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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 02, 2024Hindi
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Am a married man Married for the past 18 years Unhappy doesn't define the marital times , Miserable does Blessed with 2 kids though Wifes nature has gone from bad to worse , She fights , argues all the time for reasons best known to her .. In the meantime I have a huge crush on on my clients She's about my age Drop dead gorgeous But till now the communication has only been professional. Am into the business of financial planning and portfolio management by the way. Till now we only discuss professional and financial matters She's very thankful for the advise that I have been able to provide her till date as it has helped her grow her portfolio for the long term. I am absolutely smitten by her , Soft spoken Eloquent manners Well dressed Quite the opposite of the woman I have at home I would love to ask her out for a coffee, but can't muster the courage I know it's morally and ethically incorrect . But more than , fear rejection and not seeing her again . Caught between the rock and the hard place . Please advise

Ans: Being in a difficult relationship can naturally lead you to notice and appreciate people who seem to embody calm, understanding, and connection. The admiration you feel for your client represents qualities you genuinely desire, and it's entirely human to be affected by that, especially when things at home are tense.

However, acting on these feelings, especially in the context of a professional relationship, could bring complications. Initiating something with your client could impact your work, reputation, and family, and, as you said, it may cause her to withdraw if she feels uncomfortable. A client relationship, especially one built on trust and long-term financial guidance, relies heavily on professionalism and clear boundaries.

Perhaps the first step here is to reflect on what you’re looking for in your marriage and whether there’s a path to feeling more fulfilled. Though things may feel beyond repair, sometimes a shift in communication or counseling can open doors to changes you might not have anticipated. Or, if you feel the marriage cannot meet your needs anymore, considering a healthy and respectful transition could eventually open the way for relationships that allow you to feel emotionally free and fulfilled without the complexity of overlapping commitments.

In the meantime, try focusing on nurturing your own growth outside of the current situation. Sometimes, interests, hobbies, or friendships unrelated to work or home life help bring clarity and a new perspective, enabling you to decide on the best path forward for yourself and your family.

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Ravi

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 30, 2024Hindi
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To start with I am in my early sixties . We have a large WhatsApp group of undergraduate college batchmates where sometimes news about batchmates / their families get posted . A married lady batchmate, located in one of the metro cities reached out to me over phone to offer her condolences / sympathies for loss of a family member that I had suffered . While I didn't personally know the lady , found the gesture empathetic & touching . So when the next physical batch meet took place I sought her out to thank her and we chatted for some time too ! Subsequently , we started being in touch , she mentioned that she found my gesture ( asking her to sit besides me to chat up very affectionate ) both through chat and calls and started sharing about each other , even personal matters . And now it seems that the relationship is moving in to a clear zone of intimacy ! And we talk pretty affectionately and frequently these days and it seems we make a good chatting pair . She is pretty attached to her grown up children and probably with a non intimate, dysfunctional, unsatisfactory marriage dragging on . She says her relationship in her marriage has totally failed right from beginning but she has not been able to do anything about that so far . It seems that the children are with the mother ! I find her balanced, affectionate and would like understand if something akin to a long term relationship /companionship would be possible . So have asked her to share about me, about our mutual feelings to her kids . Have also sounded her that if her husband gets to know about this relationship - it might lead to a family issue including formal break up of her marriage. And I am truly concerned about that . But she is very wishy wishy in her ideas about possible course of action , way forward .And I don't want her to get hurt or disappointed nor I want to be placed in a emotional drag. My questions are 1. Can this relationship go anywhere ? And if yes , what is the minimum expected from her ? 2. Can we be just be chatting friends ? Doesn't seem so as we talk & share as if we are a couple ? 3. What should we both do to avoid any possible emotional trauma to each of us ? (A still active and adorable senior citizen without strings and without a care in the world )
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am glad you found a genuine companion. I understand that you both care a great deal about each other and that is rare in today's day and age. Now coming to your questions-

1) It most definitely can. But that depends on the course of action your partner is willing to take. I assume that neither one of you would like to formally tag it as a relationship till she is married to another man, no matter how the marriage is. So, in that case, your partner must have a clear discussion about the same with her husband and you can proceed from there. But going ahead and having a romantic relationship while she is married to someone else would not be ethical and even when she has every right to seek happiness in her life, it would be her who faces all the societal judgment.

