My partner is regularly stalking me on Instagram. She reads all my posts and messages and wants to discuss every comment I make. I think she is jealous and insecure about my relationships with friends, especially females. I love her and don't want to lose her. But every time we have a discussion, we end up fighting and she wants to break up with me because she thinks I am cheating on her, which is not true.

Hi Anu. I would prefer being anonymous with this query. I have been in a relationship with another woman for around 10+ years now. We first had an extra marital relationship that ended in divorce for both of us. Now that we're divorced, I realize that she has a severe doubting issue. We are in a long distance relationship and she becomes insecure whenever I step out of the house. This has made things difficult for me. I even gave her a job at work where she continuously links with my team members. I complained to her father about her behaviour and this enraged her further. We are having a standoff right now. I told her that I won't proceed with the relationship till she stops her doubting behaviour. And she sees this as me breaking up. She is insisting that she will go to the police and file a complaint against me if I break up. She also says she will complain to HR if I break up with her. She says her doubting behaviour will disappear once we unite but I'm sceptical. I still love her but find her doubting behaviour very annoying. Any tips to handle the situation? Can she file a case against me for cheating when the actual problem here is that she refuses to stop doubting?

I am working abroad, while my Girlfriend is working in Delhi, living in NCR. We both were Dating since our College Days & have been in a Long Distance Relationship since I moved abroad, more than a Year ago & she moved to Delhi-NCR from Calcutta (where most of our Common Friends are based). While we were together with our Common Friends from College, we'd Travel, Party & have a lot of Fun together as a Group, since we all knew & trusted each other quite well, Irrespective of Gender. When we both moved to Different Places & started our Respective Jobs, we became Friends with our Respective Colleagues, but we have an Implied Understanding that we should be Maintaining Stricter Boundaries with our New Friends/Colleagues, since we are in a Long Distance Relationship. I've always honoured the commitment & have been Careful to not spend private time with any other Woman & Travel/Party only with a Group consisting of both Men & Women. But I am not sure my Girlfriend is doing the same. Quite often she keeps Travelling, Partying, Drinking & Sleeping over with some 2-3 Male Colleagues, who are quite close to her, but unknown to me. She doesn't even bother to keep me updated about where she is, what she's doing & with whom, but keeps Posting Status Updates on Instagram, from time to time and from what I have observed, she seems to be spending quite a lot of Time with these Male Colleagues of hers. All this makes me feel very Uncomfortable. Even though I Love & Trust my Girlfriend, but I'm unsure about these New 'Friends' of hers as I don't know them & obviously, I don't like them being so close to my Girlfriend. Many times, I've discussed this matter with my Girlfriend, trying to make her understand how I feel. But every time, I bring up this Topic, she tries to invalidate my feelings & shuts me down saying that I'm just Insecure. I'd also tried getting to know her New Friends in order to understand them better, but she doesn't share much about them, with me. Though, she keeps Reassuring me that they're 'Just Friends' they seem to be much closer than that. On several occasions, she had gone out with them, even though I had strictly forbidden her to. I don't understand whether she's unable to understand how I'm feeling or that she doesn't even care about my Feelings, though I still want to continue Loving & Trusting her, without Doubting her Loyalty. I don't understand what to do in this situation. How can I make her enforce stricter Boundaries with her Male Colleagues (atleast as much as I am doing here)? Shall I get a Friend or a Private Investigator to keep an Eye on her? Or shall I behave the same way, she's been doing? Or, shall I Break-up with her & try to find someone else, over here?

Hello I am 24, from Noida. My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 years. I have introduced her to all my friends but she refuses to post pictures of us online, saying she values privacy. I have not met any of her friends. She says she doesn't have any. She hasn't added me on Instagram. I find her staying up late online. She doesn't respond to my texts. Once she accidentally called me from a different number and instantly hung up. Since then the number is switched off. I have confronted her but she doesn't want to discuss these things. I feel our relationship is like a secret game to her. If I refuse to buy her stuff she would block me for a few days. Is this normal behaviour. Should I worry?

I've been facing a recurring issue in my marriage that's beginning to affect both my peace of mind and our trust. Whenever I go out with friends especially if we're having drinks my wife constantly calls or messages to check on my whereabouts. Even though I always tell her the truth about where I am, who I'm with, and when I'll be back, she still seems suspicious and uneasy. For instance, just last week I was out with two of my old college friends at a restaurant, and she called me multiple times within two hours, asking if I was really with them and when I planned to return. I could sense from her tone that she didn't fully believe me, even though I wasn't doing anything wrong. This has happened several times before, and every time I try to explain, she either changes the topic or says, "You men always hide something." I understand the importance of transparency in a relationship, and I've always tried to be honest with her. But I'm beginning to feel like I'm being micromanaged or doubted for no reason. It's not just about a night out - it's about trust and space. I'm worried that her insecurity might lead to bigger trust issues down the line. How should I deal?

My GF is upset I don't post her pictures on social media. I am an introvert and I rarely use social media but she feels that I am not happy around her. I don't understand the point of clicking happy pictures. I am happy spending time with her. I am comfortable around my GF but she likes to dress up, go on dates and click pictures which I find very annoying sometimes. I like to keep some things personal and private but she is the opposite. How to convince her that this is who I am? If we click pics, I look uncomfortable and then she complains that she has nothing to post on social media.