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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2023Hindi
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Hi Kanchan! I am a 36 yrs old guy married for 5 years now and we have a 2 yrs old daughter also. My wife has serious mood swings issue. When she is happy, she keeps everyone at house very happy with her jolly nature but when she gets upset, she cribs about being alone rather than having a marital setup and even threatens to leave me. This keeps me distressed and everyone at home has to daily judge her mood and act accordingly which is frustating for them also. I believe she is genuinly a good hearted person and love her too but I always remain in doubt that she will leave me one day and that thought keeps me distressed. Please guide me how to cope up with this.

Ans: Hello there,
Dealing with a partner's mood swings can be challenging, and it's understandable that you're feeling distressed Encourage her to share her feelings and concerns, and express your own thoughts as well. Healthy communication is vital for understanding each other's perspectives Suggest the idea of seeking professional help together, such as couples therapy. A trained therapist can assist in identifying the underlying issues contributing to the mood swings and offer strategies for managing themEmphasize the importance of self-care for both of you. Encourage your wife to engage in activities that bring her joy and relaxation. Additionally, make time for your own self-care to manage stress Learn more about mood swings, potential causes, and coping mechanisms. Understanding the nature of mood swings may help you approach the situation with empathy and patience Reinforce the stability and commitment in your relationship during moments of calm. Remind each other of the positive aspects of your connection to build a sense of security Explore mindfulness or relaxation techniques together. These practices can help manage stress and enhance emotional well-being.

Best wishes

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Dear madam, it’s about my daughter. She is 22, completed Msc (economics) in IIT-Kharagpur and will join job in July at Gurugram. She 2nd of two kids, son being the 1st, also an IITian, now in the US She is with us since March 2020, the longest period after 7 years. She has average intelligence and follows her brother. We never exerted any pressure but always supported her. She strives very hard to reach her goals. In that process she always experiences very tense moments. She shares all in detail with her mother (some very silly). My wife always listens patiently and extends all the required support. She also excelled in cultural activities at IIT -- was cast in a lead role in a short film which stood first in the IIT meet. She was affected by corona during which she did internship with Nomura. She cleared CFA level 1 in Dec 20 and is continuing her last semester from home. She is very much attached to the family and always insists that we live with her. At the same time, she is lazy and never inclined to share any work at home. She was and is busy with her studies then and internship now. She spends most of the day sleeping; working at night, chatting and hardly communicates pleasantries with me and her mother. We do discuss about general things. During conversations with her mother, she would shout and get upset with anything she dislikes. However she will be very normal with her friends. I worry silently but my wife is not able to be passive which is resulting in verbal duels frequently for silly or no reason. My concerns: 1. Her irregular timings – she wakes up at 1 pm,misses breakfast, lunch 2 pm, dinner 10 pm and sleeps sometime after 2 am. 2. She is not exercising. 3. She intervenes in our conversation (between me and my wife) and finds fault with the thinking of my wife. I routinely console my wife that all will be OK soon. But I find it difficult to convince her. Importantly I’ve become helpless and speechless whenever both of them indulge in verbal duels. All my attempts to pacify them are useless. My request to keep silence is not at all heeded. Both find fault with me for not supporting their points. Both are correct from their angles, however the issues are silly. Later both shower so much of love and I always wonder whether they even indulged in fierce battle a little while ago. My concern: How to handle the situation? How to make them silent? Any advice will be appreciated and followed.
Ans: Dear TVR, is it possible to make anyone silent, especially against their will?

Talking loudly or screaming at each other clearly indicates that there is a communication breakdown in that relationship. And silence cannot rebuild this.

There’s a lot of love and a lot of arguments between a mother and a daughter.

It is filled with care, worry, anxiety and a lot of love. They are well meaning but maybe the manner in which it is expressed may not be the best.

Your wife certainly wants to have a better level of communication with the daughter but do remember at age 22, she doesn’t need instructions but more of friendly suggestion; practically ‘A take it or leave it’ one.

But relinquishing this way of parenting and moving to a friendlier one takes a lot of mindset change as now you both are parenting a young lady and not a girl

Also, it would be worth an effort to know if all the studies that she is currently pursuing is not something that is for the outside world and to follow her brother but is something that she likes.

