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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 14, 2025Hindi
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Good evening.i am married for for 16 years.we don't have kids.recently I came to know of my husband's relationship with his asst.i confronted.they denied.i don't have evidence.i asked him to fire his asst.he refused and wants to continue her gf or any amount of time.says she's good at work he is dependent on her in his clinic.what do I do.i cannot continue with him with this suspicion.please advice

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Obviously, this is not something that you want to put up with.
2 ways of approaching this:
1. Wait it out; don't say a word about it to him... Very difficult, but as the fling attraction stops, the affair will stop as well. (Maybe he doesn't deserve this BUT it's up to you)
2. Give him an ultimatum; which means you take a bold step of stepping out in case he does not change. (Again this is up to you as it's not easy taking this decision)

See which of the two is something that can work for you. You could also try and involve someone trustworthy who can talk to him out of it. Do this only as long as you trust the person.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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