Husband's Affair With Assistant: How to Cope?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure that must have been shocking. When you got to know about the relationship of your husband with his assistant, did you confront your husband with it?
If Yes, what did he have to say? Did you ask him if he is interested in working on the marriage? Do you want to also be in the marriage?
If No, why haven't you confronted him on it as yet?

Confrontations can in a dead-end situation be an indication to what action to take next. If he is cool and unbothered, then you know he doesn't care how this affects you.
if he yells and threatens you, you know that he wants you to stay out of his business.
If he apologizes, the you need to assess how genuine it is and then think if you wish to continue as well.

Since, I don't have information on whether this subtle confrontation happened or not, my suggestions are a little general, but do pick off of them and work on it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Yukti,

If you are having some doubt, chances are there have been signs that made you think so. The best case scenario is to ask him again and if his explanations don't align, please reconsider this relationship. You are not obligated to stay with a man who is making you paranoid.

I am sorry I cannot be of much help because I am not clear on the dynamics of your relationship. Are you separated, are you divorced, do your partners know about your relationships, everything matters.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's sad that instead of reassuring you, your husband asks you for proof. But, you have not shared how you 'came to know that he has a link' with his assistant. This is vital information as it will not just gather proof but will also tell you how your husband views the marriage and whether he has any interest in continuing.
Now, whether you must continue or not, is a decision you must make based on all the evidences that you gather and also finding out from your husband if this marriage is important to him as well. Then things will give you clarity into making a decision. So, how did you come to know and what actually made you suspect him?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Likitha,
Please download the whatsapp chats and try and get the recording of the phone calls. When your husband denies and says she is just a friend, these things that you collect will be the only proof to actually prove what you are saying. I know this is hard to do but what other way do you have? He does not want to admit what he is doing...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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