2) You can be two friends chatting with each other. Friends do share a lot, even personal matters. Having said that, it did not sound to me that you are in that platonic friend zone anymore. You have grown to like each other a little more and given the circumstances, it is perfectly alright. But to be more than friends, it is important for your partner to first speak to her current husband and consider separating. But at the end of the day, it is her decision. If she doesn't want to formally end it, you would have two options. One, love each other in secret and never have the chance to show off your love to the world. Two, break it off and either try to remain friends or sever ties altogether.

3) Don't have unrealistic expectations. We are all guilty of it time and again. In this case, even though her marriage isn't perfect- you know and she knows it too- it isn't easy to let go of a relationship people spend years to build. Take things slow and let her make her own decisions. If you expect she will leave her marriage for you, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. It might happen, but then again, it might not. Focus on being each other's companion. You can't help how you feel, but that does not mean you have to act on it right now.

One more thing- if you can see yourself getting hurt, I would suggest reconsidering the relationship. Every relationship has in its capacity to cause emotional trauma. That's the thing about romance- it can make or break you.

Best Wishes.

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Anu

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 01, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2024Hindi
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I'm around 54 years married to a widow who had two kids around 14 years back. Her behaviour towards me most of the time is very rude. she doesnt keep anhy relation with my family members and always has a grudge on them without any reason, due to which i have no physical relation with her, just Im staying in the house. Now I have met a female who is married with two kids and working as a cleaning staff, her husband is useless and not working for the last four years and she is running her house with her salary. I have been meeting her for the last eight months and would like to continue the relation, even she is very much interested, but due to family constraints she is not able to come out of the married relation she has. I take care of her and her kids day to day needs. So how do I go ahead with is relation ? Im a bit confused
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You are trying to search for a wife and a family in the other lady and her children; something that you are unable to find in your own home.
How much longer do you want to live two parallel lives? Decide whether you want to continue with your marriage and work at making it work...OR find solace with another lady and her family. 8 years is a long time BUT any relationship that comes out of a need ceases to exist when the need is over or gone. What will happen when this cleaning staff lady stops wanting your money or attention? Will you then jump into another relationship?
How you go ahead in this relationship is something only you will know. Someone is bound to get hurt...Also, you seem to definitely care about family. How will they react to all of this?
Consider a few important things before you jump to any conclusions...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Career And Placement Consultant - Answered on Nov 21, 2024

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I am looking for a job, I had uploaded my resume in job site. A consultant called me & introduced himself telling he know some of the openings. He had a detailed discussion about my job & my skills. He told need to register to his consultancy for scheduling interview. I registered with him & he got me a interview. Interview was done by the company through skype. I could not see the company persons. They told only they can see me. Interview went on well & regarding salary I told my expectation but they told it is not possible & they told their proposal. Finally I agreed to them. They gave me code & told to visit the company for next round. Consultant called me after first round & told recruiter is very happy with the interview. Regarding salary he told why I agreed for the proposal,he will discuss again & asked to pay charges for some of his services which he will refund the day I visit to the company & take the orders. I paid him. He told there is a increase in salary he has discussed with recruiter & again asked for the money I did only partial payment & further will not pay anything. Second round also happened through skype instead of in person. Interview went on well & salary offered was good comparing to before & there was a big jump. Recruiter told they have planned to give additional responsibilities so they have increased. Finally they gave me a date to visit company. I asked when will I get the order, he replied he will send to consultant as I was taken by them. Till now i did not get the orders, consultant is keep on postponing. Now he told visit to company date is also postponed, he will update in next week & not to worry as job is confirmed. Now not understanding what to do, am I been cheated or wait.
Ans: Dear Mr. Keshava ,

There are many unscruplous job agents who are fake and claim themselves to be a Placement consultant. In short You have been cheated . Before paying any fee for registration , you must ensure that the agency is genuine . If not don't even upload your resume . You may write to company , lodge a complaint against the agency. If the amount is very high , pl. take the help of police . .

