Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |192 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 25, 2023

Kanchan Rai has 10 years of experience in therapy, nurturing soft skills and leadership coaching. She is the founder of the Let Us Talk Foundation, which offers mindfulness workshops to help people stay emotionally and mentally healthy.
Rai has a degree in leadership development and customer centricity from Harvard Business School, Boston. She is an internationally certified coach from the International Coaching Federation, a global organisation in professional coaching.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship

Hi Kanchan! I am a 36 yrs old guy married for 5 years now and we have a 2 yrs old daughter also. My wife has serious mood swings issue. When she is happy, she keeps everyone at house very happy with her jolly nature but when she gets upset, she cribs about being alone rather than having a marital setup and even threatens to leave me. This keeps me distressed and everyone at home has to daily judge her mood and act accordingly which is frustating for them also. I believe she is genuinly a good hearted person and love her too but I always remain in doubt that she will leave me one day and that thought keeps me distressed. Please guide me how to cope up with this.

Ans: Hello there,
Dealing with a partner's mood swings can be challenging, and it's understandable that you're feeling distressed Encourage her to share her feelings and concerns, and express your own thoughts as well. Healthy communication is vital for understanding each other's perspectives Suggest the idea of seeking professional help together, such as couples therapy. A trained therapist can assist in identifying the underlying issues contributing to the mood swings and offer strategies for managing themEmphasize the importance of self-care for both of you. Encourage your wife to engage in activities that bring her joy and relaxation. Additionally, make time for your own self-care to manage stress Learn more about mood swings, potential causes, and coping mechanisms. Understanding the nature of mood swings may help you approach the situation with empathy and patience Reinforce the stability and commitment in your relationship during moments of calm. Remind each other of the positive aspects of your connection to build a sense of security Explore mindfulness or relaxation techniques together. These practices can help manage stress and enhance emotional well-being.

Best wishes

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |884 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 09, 2021

Listen
Relationship
Dear madam, it’s about my daughter. She is 22, completed Msc (economics) in IIT-Kharagpur and will join job in July at Gurugram. She 2nd of two kids, son being the 1st, also an IITian, now in the US She is with us since March 2020, the longest period after 7 years. She has average intelligence and follows her brother. We never exerted any pressure but always supported her. She strives very hard to reach her goals. In that process she always experiences very tense moments. She shares all in detail with her mother (some very silly). My wife always listens patiently and extends all the required support. She also excelled in cultural activities at IIT -- was cast in a lead role in a short film which stood first in the IIT meet. She was affected by corona during which she did internship with Nomura. She cleared CFA level 1 in Dec 20 and is continuing her last semester from home. She is very much attached to the family and always insists that we live with her. At the same time, she is lazy and never inclined to share any work at home. She was and is busy with her studies then and internship now. She spends most of the day sleeping; working at night, chatting and hardly communicates pleasantries with me and her mother. We do discuss about general things. During conversations with her mother, she would shout and get upset with anything she dislikes. However she will be very normal with her friends. I worry silently but my wife is not able to be passive which is resulting in verbal duels frequently for silly or no reason. My concerns: 1. Her irregular timings – she wakes up at 1 pm,misses breakfast, lunch 2 pm, dinner 10 pm and sleeps sometime after 2 am. 2. She is not exercising. 3. She intervenes in our conversation (between me and my wife) and finds fault with the thinking of my wife. I routinely console my wife that all will be OK soon. But I find it difficult to convince her. Importantly I’ve become helpless and speechless whenever both of them indulge in verbal duels. All my attempts to pacify them are useless. My request to keep silence is not at all heeded. Both find fault with me for not supporting their points. Both are correct from their angles, however the issues are silly. Later both shower so much of love and I always wonder whether they even indulged in fierce battle a little while ago. My concern: How to handle the situation? How to make them silent? Any advice will be appreciated and followed.
Ans: Dear TVR, is it possible to make anyone silent, especially against their will?

Talking loudly or screaming at each other clearly indicates that there is a communication breakdown in that relationship. And silence cannot rebuild this.

There’s a lot of love and a lot of arguments between a mother and a daughter.

It is filled with care, worry, anxiety and a lot of love. They are well meaning but maybe the manner in which it is expressed may not be the best.

