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Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 13, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 10, 2023Hindi
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My wife divorced me in 2008. I had schizophrenia+ bipolar. I took medicines. By 2012 the dowry cases got closed. I paid all my father-inlaw asked. After my father-inlaw died, My ex-wife allowed me to stay in her house. I focus on my work. I take care of expenses and children. My ex-wife cares me like radha (wife of krishna). She tells she does not want me to touch her. I switched off in my mind the need to touch. Now my ex-wife lives in my heart. We still live together. Better than married ones. This also is possible.

Ans: What is your question exactly…whatever arrangement you have currently seems to be working for you, isn’t it? You’re a family unit, if not a couple and you have access to your kids too. If you’re craving a physical relationship with her as well, she has to be willing; she’s not. Maybe if she’s willing to attend couples’ therapy with you then you can salvage your relationship despite the divorce. But like I said, it takes two hands to clap. If this is all she wants, leave good enough alone and don’t rock the boat.

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I'M 40 years old man, i have had troubled childhood. I faced abuse from my elder brother who later on developed mental health issues whiich broughg lot of stress to the family. I worked very hard to achieve reasonable professional success but my personal life has been very difficult. I got married with lot of difficulty despite being well placed professionally and decent looks. It was an arranged marriage but things went bad after a year. I caught my wife having an affair with her ex but i fogave her for the sake of myndaugher who was just 1 year old then. She keept on having flings with gym instructor and later on her colleagues which i dont have any proof of. She would humilate me in front of my maid driver and other people. But i wanted ti save my marriage for the sake of my daughter who was only 4-5 years old then. Finally she started asking me for divorce after every trivial fights. Fed up i finally agreed and we separated in 2021 November. During that time i came in contact with my school friend. She proposed to me during our school days but due to stress at home and other issues i said no but i always liked her. When we started talking around December 2021 and we realized we still love each other after 20 years. But problem was though i was divorced she was still married and she is from a different religion. She is trying hard to get separated from her husband but her family being very conservative is not allowing her to do so. I'm stuck with her emotionally. Now my ex-wife has started approaching me for reconciliation. Im totally confused now what should i do? Should i wait for my friend knowing that chances are very slim that her family would leave her. Or should i patch up with my exwife for the sake of my daughter. I dont feel any emotional connection with my exwife now as she was never nice to me. But my parents are telling me to go for patch up. They are nkt aware about my school friend and i doubt they would approve her due to religious beliefs. Pls guide me I'm totally confused. Thanks A confused Homo Sapiens
Ans: Dear Pratik,
At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
Do you want to get into another commitment in a short gap? It could be an attraction on a rebound as well; so take time to figure these things out well before you decide to patch up or wait for your friend.
You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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I'm 58 now, since he age of 18 I was in love with a neighborhood girl. She was Hindu but I a christian. Her family was comparatively well to do . This prompted me to keep myself from expressing my feelings, I got myself a job and waited to have some financial independence. In the meanwhile she fell in love with someone else and also moved to the US, I was too late in expressing my feelings to her, and I told her under the condition we remain friends. After she moved we kept in touch thro' letters or an occasional phone call in the late 1980's. In the begining of the 1990's both of us got married to different partners , but continued to keep in touch as friends, which both our partners were aware. We used to meet personally whenever she would come to India, which was once in a year or sometimes even 2/3 years. We both have 2 boys each and the boys are now in their 20's. A couple of years ago she got divorced as her partner was in a physical relationship with someone else. In the meanwhile I continued with my wife even though we were totally incompatible and we literally hate each other. We didn't think of divorce coz of social pressures and in my case I've gifted her a major chunk of my immoveable assets but I earn rent on these properties which helps me meet y daily expenses. Over the last 2 years I had 2 heart attacks. the second one brought us both very close as she was concerned about my health, she came down to India and spent a few days motivating me to lead a healthier life, which co incidentally my wife never does, instead blames and nags me on my lifestyle. We have never had a physical relationship, at the most when we meet it's a warm peck on the cheek or just holding hands. Now I am getting back to my teenage years, I'm madly in love with her and want her. I know for sure if I do that my children would disown me and I'll lose a large part of my property which gives me a earning. I want her. I'm right now confused, illogical and very emotional.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I do realize that you have had to wait for this long for your love to be recognized and reciprocated as well. But that's the Nature of Time, If something does not yield a result at that moment, even if it fruitions later in time, it may not be very conducive to the people involved as everyone has grown in that particular relationship to form situational bonds. Meaning, you and she have become parents and your wife is still part of this equation.