Professional competitive courses can sometimes rob a person of a holistic life leaving little time to have hobbies or a social life to enjoy. Is she under pressure? Does she like what she is studying?

A few study late into the night and a few wake up early. Whatever that is, she must maintain a better lifestyle and eat well. Not maintaining proper mealtimes can be reflective of stress also.

I suggest you and your wife have a chat/talk with her not to instruct her on what to do and what not to BUT making it casual like the three of you are on the same side and looking at the situation outside of you.

That will make her trust you both even more and it could possibly lead her to a better state of mind to tackle her studies and have a good personal life as well.

Wishing your family a wonderful connection.

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I have a strange problem at my end. My wife has a different mood, in the morning she would be fine and all of a sudden without any issue from my end then too her mood gets off and she keeps quite. When I ask her she replies saying it is nothing. This annoys me a lot. I keep quiet and this goes for 2-3 days. If her mood is ok, she will talk. I do understand that if I hurt her then her mood goes off; then it's ok. But if I have not done anything then also it happens. What should I do? We fight over past events. We are not able to close the issue and come to a solution. Currently we are not talking to each other for the last 4 months. I have 2 daughters --aged 14 and 10. i am very much worried about them.
Ans: Dear M, the lockdown has been straining on many families in terms of relationship maintenance and connecting 24/7.

Even if this is not the issue, it is imperative to understand the reason for her mood ups and downs.

Since I don't have any information on her age, if she’s in her 40s, it could hormonal also. Bringing the past can simply be a manifestation of what’s going on within her.

It is possible that she is simply exhausted from all the house-work that has surely gone up for all homemakers in the past year or so.

Give her a day off every week and offer to take care of the household chores with the help of your daughters.

They are old enough to be part of this and they maybe able to reach out to their mother faster.

Also set aside some time from your schedule as a couple to talk about the day/week and plan for some activity to do together that involves just the two of you.

Marriages after a point in time reach a plateau and needs some spice and excitement.

Taking each other or each other’s needs for granted can cause a deterioration in relationships and it helps if every individual in that relationship takes the onus of doing ‘more’, thinking ‘more’, feeling ‘more’ for the other individual.

This definitely helps recreate the relationship and you get a chance to start all over again.

Best wishes for a beautiful life.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 29, 2021

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Dear Anu, I am married for 18 years. Have two kids, son (17) and daughter (9). My problem is that though I am in a regular job at a PSU, my wife thinks that I don't earn much. She thinks so much and get stressed which in turn gets in explosive and when it burst I cannot control myself and I get physical (manhandle) her. Due to this all fault becomes my fault and I have to apologise to her for behaviour. Apart from this she is having some kind of problem which she keeps fuming at me or anyone for that matter for anything. When I get irritated by such things she refuses that she didn't even said so. If said so, I understood it in wrong sense. I think I am having too many problems which I cannot explain here. Sometimes I think of going to psychiatrist but don't wish to go because then I will be certified as mad and thereafter all fault and problems will be due to me. If I ask her to go to psychiatrist she won't agree either. Please help how to deal such situation in this stage of life. I love her so much so there is no question of separating from her. Please feel free to ask me anything you require for giving me a response.
Ans: Dear AKB, why does money ever come into a marriage; I wonder!

Well, we do need money to keep the family running, right?

Somehow, external happenings of someone earning more can get into the marriage cropping up as comparisons.

What started as a mere seed of comparison, slowly starts to become a huge tree with fruits of poison robbing even the small successes that you might have had.

Even that seems never enough leaving you with a feeling of inadequacy.

This affects marriage compatibility and comes out as anger, sadness, violent outburst, finger pointing which is evident in your marriage.

At the same time, I am sure your wife does not really intend to hurt you with these behavioural displays.

And that’s why externalising the situation to be your fault arises and she does not want to think that her perceptions are what are causing the situation.

Either you sit her down and bring her down to facts of the matter that this is how life is going to be and this is the money is what you can bring.

If it’s still an issue and she has a hard time accepting this reality, involve an elder member from her family to communicate with her.

Show her the mirror as to how her wants are unequal to what money is coming in and how this regular chatter might be affecting the children as well.