Your wife certainly wants to have a better level of communication with the daughter but do remember at age 22, she doesn’t need instructions but more of friendly suggestion; practically ‘A take it or leave it’ one.

But relinquishing this way of parenting and moving to a friendlier one takes a lot of mindset change as now you both are parenting a young lady and not a girl

Also, it would be worth an effort to know if all the studies that she is currently pursuing is not something that is for the outside world and to follow her brother but is something that she likes.

Professional competitive courses can sometimes rob a person of a holistic life leaving little time to have hobbies or a social life to enjoy. Is she under pressure? Does she like what she is studying?

A few study late into the night and a few wake up early. Whatever that is, she must maintain a better lifestyle and eat well. Not maintaining proper mealtimes can be reflective of stress also.

I suggest you and your wife have a chat/talk with her not to instruct her on what to do and what not to BUT making it casual like the three of you are on the same side and looking at the situation outside of you.

That will make her trust you both even more and it could possibly lead her to a better state of mind to tackle her studies and have a good personal life as well.

Wishing your family a wonderful connection.

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |884 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 15, 2021

Listen
Relationship
I have a strange problem at my end. My wife has a different mood, in the morning she would be fine and all of a sudden without any issue from my end then too her mood gets off and she keeps quite. When I ask her she replies saying it is nothing. This annoys me a lot. I keep quiet and this goes for 2-3 days. If her mood is ok, she will talk. I do understand that if I hurt her then her mood goes off; then it's ok. But if I have not done anything then also it happens. What should I do? We fight over past events. We are not able to close the issue and come to a solution. Currently we are not talking to each other for the last 4 months. I have 2 daughters --aged 14 and 10. i am very much worried about them.
Ans: Dear M, the lockdown has been straining on many families in terms of relationship maintenance and connecting 24/7.

Even if this is not the issue, it is imperative to understand the reason for her mood ups and downs.

Since I don't have any information on her age, if she’s in her 40s, it could hormonal also. Bringing the past can simply be a manifestation of what’s going on within her.

It is possible that she is simply exhausted from all the house-work that has surely gone up for all homemakers in the past year or so.

Give her a day off every week and offer to take care of the household chores with the help of your daughters.

They are old enough to be part of this and they maybe able to reach out to their mother faster.

Also set aside some time from your schedule as a couple to talk about the day/week and plan for some activity to do together that involves just the two of you.

Marriages after a point in time reach a plateau and needs some spice and excitement.

Taking each other or each other’s needs for granted can cause a deterioration in relationships and it helps if every individual in that relationship takes the onus of doing ‘more’, thinking ‘more’, feeling ‘more’ for the other individual.

This definitely helps recreate the relationship and you get a chance to start all over again.

Best wishes for a beautiful life.

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |884 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 29, 2021

Listen
Relationship
Dear Anu, I am married for 18 years. Have two kids, son (17) and daughter (9). My problem is that though I am in a regular job at a PSU, my wife thinks that I don't earn much. She thinks so much and get stressed which in turn gets in explosive and when it burst I cannot control myself and I get physical (manhandle) her. Due to this all fault becomes my fault and I have to apologise to her for behaviour. Apart from this she is having some kind of problem which she keeps fuming at me or anyone for that matter for anything. When I get irritated by such things she refuses that she didn't even said so. If said so, I understood it in wrong sense. I think I am having too many problems which I cannot explain here. Sometimes I think of going to psychiatrist but don't wish to go because then I will be certified as mad and thereafter all fault and problems will be due to me. If I ask her to go to psychiatrist she won't agree either. Please help how to deal such situation in this stage of life. I love her so much so there is no question of separating from her. Please feel free to ask me anything you require for giving me a response.
Ans: Dear AKB, why does money ever come into a marriage; I wonder!

Well, we do need money to keep the family running, right?

Somehow, external happenings of someone earning more can get into the marriage cropping up as comparisons.

What started as a mere seed of comparison, slowly starts to become a huge tree with fruits of poison robbing even the small successes that you might have had.

Even that seems never enough leaving you with a feeling of inadequacy.

This affects marriage compatibility and comes out as anger, sadness, violent outburst, finger pointing which is evident in your marriage.

At the same time, I am sure your wife does not really intend to hurt you with these behavioural displays.

And that’s why externalising the situation to be your fault arises and she does not want to think that her perceptions are what are causing the situation.