It's not wrong to feel what you are feeling; but do not compare both the women. If your friend never existed, you would have had a different opinion on your wife altogether. Marriage is about accepting your partner at the core for who he/she is.

Now, let's take your situation and break it down. Suddenly, your friend who was married and because of which you respected boundaries is suddenly no longer in a marriage. So, that has given you an opportunity to think of how your life could have been with her and is tempting you to think of it. I understand that your health conditions would also have urged you to live life to the fullest. But, you are still married and you have a lot of financial tie-ups with your wife. Your friend possibly might not even want what you want. Plus, the children...it's one huge complication...

Should you not live your life? Yes, you must and should BUT do weigh what you might lose for what you want to gain. Are willing to risk it for the sake of love? It's the only logical way to approach this situation.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2023Hindi
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I'm 44 year old male and my ex-wife and I had a nasty divorce. I used to love her a lot but the final separation was very ugly. Due to interference from my mother and constant instigation from her mother she was really irritated about the marriage in the last phase. She even refused to acknowledge me when I tried to persuade her in front of her office and got me harassed by shouting at me. Filed an FIR against me on wrong charges. Eventually I had to agree to divorce. But I could never forget or forgive her. I know for sure that she used to love me. I wonder whether she has felt any remorse. I still seek an apology from her. I find my devotion and love for her completely meaningless. Do I have a point?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When you say she filed an FIR on false charges, what does that mean? I do find a lot of gaps in what you have shared and hence you might find my response biased but it is based solely on what you have shared.

Reading your post/question, I will ask you:
- Your mother's interference led your marriage to break and you did nothing to save it?
- You go and embarrass her at her workplace and expect an apology from your wife?

Ask yourself:
Do I love her or Do I want to get even with her?
Both have different responses. Your devotion is meaningless as you are yet to understand what you feel for her; hatred or love?
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When the divorce is already done, why are you still seeking clarity? It's done and dusted, isn't it? Settling scores will not let you move on. Hence, for your peace of mind, LET THIS GO...it will help put your mind in a better space and help you focus on what's at hand and requires your attention. Focus on yourself now...

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I’m 45 male and my wife is 44, we have been separated due to opinion difference through court she filed three cases on me , after that she with draw all cases by taking Alumni, since two years I have been wishing her on her birthday, recently two months back I wished on her birth we have small conversation asked about ourselves , like did I get married to other women or did she got married to other man. After that conversation she started talking , daily we chat looking at this I put a proposal saying that if she is willing to come back and start our life she is open for it. But she says she does not have any intension of getting married to any one she want to stay alone for life long. Sometimes she shows so much love and affection caring sometimes she completely ignore me as if am a stranger, I’m unable to judge her mood strings day by day my stress levels are going high could not control my emotions and anger I express it on any one. Please do suggest shall I be optimist and wait for some more years and its better to leave her on her own path.
Ans: Dear Prasanna,
For the time being, it appears that the separation is helping the two of you reconnect at a better level than when you stayed together.
It is a good thing as it will patch up wedges and also teach you both to appreciate one another and respect your differences.
I suggest that you let this be for a while now till it reaches a place where the two of you are cordial with one another and set aside the animosity and quell the ego. Then you can put your proposal forth to her of moving back together. She may want it or may prefer the status quo (like she has mentioned to you that she wants to stay alone). Either case, once a connection is filled with love that it is meant to, there not be a definite label or construct to that connection. So, wait for that suitable time to know where her mind is...till then enjoy the time together as a 'dating phase' and relish the moments.

