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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 06, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 06, 2025Hindi
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Hye, I am Raj Good evening Ma'am, I am very terrified to get married, cause my body is fully hairy, so I am afraid about it that if my partner neglect to me for my unwanted body hair. I need some suggestions about whether I need to marry or not.

Ans: Good evening, Raj.

It's understandable that you're feeling anxious about your body hair and how it might affect your future relationship. It's important to remember that every person has unique physical traits, and what truly matters in a relationship goes far beyond physical appearance.

First, self-acceptance is key. Embracing your body and its natural characteristics can boost your confidence and make you feel more comfortable in your own skin. Confidence often makes a significant difference in how others perceive you. If your body hair is something you feel strongly about, there are options for managing it, but it's essential to make any changes for yourself, not just to meet someone else's expectations.

When it comes to marriage, mutual respect, love, and understanding are the foundation of a strong relationship. A loving partner will accept you for who you are, including your physical traits. It's also crucial to communicate openly with your future partner about your feelings and concerns. This openness helps build trust and intimacy, allowing both of you to feel secure in the relationship.

Ultimately, the decision to marry should be based on your emotional readiness, shared values, and a deep connection with your partner, rather than solely on concerns about physical appearance. If you find someone who values you for who you are, these worries about body hair will likely become insignificant. Trust that the right person will see and appreciate the entirety of who you are, not just the surface.
Asked on - Jan 22, 2025 | Answered on Jan 22, 2025
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Wow, I am grateful to you for your way of thinking and motivating me, love and respect are indeed the main things in a relationship. I'm motivated and confident. Thank you
Ans: all the best !!

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Sir I am now 53 yrs and grown bald in the front that really embarrasses me in office or whenever I give an interview it is worsened since I also wear specs. Kindly suggest something to reduce my embarrassment
Ans: I understand that hair loss and wearing glasses can sometimes lead to feelings of self-consciousness and embarrassment. Here are a few suggestions that may help you feel more confident:

Embrace your appearance: Remember that baldness is a natural occurrence for many men and doesn't define your worth or abilities. Embracing your appearance as it is can help boost your self-confidence. Focus on your positive qualities, skills, and experiences instead.

Consider a new hairstyle: If you're uncomfortable with your current hairstyle, you can try different haircuts that work well with thinning hair or a receding hairline. Consulting with a professional hairstylist who specializes in hair loss can provide valuable suggestions tailored to your specific needs.

Facial hair: Growing a beard or a well-groomed mustache can sometimes help divert attention from hair loss. Experimenting with different styles of facial hair may enhance your appearance and make you feel more confident.

Explore hair restoration options: If you are interested in addressing your hair loss, there are various options available. Hair transplants, scalp micropigmentation, and non-surgical hair systems are some of the methods you could consider. Consult with a qualified hair restoration specialist to discuss the most suitable option for you.

Confidence through accessories: Accessories such as hats, caps, or headscarves can be used to complement your style and help you feel more at ease in professional settings or during interviews. However, it's important to ensure that these accessories are appropriate for the occasion and workplace.

Rock your glasses: Wearing glasses is a common occurrence and should not be a source of embarrassment. In fact, glasses can be a stylish accessory that enhances your overall appearance. Opt for frames that suit your face shape and personal style. Additionally, keeping your glasses clean and well-maintained can also make a positive difference in how you feel while wearing them.

Remember, true confidence comes from within. Embrace your unique qualities and focus on your skills and achievements rather than fixating on any perceived physical shortcomings. Your professional competence and character are far more important than your physical appearance.

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Anu

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 21, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2024Hindi
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I am 37 year woman still trying to clear competitive exams. I am doing these and facing all challenges of life so that i can guide my future offerings well and be a better parent. I have never had serious relationship jst a little bit talking on the phone and social media and nothing more. This is because i am having plenty of body hair in my body and want to get rid of them permanently befire entering into serious relationship and was thinking of doing it after reaching a decsent place i mean careewise. But my decision is taking plenty of time . Plus no emotional support from closed ones is taking toll in my mental health. And a feeling of lagging behind in all aspect oflife is causing me unrest. Pls suggest
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The day you start accepting yourself and loving yourself for who you are, that's the day you will see changes in your life.
You are unhappy with your appearance, you feel inadequate with your academic strengths, you are unsure about how to take care of your emotional health, you feel like you are lagging in all aspects of your life...
Can you spot a pattern of non-acceptance here?
Having said that, when you see gaps in any area of your life, you don't go around feeling sorry for yourself but lay down a plan to fill that gap. One by one you can fill those gaps and then feel happy that things are moving in your favor.
Also, everything in life moves on in parallel and not sequentially. So, to wait to make a decision till something happens or not, will only push you back or keep you stuck. Free yourself by having more useful and positive thoughts and move in a positive dierction.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Dear Doctor I am male 34, i am planning to get married soon. But i think I will have problems in becoming a dad bcoz I have physical relationship in the recently. I observe that I gets nervous and i am unable to satify my partner, I get erection but soon after 2-3 mint I find that there is no erection at all. can you advice me to what to do, should I inform the girl before we get married or my problem can be solved after marriage.
Ans: Why do you get nervous? Are you using protection?

**There are many reasons for not being able to get erection.** Some of the most common include:

* **Medical conditions:** Diabetes, heart disease, and certain medications can all contribute to erectile dysfunction.
* **Psychological factors:** Stress, anxiety, and depression can also make it difficult to get an erection.
* **Lifestyle factors:** Smoking, drinking alcohol, and using drugs can all damage your blood vessels and nerves, which can lead to erectile dysfunction.

**Best is get it fixed first before getting married as you don't want to ruin someone's life.** Erectile dysfunction can be a serious problem, and it's important to get it treated as soon as possible. There are a number of different treatments available, and the best one for you will depend on the underlying cause of your erectile dysfunction.

**Don't Marry. Fix the problem first.** Marriage is a big step, and it's important to be sure that you're ready for it. If you're having problems with erectile dysfunction, it's best to get it fixed before you get married. This will help you to avoid any potential problems in your marriage and ensure that you and your partner have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

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Founder - Real Dating School

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Hi. I am a BITS pilani graduate (2017) but i haven't achieved massive success when compared to my peers. I am preparing of UPSC for past 3 years along with my job, hoping to crack UPSC in 2025 or 2026. I am ashamed to meet my juniors and seniors of my college. Do you think by cracking upsc my fortunes will change and have a reputation among the alumni?
Ans: Hello
The real success is being at peace with oneself. This may sound bit philosophical but it is a profound stuff.
Unfortunately our societal orientation has so strongly imbibed the outside-in approach for most aspects of our life while it should be exactly opposite i.e. inside-out. To simplify, real success is not about meeting benchmarks set by someone else rather striving for leading a wholesome life as per own yardsticks wherein material/career elements are only one part of it. It is not to demean/undervalue something but assigning equal/appropriate weightage to all aspects of what makes us alive - health, family, relationships, sharing/caring etc. hence there is absolute no reason for you to feel ashamed merely basis some perceived/incomplete notions. Yes we should continue to strive for enhancements in life in all areas but do it for personal satisfaction and not for others hence there is no reason to feel stressed rather our goals if set right should energize us & give us a larger purpose in life.
Therefore look at things from a larger prism & not merely to gain some 'random perceived gains' that will again be shor-tlived.
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