Either you sit her down and bring her down to facts of the matter that this is how life is going to be and this is the money is what you can bring.

If it’s still an issue and she has a hard time accepting this reality, involve an elder member from her family to communicate with her.

Show her the mirror as to how her wants are unequal to what money is coming in and how this regular chatter might be affecting the children as well.

If anyone needs professional intervention, it’s both of you going to a therapist and not a psychiatrist.

The expert can help out things into perspective where both of you can rebuild your relationship with renewed mind spaces.

Happy rebuilding!

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |884 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 08, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 05, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Dear Madam I am 36 years old and got married at 29. I have a 2year old daughter. My wife is highly impatient and always wants everyone to consider her as the centre of the universe. She has no interest in understanding peoples emotions and only cares for herself. Me and my family has no issues with this until my kid was born. After she is born, I had to devote much of my attention to my kid since my wife was very lackadaisical toward my baby. My whole energy was spent with my daughter who herself was a hyperactive kid but i do enjoy playing with her. But inspite of not understanding the fact that my whole energy is drained out by my kid, my wife starts blaming me that I am not taking care of her. What she wants is a silent husband who would silent approve of her whole nonsensical tantrums which of course i cant given the fact that my kid is growing up and i don't want her to take up these habits of her mothers. I have tried as much as possible to reason with her with patience but to no avail and my parents and relatives too after closely seeing my condition have also suggested a professional help in this regard. The fact is expect for people who are staying closely with us, no one can sense this attitude of her's and its quite difficult for others to believe when I am trying to tell them of this. Could you give me some help in this. How can I make her understand that I am not just a husband but I am a father , a son, a brother , a friend and more than that a human being.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Has you wife always been the way that you have described or has any incident given rise to this impatience and lack of reasoning?
A professional opinion may definitely be helpful in assessing what's going on and what can be done to streamline her thoughts into creating a family and a better life for herself and those around her.
Since, I don't know all the facts, I am unable to make a professional evaluation and can only work on some assumptions here.
Maybe she feels dissatisfied with being a wife and a mother and possibly wants to have a career for herself. Maybe motherhood is overwhelming for her and the responsibilities are worrying her.
Maybe she is seeking you care and attention.
Remember even a child when he/she throws a tantrum, you go deep to find the reason for it. It's never without a strong reason...So, do not dismiss what you wife might be going through. It needs to be taken care of.
In the meantime, care for yourself by making sure that you get some time off from playing the parent.
Find your ME time and indulge in your hobbies to maintain your sanity. You need to be a good kind space to be able to support your wife and child, so do what it takes to feel simple joys. So, seek professional help and NOW! Sometimes a total stranger can work wonders up...

All the best!

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |884 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 18, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2023Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi Anu! I am a 36 yrs old guy married for 5 years now and we have a 2 yrs old daughter also. My wife has serious mood swings issue. When she is happy, she keeps everyone at house very happy with her jolly nature but when she gets upset, she cribs about being alone rather than having a marital setup and even threatens to leave me. This keeps me distressed and everyone at home has to daily judge her mood and act accordingly which is frustating for them also. I believe she is genuinly a good hearted person and love her too but I always remain in doubt that she will leave me one day and that thought keeps me distressed. Please guide me how to cope up with this.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is heartwarming to know that you have observed something that might be going on with your wife and want to sort this out and help her.
Many women get into a space after a few years of marriage and motherhood where they don't feel satisfied with what they are doing, This may not have anything to do with you. It maybe just be the monotony and exhaustion of being at home and managing the child.
To infuse some energy into that monotony:
- Find someone who can stay with the child for an hour or two everyday (preferably a family member) so that your wife can step out for her Me-Time
- Try and give a break over the weekend where she can go out with her circle of friends
- Encourage her to take up some online learning course that gives her a sense of confidence
- Spend some quality time with her and go out on 'dates'

These are just suggestions that may work if the problem that she has is one of boredom of being at home. So employ these suggestions and if the challenge still exists, then you might have to look deeper.
I hope you understand that this has nothing to do with you and there is no point thinking that she might leave you. By harboring these thoughts, you are unnecessarily adding a dimension that may not exist and it will not help you help your wife.

Her threatening to leave you could simply be her way of asking for your attention and care. So, extend that even more...

All the best!

