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My son is in PU I - Commerce and wants to pursue CA. How do I help him overcome teenage distractions and focus on studies?

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Balaji Question by Balaji on Jul 15, 2024Hindi
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Maam, Need your advice for my son's Carrer. Currently he is pursuing PU I - Commerce. In fact, he has only selected the course and pursue CA, even though he was having better % in 10th Board exam. Few challenges - Teenage related problem and more time on Gadget. - Time management. - As a parent we are very much worried about his future and tried our level best to explain, But somehow things are not moving in proper direction Kindly advise if there is a way, we can put him back to the track and focus on the studies for his betterment

Ans: Dear Balaji,
The distractions in this Digital Age are many and in a way, I do believe that if you want to see your child change, it begins at home.
Time Management is one of the most essential factors while studying for competitive exams and electronic gadgets can throw that off gear. Put down a gadget-free time at home where every member adheres to it. When your son sees everyone at home doing this, it becomes less of a resistance for him to turn in his gadget.
As for better focus, it's time he takes responsibility else you will be constantly hand-holding him. He needs to understand that not paying attention to studies in only going to result in poor grades. Let him realize that on his own.
A few ways to improve focus:
- sports or any physical activity for at 40 mins every day
- drawing/painting/any creative activity that he enjoys for at least 15 mins every day
- mind exercises to improve focus find videos on the internet on this)
- no nagging from family members as they only result in rebelling from the other side
- being supportive as parents BUT shifting responsibility to him

You can only try if these work. Usually parents throw their hands up in the air and say: I have done all this, nothing works!
Well, your children and when something does not work, try something else to make things work, right? I am this will work...

All the best!
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