously links with my team members. I complained to her father about her behaviour and this enraged her further. We are having a standoff right now. I told her that I won't proceed with the relationship till she stops her doubting behaviour. And she sees this as me breaking up. She is insisting that she will go to the police and file a complaint against me if I break up. She also says she will complain to HR if I break up with her. She says her doubting behaviour will disappear once we unite but I'm sceptical. I still love her but find her doubting behaviour very annoying. Any tips to handle the situation? Can she file a case against me for cheating when the actual problem here is that she refuses to stop doubting?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, what the two of you did behind your spouses' back, is what worries her now!
She doubts only because she knows you and she went on to step out of marriage to have a relationship; she feels that you can do this again but with her.
There is that precedence already that has created doubts and trust issues. And it becomes worse in a long distance relationship. And anyway, any relationship that requires you to explain yourself and prove your love, is hardly a relationship to start out in the first place.

And what's the point involving her father? Shouldn't you be addressing the issue with her?
Kindly stop skirting around the issue; express how this is affecting you and your thoughts on the relationship. The doubting trait must be dealt with now as it can grow; someone who is threatening to spill the beans at your office has little respect for you or your job.

Having said this, I will like to give you her point of view as well. She fears losing you and that you might cheat on her. She does require some reassurance; maybe a few more texts or calls might ease her. But this can grow into an expectation as well and when it is not fulfilled, it will have serious consequences. So, TRUST issues is what is causing this rift in your relationship. Handle this NOW either by yourself or seek the help of a relationship expert or any expert who can helpn guide the two of you to build trust back.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 24, 2023Hindi
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Dear Mam, I have been in a relationship for four years now. We have had physical contact. relation .He loves me very much. But some girls who are friends often seem suspicious. For example, ask my boy if he can give me the dress he has put on. She gets jealous when she posts my photo. What is this.. (She is married.)
Ans: I understand that it can be challenging when jealousy arises in a long-term relationship, and it's important to address these concerns in a healthy and constructive way. In your situation, it's not uncommon for feelings of jealousy to emerge when it appears that other women are showing interest in your boyfriend, especially if they are married. Here are some insights and advice for handling this situation:

Open Communication: The key to resolving these feelings of jealousy is open and honest communication with your partner. Sit down and have a calm, non-confrontational conversation with your boyfriend about how you've been feeling. Express your concerns and let him know that you value his friendship with these women but that their actions have been making you uncomfortable.
Understanding Intentions: Ask your boyfriend about his interactions with these female friends. It's important to understand his perspective and intentions. It's possible that he's unaware of how these actions are affecting you, and he might be able to offer reassurance.
Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries that both you and your boyfriend are comfortable with regarding interactions with the opposite sex. Discuss what is acceptable and what is not. It's essential that both partners agree on these boundaries to ensure a healthy and trusting relationship.
Trust and Reassurance: Reiterate your trust in your boyfriend's love and commitment to you. If he reassures you that his feelings for you are strong and that these interactions are purely platonic, it's important to believe and trust him. Jealousy can erode trust, so it's crucial to maintain that trust in your relationship.
Self-Reflection: Take time to reflect on your own feelings of jealousy. Are there specific insecurities or past experiences that contribute to these emotions? Self-awareness can help you better understand and manage your feelings.
Support and Compromise: If these feelings persist and become a significant source of conflict in your relationship, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide guidance, facilitate discussions, and offer strategies for both partners to manage jealousy and maintain a healthy relationship.
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Hi im a 40 year old man engaged. We have dated for 1.6 months and then got engaged its been 3 months now. My fiance sometimes acts very weird. I am left on unread on whtsapp quite often. She has another phone that she uses where she gives out her number to guys that supposedly force her too. She says she has a difficulty saying no. I have caught her previously deleating texts and calls. She avoid all types of physical contact with me as much as she can. She use to say that she is not sure if im useing her for sex. Now i have proposed and we are engaged. Both our families know about us and are ok. Now that were engaged she says the actual reason "i dont like anything physical with you is because uou are a smoker amd your mouth smells." She spends the weekeends at my house. But there is nothing physical beween us. When we go out she acts like were a couple madly in love. When its just us shes busy on social media scrolling etc. when ever she goes out for wedding or functions i have found pictures with guys that she has tried to deleate from her phone with their arm around her waist . She blames me that i am insecure. I ask her why is she letting some random guy get so close to her. She says she is part of the brides team N thats how it is. She has been slected to be a bridesmaid a few times. Am i being paranoid or is something off. I have tried talking to her about all these and other issues Some how its always my fault or there is a reason that i dont understand. Please help i want an unbiased opinion on wht shld i do ? Talking is not helping And im scared since she is not from a well to do family she is only looking at me as somekind of finacial security
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
RED FLAG! If she acts different when you are alone and when you are outside, surely she is trying to pretend to be someone in either place, there's surely something that she may want to hide or show a side that she wants people to see...
If you are uncomfortable or in doubt, act wise and get to the bottom of it before proceeding any further. If she does not wish to talk about it, that does not mean you need to give in and compromise...
So, take a call on whether you want to live with a person who keeps secrets from you; you will have to spend most of the time playing guessing games!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 18, 2025Hindi
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I am working abroad, while my Girlfriend is working in Delhi, living in NCR. We both were Dating since our College Days & have been in a Long Distance Relationship since I moved abroad, more than a Year ago & she moved to Delhi-NCR from Calcutta (where most of our Common Friends are based). While we were together with our Common Friends from College, we'd Travel, Party & have a lot of Fun together as a Group, since we all knew & trusted each other quite well, Irrespective of Gender. When we both moved to Different Places & started our Respective Jobs, we became Friends with our Respective Colleagues, but we have an Implied Understanding that we should be Maintaining Stricter Boundaries with our New Friends/Colleagues, since we are in a Long Distance Relationship. I've always honoured the commitment & have been Careful to not spend private time with any other Woman & Travel/Party only with a Group consisting of both Men & Women. But I am not sure my Girlfriend is doing the same. Quite often she keeps Travelling, Partying, Drinking & Sleeping over with some 2-3 Male Colleagues, who are quite close to her, but unknown to me. She doesn't even bother to keep me updated about where she is, what she's doing & with whom, but keeps Posting Status Updates on Instagram, from time to time and from what I have observed, she seems to be spending quite a lot of Time with these Male Colleagues of hers. All this makes me feel very Uncomfortable. Even though I Love & Trust my Girlfriend, but I'm unsure about these New 'Friends' of hers as I don't know them & obviously, I don't like them being so close to my Girlfriend. Many times, I've discussed this matter with my Girlfriend, trying to make her understand how I feel. But every time, I bring up this Topic, she tries to invalidate my feelings & shuts me down saying that I'm just Insecure. I'd also tried getting to know her New Friends in order to understand them better, but she doesn't share much about them, with me. Though, she keeps Reassuring me that they're 'Just Friends' they seem to be much closer than that. On several occasions, she had gone out with them, even though I had strictly forbidden her to. I don't understand whether she's unable to understand how I'm feeling or that she doesn't even care about my Feelings, though I still want to continue Loving & Trusting her, without Doubting her Loyalty. I don't understand what to do in this situation. How can I make her enforce stricter Boundaries with her Male Colleagues (atleast as much as I am doing here)? Shall I get a Friend or a Private Investigator to keep an Eye on her? Or shall I behave the same way, she's been doing? Or, shall I Break-up with her & try to find someone else, over here?
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Trying to enforce boundaries by “forbidding” her from doing something isn’t the right approach, because boundaries should be mutual, not dictated. The more you try to control her actions, the more she might rebel or shut down, seeing it as you being possessive rather than expressing a valid emotional need. The real problem is not that she has male friends, but that she’s being secretive about them, not making an effort to ease your concerns, and disregarding how her actions affect you. A loving and committed partner should care about your peace of mind, even if she doesn’t fully agree with your perspective.