..Read more

Latest Questions
Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
Money
Hello, I am a Muslim wanting to Invest according to Shariah principle. I have a net Income of about 2 lakhs INR/month. I am 37 and looking to create a corpus of 1.5 crore by the time I am 50.. As a practicing Muslim, I want to ensure the investment is Shariah compliant. I have a strength of investing upto 50k/month and this may grow in the future too! kindly suggest what would be my best options.
Ans: Crafting a Shariah-Compliant Investment Strategy for Your Financial Objectives
In your pursuit of building a corpus of 1.5 crore by the age of 50, aligned with Shariah principles, we'll outline a tailored investment strategy leveraging various Shariah-compliant avenues and prudent financial planning.

Understanding Shariah-Compliant Investing
Core Principles of Shariah Compliance
Shariah-compliant investing emphasizes ethical and responsible investment practices, steering clear of businesses engaged in activities incompatible with Islamic teachings, such as alcohol, gambling, and interest-based transactions. It prioritizes transparency, fairness, and social responsibility.

Importance of Ethical Investing
Adhering to Shariah principles not only ensures compliance with religious beliefs but also promotes socially responsible investment practices, fostering financial growth with integrity. By investing ethically, you contribute to sustainable development and positive social impact.

Shariah-Compliant Investment Options
Islamic Mutual Funds
Invest in Islamic mutual funds that adhere to Shariah guidelines, allocating funds to companies compliant with Islamic principles, thus offering a diversified portfolio of Shariah-compliant stocks. These funds undergo rigorous screening processes to ensure adherence to Shariah principles.

Shariah-Compliant Equities
Diversify your investment portfolio with Shariah-compliant equities, selecting stocks of companies operating in permissible sectors, screened based on Shariah criteria. These criteria typically exclude businesses involved in industries such as alcohol, tobacco, and gambling.

Real Estate Investment Trusts (REITs)
Consider investing in Shariah-compliant REITs, which provide exposure to real estate assets while adhering to Islamic finance principles, offering potential rental income and capital appreciation. Shariah-compliant REITs invest in properties and assets that comply with Shariah guidelines.

Exchange-Traded Funds (ETFs)
Explore Shariah-compliant ETFs that track indices comprised of Shariah-compliant stocks, providing diversification and liquidity within a Shariah-compliant framework. These ETFs offer investors exposure to a basket of Shariah-compliant stocks across various sectors.

Wealth Accumulation Strategy
Systematic Investment Plan (SIP)
Implement a SIP approach, allocating a portion of your monthly income to Shariah-compliant investment avenues, fostering disciplined wealth accumulation over time. SIPs allow for regular and systematic investment, enabling you to benefit from rupee cost averaging and the power of compounding.

Asset Allocation and Diversification
Employ prudent asset allocation strategies, diversifying your investment portfolio across various Shariah-compliant asset classes to mitigate risk and optimize returns. A well-diversified portfolio helps spread risk and enhances the potential for long-term wealth creation.

Goal-Based Financial Planning
Defining Financial Objectives
Define clear financial goals, including the target corpus of 1.5 crore by age 50, and tailor your investment strategy to align with these objectives. Consider factors such as risk tolerance, time horizon, and liquidity requirements when crafting your financial plan.

Regular Portfolio Review
Regularly review and rebalance your investment portfolio, ensuring alignment with Shariah principles and adjusting your asset allocation as per changing market dynamics. Periodic portfolio reviews help you stay on track towards your financial goals and make necessary adjustments when required.

Seeking Professional Guidance
Consultation with Certified Financial Planners (CFPs)
Engage with Certified Financial Planners specializing in Shariah-compliant investing, seeking personalized advice to optimize your investment strategy and achieve your financial goals. A CFP can help you navigate the complexities of Shariah-compliant investing and provide tailored recommendations based on your unique circumstances.

Continuous Learning and Education
Stay informed about developments in Shariah-compliant investment options and financial planning strategies, empowering yourself to make informed investment decisions aligned with your values. Continuous learning and education are essential for staying abreast of market trends and maximizing investment opportunities.

