Dear Love Guru,
I’m 74. I loved a girl 50 years back, two years younger to me. She doesn’t know about my love.
We married different persons in our 20s. Both are now well settled.
Her only daughter in US. She is at Chennai, no financial problems and myself at Mumbai.
She is widow for the past 13 years.
My 46 years marital relationship with my wife is not that good. We always quarrel. We have two highly educated children, a daughter and a son, well settled.
I was chasing my GF’s whereabouts and finally I got her two years back.
I visit her Chennai home every month for a week and I secretly married her also in her house, on day one of our meeting.
I have told about this to my wife also. Since then I’m in hell.
My friend wants me to keep our relationship always in secret, which I don’t want. An open person like me, who rarely speaks lies, doesn’t like this. She’s very particular about the secrecy of our relationship.
What shall I do?

I am 40 year old and married for 14 years but what happened in 2011 was me n my wife was working in a same company and my wife became close to a colleague on the same floor we work. She was very friendly n one day her colleague proposed her via her friend my wife didn't tell me n she felt very excited about it and after she became very friendly with him after few days she was ignoring me and she expressed her feelings too.but soon she realised she is going wrong and i noticed her changed behaviour and soon she started ignoring tht guy but he came n offered her chocolate and my wife informed me saying this guy's intentions I ask her to tie raakhi she tried but he was running away later we logged out she asked me to stop him and I forced him to him to tie raakhi and my wife was tying and he said I love u. I gve a tight slap to tht guy. Soon after he left the job. We were still working and left the office n joined different companies.after 6 months she went to same office for 2 months. And suddenly she left the job.Now after 12 years her TL met with my ex colleague and shared he working in tht office my colleague asked hey in tht same office my friend was working with his wife and her TL said ohh yeah his wife had n affair with other guy and he asked his wife to raakhi. And my ex colleague called me n said the same to me and since then I have so many doubts on my wife and after few days she confessed she had feelings for him and she already knew he likes her and she said it was just a feeling. Now we are having difference between us. Please help what can be done now I'm getting disturbed alot. 12 years this was secret.