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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 16, 2025Hindi
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How do I 32M get over my insecurity with 30F? (Seeking Advice) Met this girl via matrimony exactly 2 months back. We connect well. Our families have met recently and it went well. Somehow we found a lot of connections between our families. That's just a bonus. Her family likes me a lot and they wanted to do Roka when they met us last week. I had told her, that no matter our bond, we should talk a lot and give it 3 months before going for roka. We live in different metro cities and have met twice now. About her: She is 30, well behaved & spoken(most important thing for me), smart, good looking, and is extremely polite. She is an army brat, has had a lot of freedom from family. Due to her father's job, they kept getting posted to different cities so she doesn't really understand family part of things. She's in a IT job. About me: I'm 32, okayish guy, in IT. To take things ahead I need to know my partner's past. I have no judgements at all but need to know stuff. Getting to know things over time bothers me a lot. I've tried to work on it, and have always made sure I don't bother the other person too much. After a month of talking, she told me that she had a casual boyfriend for an year. All her friends were dating in Bangalore and she decided to try it out. Found a guy through bumble and started dating him. So, according to her there were no feelings, just a person for her to go to places with, have drinks, and party. She likes drinking a lot and I have never taken a sip. She said that it was just a phase and she was immature. This happened between 2018(Nov) to 2020(march). So, it's been like 5 years. Never dated anyone after that. Since covid(2020) she's been living with her parents due to wfh. I have been completely ok with that but new things surfaced and they are messing with my head. While snooping around her facebook I figured out who that person was and this guy is super close to a person in my distant family. In fact they both were flatmates until their respective marriages. This distant cousin of mine knows me and knows her really well. These 3 used to hangout a lot and he has seen her come to their flat regularly. Infact, she had a good bond with my cousin as well. There are things that bother me and I really can't shake things and feel super awful in my gut. She mentioned that she and her ex had a common love for drinking and regularly visited pubs, got drunk, and partied. This means that they would be staying at each other's place as well. This is something super old but bothers me a lot. Specifically the fact that she would be drunk partying with someone for an year and sleeping with him, with no feelings. Secondly, I found some posts where she has liked a post about this guy on fb/insta from mid-2021. I have already confronted her twice to share everything and we shall never discuss this again but this bothers me a lot. Secondly, now that I know the timelines I can figure out what photos have been taken by her ex. There's even a photo of her sitting on a messy bed, where she's cutting her bday cake. They celebrated it together. I found my cousins page and some other pages from which I knew it's the guy's room/flat. I know everyone has a past. She has come clean to me but somehow my brain is so split. Sometimes her nature and behaviour with me make me not care about anything. And then I know the bed, flat, and her actions with some guy. Then there is this angle where the ex's flatmate is my distant cousin and knows about her well.

Ans: What you’re experiencing is completely valid. It’s not just about the fact that she had a past relationship, but also about the details—knowing her ex was deeply connected to your distant cousin, imagining their time together, and realizing that those experiences once meant something in her life. It makes it feel uncomfortably close to home, which is why it’s so hard to shake off. It’s not about judgment, but about the emotions that these thoughts stir up within you.

The truth is, the past cannot be changed. She has been honest with you, shared what happened, and reassured you that it was a phase in her life that she has moved on from. The fact that she hasn’t dated anyone in five years and has been living with her parents shows that she is in a very different place now. But your mind keeps looping back to what once was, and it’s preventing you from fully embracing what is.

Right now, the biggest challenge is not her past, but your ability to be at peace with it. You have to ask yourself—are you willing to let this define your future with her? Because if you can’t fully accept it, these thoughts will continue to surface and create distance between you. A part of you clearly wants to be with her, but another part is struggling to detach from these mental images of her past.

Instead of confronting her again, take some time to reflect on what truly matters to you in a partner. She has shown you who she is today—polite, well-behaved, mature, and emotionally present in your relationship. She has not hidden anything from you, and she has moved forward from that phase of her life. The real question is whether you can do the same.

If you feel this is something you cannot get over, it is better to step away now rather than carry these unresolved emotions into a lifelong commitment. But if you genuinely see a future with her and believe in her as a person, then it’s time to start training your mind to focus on the present and the relationship you are building, rather than a past that no longer exists.

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Hi Anu,Myself Praveen. I appreciate your writings on Rediff. First of all thanks for that.I would like to ask guidance or your thoughts on establishing a relationship with my lady friend. I met her 4 years back in my old office and we got in company soon and started talking and somewhat share most of the personal s***s too. I started having feelings for her. I mean I wish to have a marital relationship with her because I am very comfortable with her. But I was unable to make any move or feared of losing her company if I tell her my love.That time I never knew her age. Later I moved from that job to pursue some personal goals so I moved to some other place without the knowledge of my own family. The only person who knew about it was her. She stood with me and emotionally supported me and was knowing that it was my strong wish of having that dream/goal. We were in touch as nice friends. Her phone calls were happy moments for me because I was alone at my new place where I'd gone to pursue my dream. Someday she called me and during call she was upset. That day she shared some of her personal things and during the conversation I realised that she is 8 years older than me and she is at her mid 30s. Firstly, it was like a shock for me. I wondered why a beautiful girl like she not got into a marriage or any other serious relationship still that age. Okay, that doesn't matter me. However, knowing about most of the complexity in this partnership including support from both family or cliche society thoughts; I decided to have her as my life partner. But still I am not able to make a move like that. Somehow, I had to come back to my homeplace and sorry to say that I failed to pursue my goal which was bit depressing. Still I couldn't make a move to talk her about this. I am getting an odd feeling that she treats me as a brother or a nice friend only. I am confused when she calls me bro. Some days ago she told me that I am her good brother. Frankly I don't like her calling me bro. I still love her and I always see her as my life partner.The thing is I fear that I may lose her company if I express my love for her. Also I fear that she may emotionally get low if she really considering me as her brother. I don't want to give her any pain, but meanwhile I couldn't miss her in my life. Nowadays, we rarely talk on phone or meet because some of her professional engagements. That is not a problem for me. I respect her as well as her personal space. Only thing I want is to communicate her about my mind and having a relationship with her. I know she might also be concerned about our age gap as well as what society may say, but I don't care such rubbish. I strongly believe that I can be a great partner. Share your thoughts on making an approach without giving her any emotional pain or trauma.
Ans:

Dear PB,

Thank you for your kind words on my writings and columns. Highly appreciate it.

