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Hi Love Guru,
Please help me.
My husband and I are fighting. We can’t get along because he is a miser.
M

Ans:

Oh, boy!

When you’re living with a miser, and particularly if he holds the purse strings in your household, I don’t see an easy solution.

The only thing I can think of is, make your own money and spend it how you see fit. Because when you’re nowhere on the same wavelength financially, it’s unlikely that either party will change their ways.

People don’t change. Compromises can be made, and maybe you can work through your disagreements by discussing each expense, but it will remain an issue.

I would suggest seeing a marital counsellor, who can maybe explain to him that he’s being irrational about money. Hearing it from someone else may give him some food for thought.

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i got married late in life being a girl which was 30 years old, after i got married my so called husband started harassing me verbally and then in just three months i stayed with him he strangled me 3 times and hit me 2 times, and says sorry everytime and then repeat again according to people this is not even a thing as these things happens between married people, i was a working housewife there as i work from home being a software engineer but still this person and his mom had a lot of issues with me, And just to be in this marriage i did everything to made it work. His efforts which he say he put were he took me to honeymoon(in which he fought with me for day saying why did your brother didn't ask me which car did i will prefer) Basically this man thinks i didn't put much efforts for him in marriage that's arrange like buying things for him and according to his level ( the most irritating word for me he uses for himself, mere level ki watch nhi h, mere level k kpde nhi h, mere level ka hall nhi h). Even after marriage for 2 months he and his mom keeps on saying such things but i tried to ignore them. But how can i do that when at night my husband after my office hours end at 10'o clock starts fighting with me and keep that's up till 12. He don't even care if i eat or not but wants me to feed him with my own hands because according to him being a husband he deserves this kind of love and care from me. And says that you don't know how the world outside is he need to work with people and you just work online so that's not even work( i earn almost same as him). I did every thing washing his undergarments till placing his clothes in almirah. Providing him variety of foods, and make him enjoy a lot of sex which was the only kind of intimacy i had with this person. Even when he fought with me still he forcefully had sex because acc to him its his right and the only way to solve his fights or ruckus he has caused. So after observing his behaviour i am asking him divorce since then but he is not ready to provide me. Legally it will be a very long time, though i have started that too. i am 32 now and case will going to take many years and later even now no one will marry me at this age because i am divorcee & Also 32. What should i do?
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You are doing what you should do for yourself. Move away from this very toxic person and the marriage. Yes, he may contest and this can be a long drawn affair, be prepared for that.
Consult with a good lawyer who will basically be able to contest it very ably from your side and make sure that it ends fair and square.
There is no need to think of yet another marriage right now as I suggest that you give yourself some time to breathe and move out of this one. Feel your freedom, physically, emotionally and financially and heal from this one. There will be a point in time when you might feel the need for a companion...

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Ghousia College of Engineering, Ramanagara

Bheemanna Khandre Institute of Technology, Bhalki

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Srinivas University, Mangalore

Bearys Institute of Technology, Mangalore

HKBK College of Engineering, Bangalore

Global Academy of Technology, Bangalore

Sapthagiri College of Engineering, Bangalore

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Acharya Institute of Technology, Bangalore (non-core branches may have vacancies)

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