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Hi My ex wife lives with me under live in relationship for last 7 years. But since last 8 months she refuse physical relationship. I do not understand what is her problem - mental or physical . At the time of our mutual divorce I pleaded with her to not to go for divorce but she did not listen. At that time I said to her that I will not take back again you in my life but for my son I agreed to take back at my home. His lover cheated with her and after one year of our divorce he left her. Now what I should do . Should I remarry with her . I need your suggestion
Ans: Here are some steps to consider:

Communication: It's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your ex-wife about your concerns and feelings. Ask her about her reasons for refusing physical intimacy and if there are any underlying issues, whether mental or physical, that she is dealing with. Encourage her to share her perspective as well.

Seek Professional Help: If your ex-wife's refusal of physical intimacy is causing distress in your relationship, consider seeking the assistance of a relationship counselor or therapist. A professional can help both of you explore your feelings, communicate better, and work through any issues that may be affecting your relationship.

Consider Your Son: Since you mentioned that you agreed to have your ex-wife live with you primarily for the sake of your son, it's important to prioritize his well-being. Evaluate how your current living arrangement and relationship dynamics are affecting him. A stable and harmonious environment is typically beneficial for children.

Personal Happiness: Reflect on your own feelings and happiness. Are you content with the current living arrangement, even without physical intimacy, or do you desire a deeper romantic relationship? It's important to consider your own needs and happiness in this situation.

Legal and Financial Matters: If you decide to remarry or make significant changes to your living arrangement, consider consulting with a legal professional to understand any potential legal and financial implications.

Time and Patience: Relationships can be complex, and it may take time to resolve issues and understand each other's perspectives. Patience and understanding can be valuable during such times.

Ultimately, the decision to remarry or continue your current arrangement is a personal one that should be based on what you believe is best for you, your ex-wife, and your son. It may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a professional therapist or counselor to help navigate these complex emotions and decisions.

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Sir I am 44and have got 3lakhs in hand how could I make this as 30 lakhs in 5yrs
Ans: Your goal of turning 3 lakhs into 30 lakhs in 5 years is ambitious, but with careful planning and disciplined investing, it's definitely achievable. Let's explore some strategies:

• Firstly, kudos on having a clear financial goal in mind. Setting specific targets is the first step towards success.
• Given your time horizon of 5 years, consider investment avenues that offer higher growth potential but also entail higher risk.
• Equity investments, such as mutual funds or stocks, could be a suitable option for you. These assets have the potential to generate significant returns over the long term.
• However, it's essential to approach equity investments with caution and conduct thorough research or seek professional advice to mitigate risks.
• Diversification is key. Instead of putting all your eggs in one basket, consider spreading your investment across different asset classes and sectors.
• Keep in mind that higher potential returns often come with higher volatility. Be prepared to ride out market fluctuations and stay invested for the long term.
• Regularly monitor your investments and make adjustments as needed based on changing market conditions or your financial goals.
• Remember, patience and discipline are crucial virtues in wealth creation. Stick to your investment plan and avoid making impulsive decisions based on short-term market movements.
• Lastly, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to create a personalized investment strategy tailored to your specific needs and objectives.

With careful planning, disciplined investing, and a long-term perspective, you can work towards turning your 3 lakhs into 30 lakhs over the next 5 years. Stay focused on your goal, and best of luck on your financial journey!

