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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2023Hindi
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I'm 44 year old male and my ex-wife and I had a nasty divorce. I used to love her a lot but the final separation was very ugly. Due to interference from my mother and constant instigation from her mother she was really irritated about the marriage in the last phase. She even refused to acknowledge me when I tried to persuade her in front of her office and got me harassed by shouting at me. Filed an FIR against me on wrong charges. Eventually I had to agree to divorce. But I could never forget or forgive her. I know for sure that she used to love me. I wonder whether she has felt any remorse. I still seek an apology from her. I find my devotion and love for her completely meaningless. Do I have a point?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When you say she filed an FIR on false charges, what does that mean? I do find a lot of gaps in what you have shared and hence you might find my response biased but it is based solely on what you have shared.

Reading your post/question, I will ask you:
- Your mother's interference led your marriage to break and you did nothing to save it?
- You go and embarrass her at her workplace and expect an apology from your wife?

Ask yourself:
Do I love her or Do I want to get even with her?
Both have different responses. Your devotion is meaningless as you are yet to understand what you feel for her; hatred or love?
AND
When the divorce is already done, why are you still seeking clarity? It's done and dusted, isn't it? Settling scores will not let you move on. Hence, for your peace of mind, LET THIS GO...it will help put your mind in a better space and help you focus on what's at hand and requires your attention. Focus on yourself now...

All the best!

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Hello, I had a very disturbed childhood. My marriage was also in troubled waters with fights happening twice in a week.Then I came across a girl who was 17 years younger than me. I am a model from a reputed college and was earning much better.That girl became die-hard fan. Once I scolded her in the middle of the road for her advanced steps toward me like touching etc.I was very much attached to my kids. Then she became friendly with my 2-3 year old kids.After 2 years of relationship we became physical. I used to send her Rs 3,000-4000/ month for her expenses in her engineering college.She used to hug me, love me (acted like she did). When my father expired, I was low. She was there during all those dark times.Then she got a job and broke up with me. She came back to me after a year. Instead of kicking her out, I got addicted to her and changed myself to keep her happy.I even went to her native town to assist her during super cyclone risking my own life. I spent 3 days there as a refugee because cyclone had devastated the entire city. There was no food and water. She got me food 2 times a day from her home. After 3 days train services resumed.I spent my best time with her and felt like a 17 year old boy in her company and I lived my life.Seven years later she told me that she will not marry me. In between she insisted to get divorce.I applied for a mutual divorce in family court.Then I told her to break up. She refused saying she did not want to face that pain again.She said if she found someone she will say upfront to me.I agreed and wasted another 3 years with her. I was her CA/bodyguard/driver.One day she told me she finalized someone and I went for sudden breakup.We exchanged few e-mails till my ego got hurt.It’s been 3 years now I have not replied to her mail.She kept sending mails till March last year.During this phase I had pain during breathing, high BP and no sleep for 4-5 days.I consulted doctor and took medication for almost for 6 months.I suffered from broken heart syndrome.I am 45 years old now and have no interest in my life.I am just doing my duty.My ego does not permit to see her FB/TWITTER. It’s been two years since I saw her on social media.It appears like everything is fine but I feel hollow from within.I don’t want her back or her smile. Whenever someone talks about love, I smile from within on his stupidity and try to figure out what benefit the girl is getting from him.My issue is hollowness and hopelessness.
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Dear SB,

Whatever you did in the past with the girl, simply gave you a sense of validation at that point in time. Isn’t it clear that she has moved on?

Simply be thankful to her for the way she stepped in when you were in need. What didn’t happen was not meant to happen!

No point being angry with her for moving on in her life. Try and be happy for her and focus on yourself now.

What do you love doing?

Who are your friends that you love spending time with?

When was the last time you took care of your physical health?

Do you know that spending time in Nature heals your broken heart as well?

All these questions, are for you to have a reality check on how much you have focused on the outside and no focus on yourself.

Answer these questions and start to look after yourself with a lot of self-love and care. You will heal and move ahead very meaningfully.

Be well and all the best!