If anyone needs professional intervention, it’s both of you going to a therapist and not a psychiatrist.

The expert can help out things into perspective where both of you can rebuild your relationship with renewed mind spaces.

Happy rebuilding!

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 05, 2023Hindi
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Dear Madam I am 36 years old and got married at 29. I have a 2year old daughter. My wife is highly impatient and always wants everyone to consider her as the centre of the universe. She has no interest in understanding peoples emotions and only cares for herself. Me and my family has no issues with this until my kid was born. After she is born, I had to devote much of my attention to my kid since my wife was very lackadaisical toward my baby. My whole energy was spent with my daughter who herself was a hyperactive kid but i do enjoy playing with her. But inspite of not understanding the fact that my whole energy is drained out by my kid, my wife starts blaming me that I am not taking care of her. What she wants is a silent husband who would silent approve of her whole nonsensical tantrums which of course i cant given the fact that my kid is growing up and i don't want her to take up these habits of her mothers. I have tried as much as possible to reason with her with patience but to no avail and my parents and relatives too after closely seeing my condition have also suggested a professional help in this regard. The fact is expect for people who are staying closely with us, no one can sense this attitude of her's and its quite difficult for others to believe when I am trying to tell them of this. Could you give me some help in this. How can I make her understand that I am not just a husband but I am a father , a son, a brother , a friend and more than that a human being.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Has you wife always been the way that you have described or has any incident given rise to this impatience and lack of reasoning?
A professional opinion may definitely be helpful in assessing what's going on and what can be done to streamline her thoughts into creating a family and a better life for herself and those around her.
Since, I don't know all the facts, I am unable to make a professional evaluation and can only work on some assumptions here.
Maybe she feels dissatisfied with being a wife and a mother and possibly wants to have a career for herself. Maybe motherhood is overwhelming for her and the responsibilities are worrying her.
Maybe she is seeking you care and attention.
Remember even a child when he/she throws a tantrum, you go deep to find the reason for it. It's never without a strong reason...So, do not dismiss what you wife might be going through. It needs to be taken care of.
In the meantime, care for yourself by making sure that you get some time off from playing the parent.
Find your ME time and indulge in your hobbies to maintain your sanity. You need to be a good kind space to be able to support your wife and child, so do what it takes to feel simple joys. So, seek professional help and NOW! Sometimes a total stranger can work wonders up...

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 25, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu! I am a 36 yrs old guy married for 5 years now and we have a 2 yrs old daughter also. My wife has serious mood swings issue. When she is happy, she keeps everyone at house very happy with her jolly nature but when she gets upset, she cribs about being alone rather than having a marital setup and even threatens to leave me. This keeps me distressed and everyone at home has to daily judge her mood and act accordingly which is frustating for them also. I believe she is genuinly a good hearted person and love her too but I always remain in doubt that she will leave me one day and that thought keeps me distressed. Please guide me how to cope up with this.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is heartwarming to know that you have observed something that might be going on with your wife and want to sort this out and help her.
Many women get into a space after a few years of marriage and motherhood where they don't feel satisfied with what they are doing, This may not have anything to do with you. It maybe just be the monotony and exhaustion of being at home and managing the child.
To infuse some energy into that monotony:
- Find someone who can stay with the child for an hour or two everyday (preferably a family member) so that your wife can step out for her Me-Time
- Try and give a break over the weekend where she can go out with her circle of friends
- Encourage her to take up some online learning course that gives her a sense of confidence
- Spend some quality time with her and go out on 'dates'

These are just suggestions that may work if the problem that she has is one of boredom of being at home. So employ these suggestions and if the challenge still exists, then you might have to look deeper.
I hope you understand that this has nothing to do with you and there is no point thinking that she might leave you. By harboring these thoughts, you are unnecessarily adding a dimension that may not exist and it will not help you help your wife.

Her threatening to leave you could simply be her way of asking for your attention and care. So, extend that even more...

All the best!

