Hi Anu. I would prefer being anonymous with this query. I have been in a relationship with another woman for around 10+ years now. We first had an extra marital relationship that ended in divorce for both of us. Now that we're divorced, I realize that she has a severe doubting issue. We are in a long distance relationship and she becomes insecure whenever I step out of the house. This has made things difficult for me. I even gave her a job at work where she continuously links with my team members. I complained to her father about her behaviour and this enraged her further. We are having a standoff right now. I told her that I won't proceed with the relationship till she stops her doubting behaviour. And she sees this as me breaking up. She is insisting that she will go to the police and file a complaint against me if I break up. She also says she will complain to HR if I break up with her. She says her doubting behaviour will disappear once we unite but I'm sceptical. I still love her but find her doubting behaviour very annoying. Any tips to handle the situation? Can she file a case against me for cheating when the actual problem here is that she refuses to stop doubting?

I am 38, married male with two kids. I got in touch with a widow aged 48 years and in a good relationship. She proposed me first and initiated into relationship. Prior to our relationship, she was in a relationship of 27 years and was still in his touch. Her husband expired just five days into our relationship. After that, when i got to know her relationship of 27 years, i tried to brake the relationship but she insisted that she is just good friend to him, and nothing more now. I relied on her version. Lately, from the past six months, she made my life hell by levelling allegations on me that I have relationship with my sister in law. I tried to make her understand that I call her beta as she is around 23 but still doesnt want to understand. I broke her with on 27 june, but she came again in july this year and said sorry. During quarrel period, she made call to my wife, my friends and levelled filthy allegations against me. When she came back, I forgave her and tried to make peace with her. But after that too, she still believes that I am in relationship with my sister in law. I got fed up with her and again broke with her. One thing more that we both invested our money in making one building as builder. She doesnot have permanent source of income and relies on making money as PG counseller. During this, she suffered from financial problems and took care of her monthly expenses, her ration, etc. Kindly help.

Hello Anu, I am 42 year old guy living abroad. I have been married once 8 years ago and recently I met someone via marriage portal in March, she is 38 - divorced as well. We met and both felt very compatible earlier. Our compatibility was very fine. However, recently, I have observed that she doesnt understand the things I am trying to tell. She misinterprets the thing completely, takes everything out of context and blames me for starting the fight. It is clear case of guilt tripping which has happened 5 times now. she loves me but when such things happen, I get disrespected pretty much. I tried to ignore the thing initially but since it started happening too much, I started to reply back bluntly as nothing seemed to work. Now, I discussed this with my parents and they have said categorically that this wont work at all considering the fact that I have already suffered similar situation in my previous marriage. I tend to work out the things , but the women I meet tend to take undue advantage of my good nature and keep disrespecting me. Looking into the future, I feel it will not work out, as the responsibilities will be much more. I dont know how to go about this situation. Will speaking one on one work on her? She does not listen to what I say when she is angry. Even if she listens, can it really work out between us? Please guide me ..

Hi there, i am going through a difficult phase in my life, i dont know where to start but here my story goes. i work in UAE and i had a balanced and peaceful life until last November where i got married (arranged). we first met last year in march through marriage broker and everything matched, family also liked and we got married in November 2023. Before marriage we used to speak for 10-15 mins almost everyday (all casual talks and i thought everything was ok and she was the perfect match for me and my family). so after marriage i travelled back to uae and was supposed to bring her to UAE in Jan 2024. I had one past relationship for 2 years and we had broken up last year February as she was a from north of india and i was from south India and our families were against it and she wanted to go against family and get married but i was not ready as for me family became priority and we broke up. And after this relationship ended then only this match happened and after one month of my marriage my ex reached out to my wife and shared our relationship details and my wife got very upset and went back to her home. I travelled back to india to console her and tell her that it was my past and i am no longer in relation with my ex and our family involved and sorted this issue. My wife came back to us and everything was normal after that. My wife came to UAE in January 2024 and we started our married life here. All seemed good until i noticed a pattern of her taking to a person on phone everyday when i am out for office and also being very cautious with her phone. On confronting this she told its is her friend and i told her what is the point in talking to him daily for which she cried and told that i am controlling and she dont have freedom to talk to her friends. I left it as she was at home alone and bored and she was also looking for job here and may be with time she will change but still the talking continued until one day in May i was uploading her resume for her job and had access to her google photos and was shocked to see her photos with the guy whom she calls friend. There were photos of her with him after our marriage and also photos with him the day before she came to UAE. I confronted this with her and she cried and told that previously she had relation with him and parents did not agree and later she married me and had forgotten him but since she came to know about my past relationship she continued to stay in contact with him. She is not telling the complete story as i saw their photos before our marriage and even before our match happened and I have also seen her google location timelines as well. I told her to stop this if we want to continue our marriage she told ok but she still talks & chats to him through watsapp & botim because she is very secretive of her phone. She takes good care of me and tells she loves me but I am not sure she really loves me or just faking it. Now she is 3 months pregnant. I am thinking she will leave me for her ex giving me the baby after the baby is born as she mentioned this during one of our arguments. This is one side of my story and between all this my mom fell sick and upon consulting, she was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage 3A and I tried to get her the best treatment (chemo) but the cancer has spread widely and because of her age also she cannot take the treatment. Tried ayurvedic and herbal medicines but nothing can be done and doctors have told max she will live is 6 months. She is bedridden now and in pain everyday. I have a decent job in Dubai with decent salary where I have built my own house in my native and managing my home (parents in india & wife is UAE) but currently my finances is also effected very badly as I spent lot of money for our marriage and for my mothers treatment and I have loans and multiple credit cards as well. I am very stressed and all these things are eating me up daily and i don't know what to do and what went wrong and where? Even i cannot focus on my job as well. Please advise how can i go about these situation. i cannot share these to anyone also, Please advise.