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Dear AnuWe got married in December 2015. It was love marriage arranged by our parents.From the first day of marriage my spouse started irritating me. But I love her from the bottom of my heart.She always disrespects my parents but they also didn't say a single word because they don’t want any dispute in our relationship.In July 2017, she forced us to shift to a new home. She’s always fighting with everyone in office, in train and in our society also.I told her to work on her anger otherwise some day we will lose our relationship.From 2017 to Nov 2021 I tried very hard to save my relationship with her but she never understood my love.At the end of 2021 I left my home. There are many complaints register by her in the police station, she harassed me and my family members.Now the divorce case is going on (don't know how many more days it will be)But what is my fault?I loved her truly.Why did she do this to me?How should I manage my life? I can't concentrate anywhere.Every day I am in tears.I want to keep this confidential.Thank you very much in advance.RegardsLR
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Dear LR,

What happened is beyond my comprehension.

Any relationship crumbles due to the weight of ego and misunderstandings.

Only the two of you will know what, why and how this happened. No point going behind this as all you will end up with is more resentment and sadness which isn’t going to help you anyway.

Divorce cases can go on for years if not settled mutually and amicably. So, it is quite possible that this might drag on.

What you need is resilience to put up a strong fight against all the cases registered against you and your family members.

Hire a good lawyer who understands the case not just as an ordinary one as cases against the husband and his family can be quite serious in a divorce situation.

In the meantime, you need to clear your mind to be less anxious and more productive.

I believe in changing the present for a better future rather than digging the past and robbing oneself of their peace of mind.

So,

  • Get deep into work and give it your all
  • Join a gym or anything that is a workout for the body
  • Indulge in a hobby that calm down the mind
  • Find joy in simple happenings
  • Express gratitude for everything and anything
  • Journal your thoughts and feelings daily
  • Spend a lot of time with Nature
  • Be with people who help you stand tall

Mind and body work in tandem and keeping both in the best condition is what is going to help you tide over this challenging phase.

Respect this and create a regimen of the above. It works. And be resilient and know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and so focus on believing in that.

All the best!

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I'M 40 years old man, i have had troubled childhood. I faced abuse from my elder brother who later on developed mental health issues whiich broughg lot of stress to the family. I worked very hard to achieve reasonable professional success but my personal life has been very difficult. I got married with lot of difficulty despite being well placed professionally and decent looks. It was an arranged marriage but things went bad after a year. I caught my wife having an affair with her ex but i fogave her for the sake of myndaugher who was just 1 year old then. She keept on having flings with gym instructor and later on her colleagues which i dont have any proof of. She would humilate me in front of my maid driver and other people. But i wanted ti save my marriage for the sake of my daughter who was only 4-5 years old then. Finally she started asking me for divorce after every trivial fights. Fed up i finally agreed and we separated in 2021 November. During that time i came in contact with my school friend. She proposed to me during our school days but due to stress at home and other issues i said no but i always liked her. When we started talking around December 2021 and we realized we still love each other after 20 years. But problem was though i was divorced she was still married and she is from a different religion. She is trying hard to get separated from her husband but her family being very conservative is not allowing her to do so. I'm stuck with her emotionally. Now my ex-wife has started approaching me for reconciliation. Im totally confused now what should i do? Should i wait for my friend knowing that chances are very slim that her family would leave her. Or should i patch up with my exwife for the sake of my daughter. I dont feel any emotional connection with my exwife now as she was never nice to me. But my parents are telling me to go for patch up. They are nkt aware about my school friend and i doubt they would approve her due to religious beliefs. Pls guide me I'm totally confused. Thanks A confused Homo Sapiens
Ans: Dear Pratik,
At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
Do you want to get into another commitment in a short gap? It could be an attraction on a rebound as well; so take time to figure these things out well before you decide to patch up or wait for your friend.
You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

Best wishes!