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Thank you for your question about investing in gold and mutual funds. Both of these investment options have their merits, but they work differently and suit different financial goals. Let's explore how they can potentially deliver returns.
1. Gold as an Investment
• Potential Returns: Historically, gold has been seen as a hedge against inflation and currency fluctuations. Over the long term, gold prices tend to rise, but the growth is usually moderate compared to equity-based investments. In the last decade, gold has provided returns averaging 6-8% per year. However, in times of economic uncertainty (like during the pandemic), gold prices surged due to its status as a safe-haven asset.
• Volatility: While gold is a relatively stable investment during periods of economic distress, its prices can be volatile in the short term. It's best suited for long-term portfolios or when you want to diversify and protect your investments from inflation.
• Forms of Gold Investment:
o Physical Gold (Jewelry, Coins, Bars): This involves storage and making charges.
o Gold ETFs or Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): These are better options for investment, offering ease of trading, tax benefits, and interest on SGBs.
2. Mutual Funds as an Investment
• Potential Returns: Mutual funds, especially equity mutual funds, can offer much higher returns than gold over the long term. Over the last 10-15 years, equity mutual funds have provided average returns of 10-15% per annum, depending on the market conditions and the type of mutual fund.
o Equity Mutual Funds have higher growth potential but come with greater risk. These funds invest in stocks of companies, and their performance is directly linked to the stock market.
o Debt Mutual Funds are safer and provide more stable returns (typically 6-8%) but with less growth potential compared to equity funds.
• SIP (Systematic Investment Plan): One of the most popular ways to invest in mutual funds is through SIPs. This method helps mitigate risk through rupee-cost averaging and can lead to substantial returns if done consistently over the long term.
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• Short-Term Perspective: Gold might offer stability in the short term, but mutual funds, especially equity funds, generally outperform gold when it comes to growth over the long term.
• Long-Term Perspective: Mutual funds, particularly equity mutual funds, are more likely to deliver higher returns over time. Gold can be a good hedge and part of a diversified portfolio, but it's less likely to deliver substantial returns by itself.
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• Diversification: It’s a good idea to diversify your investments between mutual funds and gold. You could allocate a portion of your portfolio (e.g., 10-15%) to gold for safety, while the majority can be invested in mutual funds to maximize growth.
• Risk Profile: If you’re comfortable with market fluctuations, equity mutual funds could be a better choice for high returns. If you prefer safety, a combination of debt mutual funds and gold might be a better strategy.
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 09, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I have net salary of 2.7L per month and am 46 year old with 2 children aged 12 and 6. I have a EPF+PPF corpus of 65 lakhs , NPS 5 lakhs, 1CR in MF portfolio, invest 50k monthly (Which is on Hold currently) in MF SIPs. I own a house 65L(loan free) & another house 2CR have outstanding loans of 1CR. I have family floater medical insurance with 20L coverage and life cover for 1Cr. I wish to retire by age of 55 - pls advise how much corpus do I need at hand to retire. Consider my monthly expense as 1L
Ans: You are 46 years old with a net salary of Rs. 2.7 lakh per month. You have two children, aged 12 and 6, and a current corpus of Rs. 65 lakh in EPF and PPF, Rs. 5 lakh in NPS, and Rs. 1 crore in your mutual fund portfolio. Additionally, you own two properties, one valued at Rs. 65 lakh (loan-free) and another valued at Rs. 2 crore, with an outstanding loan of Rs. 1 crore. Your current monthly expenses are Rs. 1 lakh, and you have paused your monthly SIP of Rs. 50,000. You also hold a life insurance cover worth Rs. 1 crore and a family floater medical insurance with Rs. 20 lakh coverage.

You plan to retire by the age of 55, which gives you approximately nine years to build a sufficient corpus. Let's explore how much you need to comfortably retire while sustaining your current lifestyle.

Estimating Your Retirement Corpus
To determine your retirement corpus, we need to consider several factors:

Current monthly expenses: Rs. 1 lakh
Retirement age: 55
Post-retirement years: Assuming life expectancy of 85 years, you need to plan for 30 years post-retirement.
Inflation rate: An assumed inflation rate of 6% per year is a reasonable estimate for the future.
Growth rate of investments: Typically, diversified equity mutual funds have delivered around 10-12% returns over the long term.
Based on these factors, your current monthly expenses will increase due to inflation, and you need a corpus that generates enough to cover these rising costs. Since your expenses are Rs. 1 lakh today, they could double or triple over time. Your corpus should be able to sustain this without depleting prematurely.

