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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 13, 2025Hindi
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My son is a huge fan of podcaster Ranveer Allahbadia. Initially, he came across as one of those dumb so called influencers, but some of his content on religion and politics have also been interesting. I recently came to know that my son has watched this controversial show called India's got Latent and now he is clearly defending the guy and the entire team. My son is 17, uses a shared smartphone and accesses internet on WiFi. I don't know if he even understands what he is watching and how it can shape opinions. His father wants me to keep a watch on his internet usage, which I am not too sure of. In a few months, he will be 18. How do you think I can talk to him and help him understand that social media to be taken with a pinch of salt?

Ans: At 17, he’s at an age where he’s forming his own opinions, and if you try to restrict or overly monitor him, he may just push back harder. The best approach is to have an open, respectful conversation with him rather than making it seem like you’re trying to police him.

Start by acknowledging his interests instead of dismissing them outright. You could ask him what he likes about Ranveer Allahbadia or India’s Got Latent—not in a confrontational way, but out of genuine curiosity. If he feels heard, he’s more likely to listen to your perspective as well.

Once he opens up, steer the conversation toward critical thinking. Talk to him about how media, especially social media, has biases. Encourage him to question what he watches, look at different perspectives, and fact-check before forming strong opinions. Instead of outright saying something is wrong or misleading, help him analyze things logically. You could even watch an episode with him and then discuss what parts made sense and what seemed exaggerated or one-sided.

Since he’s about to turn 18, it’s important to equip him with the ability to think for himself rather than simply filtering his content now. If he sees that you trust him to make informed decisions, he will be more open to discussions with you in the future. Instead of monitoring his internet usage, focus on fostering a mindset where he self-monitors what he consumes.

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My son is a huge fan of Ranveer Allahbadia also known as Beer Biceps. Although he came across as one of those dumb so called influencers, some of his content on religion and politics have also been interesting. I recently came to know that my son has watched this show called India's got Latent and now he is clearly defending the guy and the entire team. My son is 17, uses a shared smartphone and accesses internet on WiFi. I don't know if he even understands what he is watching and how it can shape opinions. His father wants me to keep a watch on his internet usage, which I am not too sure of. In a few months, he will be 18. How do you think I can talk to him and help him understand that social media to be taken with a pinch of salt?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Social media influencers can be more responsible in what they share BUT well, whatever makes their channels famous, that is what it is!
It is almost impossible to keep teens away from this sort of content. It's everywhere...how many leaking pipes are you going to clean up? The best way is to work the other way around; work on giving your children a strong value system at home that is non-negotiable and unshakeable. Somehow after all the distractions, they end up coming back to what the family strongly holds onto. It can be unnerving seeing them go all over, but stay strong and somehow trust that what you have put out there for them as a safety net of values somehow shines in bringing them right back on track. So, trust yourself first!

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Since Opening & Closing Ranks fluctuate slightly each year, always adjust the numbers for safety.
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