My daughter 30 is in a unhealthy relationship. Her lover dont want to marry her. He is an irresponsible guy who traumatizes my daughter. But my daughter is not leaving him also. How can i change her mind. Stages of advice is over.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your move should be to simply support the girl. It is highly possible that she is attracted to you more as a friend after going through a marriage at a young age and bearing a child as well.
She was looking out for a saviour and you happened to be at the scene. Let her breathe first from the shackles of a forced marriage before she jumps into another one with you. the emotional wounds from the first one must be allowed to heal before you pursue any relationship with her.
Kindly expect your side of the family to oppose this situation as they might not be in a position to understand the girl and what she has been through.
So, first...let all the legal matters get done and let her heal well from the past before she starts a new life. I don't know if you are patient enough for this and if she is emotionally mature to understand that you are not spurning her, but it is for her own good. Also, do know that you might expect unhappy family members; so be prepared to handle them as well.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Nibedita,



I'm sorry to hear about the situation you're facing with your daughter. It's understandable to feel helpless and unsure about what to do next.

First and foremost, it's important to remember that your daughter is an adult, and ultimately, it's her decision on what choices she makes. However, as her parents, you can still offer support and guidance to help her make the best decisions for her well-being.

It's concerning to hear that your daughter is in an abusive relationship, and it's crucial to ensure that she understands the gravity of the situation. One option is to speak with a professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide insight on how to approach the topic and offer guidance on how to support her.

Additionally, it may be helpful to reach out to organizations that specialize in supporting victims of domestic abuse. They can provide resources and advice on how to deal with the situation and can even offer assistance in finding a safe place for your daughter and her pets.

It's important to maintain open communication with your daughter and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what. Try to avoid blaming or shaming her for her choices, as this can further isolate her from seeking help. Instead, express your concern and offer to assist her in finding a solution that works for her.

Ultimately, it's essential to prioritize your daughter's safety and well-being, even if it means taking difficult steps such as seeking legal action or involving authorities.