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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 13, 2025Hindi

Relationship

My son is a huge fan of Ranveer Allahbadia also known as Beer Biceps. Although he came across as one of those dumb so called influencers, some of his content on religion and politics have also been interesting. I recently came to know that my son has watched this show called India's got Latent and now he is clearly defending the guy and the entire team. My son is 17, uses a shared smartphone and accesses internet on WiFi. I don't know if he even understands what he is watching and how it can shape opinions. His father wants me to keep a watch on his internet usage, which I am not too sure of. In a few months, he will be 18. How do you think I can talk to him and help him understand that social media to be taken with a pinch of salt?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Social media influencers can be more responsible in what they share BUT well, whatever makes their channels famous, that is what it is!
It is almost impossible to keep teens away from this sort of content. It's everywhere...how many leaking pipes are you going to clean up? The best way is to work the other way around; work on giving your children a strong value system at home that is non-negotiable and unshakeable. Somehow after all the distractions, they end up coming back to what the family strongly holds onto. It can be unnerving seeing them go all over, but stay strong and somehow trust that what you have put out there for them as a safety net of values somehow shines in bringing them right back on track. So, trust yourself first!

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 06, 2023Hindi

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
As much as this seems normal for his age, a bit of experimentation can also lead to addiction. When this has begun to affect focus and concentration, it requires a bit of Intervention.
Kindly approach an Adolescent Counsellor/Psychologist in your city who can assess the situation and do something beyond talk and advising.
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 13, 2025Hindi

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My son is a huge fan of podcaster Ranveer Allahbadia. Initially, he came across as one of those dumb so called influencers, but some of his content on religion and politics have also been interesting. I recently came to know that my son has watched this controversial show called India's got Latent and now he is clearly defending the guy and the entire team. My son is 17, uses a shared smartphone and accesses internet on WiFi. I don't know if he even understands what he is watching and how it can shape opinions. His father wants me to keep a watch on his internet usage, which I am not too sure of. In a few months, he will be 18. How do you think I can talk to him and help him understand that social media to be taken with a pinch of salt?

Ans: At 17, he’s at an age where he’s forming his own opinions, and if you try to restrict or overly monitor him, he may just push back harder. The best approach is to have an open, respectful conversation with him rather than making it seem like you’re trying to police him.

Start by acknowledging his interests instead of dismissing them outright. You could ask him what he likes about Ranveer Allahbadia or India’s Got Latent—not in a confrontational way, but out of genuine curiosity. If he feels heard, he’s more likely to listen to your perspective as well.

Once he opens up, steer the conversation toward critical thinking. Talk to him about how media, especially social media, has biases. Encourage him to question what he watches, look at different perspectives, and fact-check before forming strong opinions. Instead of outright saying something is wrong or misleading, help him analyze things logically. You could even watch an episode with him and then discuss what parts made sense and what seemed exaggerated or one-sided.

Since he’s about to turn 18, it’s important to equip him with the ability to think for himself rather than simply filtering his content now. If he sees that you trust him to make informed decisions, he will be more open to discussions with you in the future. Instead of monitoring his internet usage, focus on fostering a mindset where he self-monitors what he consumes.

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Ans: Hello
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Things that are objectionable need to be taken head on with strict directive while thought shaping is a deep area that needs constant discussion/dialogue more as a friend/colleague.
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1. Can Mutual Fund Money Be Used During Emergencies?

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? Liquid Funds
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2. Recommended Allocation (NRI – Balanced & Safe Plan)

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(For the 50% amount you wish to shift)

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Debt-oriented categories: Taxed at 20% with indexation after 3 years

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sir, I am 45(not married) now and salary is 50k pm. Is it good to start SIP now? Or it is good to invest in lump sum in mutual funds? I am looking to have a good corpus(say 75 lakh) after 12-14 years?If SIP may be done,how much amount I may have to invest for this ?

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It is never too late to start investing in mutual funds. You can do SIP or Lumpsum, whatever suits you as per your savings.
To get 75 lakhs after 20 years, you need to invest 20k per month in equity mutual funds giving a cagr of 14% for 13 years.

