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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 18, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - May 17, 2024Hindi
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My wife doesn't respect me at all. She scolds me for no reason. She is always silent without any smile on her face. What should I do. It is impacting my personal life and mental balance

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Possible that the two of you have forgotten the joys of what can and togetherness can bring in?
Maybe you can try and recreate the moments of happiness and lighter moments and live them all over again. It takes one small reason to smile and be happy all over again BUT there must be an effort in that direction.

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