By embracing a diversified approach to Shariah-compliant investing and seeking guidance from Certified Financial Planners, you can navigate the investment landscape with confidence and work towards realizing your financial aspirations while upholding your religious beliefs.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Moneywize

Moneywize   |108 Answers  |Ask -

Financial Planner - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi
Listen
Money
I recently graduated in my mid-20s with an entry-level job earning Rs 36 lakhs annually. How can I start building a strong financial foundation for the future, considering my current income and career stage?
Ans: Congratulations on graduating and starting your career! That's an exciting time, and with a starting salary of Rs 36 lakh, you're in a good position to build a strong financial foundation for the future. Here are some steps you can take:

1. Track your income and expenses: This is the first crucial step. Understanding where your money goes will help you identify areas to save and budget effectively. There are many budgeting apps and spreadsheets available to help you with this.

2. Create a budget: Once you've tracked your expenses for a month or two, categorise them into needs (rent, groceries, transportation), wants (entertainment, dining out), and debt repayments. Aim to allocate a higher percentage towards needs and debt repayment, and a smaller percentage towards wants.

3. Build an emergency fund: Having an emergency fund of 3-6 months' worth of living expenses will act as a safety net for unexpected events like job loss or medical bills. Aim to save at least Rs 1-2 lakh initially and gradually build it up.

4. Manage your debt: If you have any student loans or credit card debt, prioritize paying them off. High-interest debt can quickly eat away at your savings. Consider a debt snowball strategy, where you focus on paying off the smallest debt first to gain momentum.

5. Start saving for retirement: Even though retirement might seem far off, starting early allows you to benefit from compound interest. Many companies in India offer Employee Provident Fund (EPF) schemes, where a portion of your salary goes towards retirement savings. You can also explore investing in Public Provident Fund (PPF) or National Pension System (NPS) for long-term wealth creation.

6. Invest for your goals: Once you have an emergency fund and are on track with debt repayment, consider investing for your future goals. This could be anything from a down payment on a house to a dream vacation. Research different investment options like mutual funds or stocks based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon.

Additional tips for your mid-20s:

• Live below your means: Don't let lifestyle inflation creep in as your income increases.
• Focus on skill development: Invest in yourself by taking courses or certifications that can help you advance in your career and potentially increase your earning potential.
• Automate your finances: Set up automatic transfers to your savings and investment accounts to ensure consistent saving.
• Seek professional advice: Consider consulting a financial advisor for personalized guidance based on your specific financial situation and goals.

Remember, building a strong financial foundation is a marathon, not a sprint. Be patient, consistent, and disciplined with your finances, and you'll be well on your way to a secure future.

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Listen
Money
Sir, I'm 50yrs old. I earn rs 60p.m. kindly suggest low risk mutual fund so that I can get pension from ,60 yrs to 70 yrs.
Ans: Building a Low-Risk Mutual Fund Strategy for Your Retirement Pension
It's wise to plan ahead for your retirement years, and mutual funds can play a crucial role in generating a steady income stream. Let's explore a low-risk mutual fund strategy tailored to your needs.

Understanding Your Retirement Needs
Income Requirement
With a monthly income target of Rs 60,000 during your retirement years from 60 to 70, ensuring a stable and reliable income source is essential.

Risk Preference
Considering your preference for low-risk investments, prioritizing capital preservation while generating consistent returns is paramount.

Low-Risk Mutual Fund Selection Criteria
Stability
Focus on mutual funds with a history of stable performance and lower volatility, minimizing the risk of significant fluctuations in your investment value.

Consistent Returns
Prioritize funds with a track record of delivering steady returns over the long term, aligning with your goal of sustaining a reliable pension income.

Diversification
Opt for mutual funds that offer diversification across asset classes, such as a balanced mix of equity and debt securities, to mitigate risk effectively.

Recommended Mutual Fund Categories
Debt Mutual Funds
Allocate a substantial portion of your investment towards debt mutual funds, which primarily invest in fixed-income securities, providing stable returns with relatively lower risk.

Conservative Hybrid Funds
Consider conservative hybrid funds, which maintain a conservative allocation to equities while predominantly investing in debt instruments, striking a balance between growth and stability.

Short-Term Debt Funds
Explore short-term debt funds, which invest in fixed-income securities with shorter maturity periods, offering stability and liquidity while minimizing interest rate risk.

Retirement Income Strategy
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
Implement a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from your selected mutual funds, allowing you to receive a regular income stream while keeping your principal amount invested.

Regular Portfolio Review
Periodically review your mutual fund portfolio to ensure it continues to meet your income requirements and risk tolerance, making adjustments as needed.

