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Question by Kapil on Apr 28, 2023Hindi

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we are married since 7 years, but we are fighting on very little issues. she dont hv any respect for me, i am simple and good but it seems she wanted some very smart and rich guy as compare to me, what should i do.

Ans: It's concerning to hear that you and your wife are fighting frequently and that she does not have respect for you. It's important to address these issues before they escalate and cause further damage to your relationship.

One option is to consider couples therapy or marriage counseling. A trained therapist can help you both identify the root causes of your conflicts, improve communication, and develop strategies for resolving issues in a constructive and respectful way.

It's also important to have open and honest conversations with your wife about how you're feeling and what you would like to see change in your relationship. Try to approach these conversations in a non-confrontational way, using "I" statements instead of blaming or attacking language. For example, instead of saying "You never respect me," try saying "I feel disrespected when you speak to me that way."

If your wife is not receptive to therapy or open communication, it may be necessary to reassess the future of your relationship. Remember, it's important to be in a relationship where both partners feel valued, respected, and loved.

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Question by A - Nov 23, 2022Hindi

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Hi MamI am a 36 year old male married for 6 years and no kids as of now. Every time my wife quarrels and compares me with other guys, this is making me mad and feel to run away or to end it. I do almost everything to make her happy. Kindly tell me what to do.

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Dear A,

Some people love comparing just to hurt the person.

Now why she wants to hurt you, is something that I don’t have information on. (Your mail is very brief with not much information shared).

If you do almost everything to make her happy as you have mentioned, why would she compare you with other guys?

Obviously, there is something that she feels a lack of. So instead of going mad or running away from it, can you in fact love her and care more for her?

At times, women just need a lot of care and attention, and they respond beautifully to their man.

Maybe she misses that attention from you. If you feel that’s not the case, sit down and talk frankly.

Most of the times, clear and frank communication solves most marital issues. (These are general suggestions as I don’t have much information from you to work on.)

So, communicate more, love more and care for her more.

All the best!

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