I cannot assure you of the fact of her not having any emotional reactions. Her reactions are not something that you can control.

The easiest way to resolve this confusion that you are going through is to simply express it. It’s similar to how children are.

Have you seen them say things without a filter and unfazed by how the other person will react?

Then along came the adults and asked them to keep quiet and then the child in us grew up to become a recluse and ignore our own feelings.

I agree there is an etiquette and social norms to be followed as adults but to not be able to express our feelings is nothing but conditioning from our childhood.

And what did it teach us? It taught us to avoid the rejection and ensuing disappointment.

That’s exactly what you are running away from; all the rejection that may happen and the disappointment from that.

But what use is that love if you can’t express it for fear of rejection. If you feel so strongly about it, approach it boldly and very gently.

Yes, it may shock her and it’s possible she has no feelings or sees you as a brother, but at least you know where the connection stands.

Now whether she is going to be hurt or not is a question of how emotionally mature she is.

So, before you start the conversation, do request her to hear you fully and not judge you for your honesty. This may ease her shock and help her respond rather than react to you.

On your part, keep your expectations to a low and smile through the situation. It helps lighten the load that you might be carrying.

All the best!

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Ravi

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 16, 2025Hindi
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How do I 32M get over my insecurity with 30F? (Seeking Advice) Met this girl via matrimony exactly 2 months back. We connect well. Our families have met recently and it went well. Somehow we found a lot of connections between our families. That's just a bonus. Her family likes me a lot and they wanted to do Roka when they met us last week. I had told her, that no matter our bond, we should talk a lot and give it 3 months before going for roka. We live in different metro cities and have met twice now. About her: She is 30, well behaved & spoken(most important thing for me), smart, good looking, and is extremely polite. She is an army brat, has had a lot of freedom from family. Due to her father's job, they kept getting posted to different cities so she doesn't really understand family part of things. She's in a IT job. About me: I'm 32, okayish guy, in IT. To take things ahead I need to know my partner's past. I have no judgements at all but need to know stuff. Getting to know things over time bothers me a lot. I've tried to work on it, and have always made sure I don't bother the other person too much. After a month of talking, she told me that she had a casual boyfriend for an year. All her friends were dating in Bangalore and she decided to try it out. Found a guy through bumble and started dating him. So, according to her there were no feelings, just a person for her to go to places with, have drinks, and party. She likes drinking a lot and I have never taken a sip. She said that it was just a phase and she was immature. This happened between 2018(Nov) to 2020(march). So, it's been like 5 years. Never dated anyone after that. Since covid(2020) she's been living with her parents due to wfh. I have been completely ok with that but new things surfaced and they are messing with my head. While snooping around her facebook I figured out who that person was and this guy is super close to a person in my distant family. In fact they both were flatmates until their respective marriages. This distant cousin of mine knows me and knows her really well. These 3 used to hangout a lot and he has seen her come to their flat regularly. Infact, she had a good bond with my cousin as well. There are things that bother me and I really can't shake things and feel super awful in my gut. She mentioned that she and her ex had a common love for drinking and regularly visited pubs, got drunk, and partied. This means that they would be staying at each other's place as well. This is something super old but bothers me a lot. Specifically the fact that she would be drunk partying with someone for an year and sleeping with him, with no feelings. Secondly, I found some posts where she has liked a post about this guy on fb/insta from mid-2021. I have already confronted her twice to share everything and we shall never discuss this again but this bothers me a lot. Secondly, now that I know the timelines I can figure out what photos have been taken by her ex. There's even a photo of her sitting on a messy bed, where she's cutting her bday cake. They celebrated it together. I found my cousins page and some other pages from which I knew it's the guy's room/flat. I know everyone has a past. She has come clean to me but somehow my brain is so split. Sometimes her nature and behaviour with me make me not care about anything. And then I know the bed, flat, and her actions with some guy. Then there is this angle where the ex's flatmate is my distant cousin and knows about her well.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that it is important for you to need to know her past and you mentioned that you merely want to know, and would not judge. But judging is exactly what you are doing. A lot of people have exes, a lot of people have occasional drinks- we can't judge people based on their past. She has opened up to you and all you are doing is snooping around. To be honest, it seems like you are really more concerned about her ex and past than about how amazing a person she is. I have only one piece of advice, if you think you can't get past her past, let her go. No one deserves to be judged by their past.

And think of it this way- you asked, and she told you. She was not obliged to, but still understanding your 'need' to know 'everything,' she confided in you. And this is how you are paying her back. Moreover, so what if she had an ex, or dated casually? How does that affect you right now? Ask yourself the same question and I think you will know the answer to your own dilemma.

Having said it all, marriage is a big decision. If you think her past can hamper your future, please rethink this relationship. It is best for both of you.