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2024

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I hv started sip in 2008 and still continued , now the monthly sip is 55k and total value is 1.85cr. Need to accumulate 7cr with in next 4 yrs pls guide how can i achieve. - Deepak J. Hajari
Ans: Deepak, your long-term SIP discipline is impressive. Accumulating Rs. 7 crore in 4 years is ambitious. Achieving this goal requires a strategic approach, as time is limited. Let's create an actionable plan for your success.

Current Financial Snapshot
Ongoing SIPs: Rs. 55,000 monthly.
Current Portfolio Value: Rs. 1.85 crore.
Target Corpus: Rs. 7 crore within 4 years.
Your consistent investing habits have built a solid foundation. However, to achieve your target, adjustments are needed.

Key Challenges
Short Time Frame: Four years is a limited period for aggressive wealth accumulation.
Significant Gap: A gap of Rs. 5.15 crore remains to meet the Rs. 7 crore goal.
Market Volatility: Equity investments might face short-term volatility.
Recommendations to Bridge the Gap
1. Increase Your SIP Contributions
Raise your SIP amount to Rs. 1.25 lakh per month.
This increase ensures faster wealth creation through compounding.
Prioritise high-growth funds in equity-oriented categories.
2. Invest Lump Sum Amounts
Consider deploying a lump sum if you have idle savings or low-yield investments.
Invest in aggressive equity mutual funds for higher potential returns.
Break down the lump sum into tranches for better market timing.
3. Diversify into High-Growth Mutual Funds
Focus on small-cap and mid-cap mutual funds for higher growth potential.
Maintain a balance with some large-cap exposure for stability.
Ensure the portfolio aligns with your high-return requirements.
4. Avoid Overexposure to Debt or Low-Yield Instruments
Limit debt investments during this aggressive growth phase.
Avoid instruments like FDs or debt mutual funds with lower returns.
Rely on equity for the next four years to maximise growth.
5. Rebalance Your Portfolio Regularly
Conduct a portfolio review every 6 months.
Reallocate funds based on underperforming or outperforming sectors.
Keep your portfolio aligned with market trends and your goals.
6. Capitalize on Bonus or Windfall Gains
Direct any bonuses, salary hikes, or windfall gains towards your target.
Avoid unnecessary expenses during this focused phase.
Tax Efficiency Matters
Equity Mutual Funds Taxation: Gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Debt Mutual Funds Taxation: Taxed as per your income slab.
Plan redemptions strategically to minimise tax liabilities.
Leverage Market Opportunities
Benefit from Market Corrections: Use corrections as opportunities to invest lump sums.
Stay Invested for Compounding: Avoid early redemptions to let compounding work fully.
Role of Regular Monitoring
Track Performance: Ensure funds are performing as per expectations.
Switch Funds if Needed: Shift from underperforming funds to high-growth options.
Final Insights
Deepak, achieving Rs. 7 crore in 4 years requires aggressive yet calculated strategies. Increase your SIPs, deploy lump sums, and focus on high-growth funds. Regular monitoring and disciplined investing are key to your success. Stay patient and consistent.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi
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I am 50 yrs old. If I invest 60k per month for 10 yrs in SIPs of MF then will I be able to achieve the corpus of Rs. 2.50 Crs and if not how much shall I invest per month and in which SIP schemes
Ans: You have a clear goal to invest Rs. 60,000 per month for 10 years. The goal is to accumulate Rs. 2.5 crore through mutual fund SIPs. Let us analyse your query in detail and provide actionable insights.

Evaluating the Feasibility of Your Investment Plan
10-Year Time Frame:
Ten years is a medium-term horizon. Equity-based mutual funds offer good growth potential for this period.

Monthly SIP Contribution:
A SIP of Rs. 60,000 is significant. It shows your commitment to wealth creation.

Target Corpus Analysis:
The target of Rs. 2.5 crore depends on consistent returns. Market performance influences results.

Expected Returns:
Equity funds can give 10%-12% annualised returns in the long run. However, returns are not guaranteed.

Is Rs. 60,000 Sufficient?
Your current contribution may not be sufficient to reach Rs. 2.5 crore in 10 years.

For 10%-12% Returns:
You might accumulate Rs. 1.9–2.1 crore. There could be a shortfall of Rs. 40–60 lakh.

