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Krish Question by Krish on Oct 20, 2021Hindi
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Hi,
I had been in a relationship for a few years. We broke up a year ago.
Recently, I met someone else I like through a dating app. We have met a few times and really like each other.
Now, my old girlfriend has suddenly come back in my life saying she wants to marry me.
I asked her about the break-up and she said problems are always there in life and we can work it out together.
I really like both of them. Both are nice girls. What do I do now?
Krish

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Know one thing for sure, Krish; the problems that led to your break-up? They are usually magnified after marriage!

The solution to relationship issues is never getting married or having children; those just add to the trouble a couple is already facing!

It would have helped if you had told me what reason was behind your breaking up in the first place, but with the limited information you’ve provided me, it sounds like your ex is mainly keen to get back with you because you have someone new in your life. That’s human nature.

If I were you, I’d go with the one who has my heart and who I’m compatible with.

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Past relationships may not necessarily be the same in the present. People change, situations change...
What would she get by 'observing' your belongings? I don't understand that!
If she is still unsure whether to go ahead with you or not, then you may just be another option for her to choose from. I suggest that you stop being too available to her and then watch...Allow her to feel your absence and this will make her appreciate your presence in her life. This will help her realize your value...Otherwise, just on a whim, she might decide and marry you when you never gave her a chance to know your worth!
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I don't mean to sound judgemental here...but what exactly are you stressed about? You seem to be hopping about from one relationship to another without working on things when they get stressful.
Did it occur to you that when things sour between two people that it is possible with some effort to work on things? The answer does not lie in running away and jump into the arms of another women.
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Do the right thing for yourself and your wife...take care of your marriage first before jumping into another relationship; you will only find something wrong with that as well...So, please STOP and check what exactly is happening...

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