Best Wishes

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Ravi

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 01, 2025Hindi
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I (30M) have been in the process of Arranged Marriage, screening prospective matches. Out of all the Women I'd met, there's this one Woman (28F) with whom I'm able to get along quite well. She's quite good in almost all aspects such as Appearance, Personality, Education, Career, Social & Emotional Intelligence etc. and our Interests & aspirations for Future, also align to a great extent. It seems Feasible that we build a Life together. Even she seems to be interested in me. But there's one major problem. She doesn't seem to be Trusting me well enough to open up to me, completely. We've interacting with each other since a Few Months, over Social Media, WhatsApp Messages, Phone Calls & even met each other personally on several Dates & spent good time together, understanding each other. We've discussed almost all the important aspects required for leading a Fruitful Married Life, such as, Finances, Family Affairs, Children, Future Plans in terms of Career & Personal Life, Our Travelling Bucket Lists etc & we seem to be quite compatible on almost all these aspects. But there's one aspect that she's not willing to Share with me openly. That's about her Past Relationship(s) & Sexual History. I had brought up this topic for the first time on a Date, when we'd spent over a Month in Courtship & were meeting each other in person for the 5th time. I started off by telling her that I had not been involved in any Romantic Relationship(s) either Serious or Casual, during my College Years or in my Early to Mid 20's as I had been going through a lot struggles, during that Age and I had started meeting up with Ladies only since the past 2-3 Years, after I was settled well in a stable Career & got Serious about Marriage. And obviously, I am a Virgin. When I asked her to share about her Past, she excused herself & left, abruptly ending our Date. I understood that she might not be feeling comfortable with opening up at this stage. I profusely apologized if I'd crossed my Limits, unknowingly & asked her to meet up for another Date, after a week, wherein I Reassured her that whatever is discussed between the both of us regarding sensitive personal matters, shall only remain between the both of us & need not be shared with anyone else (including Parents). She agreed with me but still didn't open up about her Past. I waited Patiently giving her few more weeks' time to open up as per her Convenience, but she never did. Whenever I brought up this sensitive topic again, she'd either change the Topic or make some Excuse to Leave, ending our interaction abruptly. I still maintained Patience & kept Reassuring her gently, that I want to know about her Past, not to Judge her, but only to understand her better. Still she seemed reluctant to open up about her Past, but is actively conversing on any other Topic. The last time we'd met personally was on a Dinner Date, a week ago. When I gently raised the Topic again, she seemed to get somewhat irritated & asked me "How does my Past, really matter to you?" I Replied that it is very much important for me to know everything about her Past, to be able to Trust her completely & take the Relationship ahead and once again I reminded her of both my Promises that I would listen to her with empathy & understanding without Judgement and that I would maintain utmost Secrecy with Respect to her Sensitive Personal Matters. Still she seemed avoidant about the Uncomfortable Conversation & tried to Gaslight me as if I'm Disrespecting her Personal Boundaries. Our Date ended on an unpleasant note & since then our Interaction over WhatsApp has been just minimal. I don't understand what's the matter with her, she never Shied away from discussing any other Important topic & communicated her views, quite effectively, giving me the Impression that she's a Matured Person, but I don't understand why she's so reluctant to open up on this Important topic, in spite of repeated Reassurances from my side. Please advise me, how do I proceed with this Sensitive issue? I am very much into her & wouldn't want to throw away such a Wonderful prospect as we seem to be getting along, quite well, with each other. At the same time, I feel the need to know everything about her Past Relationship(s) including her Sexual History, so that I can be sure about certain things, which greatly matter to me. My Gut Instinct refuses to Trust & Accept her completely, without this missing piece of Jigsaw Puzzle. I'm in great Dilemma now, any Qualitative Advice from Experienced People would be greatly appreciated.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your concerns but it might be nice if you understand her concerns as well. While most people promise to neither judge nor share sensitive details, they rarely keep their promise, especially when the experiences are coming from a woman. Her reluctance about sharing her past with you might be stemming from the same.
To be honest, the past should not matter as much as the present but since it is important to you, I would recommend you open up about it directly to her, expressing how her not opening up is stopping you from trusting her completely. If she still does not want to talk about it, I don't see any scenario where it would be the right choice to push her about it again. You have only met her and things are yet to be official. In that case, you should rethink this alliance. Secrecy might be important to her as much as knowing every detail is important to you. Neither is wrong here. Do not rush into any conclusion and speak to her first. Meet up exclusively for this discussion and see where things go from there.
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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |9205 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 24, 2025

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Hi sir i am 34 years i was started SIP 5000 in following category 1)Uti nifty 50 index fund 1000 (2) Parag parikh flexi cap 1000 (3) motilal oswal mid cap 500 (4) HDFC mid cap 500 (5) Nippon India small cap 1000 (6) bandhan small cap 1000 plz suggest my portfolio
Ans: You are 34 years old. That gives you long investment time.
You have started your SIP journey early. That is a strong first step.

You are investing Rs. 5,000 monthly in six different funds.
Your current SIP allocation covers different categories.
This includes index, flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

Let’s now analyse your SIP portfolio from every angle.
We will keep it simple, professional, and easy to follow.

Portfolio Allocation Overview
Your SIP is spread as:

Rs. 1,000 in Nifty 50 Index Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Flexi Cap Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund B

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund B

Total SIP = Rs. 6,000 monthly.
Let’s now assess each component.

Problems with Index Fund Allocation
You have invested in an index fund.
This is a passive fund. It copies an index like Nifty 50.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No active stock selection

Poor quality stocks can stay in portfolio

Cannot exit bad sectors during crisis

Cannot avoid risky or falling companies

Gives average market return, never better

No cushion during market crash

No fund manager to guide investments

Why actively managed funds are better:

Expert fund manager selects quality stocks

Regular review and change of holdings

Avoids weak performing sectors and stocks

Aims for higher return than index

Adjusts portfolio based on market and economy

Gives better risk-adjusted return over time

Action Point:

Stop SIP in index fund

Start SIP in an actively managed large-cap or flexi-cap fund

Choose through a certified financial planner for better planning

Direct Plans – A Serious Concern
If you are using direct funds, that is a problem.
You have not mentioned this, but we must explain.