Final Thoughts
Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor your mutual fund strategy according to your retirement goals and risk profile, ensuring a secure financial future.

By strategically allocating your investments across low-risk mutual fund categories, you can build a retirement portfolio designed to provide a steady pension income during your golden years.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
Listen
Money
Hi sir, I am 39 year old. Invested in stocks upto 1 lakh.Invested in gold for 2lakhs. Invested in ppf upto 13 lakhs and continuing it, investing in SSY upto 1lakhs from 2019 for girl child.Invested in NPS upto 1 lakh. Having term insurance for 2cr paying 3800rs per month. Having endowment policy for next 21 years. Having medical insurance upto 30 lakh sum assured having premium about 70k per year for myself, dependant and a kid. Having medical insurance sum assured upto 5 lakh each for parents having premium of 42k per year. Having a car loan of 20lakhs for next 4 years, having a personal loan of upto 4 lakhs and will end up in December. Planning for retirement corpus of 5 cr in next 15 years, and planning for child higher education for 12 years with 2 cr and marriage in next 20 years for another 2cr. Planning to buy plot in 3 years worth 75 lakhs, Which mutual fund needs to be considered to achieve these goal?
Ans: Crafting a Mutual Fund Strategy for Your Financial Goals
It's commendable that you're actively planning for your financial future. Let's outline a strategic approach using mutual funds to achieve your goals.

Assessing Financial Goals
Retirement Corpus
Your target retirement corpus of 5 crores in 15 years requires a disciplined investment strategy with a focus on long-term wealth creation.

Child's Higher Education and Marriage
For your child's education and marriage, aiming for a combined corpus of 4 crores over the next 12 and 20 years, respectively, necessitates a balanced investment approach.

Plot Purchase
Planning to buy a plot worth 75 lakhs in 3 years requires short to medium-term investment options with capital appreciation potential.

Mutual Fund Selection Criteria
Goal Horizon
Align mutual fund selections with the time horizon of each financial goal, focusing on funds with proven track records of consistent returns over the required investment duration.

Risk Appetite
Consider your risk tolerance and opt for a diversified mix of mutual funds spanning various asset classes to mitigate risk while aiming for optimal returns.

Tax Efficiency
Select mutual funds that offer tax efficiency, such as equity-linked saving schemes (ELSS), to leverage tax benefits while investing for long-term goals.

Recommended Mutual Fund Categories
Equity Mutual Funds
Allocate a significant portion of your investment towards equity mutual funds for long-term wealth accumulation, considering the growth potential of equities over time.

Debt Mutual Funds
Include debt mutual funds in your portfolio for stability and capital preservation, especially for short to medium-term goals like the plot purchase.

Hybrid Mutual Funds
Explore hybrid mutual funds, which offer a balanced mix of equity and debt exposure, suitable for investors seeking moderate risk with potentially higher returns.

Final Thoughts
Regular Portfolio Review
Periodically review your mutual fund portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance, making adjustments as necessary.

Professional Guidance
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to tailor your mutual fund investment strategy according to your unique financial circumstances and objectives.

By strategically allocating your investments across equity, debt, and hybrid mutual funds, you can work towards achieving your financial goals efficiently.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Listen
Money
Good morning sir. I am investing in SBI midcap, small cap and health care opportunities fund at the rate of Rs 10000 per month respectively and Rs 5000/- each in ICICI equity funds. Kindly suggest whether to contiue or to switch to other
Ans: It's great to see your proactive approach towards investing. Let's assess your current mutual fund investments and explore whether any adjustments are needed.

Reviewing Current Investments
Diversification Strategy
Your investment strategy reflects a diversified approach by investing in midcap, small cap, healthcare, and equity funds.

Performance Analysis
Evaluate the performance of your current funds against relevant benchmarks to gauge their effectiveness in meeting your financial goals.

Considerations for Continuation or Switching
Fund Performance
Assess the historical performance of each fund to determine if they consistently outperform their benchmarks.

Risk Appetite
Consider your risk tolerance and ensure your investment choices align with your risk appetite and financial goals.

Potential Action Steps
Consultation with a Certified Financial Planner
Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to review your investment portfolio comprehensively and ensure it aligns with your financial objectives.