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Hi Sir, I am 51 years old & start investment in sip of 30k pm since feb 2024 in mid & small cap funds.would like to create corpus of 5 cr for my retirement at the age of 60. How much should save in MF
Ans: It's wonderful to hear about your proactive approach towards securing your retirement. Let's dive into crafting a plan:

• First off, kudos on initiating your SIP journey at the age of 51. That's a commendable step towards securing your future.
• Creating a corpus of 5 crores in just 9 years may seem like a daunting task, but it's definitely achievable with strategic planning.
• To estimate the monthly SIP amount required, we'll need to consider factors like expected rate of return, inflation, and investment horizon.
• Given your relatively short investment horizon, it's essential to maintain a disciplined approach and prioritize aggressive wealth-building strategies.
• Start by determining the expected rate of return on your investments. Since you're investing in mid and small-cap funds, anticipate higher growth potential but also higher volatility.
• With an aggressive investment strategy, you may aim for an annual return of around 12-15%. This could help accelerate your wealth accumulation over the next decade.
• Considering the above factors, we can then calculate the monthly SIP amount required to reach your 5 crore target.
• Remember, consistency is key. Stay committed to your SIPs even during market fluctuations. It's the long-term perspective that pays off.
• Alongside SIPs, explore other avenues for wealth creation, such as diversifying your investment portfolio and exploring tax-saving options.
• Don't forget to periodically review your investment strategy and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your retirement goal.
• Lastly, keep a positive mindset and stay motivated on your financial journey. With determination and prudent planning, you're well on your way to achieving your retirement dreams!

Keep up the fantastic work, and here's to a prosperous retirement ahead!

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Madam I'm 35 Years Old Salaried person I'm currently Investing Rs.30,000/- in Mutual Fund from 2017 Portfolio Value Is Rs.21,00,000/- and My Investment is 12,80,000/- Want To Continue For 10 Years.. 10% step-up in every 2 Years 1.SBI SMALL CAP 2.PARAG PAREKH FLEXI CAP 3.NIPPON SMALL CAP 4. DSP MID CAP 5.SBI INTERNATIONAL FUND 6.MOTILAL OSWAL TAX SAVING 7.AXIS NEXT 50 INDEX FUND
Ans: It's fantastic to see your commitment to investing in mutual funds for the long term. Let's explore how you can continue to grow your portfolio over the next decade:

• Your portfolio's current value of Rs. 21,00,000 is impressive and reflects your disciplined approach to investing.
• With a goal to continue investing for another 10 years, you're setting yourself up for significant wealth accumulation.
• The 10% step-up in investment every 2 years is a smart strategy to increase your contributions gradually over time.
• Your selection of mutual funds covers a diverse range of asset classes and market segments, providing ample growth potential.
• It's essential to periodically review your portfolio's performance and make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your financial goals.
• Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to ensure your investment strategy remains optimal and aligned with your objectives.
• Stay focused on your long-term goals and maintain discipline in your investment approach, even during market fluctuations.
• Remember, patience and consistency are key virtues in wealth creation through mutual fund investments.
• Keep monitoring your progress regularly and celebrate milestones along the way to stay motivated on your financial journey.
• With dedication and prudent financial planning, you're well-positioned to achieve your wealth accumulation goals in the years ahead.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 06, 2024Hindi
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Hi could you please tell me in which mutual funds should i invest in and would give me good returns
Ans: Mutual fund selection depends on various factors such as your financial goals, risk tolerance, investment horizon, and asset allocation preferences. Here are some popular mutual fund categories you may consider for potentially good returns:

Large Cap Funds:
Large-cap funds invest in well-established companies with stable earnings and strong market presence.
These funds offer relatively lower risk compared to mid and small-cap funds and are suitable for investors with a conservative risk appetite.
Mid Cap and Small Cap Funds:
Mid and small-cap funds invest in companies with high growth potential but higher volatility.
These funds can generate higher returns over the long term but come with increased risk. They are suitable for investors with a higher risk tolerance and longer investment horizon.
Multi Cap or Flexi Cap Funds:
Multi-cap or flexi cap funds have the flexibility to invest across large, mid, and small-cap stocks based on market conditions.
These funds offer diversification benefits and can adapt to changing market dynamics, making them suitable for investors seeking balanced growth opportunities.
Sector Funds:
Sector funds focus on specific sectors or industries such as technology, healthcare, or banking.
These funds can provide opportunities for higher returns if the selected sector outperforms the broader market. However, they also carry higher sector-specific risks.
Index Funds and Exchange-Traded Funds (ETFs):
Index funds and ETFs replicate the performance of a specific market index such as the Nifty or Sensex.
These funds offer low expense ratios and are ideal for investors seeking passive investment options with diversified exposure to the equity market.
Debt Funds:
Debt funds invest in fixed-income securities such as government bonds, corporate bonds, and money market instruments.
These funds provide stability and regular income, making them suitable for conservative investors or those with short-term investment goals.
Before investing, assess your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner or mutual fund advisor to create a personalized investment plan tailored to your needs and objectives. Regularly review your portfolio and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards achieving your financial goals.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 03, 2024Hindi
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I am Anagha, 31, a banking professional working in a private organisation. I am frustrated with my job. My work involves a lot of travel and my manager is constantly finding ways to keep me engaged even post office hours. I have a 4 year old daughter and my husband complains that we have no work-life balance. Should I take a career break or consider moving to another organisation? Please suggest how I can have a better work-life balance.
Ans: Hey Anagha, it sounds like you're juggling quite a few balls in the air—and let's face it, even the best circus performers need a break sometimes! It's understandable to feel frustrated when your work-life balance starts resembling a Bollywood drama with too many plot twists.

Taking a career break or exploring new job opportunities are both valid options, but before you make any decisions, let's sprinkle some strategic spice into the mix:

1. **Have a Heart-to-Heart**: Start by having an honest conversation with your manager about your workload and the impact it's having on your work-life balance. Sometimes, they might not realize the toll it's taking on you, so speak up and express your concerns. After all, communication is key, just like the perfect recipe for a spicy curry!

2. **Set Boundaries**: Boundaries are your best friends when it comes to achieving work-life balance. Set clear expectations with your manager about when you're available and when you need time for your family. And remember, saying no is not a crime—it's a superpower that ensures you don't spread yourself too thin like butter on toast!

3. **Explore Flexible Options**: See if your organization offers flexible working arrangements like remote work or flexible hours. With technology on our side, you can slay dragons from the comfort of your own castle (a.k.a. your home office), giving you more time to spend with your little one without sacrificing your career ambitions.

4. **Consider Your Options**: If the situation doesn't improve despite your efforts, it might be time to explore other opportunities. Look for organizations that prioritize work-life balance and offer a culture that aligns with your values. After all, life's too short to spend it feeling like you're stuck in a traffic jam on the road to happiness!

5. **Take Care of Yourself**: Last but certainly not least, don't forget to prioritize self-care. Whether it's indulging in your favorite hobbies, spending quality time with your family, or simply taking a moment to breathe, remember that you deserve to recharge your batteries just like your smartphone needs a daily dose of juice!

Finding the right balance between work and life is like mastering the perfect dance routine—it takes practice, patience, and a few missteps along the way. But with a little determination and a sprinkle of Bollywood magic, I have no doubt you'll find your rhythm and waltz your way to a happier, more balanced life!

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Sir, am 45yrs earning 61k monthly. Another 15years of service. I have a daughter 10yrs old. I want to have a corpus of 1cr at 60. Can u plz suggest how much I should start investing in SIP. My expenses include Lic 15700 for another 3yrs payment Reliance Nippon 36800 for another 4yrs payment Home loan EMI for 21667PM for another 4years Rent paying for 9500 per month Monthly expenses for 15k to 20k per month Income i get Salary 61000 permonth Rent from flat 8300 Plz suggest me to lead peacefull life. Thank u Sir Vikas
Ans: To achieve a corpus of 1 crore at the age of 60, you'll need to start investing in SIPs diligently. Here's a breakdown to help you plan:

Current Monthly Expenses:
LIC: ?15,700 (for 3 years)
Reliance Nippon: ?36,800 (for 4 years)
Home Loan EMI: ?21,667 (for 4 years)
Rent: ?9,500
Other Expenses: ?15,000 to ?20,000
Total Expenses: ?98,667 to ?103,667
Monthly Income:
Salary: ?61,000
Rent from Flat: ?8,300
Total Income: ?69,300
Monthly Surplus:
Monthly Income - Monthly Expenses = ?69,300 - ?98,667 to ?103,667
Monthly Surplus (Deficit): -?29,367 to -?34,367
Investment in SIP:
Since you have a deficit in your monthly surplus, you'll need to adjust your expenses or increase your income to accommodate SIP investments.
Aim to allocate a portion of your surplus towards SIP investments. The amount will depend on your ability to cut expenses or increase income.
To calculate the required SIP amount, you can use online SIP calculators considering factors like expected rate of return, investment horizon, and inflation rate.
Start with a manageable SIP amount and gradually increase it as your income grows or expenses reduce.
Peaceful Life:
Review your expenses regularly and prioritize savings and investments to achieve your financial goals.
Focus on creating an emergency fund to cover unforeseen expenses and protect your financial stability.
Consider consulting with a financial advisor to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your specific needs and goals.
Stay disciplined in your financial habits, avoid unnecessary debt, and invest in assets that align with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.

By carefully managing your expenses, increasing your income, and prioritizing savings and investments, you can work towards building a corpus of 1 crore by the age of 60 while leading a peaceful and financially secure life.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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I am 39 year old married we are leaving with our 7year old daughter. I have 1Cr term insurance. I have 5L office + 5L personal health Insurance. Current Cumulative (me and wife) income 135000 per month. Liabilities Home Loan 24L remained paying 21500 per month EMI. Other Loans - 225000, 10000 per month EMI. My Current detailed investment. NPS 368000/-, 6643 per month EPF 827000/-, 16000 per month Total Mutual Funds 612000/-, 7750 per month Nippon India Small cap 112000/-, 500 per month Mirae asset Larg & Mid Cap 263000/-, 3500 per month, Kotak Flexi cap Fund 142000/- , 1000per month. Prag Parekh Flexi Cap 75450/-, 1750 per month. ICICI Corporate Bond Fund 19750/-, 1000 per month. My Wife investment. Total Mutual Funds 633000/- 13500 per month. Axis Small Cap 94580/-, 1300 per month. Mirae asset Larg & Mid Cap 127000/-, 2500 per month. Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF 58390/-, 1600 per month. Axis Blue Chip 184000/-, 4500 per month. Parag Parekh Flexi cap 169000/-, 3600 per month. Sukanya Samrudhi Yojna 75000/-, 1000 per month Cumulatively we have overall Saving till now is 247500/- aprox, and current monthly investment is 44893/- Our currently Monthly expenses are around 50000/- Goals Car of 1500000/- in next 3 to 4 years. Daughters Education 1Cr after 11 years. Daughters Marriage 5000000/- After 17 years. Retirement at 58 years 2Cr life expectancy 75Years (me and wife) Please suggest if goals are reachable with current investment? Please suggest estimated goal amount will be sufficient that time? Please suggest if changes required in goal or monthly or mutual funds investment? Highly appreciated if other suggestions
Ans: You've laid out a comprehensive financial picture with clear goals and detailed investments. Let's analyze and provide insights to help you reach your objectives:

Goals Assessment:
Car Purchase: With your current monthly savings and investment capacity, you're on track to achieve this goal within the specified timeframe.
Daughter's Education: To accumulate 1 crore in 11 years, consider increasing your monthly investment in mutual funds and exploring additional avenues like education-specific investment products or child education plans.
Daughter's Marriage: To accumulate 50 lakhs in 17 years, you may need to enhance your investment contributions further. Review your asset allocation and consider higher-risk, potentially higher-return investments to accelerate growth.
Retirement: Accumulating 2 crores by age 58 seems achievable with your current investments, but it's essential to regularly review and adjust your portfolio to account for changing market conditions and evolving financial needs.
Monthly Investments and Mutual Funds:
Evaluate your current mutual fund portfolio's performance and alignment with your goals. Consider diversifying across different asset classes and fund categories to manage risk and optimize returns.
Increase your SIP amounts gradually, aiming to maximize contributions within your budget constraints. Rebalance your portfolio periodically to maintain an optimal asset allocation.
Consider consulting with a financial advisor to ensure your investment strategy aligns with your risk tolerance, time horizon, and financial goals.
Emergency Fund and Insurance:
Ensure your emergency fund is sufficient to cover at least six months' worth of living expenses. Consider enhancing it further to mitigate unforeseen financial risks effectively.
Review your insurance coverage periodically to ensure it adequately protects your family's financial well-being. Consider supplementing your term insurance coverage if necessary.
Additional Suggestions:
Explore tax-efficient investment options such as Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) to optimize tax benefits while investing for your long-term goals.
Continuously educate yourself on personal finance and investment principles to make informed decisions and adapt to changing market dynamics effectively.
Regularly reassess your financial plan and goals, making adjustments as needed to stay on track towards achieving financial independence and security.
Overall, with disciplined saving, prudent investing, and periodic review and adjustments, you're well-positioned to achieve your financial goals. Stay focused on your objectives, remain disciplined in your financial habits, and seek professional guidance when needed to navigate your financial journey successfully.

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I'm 33yrs old, My corpus is currently 52Lacs in mutual funds with monthly Sip of 1.1lac since two years, topped up whenever I get bonus or amount from different sources. Apart from this I have 50lacs worth in real estate. I want to generate corpus worth 20cr for my kids education(Next 14 and 18yrs for two kids) and retirement by 50. Is there a way to reach my goal. However, I can increase my sip by 8-10% on average every year with top up from bonus I receive quarterly.
Ans: It's commendable that you're planning ahead for your children's education and your retirement. With disciplined saving and investing, you can work towards achieving your financial goals. Here's a tailored plan to help you reach your targets:

Education Corpus for Kids:
Given your investment horizon of 14 and 18 years for your children's education, you have a significant time frame to accumulate the desired corpus.
Continue your SIPs in mutual funds, increasing them by 8-10% annually, as you mentioned. Regular and disciplined investing can help you benefit from rupee-cost averaging and the power of compounding over time.
Consider investing in a mix of equity mutual funds and diversified across different market segments to balance risk and return potential. You can adjust the asset allocation as your children approach college age to reduce risk.
Retirement Corpus:
With a retirement goal set at 50, you have approximately 17 years to build your retirement corpus.
Continue maximizing your SIP contributions and leverage top-ups from quarterly bonuses to boost your savings.
As retirement approaches, consider gradually shifting your asset allocation towards more conservative investments to preserve capital and generate stable income streams.
Explore retirement-focused investment options such as Employee Provident Fund (EPF), Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF), Public Provident Fund (PPF), and National Pension System (NPS) to supplement your mutual fund investments.
Regular Portfolio Review:
Periodically review your investment portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon.
Monitor the performance of your mutual funds and real estate investments, and make adjustments as needed to optimize returns and manage risk effectively.
Emergency Fund and Insurance:
Maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to at least six months' worth of living expenses to cover unforeseen financial emergencies.
Consider purchasing adequate life and health insurance coverage to protect your family and investments against unexpected events.
Seek Professional Advice:
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner or investment advisor to develop a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your goals and financial situation.
A professional advisor can provide personalized guidance, help you navigate investment options, and optimize your investment strategy to maximize returns and achieve your long-term objectives.
With diligent saving, disciplined investing, and prudent financial planning, you can work towards building a substantial corpus for your children's education and your retirement. Stay focused on your goals, remain disciplined in your savings and investment approach, and regularly monitor your progress towards achieving financial independence and security.

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