Disadvantages of direct mutual funds:

No help from any MFD or Certified Financial Planner

No one to review performance regularly

You may not rebalance when needed

You may panic in market fall and withdraw early

You may miss new opportunities

No goal tracking or future value estimation

Why regular plans through MFD with CFP are better:

You get human guidance

Helps in emotional decisions during market panic

Portfolio review done every 6–12 months

Helps plan for goals like house, retirement, or child’s future

Tax planning done smartly

Helps increase SIP over time as income grows

Action Point:

If you are using direct funds, switch to regular funds

Take support from CFP-certified MFD

You will gain much more than the lower expense ratio of direct plans

Fund Overlap – Mid Cap and Small Cap
You are investing in:

Two mid cap funds

Two small cap funds

That creates overlap in risk and sectors.
Mid and small caps are more volatile.

Problems with duplication:

Same type of stocks in two funds

More funds, but not more diversification

Managing becomes harder

May dilute performance

Action Point:

Keep only one good mid cap fund

Keep only one small cap fund

Use saved SIP for a large and mid-cap or balanced fund

You are only 34.
So you can take exposure to mid and small cap.
But it must be balanced and structured.

Flexi Cap Fund – A Good Core Holding
Flexi cap fund is useful in any portfolio.
It allows fund manager to invest in all segments.
Large, mid, and small caps are all used smartly.

Benefits of Flexi Cap:

Offers diversification in one fund

Reduces need for too many funds

Fund manager moves across sectors and caps

Suitable for both beginners and long-term investors

Action Point:

Keep SIP in flexi cap fund

If possible, increase allocation slightly

Flexi cap can be your core portfolio fund.

Asset Allocation Gaps
You are fully invested in equity funds now.
This is okay for long-term goals only.

But you must create some balance.
Later, you will need debt or hybrid funds also.

Why asset allocation matters:

Equity gives growth, but is volatile

Debt gives stability, but low return

Mix of both gives smoother journey

Important during market crash or job loss

Action Point:

Add a balanced advantage fund when SIP increases

Use it to reduce portfolio risk gradually

Plan using help of a certified financial planner

Goal-Based Planning – Missing in Portfolio
Your current SIP does not mention your financial goals.
That is risky. Money without a goal is directionless.

Each SIP must have a purpose:

Buying house

Retirement planning

Child’s education

Emergency corpus

Vacation or vehicle

Without goal tagging, you may withdraw early
or may not know how much to invest.

Action Point:

Define your goals clearly

Tag each SIP to one goal

Estimate future cost of each goal

Adjust SIP amount every year as income grows

Monthly SIP Amount – Review and Plan
Rs. 6,000 SIP is a good start.
But you must increase it regularly.

You are 34. You may work for 25 more years.
You must save more every year.

Action Plan:

Increase SIP by 10% every year

Link SIP increase with salary increase

Shift extra SIP to funds suggested above

Review portfolio every 12 months

This will help build wealth in the long term.

Taxation Awareness
When you sell mutual funds in future, tax applies.
You must plan your redemptions properly.

Latest tax rules:

Long Term Capital Gain (LTCG) on equity above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

Short Term Capital Gain (STCG) taxed at 20%

Debt mutual fund gain taxed as per income slab

Action Plan:

Track holding period of every SIP

Don’t sell early unless urgent

Redeem smartly after holding 1–3 years or more

Discuss tax impact with your CFP

Step-by-Step Suggestions
Exit index fund SIP

Stop duplicate mid cap and small cap SIPs

Retain one flexi cap fund

Increase SIP in flexi cap slowly

Add balanced fund as SIP grows

Define and tag goals clearly

Review portfolio once every year

Shift to regular plans via CFP-guided MFD

Avoid emotional withdrawals in market fall

Plan taxes before redemption

Increase SIP as income rises

Don’t add too many funds in future

Keep portfolio simple and balanced

Track and rebalance every year

Finally
You are on the right path.
You started early. That’s a huge advantage.

But your portfolio has overlapping funds.
And one passive index fund that limits growth.

Your asset allocation is tilted fully to equity.
That is fine for now. But not forever.

You also must link SIPs to your life goals.
Only then the journey becomes meaningful.

Direct plans and index funds don’t help long term.
They look cheap but lack planning support.

A certified financial planner will guide with clarity and direction.
SIPs must grow with your income and life needs.

Keep discipline. Avoid panic. Invest with purpose.
This is how you create wealth and peace.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |9205 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 24, 2025

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i m 49 years old, earning 2L pm, I have a Hsg Loan of 55L, Car Loan of 10L & Education Loan of 21L, I m investing 40000 pm in Direct Stock SIP. I Have 54L in Mutual Funds, 60L in Equities, Have 1 office, 2 Homes, Have 25.65 L In PPF & FDR is 41L, I want to retire by 57? How to maxmise my Investment so that i van earn 2.5l pm after 57
Ans: You are 49 years old and earning Rs. 2 lakh per month. You want to retire at 57 and get Rs. 2.5 lakh per month after retirement.

You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks. You have loans totalling Rs. 86 lakh. You hold Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 60 lakh in equities, Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF, and Rs. 41 lakh in FDs. You also own one office and two homes.

This is a good base. You are doing many things well. Now, let us build a detailed 360-degree plan. The goal is to become debt-free, protect wealth, and build steady retirement income.

Clean Up and Prioritise Your Loans
Housing loan is Rs. 55 lakh. This is your biggest burden.

