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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 14, 2025

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Question by Sangeeta on Feb 13, 2025Hindi

Hi I was married for 4 yrs but broke up after an year.Now he has married someone else but m still single...Every now n then I remember him...I just want to erase all the memories of him but all in vain...please guide me in a right way so that I can move forward happily...

Ans: Dear Sangeeta,
Heartbreaks are never easy BUT with a few tweaks, things start to get better over time.
A few tips:
1. Put away things in the house that remind you of him and the marriage
2. Set goals that constantly push you to do more and out of your comfort zone
3. Set up a system where you can reach out to a friend the day you feel yourself slipping back
4. Hit the gym or go for a run as this helps you focus on yourself
5. Bring back a hobby that you have kept away for a long time
6. Most importantly, remind yourself that you are your most important person

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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The challenge of What IS v/s What could have been!

Our minds over time have been trained to ‘CHASE’ what we don’t have/possess and dream of what it could have been if we had it in the first place.

Indulging in this can lead you to creating an alternate rosy reality that you start to live and feel is true.

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You are married with a 3-year-old child; happy.

Social media intervenes, throws you off balance as you reminisce and feel each emotion come alive; and well, the girl is married as well!

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Erasing memories doesn’t happen, you can only dull them over time as the feeling diminishes. And you do seem to be willing to move on…

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