Breakup of Current Assets
EPF & PPF (Rs. 65 lakh): These are stable, low-risk assets that will help you post-retirement but won't generate high returns.

NPS (Rs. 5 lakh): Provides tax benefits and is specifically designed for retirement savings. It will grow over time but is not highly flexible for withdrawals until retirement age.

Mutual Funds (Rs. 1 crore): This is an excellent foundation for your retirement plan. Equity mutual funds, in particular, have the potential to grow at a faster rate and combat inflation.

Real Estate (Rs. 65 lakh + Rs. 2 crore): While real estate holds value, its liquidity is limited. The house you live in does not contribute to your retirement corpus unless you plan to downsize. The second house has a loan of Rs. 1 crore, and the EMIs for this property must be factored into your pre-retirement cash flows.

Life Insurance (Rs. 1 crore): While it’s important for your family’s protection, this doesn’t contribute to your retirement corpus.

Estimating Your Future Monthly Expenses
Your current monthly expense is Rs. 1 lakh, but due to inflation, this figure will increase. Let’s assume the inflation rate remains at 6%. By the time you retire at 55, your monthly expenses will likely double or triple, reaching anywhere between Rs. 1.7 lakh to Rs. 2 lakh per month. Your retirement corpus should be large enough to generate this amount without running out of funds.

In addition, you’ll have to account for:

Healthcare costs: As you age, medical expenses tend to rise. Even though you have Rs. 20 lakh family floater insurance, post-retirement medical costs not covered by insurance should be factored in.

Educational expenses: Your children’s education could be a significant expense over the next 10 to 15 years.

Corpus Required for Comfortable Retirement
To maintain your current lifestyle, you would need a corpus that generates at least Rs. 2 lakh per month during retirement. Based on a withdrawal rate of 4%, which is commonly used to ensure the corpus lasts for the entirety of your retirement, you’ll need a retirement corpus of approximately Rs. 6 to 7 crore.

This corpus will ensure that you can comfortably cover your rising living expenses, healthcare, and other unforeseen costs without depleting your savings.

Recommendations to Achieve the Corpus
Here’s a detailed plan to help you achieve your target of Rs. 6 to 7 crore before retirement:

1. Resume Your SIP Investments
Restart your monthly SIP of Rs. 50,000 immediately. This is crucial, as equity mutual funds can provide the high returns needed to meet your retirement goal.

Consider increasing your SIP contribution each year in line with salary increments. This will accelerate your corpus growth and help you fight inflation more effectively.

2. Focus on Equity Mutual Funds
Given your long-term horizon (9 years until retirement), equity mutual funds remain the best investment option to grow your wealth. These funds have historically provided higher returns (10-12% CAGR), which will be essential for building your retirement corpus.

Ensure your portfolio is diversified across large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap mutual funds for balanced growth and risk.

3. Debt Repayment Strategy
You currently have an outstanding home loan of Rs. 1 crore. It’s advisable to clear this debt as early as possible. Carrying such a large debt into retirement can strain your finances.

Use a portion of your liquid assets, such as your mutual fund corpus or any bonuses, to reduce the loan burden gradually. This will free up cash flow and allow you to focus more on building your retirement fund.

4. Maximize Your EPF & PPF Contributions
Continue contributing to your EPF and PPF accounts. While the returns from these are modest, they are low-risk and provide tax-free returns, making them ideal for post-retirement stability.

As PPF matures, consider reinvesting the proceeds into equity mutual funds to capitalize on higher returns.

5. Increase Contributions to NPS
Your NPS balance is currently Rs. 5 lakh. Increase your contributions to this as it provides excellent tax benefits and is tailored for retirement.

NPS is also one of the few products where withdrawals are partially tax-free. Increasing contributions now will give you a more substantial corpus in the future.

6. Prioritize Children’s Education
Plan separately for your children’s education expenses. You might want to use specific child education funds or a combination of mutual funds for this.

Avoid dipping into your retirement savings for education purposes. Set clear boundaries between these two financial goals.