As you do not now much about mutual funds, it is best for you to work with a professional.
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Ans: Hi Santanu,

You should switch from these funds to other funds. Kindly share details such as investment and financial goals for me to guide you with exact funds to go for.

Or you can consult with a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

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Sir, I am 39 years PSU employee with monthly net salary of 1.10 lacs. I have a son of 9 years and daughter of 1 year. I am investing in MF through SIPs and lumpsump for last 7 years and my present MF portfolio is 50 lacs with XIRR of almost 18%. Presently I do SIP of 30000 per month. I also have housing loan and my EMI is 42000. I am provided accomodation and medical facilities from my employer. I also have accumulated 18 lacs in PF and Rs. 28 lacs in NPS. I have Term plan of 1.5 crs. I also have liquid funds of 10 lacs in FD for emergency purpose and approx 7 lacs in PPF. Since my child's major education expenses is still 7 to 8 years far for my son and 15 years for my daughter, I will continue my SIP of atleast for next 8 to 10 years without breaking my existing portfolio. Can I generate a corpus of more than 7 crs till my retirement with above funds and will it be sufficient to meet the inflation after 20 years.

Ans: Hi,

You have done and accumulated quite good at your age in different instruments with varied returns. Let us have a detailed look.

1. Emergency Fund - 10 lakhs in FD - good to go.
2. Term Plan - 1.5 crores - good to go.
3. Health Insurance - provided by employer. However, can take a separate personal insurance for yourself and family.
4. PF - 18 lakhs (continue)
5. NPS - 28 lakhs (continue)
6. PPF - 7 lakhs (can stop continuing, invest only bare minimum to keep account active. Close account upon maturity and reallocate these funds in mutual funds)
7. MF Portfolio - 50 lakhs with 30k monthly SIP
8. Home Loan EMI - 42000

Goals:
- Son's education - after 8 years
- Daughter's education - after 15 years
- Retirement - need 7 crores

You are very much on the right track. Your current financials look strong in terms of fulfiling your financial goals.

> Your current MF portfolio can be bifurcated into 2 parts
i. 40 lakhs for your retirement. This amount along with other amount from PF and NPS will finance your retirement forever (inflation adjusted). Additionally you wil lleave behind a great fortune for your kids.
ii. 10 lakhs for your kid's education. Continue your existing SIP of 30k per month and also contribute 7 lakhs from PPF account on its maturity towards this goal. For son, you will have 75 lakhs only from this investment and your daughter's education will have 1.5 crores when she requires.

This way your existing investments can take care of all your goals. Also, do increase your contibution in SIP yearly. It will help in generating a higher corpus for your family.

As your overall investments are more thann 10 lakhs in MFs, it is wise for you to connect with a professional who will assist you and make a dedicated investment plan as per your goals.
Hence, do consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who will guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

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Ans: Hi Syed,

Let us have a detailed look below:
- Your monthly income - 1 lakhs, expenses - around 75k , and money for saving - approx. 25k per month.
- Emergency fund - 1.5 lakhs . Would suggest you to make a FD of this fund as emergency fund.
- Term and Health insurance - covered. But sum assured is less for your family. It should be increased.
- One house - 15 lakhs; 2 commercial shops - 50 lakhs.

Requirements:
- Need 5 crores by 2035 i.e. in 10 years
- Need fund for higher education and marriage of 5 children
- Retirement corpus required after 10 years

To achieve all these goals, you need to invest starting right now in aggressive mutual funds with 25-30k left with you. And you can increase your investment with the increase in your income.
Realistically, retirement after 10 years is not possible, but you can try and upgrade your skills to earn more and invest more.

You are also getting 4 lakhs next month. Invest entire amount in aggressive mutual funds. Mutual funds will give you an annual return of 14-15% very easily. This is the best way to build wealth for the goals that you mentioned.
>> Make sure to stay away from LIC policies and ULIPs and other plans which lock your money.

As you are not much aware about mutual funds and investment, you should work with a professional who will draft a plan for you.

Hence, please consult a professional Certified Financial Planner - a CFP who can guide you with exact funds to invest in keeping in mind your age, requirements, financial goals and risk profile. A CFP periodically reviews your portfolio and suggest any amendments to be made, if required.

Let me know if you need more help.

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