Anu Krishna |835 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 25, 2022
Dear JS,
You love her, but does she love you? Has she ever loved you?
Be very truthful about answering this…What’s the point pursuing a relationship when there isn’t any to begin with?
Why do people think that marriage or having children can bring two people closer or set things right in a relationship? They are not FIX-ITS; so let’s stop pretending that all will be fine once you do this, this and that.
Look within; boyfriend still hangs around to tell you to let her go.
Didn’t you think it was necessary to clarify things with her before marrying her?
Anyway, a lot has happened, and I can only empathize with you. You do have the right to meet your child and the only route is the legal one as she is clearly set not to get back with you.
Ask yourself these reality check questions:
Is she going to come back and make the marriage work together?
Is she going to allow me to meet the child without any resistance?
Is she willing to do a lot of inner work with a professional?
If the answers to the above are NO, then step up and do the right thing for your child as well. He does have the right to receive love from his father as well.
Marriage or any relationship requires a lot of love to grow together and shedding of egos.
A strong WHY to be in the relationship. When the foundation itself is weak, how can this work?
Being good-hearted is great, but if has begin to erode your peace, its’ time to re-evaluate and be good to yourself first.
If you want this marriage to work, do establish, connection with her, and please go into therapy together. Make the foundation of marriage so strong that it’s built only on trust. Love, compassion and respect. So, now you know what you can do and how.
All the best and be happy!
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