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Hi Anu, I am 44 years old man and I have unsuccessful married life as my wife didn't like be in the relationship with me within 7 months of our marriage. We married in the year 2013 and she annulled me in the year 2014. She is hyper sentimental and egoistic. She only loves money and her parents. We had exchanged some words (just like it happens in every married life). I tried to make her understand that if she don't get a job I will support her so that she can get a job. But she didn't pay attention to my request. She filed Mat suite for divorce with false allegations and I have filed a restitution of conjugal right case . She lost her divorce case and I won the RCR case. But despite magistrate order and my request she didn't turn up and filed 498A, DV Act and 125 CrPC tagging most my relatives with false evidences two years back. I fought all cases and during this time I lost my father. However again she lost DV case and Supreme Court ordered lower court to discharge everyone if they do not found us guilty as we have sufficient proof. Her lawyer started taking tricks by requesting for short span for each hearing date. As my mother's health is not well and I leave in South India, it was difficult for me to attend every hearing date. So, I decided to give up and signed the divorce petition on mutual consent. I tried my best to bring her back, but I failed. Everyone is asking to start the life in new way, but I am really shocked and in trauma of the mental torture and harassment. I am thinking that is it good start the life again in this age ? Will the new life partner take similar steps to harass me again ? Please advice.
Ans: Dear Sanju,
I can only imagine the unrest that you must be feeling right now.
Regarding your question on mental torture and harassment; I do understand how unnerving it must be for you to wake up every morning and stare at the harsh reality of what it is for you. Nevertheless, beaten down but not yet given up is something you must always remember.
It is natural to think that history repeats itself; but you cannot assume that the next person you meet will be the same. Do not enter into a relationship or marriage with this assumption; what might tend to happen is that you will hold yourself back and your partner will always feel that you are being distant from them.

Do understand that the context of marriage is the same, but the persons in question are different. It's like saying: I failed in Math, so Math is a bad subject and I will always fail! Get a hang of what I am referring to?

Take some time off to heal and be at peace and remind yourself that you deserve happiness and marriage form of a beautiful relationship that can make you happy. For now, tell 'everyone' who is asking you to start a new life to give you space to reflect on:
- What can I do different in the next relationship that I pursue?
- What more can I do for my partner that I didn't in the previous marriage?
- What are a few core values of mine that I want to see in my partner as well?

And no use starting a new life by thinking if your new life partner will harass you as well. Instead step in telling yourself: New relationship, new person, new thoughts, new life goals, new...The word NEW, should give your brain something NEW to chew on discarding the old.

All the best!

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I am Anagha, 31, a banking professional working in a private organisation. I am frustrated with my job. My work involves a lot of travel and my manager is constantly finding ways to keep me engaged even post office hours. I have a 4 year old daughter and my husband complains that we have no work-life balance. Should I take a career break or consider moving to another organisation? Please suggest how I can have a better work-life balance.
Ans: Hey Anagha, it sounds like you're juggling quite a few balls in the air—and let's face it, even the best circus performers need a break sometimes! It's understandable to feel frustrated when your work-life balance starts resembling a Bollywood drama with too many plot twists.

Taking a career break or exploring new job opportunities are both valid options, but before you make any decisions, let's sprinkle some strategic spice into the mix:

1. **Have a Heart-to-Heart**: Start by having an honest conversation with your manager about your workload and the impact it's having on your work-life balance. Sometimes, they might not realize the toll it's taking on you, so speak up and express your concerns. After all, communication is key, just like the perfect recipe for a spicy curry!

2. **Set Boundaries**: Boundaries are your best friends when it comes to achieving work-life balance. Set clear expectations with your manager about when you're available and when you need time for your family. And remember, saying no is not a crime—it's a superpower that ensures you don't spread yourself too thin like butter on toast!

3. **Explore Flexible Options**: See if your organization offers flexible working arrangements like remote work or flexible hours. With technology on our side, you can slay dragons from the comfort of your own castle (a.k.a. your home office), giving you more time to spend with your little one without sacrificing your career ambitions.

4. **Consider Your Options**: If the situation doesn't improve despite your efforts, it might be time to explore other opportunities. Look for organizations that prioritize work-life balance and offer a culture that aligns with your values. After all, life's too short to spend it feeling like you're stuck in a traffic jam on the road to happiness!