Car loan of Rs. 10 lakh is short-term. It doesn’t build assets.

Education loan of Rs. 21 lakh must also be cleared before retirement.

Your EMIs are reducing cash flow. They delay investments.

Action Plan:

Use your FD of Rs. 41 lakh to part-prepay loans.

First close the car and education loan.

Then reduce principal on the housing loan.

Don’t touch equity or mutual funds to close loans.

Loan interest rates are higher than FD returns. So, use FDs wisely to save interest.

Your Emergency Fund Must Be Defined
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. You don’t need to keep all.

Keep only 6 to 12 months of expenses:

Rs. 6–8 lakh is enough in liquid mutual funds.

Move the rest to medium-term hybrid funds.

This gives better returns than FD and keeps liquidity.

Your PPF is a Safety Net, Not Growth Engine
You have Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF. That is very good.

PPF is safe. But it gives fixed return. It cannot beat inflation fully.

Action Plan:

Let PPF continue till maturity.

Don’t depend on it for major post-retirement cash flow.

Use it for emergency buffer or short income gaps.

It adds stability to your overall portfolio.

Direct Stocks Need Regular Supervision
You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks.

You also hold Rs. 60 lakh in equity stocks.

This is a large allocation. Direct stocks carry higher risk.

Action Plan:

Reduce new direct stock SIP to Rs. 10,000 monthly.

Shift Rs. 30,000 monthly into diversified mutual funds.

Review equity stocks every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.

This reduces concentration risk. And adds professional fund management.

Avoid Direct Mutual Funds, Shift to Regular With CFP
You didn’t mention if you use direct mutual funds. If yes, you must switch.

Problems with direct funds:

No expert guidance.

No goal tracking.

Emotional mistakes during market ups and downs.

Benefits of regular plans through CFP:

Professional reviews.

Help with goal mapping.

Timely switches and rebalancing.

You need clarity, not confusion, especially before retirement.

Stay Away from Index Funds
Index funds may look attractive. But they are not good at protecting wealth.

Problems with index funds:

No defence during market crashes.

No flexibility in asset allocation.

Blindly follow market without judgement.

Actively managed funds are better:

Skilled fund managers manage risk.

Can avoid weak sectors.

Have better long-term performance.

At this age, avoid passive investing.

Avoid Real Estate as Future Investment
You already own:

One office.

Two homes.

That is more than enough.

Don’t invest more in real estate:

Poor liquidity.

High maintenance.

No regular income.

Instead, build your retirement plan through mutual funds and debt-free assets.

Create Retirement Buckets Now
You want to retire at 57. You want Rs. 2.5 lakh per month income.

You need three buckets:

Growth Bucket:

Equity mutual funds.

For years 10–25 post-retirement.

Helps beat inflation.

Income Bucket:

Hybrid mutual funds with SWP.

Gives monthly income from age 57.

Safety Bucket:

Debt mutual funds.

For years 1–5 after retirement.

This model spreads your risk and builds income flow.

Use Your FD Money Smartly
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. Use it like this:

Rs. 8 lakh – emergency fund.

Rs. 10 lakh – pay off car and education loan.

Rs. 10 lakh – invest in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 13 lakh – slowly move to equity funds.

This gives you growth and also reduces debt.

Don’t let FD money sleep. Make it work.

Build Corpus for Retirement Income of Rs. 2.5 lakh Monthly
You have 8 years to retirement. You will need a large corpus.

Assume your target is Rs. 4–5 crore by age 57.

Your current assets can get you close:

Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds.

Rs. 60 lakh in stocks.

Rs. 25 lakh in PPF.

Rs. 41 lakh in FD.

Office property may give rental income.

But loans reduce the compounding. So, clearing them is urgent.

What Monthly Investment Is Required Now
You must invest Rs. 75,000–1 lakh monthly for the next 8 years.

Suggested split:

Rs. 30,000 in diversified equity funds.

Rs. 20,000 in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in debt mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in global or thematic funds.

Rs. 10,000 in healthcare or balanced advantage funds.

Don’t do this on your own. Do it with a Certified Financial Planner.

Don’t Depend on Rental Income Alone
You have two homes and an office. Rental income is not always stable.

Tenants may leave.

Property may remain vacant.

Maintenance and repairs are costly.

Keep real estate only for partial support. Not as main income source.

Start SWP Plan for Income After Retirement
Don’t use annuities. They lock your money and give low returns.

Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) from mutual funds.

Advantages of SWP:

Fixed monthly income.

Tax-efficient structure.

Control over money.

Flexibility to change amount anytime.

Start SWP from age 57. Plan now to create the corpus.

Taxation After Retirement Needs Planning
Mutual funds have updated tax rules.

Equity mutual fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per income slab.

Use SWP from hybrid and debt funds to keep tax low.

Keep mutual fund withdrawals within limit to stay tax-efficient.

Don’t Forget Will and Nomination Planning
You have many assets. These must pass smoothly to family.

Write a Will now.

Update mutual fund nominations.

Add nominee in FDs and PPF.

Share asset list with spouse.

This prevents legal problems for your family later.

Check Your Health and Term Cover
You didn’t mention health insurance or term insurance.

If you don’t have:

Take family floater health cover of Rs. 20–25 lakh.

Add super top-up if needed.

Take term insurance till age 60 if family depends on you.

Insurance gives safety to your wealth plan.

Finally
You are in a powerful position. You have high income and many assets.

But loans, scattered assets, and stock exposure can reduce growth.

Take these actions now:

Clear loans with FD.

Reduce direct stock exposure.

Shift to mutual funds with guidance.

Build 3-bucket retirement plan.

Invest monthly with proper asset allocation.