Final Insights
At 46, you are well-positioned financially, but pausing your SIP investments and holding onto a large loan could hinder your retirement plans. Restart your investments and focus on paying off your loan as soon as possible. By maintaining discipline and increasing your contributions to SIPs, NPS, and PPF, you should comfortably achieve your retirement corpus of Rs. 6 to 7 crore. Prioritize growth-oriented investments like equity mutual funds, and continue evaluating your portfolio annually to ensure it aligns with your retirement goals.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Sep 09, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 03, 2024Hindi
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Hello Mr. Ramalingam Good morning. I'm 47 years old, my wife is at 40 and one daughter studying in 8th std. I have an investement in MF worth of 1.8 cr, ULIP of 20 lakhs, Direct equity of 5 lakhs, 1 cr term insurance, 5 lakhs LIC, 30 lakhs FD. Monthly SIP of 65 k in different MF's, accumulated EPF of 40 lakhs, 10 lakhs super annuatation fund. Invested in plot worth of 1 cr and farm land worth of 1.5 cr. No house and no loan. Would like retire by 55 years with monthly income of 2 lakhs / month from investment. Kindly suggest how I can make my finanical plan. Thanks
Ans: Based on your current financial situation and your goal of retiring at 55 with a monthly income of Rs. 2 lakhs, we need to assess your existing investments, future requirements, and how to bridge any gaps in your retirement plan.

Assets You Already Have
You have built a solid foundation of investments, which is impressive. Let’s break down your current assets:

Mutual Fund portfolio: Rs. 1.8 crore
ULIP: Rs. 20 lakhs
Direct equity: Rs. 5 lakhs
Term Insurance: Rs. 1 crore (sufficient for family protection)
LIC: Rs. 5 lakhs (Could be better allocated elsewhere)
Fixed Deposit: Rs. 30 lakhs
EPF: Rs. 40 lakhs
Superannuation Fund: Rs. 10 lakhs
Real Estate Investments: Plot (Rs. 1 crore) and farmland (Rs. 1.5 crore)
Your current SIP of Rs. 65,000 monthly in mutual funds is a good strategy for wealth accumulation.

Assessing Your Retirement Goal
You wish to have Rs. 2 lakhs per month as retirement income starting at 55. Considering inflation, your future expenses will likely be higher than Rs. 2 lakhs, which we must account for in your financial plan. Assuming you retire at 55 and live till 85, your investments need to generate returns for 30 years.

Evaluating Existing Investments
1. Mutual Funds:
Your current MF portfolio of Rs. 1.8 crore is a major asset. Continue with your SIPs to grow this corpus.
You might consider reviewing your fund allocations to ensure diversification across large-cap, mid-cap, and debt funds for stability and growth. Ensure these are actively managed funds, as they typically perform better than index funds over time.
2. ULIP:
ULIPs often have high charges and offer lower returns compared to mutual funds. It would be wise to surrender this policy and reinvest the Rs. 20 lakhs into mutual funds. This will offer better long-term growth for retirement.
3. Direct Equity:
Direct equity investments, while rewarding, are risky, especially as you approach retirement. It’s advisable to either reduce exposure to individual stocks or move to safer large-cap funds or balanced funds to ensure stability.
4. Fixed Deposit:
Rs. 30 lakhs in FD is a safe bet, but it yields lower returns. Consider using a portion of this for debt mutual funds, which offer slightly better returns and are tax-efficient.
5. LIC:
The Rs. 5 lakhs in LIC should be reconsidered, as insurance-based investment products are typically low-yielding. It’s better to surrender and reinvest this in mutual funds or safer investment options that offer higher returns.
6. Real Estate:
Your plot and farmland, though valuable, are illiquid assets. Real estate cannot generate a regular retirement income unless sold or rented out. Ideally, you should not rely on these for monthly income during retirement. Focus on liquid investments that can generate steady cash flow.
Plan for Retirement Income
Here’s how you can plan to generate Rs. 2 lakhs per month during retirement:

1. Continue Your SIPs:
Your monthly SIP of Rs. 65,000 is a good practice. If you can increase this slightly over the next few years, it will help you build a larger corpus for retirement. Aim to have at least Rs. 5-6 crore in liquid assets by the time you retire.
2. Shift to More Conservative Funds Closer to Retirement:
As you approach retirement, gradually move some of your equity-heavy investments into safer debt funds or balanced funds to preserve capital and reduce market risk.
3. Utilize the EPF and Superannuation Fund:
Your Rs. 40 lakhs in EPF and Rs. 10 lakhs in superannuation fund will continue to grow. Do not withdraw this early; allow it to accumulate till your retirement for a sizeable corpus that can act as a fixed-income generator.
4. Create an Income Stream with SWP:
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from mutual funds will help you generate a monthly income after retirement. This is tax-efficient and can provide you with the Rs. 2 lakhs you desire. You can gradually withdraw from your mutual fund corpus post-retirement, ensuring your capital lasts for 30 years.
5. Review and Increase Insurance:
Your current term insurance of Rs. 1 crore is adequate for now. Ensure you have it in place till your retirement to protect your family in case of any unforeseen events. No need for further investment in insurance-based products like ULIPs or LIC.
Things to Keep in Mind
Inflation Protection: Rs. 2 lakhs per month today will not hold the same value in the future due to inflation. Plan to increase your SIP amounts and grow your corpus to account for this.

Healthcare Costs: As you age, healthcare expenses might rise. Ensure that your health insurance coverage is sufficient, or consider top-up plans to enhance your coverage.

Reassess Regularly: Financial planning is not a one-time activity. Review your portfolio annually to ensure you are on track and make adjustments based on changing market conditions or personal goals.

Final Insights
You are in a strong financial position and well on your way to a comfortable retirement. However, small changes like surrendering low-return policies and enhancing your mutual fund portfolio can make a significant difference. Focus on building a larger liquid corpus by continuing your SIPs and shifting towards income-generating assets as you near retirement.

Stay disciplined with your investments, and you will likely achieve your retirement goal of Rs. 2 lakhs monthly without financial stress.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Sir, I have both Mirae asset Large and Mid cap fund with sip + Mirae asset Large cap fund (sip stopped) Can I make STP or complete SWITCH from Mirae asset large cap fund to Mirae asset large and Mid cap fund. ? is it advisable
Ans: Switching or making a Systematic Transfer Plan (STP) from Mirae Asset Large Cap Fund to Mirae Asset Large and Mid Cap Fund can be considered based on your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment strategy.

Factors to Consider:
1. Portfolio Diversification:
Large Cap Fund: Primarily invests in the top 100 companies, which are considered stable and less volatile. It is ideal for those seeking steady returns with relatively lower risk.
Large and Mid Cap Fund: Combines both large-cap (safer, stable) and mid-cap (higher growth potential but riskier) stocks. This offers a balanced approach, with more room for growth but with a bit more risk.
If your goal is to increase exposure to mid-cap stocks for potentially higher growth, an STP or switch to the Large and Mid Cap Fund makes sense. This fund offers a more diversified approach while still having a safety net of large-cap investments.

2. Investment Time Horizon:
Large and mid-cap funds tend to perform better in the long term (5+ years), as mid-caps may take time to realize their full growth potential. If your investment horizon is shorter, sticking with a large-cap fund may be preferable.
3. Risk Appetite:
Mid-cap stocks have higher growth potential but come with increased volatility. If you are comfortable with short-term fluctuations for long-term gains, an STP into the large and mid-cap fund could align with your goals.
4. Performance Track Record:
Both funds from Mirae Asset have strong reputations, but large-cap funds offer more consistent returns with lower downside risks during market corrections. You may want to assess the historical performance and volatility of both funds to see which fits your strategy better.
Why Use STP Instead of a Lump Sum Switch?
Tax Efficiency: An STP allows you to move funds gradually, spreading out tax implications and avoiding a large one-time exit load or capital gains tax.
Risk Mitigation: Instead of moving all your funds at once, an STP reduces the risk of entering at a high point in the market.
Consistent Investment: You continue investing in a disciplined manner, benefiting from rupee cost averaging.
Final Insight:
If your risk profile supports it, and your goal is long-term wealth creation, a STP from Mirae Asset Large Cap Fund to Mirae Asset Large and Mid Cap Fund can be a good option. This allows you to diversify your portfolio while retaining some stability through large-cap exposure.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

...Read more

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