5. **Take Care of Yourself**: Last but certainly not least, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Whether it's indulging in your favorite hobbies, spending quality time with your family, or simply taking a moment to breathe, remember that you deserve to recharge your batteries just like your smartphone needs a daily dose of juice!

Finding the right balance between work and life is like mastering the perfect dance routine—it takes practice, patience, and a few missteps along the way. But with a little determination and a sprinkle of Bollywood magic, I have no doubt you'll find your rhythm and waltz your way to a happier, more balanced life!

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Sir, am 45yrs earning 61k monthly. Another 15years of service. I have a daughter 10yrs old. I want to have a corpus of 1cr at 60. Can u plz suggest how much I should start investing in SIP. My expenses include Lic 15700 for another 3yrs payment Reliance Nippon 36800 for another 4yrs payment Home loan EMI for 21667PM for another 4years Rent paying for 9500 per month Monthly expenses for 15k to 20k per month Income i get Salary 61000 permonth Rent from flat 8300 Plz suggest me to lead peacefull life. Thank u Sir Vikas
Ans: To achieve a corpus of 1 crore at the age of 60, you'll need to start investing in SIPs diligently. Here's a breakdown to help you plan:

Current Monthly Expenses:
LIC: ?15,700 (for 3 years)
Reliance Nippon: ?36,800 (for 4 years)
Home Loan EMI: ?21,667 (for 4 years)
Rent: ?9,500
Other Expenses: ?15,000 to ?20,000
Total Expenses: ?98,667 to ?103,667
Monthly Income:
Salary: ?61,000
Rent from Flat: ?8,300
Total Income: ?69,300
Monthly Surplus:
Monthly Income - Monthly Expenses = ?69,300 - ?98,667 to ?103,667
Monthly Surplus (Deficit): -?29,367 to -?34,367
Investment in SIP:
Since you have a deficit in your monthly surplus, you'll need to adjust your expenses or increase your income to accommodate SIP investments.
Aim to allocate a portion of your surplus towards SIP investments. The amount will depend on your ability to cut expenses or increase income.
To calculate the required SIP amount, you can use online SIP calculators considering factors like expected rate of return, investment horizon, and inflation rate.
Start with a manageable SIP amount and gradually increase it as your income grows or expenses reduce.
Peaceful Life:
Review your expenses regularly and prioritize savings and investments to achieve your financial goals.
Focus on creating an emergency fund to cover unforeseen expenses and protect your financial stability.
Consider consulting with a financial advisor to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific needs and goals.
Stay disciplined in your financial habits, avoid unnecessary debt, and invest in assets that align with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.

By carefully managing your expenses, increasing your income, and prioritizing savings and investments, you can work towards building a corpus of 1 crore by the age of 60 while leading a peaceful and financially secure life.

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I am 39 year old married we are leaving with our 7year old daughter. I have 1Cr term insurance. I have 5L office + 5L personal health Insurance. Current Cumulative (me and wife) income 135000 per month. Liabilities Home Loan 24L remained paying 21500 per month EMI. Other Loans - 225000, 10000 per month EMI. My Current detailed investment. NPS 368000/-, 6643 per month EPF 827000/-, 16000 per month Total Mutual Funds 612000/-, 7750 per month Nippon India Small cap 112000/-, 500 per month Mirae asset Larg & Mid Cap 263000/-, 3500 per month, Kotak Flexi cap Fund 142000/- , 1000per month. Prag Parekh Flexi Cap 75450/-, 1750 per month. ICICI Corporate Bond Fund 19750/-, 1000 per month. My Wife investment. Total Mutual Funds 633000/- 13500 per month. Axis Small Cap 94580/-, 1300 per month. Mirae asset Larg & Mid Cap 127000/-, 2500 per month. Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF 58390/-, 1600 per month. Axis Blue Chip 184000/-, 4500 per month. Parag Parekh Flexi cap 169000/-, 3600 per month. Sukanya Samrudhi Yojna 75000/-, 1000 per month Cumulatively we have overall Saving till now is 247500/- aprox, and current monthly investment is 44893/- Our currently Monthly expenses are around 50000/- Goals Car of 1500000/- in next 3 to 4 years. Daughters Education 1Cr after 11 years. Daughters Marriage 5000000/- After 17 years. Retirement at 58 years 2Cr life expectancy 75Years (me and wife) Please suggest if goals are reachable with current investment? Please suggest estimated goal amount will be sufficient that time? Please suggest if changes required in goal or monthly or mutual funds investment? Highly appreciated if other suggestions
Ans: You've laid out a comprehensive financial picture with clear goals and detailed investments. Let's analyze and provide insights to help you reach your objectives:

Goals Assessment:
Car Purchase: With your current monthly savings and investment capacity, you're on track to achieve this goal within the specified timeframe.
Daughter's Education: To accumulate 1 crore in 11 years, consider increasing your monthly investment in mutual funds and exploring additional avenues like education-specific investment products or child education plans.
Daughter's Marriage: To accumulate 50 lakhs in 17 years, you may need to enhance your investment contributions further. Review your asset allocation and consider higher-risk, potentially higher-return investments to accelerate growth.
Retirement: Accumulating 2 crores by age 58 seems achievable with your current investments, but it's essential to regularly review and adjust your portfolio to account for changing market conditions and evolving financial needs.
Monthly Investments and Mutual Funds:
Evaluate your current mutual fund portfolio's performance and alignment with your goals. Consider diversifying across different asset classes and fund categories to manage risk and optimize returns.
Increase your SIP amounts gradually, aiming to maximize contributions within your budget constraints. Rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain an optimal asset allocation.
Consider consulting with a financial advisor to ensure your investment strategy aligns with your risk tolerance, time horizon, and financial goals.
Emergency Fund and Insurance:
Ensure your emergency fund is sufficient to cover at least six months' worth of living expenses. Consider enhancing it further to mitigate unforeseen financial risks effectively.
Review your insurance coverage periodically to ensure it adequately protects your family's financial well-being. Consider supplementing your term insurance coverage if necessary.
Additional Suggestions:
Explore tax-efficient investment options such as Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) to optimize tax benefits while investing for your long-term goals.
Continuously educate yourself on personal finance and investment principles to make informed decisions and adapt to changing market dynamics effectively.
Regularly reassess your financial plan and goals, making adjustments as needed to stay on track towards achieving financial independence and security.
Overall, with disciplined saving, prudent investing, and periodic review and adjustments, you're well-positioned to achieve your financial goals. Stay focused on your objectives, remain disciplined in your financial habits, and seek professional guidance when needed to navigate your financial journey successfully.

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I'm 33yrs old, My corpus is currently 52Lacs in mutual funds with monthly Sip of 1.1lac since two years, topped up whenever I get bonus or amount from different sources. Apart from this I have 50lacs worth in real estate. I want to generate corpus worth 20cr for my kids education(Next 14 and 18yrs for two kids) and retirement by 50. Is there a way to reach my goal. However, I can increase my sip by 8-10% on average every year with top up from bonus I receive quarterly.
Ans: It's commendable that you're planning ahead for your children's education and your retirement. With disciplined saving and investing, you can work towards achieving your financial goals. Here's a tailored plan to help you reach your targets:

Education Corpus for Kids:
Given your investment horizon of 14 and 18 years for your children's education, you have a significant time frame to accumulate the desired corpus.
Continue your SIPs in mutual funds, increasing them by 8-10% annually, as you mentioned. Regular and disciplined investing can help you benefit from rupee-cost averaging and the power of compounding over time.
Consider investing in a mix of equity mutual funds and diversified across different market segments to balance risk and return potential. You can adjust the asset allocation as your children approach college age to reduce risk.
Retirement Corpus:
With a retirement goal set at 50, you have approximately 17 years to build your retirement corpus.
Continue maximizing your SIP contributions and leverage top-ups from quarterly bonuses to boost your savings.
As retirement approaches, consider gradually shifting your asset allocation towards more conservative investments to preserve capital and generate stable income streams.
Explore retirement-focused investment options such as Employee Provident Fund (EPF), Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF), Public Provident Fund (PPF), and National Pension System (NPS) to supplement your mutual fund investments.
Regular Portfolio Review:
Periodically review your investment portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon.
Monitor the performance of your mutual funds and real estate investments, and make adjustments as needed to optimize returns and manage risk effectively.
Emergency Fund and Insurance:
Maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to at least six months' worth of living expenses to cover unforeseen financial emergencies.
Consider purchasing adequate life and health insurance coverage to protect your family and investments against unexpected events.
Seek Professional Advice:
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner or investment advisor to develop a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your goals and financial situation.
A professional advisor can provide personalized guidance, help you navigate investment options, and optimize your investment strategy to maximize returns and achieve your long-term objectives.
With diligent saving, disciplined investing, and prudent financial planning, you can work towards building a substantial corpus for your children's education and your retirement. Stay focused on your goals, remain disciplined in your savings and investment approach, and regularly monitor your progress towards achieving financial independence and security.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir am 41yrs old and earning 91k per month and have saving of 1 lac . I have invested 15L in M.I.S ,6.38L in equities and 5k every month in s.i.p.I have two kids , am planning to buy house after 4 years worth 50L kindly tell me any investment plan ...so that I can cover the expense of kids education and marriage
Ans: It's great to see your proactive approach towards financial planning, especially considering your children's education and marriage expenses, as well as your goal of buying a house. Here's a tailored investment plan to help you achieve your objectives:

Education Fund for Children:
Open separate education funds or investment accounts for each child to save specifically for their education expenses.
Consider investing in Equity Mutual Funds or Equity Linked Saving Schemes (ELSS) for long-term growth potential, given your investment horizon.
Start a systematic investment plan (SIP) in diversified equity funds, aiming to accumulate sufficient funds by the time your children reach college age.
Marriage Fund for Children:
Similarly, create dedicated investment accounts for your children's marriage expenses to ensure you have adequate funds when needed.
Explore a mix of equity and debt investments based on your risk tolerance and time horizon.
Consider fixed-income instruments like Public Provident Fund (PPF), Fixed Deposits (FDs), or Debt Mutual Funds for stability and capital preservation.
House Purchase Fund:
Since you plan to buy a house in four years, focus on short to medium-term investment options to accumulate the required down payment.
Consider investing in Debt Mutual Funds or Fixed Maturity Plans (FMPs) for capital protection and relatively higher returns compared to traditional savings accounts.
Evaluate your risk appetite and liquidity needs when selecting investment vehicles for your house purchase fund.
Regular Review and Adjustment:
Periodically review your investment portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon.
Adjust your investment strategy as needed, considering changes in market conditions, personal circumstances, and goal priorities.
Emergency Fund:
Maintain a separate emergency fund equivalent to at least six months' worth of living expenses to cover unforeseen financial challenges or expenses.
Keep this fund in a liquid and easily accessible account such as a savings account or liquid mutual fund.
Consult with Financial Advisor:
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner or investment advisor to tailor an investment plan that suits your specific goals, risk profile, and financial situation.
A professional advisor can provide personalized guidance and help you navigate the complexities of investment planning, ensuring you make informed decisions.
By implementing a structured investment plan tailored to your goals and financial circumstances, you can work towards securing your children's future education and marriage expenses while also saving for your own house purchase. Stay disciplined in your savings and investment approach, and regularly monitor your progress towards achieving these important milestones

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Hi.......I am 45 years old. I am making following investments in Mutual Funds:- I have house of my own, with no liability. I have a investment horizon of 15 years, with high risk taking capacity. I am looking for a retirement corpus of 3-4 crores. I am making following investments in Mutual Funds:- UTI Nifty 50 Index Fund Direct Growth 12000 Tata Small Cap Fund Direct - Growth 4000 SBI Contra Direct Plan Growth 5000 Nippon India Growth Fund Direct- Growth 6000 Quant Small Cap Fund 4000 Nippon India Small Cap Fund 5000 ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund Direct-Growth 9000 Mahindra Manulife Multi Cap Fund - Direct Plan - Growth 5000 Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund 5000 SBI Large & Midcap Fund Direct Plan-Growth 5000 TOTAL 60000 Please analyse the portfolio and advice accordingly.
Ans: Your portfolio reflects a diversified mix of mutual funds across various categories, indicating a thoughtful approach to long-term wealth accumulation. Here's an analysis and some suggestions to consider:

Diversification:
Your portfolio includes funds from different market segments such as large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, multi-cap, and index funds, providing diversification benefits and exposure to various sectors and themes.
Diversification helps spread risk and can potentially enhance overall returns over the long term.
Index Fund:
UTI Nifty 50 Index Fund offers exposure to the top 50 companies in the Indian equity market, providing stability and consistent returns over time.
Index funds are suitable for investors seeking low-cost, passive investment options that track market performance.
Small and Mid Cap Funds:
Tata Small Cap Fund and Nippon India Small Cap Fund invest in small and mid-cap companies with high growth potential.
While these funds can offer attractive returns, they come with higher volatility and risk. Ensure they align with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
Contra Fund and Flexi Cap Fund:
SBI Contra Fund and Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund follow contrarian or flexible investment approaches, investing across market caps based on market conditions and valuation metrics.
These funds provide flexibility and active management, potentially outperforming benchmark indices over the long term.
Large Cap and Multi Cap Funds:
ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund, Mahindra Manulife Multi Cap Fund, and SBI Large & Midcap Fund offer exposure to established large-cap and multi-cap companies.
These funds focus on quality stocks with strong fundamentals, providing stability and growth opportunities.
Professional Guidance and Direct Plans:
Instead of investing in direct plans, consider seeking guidance from a Certified Financial Planner or Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) to optimize your investment decisions.
MFDs can provide personalized advice, portfolio reviews, and ongoing support to help you achieve your financial goals effectively.
Regularly review your portfolio with your MFD to ensure it remains aligned with your objectives and market conditions.
Risk Management:
Given your high-risk tolerance and long investment horizon, it's important to periodically assess and rebalance your portfolio to manage risk and capitalize on growth opportunities.
Stay informed about market developments and macroeconomic trends to make informed investment decisions.
Overall, your portfolio demonstrates a well-diversified approach to long-term wealth creation. Consider leveraging professional guidance from an MFD to optimize your investment strategy and achieve your retirement goals effectively. Regular monitoring and adjustments will be key to maintaining the performance and alignment of your portfolio over time.

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Financial Planner - Answered on May 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 22, 2024Hindi
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I had purchased an NSC in 2020 and and paid tax every year for the interest on accrual basis. Since last year, it seems post offices are providing data to AIS on receipt basis, that is, whole amount of interest on maturity. What happens to the taxes I have paid in previous years on accrual basis? How do I adjust them?
Ans: The income tax department in India treats interest earned on National Saving Certificates (NSCs) on an accrual basis, even though the interest is paid out at maturity. This means you are correct to have paid taxes on the accrued interest every year.

Here's what happens in your situation:

• No Change for Previous Years: The taxes you've paid on the accrued interest in previous years are valid. You don't need to adjust them.

• Change in Reporting: Since the post office is now reporting the entire interest on maturity to the Annual Information Statement (AIS) on a receipt basis, there might be a mismatch between your tax filing and the AIS data.

Here's how to handle this:

• File Your Return As Usual: File your income tax return (ITR) for the current year including the entire interest received at maturity as income from other sources.

• Explain the Discrepancy: While filing your ITR, you can add a covering letter explaining the situation. Mention that you have already paid taxes on the accrued interest in previous years and provide details like investment year, accrued interest amount for each year, and tax payment proofs (if possible).