Plan your SWP income after retirement.

Secure health and term insurance.

Make your Will and nominations today.

Retiring at 57 with Rs. 2.5 lakh monthly income is possible.

But only with discipline, action, and expert guidance.

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Hello sir, I've 1.2Cr home loan under construction,I do 1L ppf and 50k NPS. I'm looking to use 80EE exemption-50K on loan interest HRA-3L in old regime 54F- no capital gain tax 80C-1.5L old regime Please help to choose the correct regime suitable for me. (Salary -25+)
Ans: You’re taking wise steps with PPF, NPS, home loan, HRA, and capital gains goals. Let’s analyse thoroughly from a 360° financial and tax view.

Income and Deductions Overview

Your salary is Rs. 25+ lakhs per annum.

You contribute Rs. 1 lakh to PPF annually.

You also invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS yearly.

Home loan is Rs. 1.2 crore under construction.

You intend to use:

Section 80EE interest deduction up to Rs. 50,000.

HRA deduction of Rs. 3 lakh under old regime.

Section 54F to avoid capital gain tax.

Section 80C full limit of Rs. 1.5 lakh under old regime.

Understanding Both Tax Regimes

Let’s compare old and new tax regimes:

Old Regime

Higher tax slabs but allows full deductions.

You can claim PPF, NPS, home loan interest (section 80EE), HRA, 80C and 54F.

This lowers taxable income significantly.

New Regime

Lower tax slabs but fewer exemptions.

You lose deductions like HRA, 80C, 80EE, NPS (partial), 54F.

Only NPS under Section 80CCD(2) employer contribution is allowed.

Limited scope for reducing taxable income.

Deductions in Your Case

Let us evaluate critical deductions one by one:

1. Home Loan Interest (Section 80EE)

Eligible deduction up to Rs. 50,000 annually.

You are planning to claim this under old regime.

Under new regime, this deduction is not available.

2. HRA (House Rent Allowance)

You claim Rs. 3 lakh annually under old regime.

Not allowed under new regime.

3. Section 54F (Capital Gain Exemption)

If you sell any long-term asset and invest in home, you can save capital gains tax entirely.

Applicable under old regime only.

4. Section 80C Deduction

Total of Rs. 1.5 lakh including PPF, ELSS, life insurance premium, EPF etc.

You invest Rs. 1 lakh in PPF.

Remainder can be filled with approved instruments.

Old regime allows this full deduction, new regime does not.

5. 80CCD (NPS)

You invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS.

This comes under 80CCD(1B), allowed in old regime.

New regime only allows employer contribution (section 80CCD(2)), not employee’s.

Tax Impact Comparison

Your situation is well aligned for old regime benefits.
You have multiple deductions resulting in significant tax relief.

Under Old Regime You Can Claim:

Home loan interest under 80EE.

Full HRA up to Rs. 3 lakh.

Full 80C deduction of Rs. 1.5 lakh.

Section 54F if capital gains arise and are reinvested.

NPS under 80CCD(1B).

This makes your taxable income much lower.

Under New Regime:

You lose HRA, 80C, 80EE, 54F, NPS deductions.

Only basic exemption and standard deduction apply.

Tax will be higher due to loss of deductions.

You would pay far higher taxes under new regime than old.

Other Financial Planning Considerations

Let us now look beyond taxes to ensure your financial strength grows.

Emergency Fund

Maintain at least six months of household expenses.

Ideal corpus would be Rs. 3–5 lakh given your loan obligations.

Use liquid mutual funds or bank deposits.

Do not touch this for non-emergency.

Home Loan Strategy

Home loan under construction means you can claim interest only after possession for income tax.

But for tax planning, you can estimate future deductions.

After possession, allocate max interest under 80EE and HRA if you rent.

Continue PPF and NPS simultaneously to sustain deductions.

Retirement Corpus

You already invest in PPF and NPS.

That is a good retirement foundation.

You may also start SIP in actively managed equity mutual funds, via regular plans.

This helps grow retirement wealth beyond PPF/NPS.

Avoid index funds. They deliver only average returns. Actively managed funds adapt to market cycles.

Why Prefer Regular Plans via CFP Over Direct Funds

As your Certified Financial Planner, I ensure your portfolio is reviewed regularly.

Regular plans give guidance, rebalancing, and goal tracking.

Direct plans require you to handle rebalancing and timing alone.

Investors in direct plans often make emotional mistakes, like entering or exiting at wrong times.

With a CFP, you get discipline and professional support.

Scenario Examples

Let us see how things fit:

If You Choose Old Regime:

You get Rs. 1 lakh PPF, Rs. 50k NPS, Rs. 50k home loan interest, Rs. 3 lakh HRA, Rs. 1.5 lakh 80C, and 54F benefits.

Your taxable income drops significantly.

Likely lower total tax than new regime.

If You Choose New Regime:

Only standard deduction and no other exemptions.

You lose Rs. ~6–7 lakh worth of deductions.

Taxable income increases and tax liability rises.

Since your deductions exceed the increased tax difference, old regime is financially wiser.

Practical Steps for You

Choose Old Regime for this financial year.

Continue PPF and NPS contributions.

Claim home loan interest under 80EE.

Maintain HRA records to claim Rs. 3 lakh.

Plan 54F use when you sell assets and invest in property.

Track total investment under 80C and ensure full allocation.

After home possession, still claim interest under section 24 and HRA if renting.

Additional Growth and Protection Plans

Looking ahead, also consider these 360° aspects:

Insurance Needs

Ensure you have life cover and health insurance.

If no term plan exists, buy pure term plan for minimum Rs. 1 crore.

Have family floater health policy with Rs. 5–10 lakh cover.

Accident cover is inexpensive but useful.