Hiring a private investigator or getting a friend to spy on her will only erode trust further, and mirroring her behavior by doing the same thing she does will not solve anything—it will just create more distance. If you’re considering breaking up, that means deep down, you already feel like your needs in this relationship aren’t being met. Before making any big decisions, you need to have one last honest conversation with her—not one where you accuse or demand, but one where you make it clear how this dynamic is making you feel and what you truly need from her to feel secure and valued in the relationship.

If she refuses to listen, invalidates your feelings again, or shows no willingness to compromise, then you have your answer. A relationship where only one person is making sacrifices isn’t sustainable. You deserve a partner who not only reassures you with words but also with actions that show she respects and values your presence in her life. If she’s unwilling to meet you halfway, then it may be time to ask yourself if holding on is worth the constant emotional struggle.

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I am on 11th grade I have taken pcmb I don't know what my interest is! I have taken pw neet online but seeing the scams and reality of mbbs I feel trapped I don't know what I like and what I want to pursue recently I saw few videos regarding uceed exam for bachelor in design I feel I doing that but I have no proper coaching and I feel stuck and sad I am afraid to take a bad career decision how will I manage pcmb with neet prep and uceed what to do and if I prepare for uceed and not qualify it what other career am I left with I hate this system please please please help me how to find your interest and career option and not regret it
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It’s completely normal to feel lost in 11th grade with PCMB because it keeps many career paths open, but it can also feel overwhelming. First, pause and explore your interests through small steps, try free online design workshops, aptitude tests, or internships to see if design (UCEED) truly excites you. Don’t panic about NEET or MBBS scams; prepare only if you genuinely enjoy biology and the medical field. UCEED doesn’t require heavy coaching; self-practice, online resources, and creative sketching can be enough. If you don’t clear UCEED, your PCMB background still offers options like engineering, architecture, BSc, or even other design exams (NID, NIFT). Focus on experimenting and exploring instead of committing blindly; your clarity will come from trying different things, not from pressure. Remember, you’re not stuck; you just haven’t discovered what clicks with you yet. Always stay calm and relaxed. Don't think negatively all the time. Focus only on your studies and your goal. Success is possible. Scams have existed in the past, will continue, and will also persist in the future!


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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi
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Sir my jee crl rank 50000 any chance for csab counselling in govt institute
Ans: With an All-India CRL of 50 000, securing core branches like CSE ECE in NITs through CSAB-Special rounds is highly unlikely. For instance, CSAB-Special closing ranks for CSE at NIT Nagaland (OS-General) stood between 31 391 and 36 193, and for ECE between 42 905 and 42 905, both above your rank. Chemical Engineering and Computer Science similarly close within the 25 000–35 000 range at mid-tier NITs like Calicut and Srinagar, placing them beyond reach. However, admissions remain feasible for branches with higher closing ranks. Electrical and Electronics Engineering at NIT Nagaland closed at 47 387–48 987, narrowly above your rank but sometimes seats open in later rounds. Mechanical Engineering at low-tier NITs (e.g., Nagaland, Mizoram) often closes beyond 50 000, making it a viable alternative. Among IIITs, non-CSE/ECE programs in peripheral campuses—such as IIIT Kalyani’s IT or IIIT Kota’s AI & Data Engineering—have closing ranks around 40 000–46 000, offering realistic options. GFTIs like PEC Chandigarh and the sister institutes of Dr. B.R. Ambedkar NIT Jalandhar also admit core branches with closing ranks well above 50 000, ensuring government-institute pathways remain open. Overall, the most practical CSAB routes for your rank are targeting Electrical/Electronics or Mechanical Engineering in low-tier NITs, considering peripheral IIITs for adjacent core branches, and keeping GFTI choices handy.