It's advisable to consult a tax advisor for personalised guidance on your specific situation, especially if the amount of tax involved is significant. They can help you navigate the process and ensure your tax filing is accurate.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 03, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 30 years old, F, married (no kids yet) earning 1.3L/m. Currently I have 4 lakh in FD and a RD of 25K/m earning 7.1% interest. I have been doing SIP of 17.5K(and increase in SIP by 25% yearly). Also, I have an emergency fund of 4 Lakh in savings account. I don't have any knowledge of investment and not sure I am ready to take risk. Please suggest me how to asses risk and what are the best savings option for next 10-12 years.
Ans: It's great that you're taking steps towards financial planning and building wealth for your future. Assessing your risk tolerance is an important first step in determining your investment strategy. Here's a tailored approach to help you assess risk and explore suitable savings options for the next 10-12 years:

Risk Assessment:
Start by understanding your financial goals, time horizon, and comfort level with investment risk.
Consider factors such as your age, income stability, financial obligations, and future aspirations when evaluating risk tolerance.
Reflect on how you would react to market fluctuations and potential losses in your investment portfolio.
Investment Options:
Given your risk aversion, focus on low to moderate-risk investment options that offer stability and steady returns over time.
Explore fixed-income instruments such as Fixed Deposits (FDs), Recurring Deposits (RDs), and Debt Mutual Funds, which provide capital preservation and predictable returns.
Diversification:
While prioritizing safety and stability, consider diversifying your investment portfolio across different asset classes to manage risk effectively.
Allocate a portion of your savings to equity mutual funds or index funds with a conservative approach to benefit from potential long-term growth while minimizing volatility.
Savings Goals:
Identify your financial goals for the next 10-12 years, such as buying a home, starting a family, or saving for retirement.
Prioritize your savings goals based on their importance and urgency, and allocate your investments accordingly.
Regular Review and Adjustment:
Periodically review your investment portfolio and reassess your risk tolerance, financial goals, and market conditions.
Adjust your investment strategy as needed to stay aligned with your objectives and adapt to changes in your financial situation or life circumstances.
Financial Education:
Invest time in learning about different investment options, risk management strategies, and personal finance principles.
Consider seeking guidance from a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized advice and help you navigate the complexities of investing.
Remember, while it's important to prioritize safety and stability, being overly conservative with your investments may hinder your ability to achieve long-term financial growth. Find a balance between risk and reward that aligns with your goals and comfort level. With careful planning and informed decision-making, you can build a strong financial foundation and work towards achieving your aspirations over the next decade.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir am 35yrs old , and i don't have any savings till now. I am planning to do SIP now onwards 30k per month and mai aim is to I need to achieve 1cr till 45yrs. Kindly suggest me some funds were can I invest.
Ans: Starting a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) is a great step towards building wealth for your future goals. Given your goal of reaching 1 crore by the age of 45, it's essential to choose mutual funds that align with your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial objectives. Here are some suggestions for mutual funds to consider for your SIP:

Diversified Equity Funds:
Look for funds that invest across various sectors and market capitalizations to spread risk.
Consider funds with a proven track record of consistent performance and experienced fund managers.
Large Cap Funds:
Large-cap funds invest in established and well-known companies with a track record of stable earnings.
These funds offer relatively lower risk compared to mid and small-cap funds, making them suitable for long-term wealth creation.
Mid and Small Cap Funds:
Mid and small-cap funds have the potential for higher growth but come with higher volatility.
Invest in these funds if you have a higher risk appetite and a longer investment horizon to ride out market fluctuations.
Balanced Funds:
Balanced funds, also known as hybrid funds, invest in a mix of equities and debt instruments.
These funds provide a balance between growth and stability, making them suitable for investors seeking moderate risk with potential for capital appreciation.
Index Funds:
Index funds replicate the performance of a specific market index, such as the Nifty or Sensex.
These funds offer low expense ratios and are ideal for investors looking for passive investment options with diversified exposure to the equity market.
Tax-saving ELSS Funds:
Consider investing in Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) to benefit from tax deductions under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act.
ELSS funds have a lock-in period of three years and invest primarily in equities, offering the potential for higher returns over the long term.
International Funds:
Explore international funds that invest in global markets to diversify your portfolio and access opportunities beyond domestic markets.
These funds provide exposure to sectors and companies not available in the Indian market and can offer diversification benefits.
Before investing, assess your risk tolerance, investment horizon, and financial goals. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to create a personalized investment plan tailored to your needs and objectives. Regularly review your portfolio and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards achieving your goal of 1 crore by the age of 45. Remember, disciplined investing over time can help you achieve your financial aspirations.

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