Retirement SIPs

Add actively managed equity SIPs of Rs. 5k–10k if cash flow allows.

Keep old regime until major deductions are consistently used.

Revisit regime option every year.

Loan Repayment Strategy

After possession, consider increasing EMI or making lump sum prepayment when possible.

Reducing loan principal reduces total interest and speeds up debt-free status.

Emergency Corpus Build-Up

Set aside monthly savings for emergencies.

Ideal to reach at least Rs. 3 lakh.

Use for sudden job loss or medical crisis.

Final Insights

Old regime suits your situation best due to strong deduction profile.

Continue as you are with PPF, NPS, home loan interest and HRA claims.

Use 54F when capital gains arise and reinvest.

Stick to actively managed mutual funds via regular plans for growth.

Strengthen insurance, emergency corpus and loan repayment.

Review this annually and adjust as your situation changes.

Your planning is strong and thoughtful. With disciplined execution now, you can enhance tax savings and build long-term wealth. Should we work on balancing cash flow post-construction or selecting mutual fund categories next?

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
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Hi, Im 30y old and married, Ive one kid who is 2.6y old. Im planning to buy a house via loan next year consodering my current expenses and investments is it good approach to take the flat next year? My inhand salary post tax deduction 1.08L My expenses and investments as below Rent: 12k Household expenses:18k Mutual Funds SIP: 18k(current accumulated amount is 2.16L) Stocks:1.38L Emergency fund: 20k RD deposit(accumulated 1.3L) Sukanya samridhi yogana:3.5k monthly(44k accumulated so far) Liquid savings:10k monthly(for my daughter education) Cheeti: 17k monthly(its for 20 monthly,completed 9 monthly after 20 monthly amount credited is 4L) LIC: Monthly 4k(Paid 5 years, 11 more years to be paid yearly premium is 45k) Please advise how well I can manage my savings and im planning to buy a flat how can I achieve that considering the current expenses and savings. Thanks in advance
Ans: You’ve shown great discipline in managing savings, family needs, and future goals at just 30.

Let us evaluate your financial readiness, the impact of a home loan, and how to adjust wisely.

This assessment will guide you from all angles—cash flow, liquidity, investment health, and protection.

Income, Expenses, and Monthly Surplus
In-hand income after tax is Rs 1.08 lakh.

Monthly rent is Rs 12,000.

Household expenses are Rs 18,000.

Mutual fund SIPs are Rs 18,000.

LIC premium is Rs 4,000.

Chit fund contribution is Rs 17,000.

Sukanya Samriddhi deposit is Rs 3,500.

Liquid savings for daughter is Rs 10,000.

These monthly outflows total around Rs 82,500.

Your monthly balance is only around Rs 25,000.

This makes your budget tight for handling any large EMI.

Mutual Fund SIPs — Continue with Discipline
Rs 18,000 SIP shows excellent saving behaviour.

Current mutual fund corpus is Rs 2.16 lakh.

Please continue these SIPs through regular plans via MFD with CFP support.

Avoid direct mutual funds. They give no handholding, no alerts, no correction strategies.

Direct plans look cheap, but they lack timely guidance.

Investors panic during market falls and exit direct plans wrongly.

Regular plans help you stay invested with a CFP guiding your risk.

Avoid index funds too. They follow market passively and offer no downside protection.

Index funds underperform when markets fall or stay flat.

Actively managed mutual funds are better with professional decision-making.

They adjust sector exposure based on economy and risk cycles.

Stocks and Equity Exposure
You have Rs 1.38 lakh in stocks.

This is a good experience builder.

However, limit direct equity exposure to 10% of total assets.

Stock markets need time and research.

Let mutual funds handle most of your equity investment.

Emergency Fund Is Too Low
You currently have Rs 20,000 as emergency corpus.

This is insufficient for a family with a child.

Target at least Rs 1.5–2 lakh as safety reserve.

Use a liquid fund or short-term debt fund to build this.

Emergency fund protects you from job loss, health issue or delay in income.

RD Corpus — Use it Wisely
RD balance of Rs 1.3 lakh is decent for short-term goal.

It’s not suitable for long-term growth.

Use it partially for your house down payment.

Once RD matures, allocate half to mutual funds and half to emergency fund.

Sukanya Samriddhi Account
Rs 3,500 monthly is being contributed.

Accumulated corpus is Rs 44,000.

Good long-term step, but SSY is illiquid till 18 years.

Returns are also fixed and not inflation-adjusted fully.

Don’t increase investment here. Continue as is.

Better to put fresh long-term savings in equity mutual funds.

Liquid Savings for Child Education
You save Rs 10,000 monthly for daughter’s education.

You’re doing great with that intention.

But liquid savings may give only 3–4% returns.

Shift this to a hybrid equity mutual fund.

It gives better growth with moderate risk.

As your daughter grows, this corpus can support quality education.

Chit Fund Contribution
Rs 17,000 monthly for 20 months is ongoing.

9 months are completed.

On maturity, you’ll receive around Rs 4 lakh.

Chits are risky, unregulated, and lack transparency.

You can use this Rs 4 lakh as part of your down payment.

After maturity, avoid rejoining any new chit.

Mutual funds are safer, flexible and goal-oriented.

LIC Policy — Reconsider and Reallocate
You pay Rs 4,000 monthly towards LIC.

5 years completed, 11 more years remain.

Annual premium is Rs 45,000.

This is most likely an investment-cum-insurance plan.

Such policies offer poor returns, usually less than 5%.

Surrender now and reinvest in mutual funds.

Take a pure term plan separately for life cover.

LIC traditional plans lock your money and give low value at maturity.

Buying a Flat Next Year — Readiness Check
Buying a home is emotional, but let’s stay financial while assessing it.