Solution:
Increase your SIP amount to Rs. 75,000–80,000 monthly for a better chance of achieving the goal.

Optimising Your SIP Contributions
Step-Up SIPs:
Increase your SIP amount by 5%-10% every year. This adjusts for inflation and higher earnings.

Lump Sum Boost:
If you have surplus funds, invest a lump sum. This accelerates your goal.

Diversify Investments:
Allocate across equity and hybrid funds for balanced growth and risk management.

Selecting the Right SIP Investments
Actively managed funds are suitable for your goals. Avoid index funds due to their limitations.

Equity Funds for Growth:
These funds have high growth potential over 10 years.

Diversified Portfolio:
Choose funds across large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap categories. This spreads risk effectively.

Hybrid Funds:
Hybrid funds provide stability by balancing equity and debt investments.

Avoiding Direct Funds
Investing through direct funds might seem cost-effective but has drawbacks.

Limited Guidance:
Direct funds lack professional advice. This could lead to suboptimal fund choices.

Benefits of Regular Plans:
A Certified Financial Planner ensures proper fund selection and portfolio review.

Managing Tax Implications
Understanding taxation helps optimise your returns.

Long-Term Gains:
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. Plan redemptions strategically.

Short-Term Gains:
STCG on equity is taxed at 20%. Avoid frequent withdrawals to minimise this tax.

Hybrid Funds Taxation:
Gains from hybrid funds are taxed as per your income slab.

Steps to Achieve Rs. 2.5 Crore
Increase SIP Amount:
Raise your SIP to Rs. 75,000–80,000 monthly.

Review Annually:
Monitor portfolio performance and adjust investments.

Use a Balanced Strategy:
Combine equity funds with hybrid funds to optimise risk and return.

Seek Professional Help:
Work with a Certified Financial Planner to refine your plan.

Final Insights
Your goal of Rs. 2.5 crore in 10 years is achievable with adjustments. Increase your SIP amount and maintain discipline. Diversify investments and periodically review the portfolio. A Certified Financial Planner can guide you for maximum efficiency and clarity.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 19, 2024Hindi
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Im a 34 year old, my father is planning on selling a property from which he would provide me with a gift of 1 Crore. At the moment , since my business has not launched, I would like to be earning interest from the Corpus amount and would also like to have a withdrawal of around 40-50K per month. Im very new to investing, and all i know is , getting half baked answers just isnt worth it. So im asking the experts, what is a realistic return that I could hope for? Provided its invested into mutual funds and debt funds. I would like to protect the corpus and make it grow while also trying to a withdrawal of 50-k per month.
Ans: Firstly, it's fantastic that you're approaching your investment decisions with a clear goal in mind. Receiving a gift of Rs 1 Crore from your father is a significant opportunity. Your desire to earn regular income while protecting and growing the principal corpus is a smart approach, especially given the current stage of your business. Let’s explore a realistic strategy for achieving your goal of monthly withdrawals while ensuring long-term growth.

Key Objectives
Preserve the Corpus: Ensuring the Rs 1 Crore grows steadily and does not erode.
Generate Monthly Income: Aiming for Rs 40,000–50,000 monthly withdrawals to meet your cash flow needs.
Balanced Risk: A mix of investments in mutual funds and debt funds to balance growth with security.
Types of Funds to Consider
To achieve your objectives, the portfolio needs to include a mix of debt and equity mutual funds. Here’s an overview of each option:

1. Debt Funds (Low-Risk)
Debt funds are ideal for stability. They typically offer steady returns with lower volatility. These funds invest in bonds, government securities, and corporate debt.

Stability: They offer relatively stable returns with low risk to the principal.
Monthly Income: Debt funds with monthly income plans (MIPs) can provide regular payouts.
Expected Returns: Historically, debt funds return 7-9% annually, depending on the type and tenure of the bonds they invest in.
2. Equity Mutual Funds (Moderate to High-Risk)
Equity funds invest in stocks and can offer higher returns, but with more volatility. Over the long term, they have the potential to outperform debt funds, though there can be short-term fluctuations.