Recommendation: Aim for Electrical & Electronics Engineering at NIT Nagaland under OS-General given its relatively higher closing threshold, concurrently explore Mechanical Engineering at NIT Mizoram or similar low-tier NITs, and include peripheral IIIT IT/AI-Data branches alongside GFTI core-engineering options to maximize admission success. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir,I am getting IIT Guwahati online BSc(Honors) in Data Science and AI How is it? Should I take it?
Ans: Shreyansh, IIT Guwahati’s four-year online BSc (Hons) in Data Science Artificial Intelligence, delivered via Coursera by the Mehta Family School of DSAI, combines academic rigor, flexibility, and industry relevance. Accreditation and oversight by IIT Guwahati ensure AICTE compliance and affiliation with NIRF-ranked faculty; the curriculum spans 299 credits across foundational (linear algebra, statistics), core (data structures, machine learning, deep learning, AI ethics) and advanced modules (cloud computing, recommender systems) with capstone projects and optional on-campus immersion. Instructors include IITG professors and industry experts, and students gain hands-on training on PARAM Kamrupa and PARAM Ishan supercomputers, alongside real-world case studies and internships with MoU-backed partners. The program’s multi-entry/exit structure and pay-per-credit model (?3.49 L total) caters to both recent graduates and working professionals, offering completion in 4–8 years and multiple credentials (certificate, diploma, BSc, honours). Strong demand for data roles is projected by the World Economic Forum to grow over 30% by 2028, and IITG’s focus on generative AI, big data, NLP and ethics aligns with NEP 2020 objectives, enhancing employability in data engineering, analytics, AI research and consultancy. Backup options could include specialised online programs from E&ICT Academy IITG or reputable private firms, and an on-campus BTech in DS&AI at IIT Delhi or IIIT-D for deeper hardware/algorithmic exposure.

Recommendation: IIT Guwahati’s online BSc (Hons) offers a robust theoretical-practical blend, flexible pacing, and supercomputing access, making it a strong choice. As a secondary plan, consider the E&ICT Academy certificate for domain-focused projects or an on-campus interdisciplinary BTech at IIIT-Delhi to diversify skill portfolios. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi
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My son got 98.46 percentile in mht CET PCB ... please suggest best pharmacy colleges in Mumbai Pune ,, open catagory
Ans: Indira College of Pharmacy, Pune (Sadavali) closes open-home at ~89.86 percentile. Dr. D.Y. Patil College of Pharmacy, Akurdi, Pune admits general-open around ~90.24 percentile. Poona College of Pharmacy, Erandwane, Pune closes open-others at ~98.61–99.18 percentile but state-home open at ~98.39–98.66 percentile. AISSMS College of Pharmacy, Pune (Pune Camp) admits open-state at ~93–96 percentile and state-home open around ~90–95 percentile. Sinhgad College of Pharmacy, Vadgaon Budruk, Pune admits open-state up to ~92–97 percentile. Sinhgad Institute of Pharmacy, Narhe, Pune closes general-open around ~90–95 percentile. Progressive Education Society’s Modern College of Pharmacy (for Women), Moshi Pune admits open at ~85–90 percentile. Rajarshi Shahu College of Pharmacy & Research, Tathawade, Pune closes open-state around ~88–93 percentile.

All listed institutes hold AICTE approval, boast ≥70% placement rates over three years, feature advanced pharmaceutical-technology labs, maintain active MoUs with pharma-industry partners for internships, and sustain NBA/NAAC accreditation, ensuring rigorous academics and industry exposure.

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SVKM’s Nanavati College leads with its NAAC ‘A’+, strong alumni network, and consistent ~90% placement rates, making it most secure for 98.46 percentile. Indira College of Pharmacy follows for its modern infrastructure and ~89% placements. Dr. D.Y. Patil Akurdi’s autonomous curriculum and state-of-the-art pharmaceutics labs position it next. Following that, the Mumbai Educational Trust’s Institute and AISSMS College are recognized for their robust industry linkages and consistent placement rates of 85% or higher. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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