Periodic Portfolio Review
Regularly review your investment portfolio to stay informed about market trends and make necessary adjustments based on changing economic conditions.

Final Recommendation
Stay Informed
Stay updated on market developments and seek professional advice when considering changes to your investment strategy.

By regularly reviewing your mutual fund portfolio and consulting with a Certified Financial Planner, you can make informed decisions to optimize your investments and work towards your financial goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
Listen
Money
Hi, I am 46. I would like to retire in the next 3 years. My current corpus is broken up as ; a. 4.8 cr in equity b. 2 cr in MF c. 1.6 cr in EPF d .8 cr in real estate e .8 cr in FD f .3 cr in jewelry. in scenario 1; my month essential expenses annualized are approx 30 lakhs and discretionary annulized expenses are 10 lakhs...in scenario 2, my essential exp are 22 lakhs and discr exp annualized at 8 lakhs. Can you help me understand what is the corpus i need on reaching which i can manage the current expenses comfortably in both scenarios. and what should the ideal swp % be in both scenarios. Thanks.
Ans: Planning for Retirement: Understanding Corpus Requirements and SWP Strategy
Congratulations on contemplating retirement! Let's delve into analyzing your current corpus and determining the ideal corpus required to comfortably manage your expenses in both scenarios, along with suggesting suitable SWP percentages.

Assessing Current Corpus Allocation
Diversified Portfolio
Your current corpus is well-diversified across various asset classes, including equity, mutual funds, EPF, real estate, FDs, and jewelry.

Analysis of Scenarios
In Scenario 1, your essential expenses are higher at 30 lakhs annually, with discretionary expenses amounting to 10 lakhs annually. In Scenario 2, essential expenses decrease to 22 lakhs annually, with discretionary expenses reduced to 8 lakhs annually.

Calculating Required Corpus
Essential Expenses Coverage
To comfortably cover essential expenses in Scenario 1, you require a corpus that can generate an annual income of 30 lakhs. Similarly, for Scenario 2, a corpus generating 22 lakhs annually is needed.

Discretionary Expenses Coverage
For discretionary expenses in Scenario 1, a corpus generating an additional 10 lakhs annually is required. In Scenario 2, this reduces to 8 lakhs annually.

Determining Ideal SWP Percentage
SWP Strategy
Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs) allow you to withdraw a fixed amount regularly from your investment corpus. The SWP percentage depends on various factors such as expected returns, inflation, and investment duration.

Considerations for SWP Percentage
Expected Returns: Higher expected returns may allow for a lower SWP percentage, while lower returns necessitate a higher SWP percentage to meet expenses.

Inflation: Consider the impact of inflation on your expenses and adjust the SWP percentage accordingly to ensure sustained purchasing power.

Final Recommendations
Required Corpus
Based on your essential and discretionary expense calculations, you require a corpus that generates 30 lakhs annually for Scenario 1 and 22 lakhs annually for Scenario 2.

SWP Percentage
The ideal SWP percentage will vary based on factors such as expected returns, inflation, and investment duration. A conservative estimate would be to target an SWP percentage that ensures the preservation of your corpus while meeting your annual expense requirements.

Conclusion
By analyzing your current corpus, understanding your expense scenarios, and considering SWP strategies, you can effectively plan for retirement and ensure financial security in your post-retirement years. It's advisable to consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to tailor a retirement plan that aligns with your goals and financial objectives.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Listen
Money
Hello I want to invest monthly 7000 , how much amount can I get return and which sip will be buy? Can you suggest. When I return total amount from mutual funds then tax would be deducted on total amount return and what is percentage.
Ans: Maximizing Returns Through Systematic Investment Planning (SIP)
Investing through Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs) can be an effective way to achieve your financial goals while benefiting from the power of compounding. Let's explore how you can optimize your investment of Rs 7000 per month through SIPs and understand the tax implications upon redemption.

Assessing Investment Returns
Expected Returns
With a monthly investment of Rs 7000, the returns generated will depend on various factors such as the chosen mutual fund's performance, investment duration, and market conditions. Generally, mutual funds offer potential returns ranging from 8% to 12% per annum over the long term.

Selecting SIPs
Choose mutual fund schemes that align with your investment objectives, risk tolerance, and time horizon. Opt for diversified equity funds or balanced funds with a proven track record of consistent returns and prudent fund management.