Growth Potential: Equity funds are essential for capital appreciation.
Risk Profile: Equity mutual funds carry more risk but can provide higher long-term returns.
Expected Returns: Historically, equity funds can offer 10-15% returns per annum, depending on market conditions and fund management.
Expected Return and Withdrawal Strategy
Given your goal of withdrawing Rs 40,000–50,000 monthly (Rs 4.8–6 lakh annually), let’s assess a realistic return scenario:

1. Required Returns for Monthly Withdrawal
To generate Rs 4.8–6 lakh annually, you need to have a combination of income and growth.
Assumption: You need a mix of debt and equity funds. If you target an average return of 8-9% per annum from debt and equity, your portfolio should generate enough income.
2. Risk-Return Balance
Debt Funds: These funds will give stability and a guaranteed income, but at a lower return rate.
Equity Funds: These can help grow your corpus and offer a better chance of increasing the monthly withdrawal amount over time.
3. Potential Returns Based on Allocation
50% Debt Funds: Target return of 7-8% annually.
50% Equity Funds: Target return of 12-14% annually.
This balanced approach provides income and growth, helping you meet your withdrawal goal while maintaining long-term growth.

Portfolio Structure Suggestions
1. Debt Fund Allocation (50%)
Why Debt?: Debt funds offer lower risk and more predictable returns, making them suitable for generating a steady income.
Types of Debt Funds to Consider:
Corporate Bond Funds: These offer better returns than government bond funds, but at slightly higher risk.
Short-Term Debt Funds: These funds invest in short-term instruments and are less sensitive to interest rate changes.
Monthly Income Plans (MIPs): These funds are specifically designed to provide monthly payouts, offering an income stream.
2. Equity Fund Allocation (50%)
Why Equity?: Equity funds will provide higher returns and help your corpus grow over time. They are necessary for long-term wealth creation.
Types of Equity Funds to Consider:
Large-Cap Funds: These invest in well-established companies with a stable growth record.
Flexi-Cap Funds: These funds invest across all market caps, allowing flexibility to choose the best opportunities.
Hybrid Funds: A mix of debt and equity, hybrid funds are suitable for balancing risk and return.
Tax Considerations for Your Portfolio
Mutual fund investments are subject to taxes on the capital gains.

Equity Funds:
Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG): If held for more than 1 year, LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Short-Term Capital Gains (STCG): If sold within 1 year, STCG is taxed at 15%.
Debt Funds:
LTCG: If held for more than 3 years, debt fund gains are taxed at 20% with indexation benefits.
STCG: If sold within 3 years, gains are taxed according to your income tax slab.
You should plan your withdrawals in a way that balances both income generation and tax efficiency.

Risk Management and Capital Preservation
Your focus on preserving the corpus is essential. While debt funds provide safety, equity funds add the potential for capital appreciation. To protect your capital:

Diversify Across Different Asset Classes: Ensure a mix of debt, equity, and hybrid funds.
Review Portfolio Regularly: Market conditions change, and it’s important to keep your portfolio aligned with your risk tolerance and financial goals.
Avoid Overconcentration: Don’t put all your funds into one type of asset. Spread your investments across sectors and instruments.
Steps to Implement Your Strategy
1. Choose Mutual Funds Through an MFD with CFP Credentials
Why?: Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) ensures your investments are aligned with your long-term goals and risk profile.
Avoid Direct Funds: While direct funds have lower expense ratios, you miss out on valuable advisory support. An MFD offers curated fund selection, tax advice, and regular portfolio reviews.
2. Start with a 50-50 Debt-Equity Split
Debt: Focus on short-term and MIPs for income generation.
Equity: Invest in large-cap or flexi-cap funds for long-term growth.
3. Monitor and Rebalance
Rebalance your portfolio annually based on market performance and changing needs.
Adjust debt and equity allocations depending on your withdrawal requirements and market conditions.
Final Insights
With Rs 1 Crore, you can generate enough income for your monthly withdrawals while allowing your money to grow. A balanced approach of 50% debt funds and 50% equity funds is a realistic strategy to achieve this. Your investment portfolio will ensure that you have both stability and growth, helping you meet your cash flow needs while protecting and growing your corpus.

It's crucial to engage with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor the investment strategy to your exact needs. Their expertise will help you make better decisions for both tax efficiency and long-term wealth creation.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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