Understanding Taxation on Mutual Fund Returns
Tax on Redemption
Upon redeeming your mutual fund investments, the tax implications vary based on the holding period and the type of mutual fund.

Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG)
For equity-oriented mutual funds held for more than one year, long-term capital gains exceeding Rs 1 lakh in a financial year are subject to a flat tax rate of 10% without indexation benefit.

Short-Term Capital Gains (STCG)
Short-term capital gains on equity-oriented mutual funds held for one year or less are taxed at a rate of 15%.

Estimating Tax Liability
Calculation Example
Suppose your total redemption amount from mutual funds exceeds Rs 1 lakh in a financial year. In that case, you will be liable to pay 10% tax on the long-term capital gains exceeding Rs 1 lakh. For short-term gains, the tax rate is 15%.

Consultation with a Tax Advisor
It's advisable to consult with a tax advisor or Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to accurately assess your tax liability based on your investment portfolio and financial circumstances. They can provide personalized guidance and strategies to minimize tax outflows legally.

Conclusion
By investing Rs 7000 monthly through SIPs in suitable mutual fund schemes, you can potentially achieve attractive returns over time, leveraging the benefits of compounding. However, it's crucial to remain cognizant of the tax implications upon redemption and plan your investments strategically to optimize after-tax returns.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |2799 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
Listen
Money
We (me and my wife 37 yrs each) have a corpus of 1.82 Cr spread across 23 lacs in PPF, 22 lacs in EPF, 1 lac in MF, 50k in Stock and rest 1.35 cr in FDs. Now recently started investing in MFs (35k per month). Currently both are earning sum of 3.5 lacs per month with no liability with only fixed expenses of 60k per month. Kindly advise to grow our fund at a faster rate, as we are planning to retire early by 45 years of age, Thx
Ans: Accelerating Wealth Growth for Early Retirement
Congratulations on your prudent financial management and proactive approach to early retirement planning. Let's explore strategies to optimize your investment portfolio and expedite wealth accumulation to achieve your goal of retiring by age 45.

Assessing Current Financial Position
Strong Foundation
You've established a solid financial foundation with a diverse portfolio comprising PPF, EPF, MFs, stocks, and FDs, coupled with a healthy combined monthly income and minimal fixed expenses.

Potential for Growth
While your current investments provide stability, there's room to enhance wealth growth by leveraging strategic investment avenues and optimizing asset allocation.

Enhancing Investment Strategy
Maximizing Equity Exposure
Consider increasing allocation towards equity-based investments, such as mutual funds and direct stocks, to capitalize on their long-term growth potential and generate higher returns compared to traditional fixed-income instruments.

Systematic Investment Approach
Continue your disciplined approach to investing by allocating a substantial portion of your monthly savings towards mutual funds, aiming for a diversified portfolio that aligns with your risk tolerance and investment goals.

Exploring Alternative Investment Avenues
Exploring Opportunities
Diversify your investment portfolio further by exploring alternative investment avenues like debt funds, gold ETFs, or systematic investment plans (SIPs) in thematic funds to mitigate risk and optimize returns.

Tax-Efficient Strategies
Optimize tax efficiency by utilizing tax-saving investment instruments like Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) and Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) contributions to maximize tax deductions while simultaneously growing your wealth.

Regular Portfolio Review and Rebalancing
Ongoing Monitoring
Regularly review your investment portfolio's performance and make necessary adjustments to ensure alignment with your financial objectives and risk appetite.

Rebalancing Strategy
Implement a disciplined rebalancing strategy to reallocate assets periodically and maintain the desired asset allocation mix, ensuring optimal risk-adjusted returns and portfolio stability.

Financial Planning for Retirement
Comprehensive Retirement Planning
Engage the services of a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to develop a comprehensive retirement plan tailored to your specific needs, incorporating factors like inflation, healthcare costs, and lifestyle preferences.

Retirement Corpus Projection
Utilize retirement calculators and financial modeling tools to project the required corpus for early retirement and determine the optimal savings rate and investment strategy to achieve this goal within the desired timeframe.

Conclusion
By adopting a proactive and strategic approach to wealth management, coupled with disciplined savings and prudent investment decisions, you can accelerate wealth growth and realize your aspiration of early retirement by age 45. Remember to seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to navigate complex financial decisions effectively and ensure long-term financial security.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x