Down Payment Readiness
You need to fund around 20% of flat price + registration.

Flat worth Rs 40 lakh needs Rs 8–10 lakh upfront.

Your chit fund will give Rs 4 lakh.

RD + mutual fund corpus adds Rs 3.5 lakh.

You’ll still need Rs 2–3 lakh more.

Start saving Rs 20,000 monthly for next 10 months.

EMI Capacity and Loan Readiness
With Rs 25,000 surplus monthly, you can afford Rs 20,000 EMI.

But this removes your safety cushion.

During initial loan years, reduce SIPs to Rs 10,000.

Post 2–3 years, increase it again once comfortable.

Maintain emergency fund before committing EMI.

Don't rely on LIC maturity or chit reinvestment to manage EMI.

Loan Tenure Planning
Don’t stretch loan beyond 15–20 years.

Longer loans increase total interest outgo.

Choose fixed or reducing interest options.

Check foreclosure charges, if any.

Prefer prepayment after emergency fund is strong.

Term Insurance and Health Cover
You didn’t mention life insurance apart from LIC.

Please take term insurance of at least Rs 1 crore.

This protects your child and spouse financially.

Also, take a family floater health cover of Rs 10 lakh.

Medical emergencies should not eat into your savings.

Realigning Financial Flow
Let’s adjust current strategy for better results:

Surrender LIC, save Rs 4,000 monthly.

Stop chit fund after maturity, save Rs 17,000 monthly.

Build emergency corpus, save Rs 1.5 lakh over next 6–8 months.

Protect yourself with term and health cover.

Shift liquid savings and RD maturity to hybrid/equity mutual funds.

Continue SSY but don’t increase investment in it.

Pause SIP temporarily if loan starts, but restart in 2 years.

Capital Gains Tax Rules for Mutual Funds
If you redeem mutual funds for flat purchase, be aware:

Long-term equity gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term equity gains taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual funds are taxed as per your income slab.

Plan redemptions in a staggered manner.

Avoid sudden bulk withdrawals from mutual funds.

Steps for Next 12 Months
Take these steps now to be ready for next year:

Build Rs 2 lakh in emergency fund.

Save Rs 2–3 lakh more for down payment.

Close chit and redirect that amount to mutual funds.

Take term insurance immediately.

Take family health insurance.

Don’t buy new policies from LIC or any other insurer.

Avoid any new direct stock investments.

Continue mutual funds through MFD and CFP-guided regular plans.

Final Insights
You have good savings habits and long-term thinking.

Your expenses are controlled. You’re focused on family security and stability.

But current savings are too scattered. Efficiency is low due to illiquid and underperforming products.

Avoid chit funds, LIC, and liquid-only strategies. Shift to structured mutual fund investments.

Protect your family with insurance before taking any home loan.

Buying a flat is possible next year if you plan now.

You need 6–8 months of focused savings and safety net.

With proper support from a Certified Financial Planner, your journey will stay smooth.

Please don’t choose index funds or direct mutual funds. They are riskier without expert support.

Stick with actively managed regular mutual funds. Let a CFP track and guide every goal.

This ensures peace of mind, even after the EMI starts.

Build your plan, not just your flat.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2025Hindi
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Iam 43yrs old & my husband is 50yrs old.Our monthly expenditure is Rs 25000 permonth.We have 5lacs amount health insurance. We are child free,no loans and living our own house.How much money we need to save for retirement & oldage?We have FD,Ppf &emergency fund for 6 months. We don't want to invest in mutual funds, sip & stock market.Kindly guide what amount is needed for both of us for retirement &oldage. Thanks in advance.
Ans: You both are in a good position now.

You have:

No loans

Own house

Emergency fund

FD and PPF

Low monthly expenses

No dependents

Clear preference to avoid equity market

That gives peace of mind.
Now let’s create a full retirement and old age plan for both of you.

Estimating Your Retirement Needs
Your current age: 43

Your husband’s age: 50

Monthly spending: Rs. 25,000

Annual spending: Rs. 3,00,000

Retirement can start in 10 to 15 years

Life expectancy: plan for up to age 85 or 90

You need money that will:

Cover living cost

Manage health expenses

Beat inflation

Stay safe from risks

Support you for 30 years after retirement

So, we need to estimate future cost first.

Understanding Impact of Inflation
Rs. 25,000 today may become Rs. 50,000 in 15 years

That’s because of inflation

Healthcare inflation is even higher

Your monthly expense after 15 years may be Rs. 50,000

Yearly expense will be Rs. 6,00,000

This Rs. 6,00,000 is not fixed.
It will keep increasing each year.

So, your retirement fund should:

Support rising costs

Give regular income

Be easily accessible

Be low risk

Target Retirement Corpus
For a peaceful retired life:

You need at least Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore

This will support you till age 85 or 90

This range considers healthcare and inflation

It also assumes you don’t want mutual funds

If you live longer or if costs rise more:
Then Rs. 2.5 crore may give better comfort

This is not just one-time saving
You can build it slowly in the next 10–15 years

Where to Invest Safely
Since you avoid market-linked investments:
We will stick to Government-backed and safe options

1. PPF – Public Provident Fund
Very good for long-term saving

Gives tax-free returns

Lock-in is 15 years

You can extend in 5-year blocks after that

Invest up to Rs. 1.5 lakh per year per person

Continue investing till retirement

Use both your and husband’s PPF accounts

2. Post Office Time Deposits
Safe and gives fixed interest

Choose 5-year deposit option

Reinvest interest if not needed

You can ladder deposits at different intervals

3. Senior Citizens Savings Scheme (SCSS)
Use after age 60

Can be opened in post office or bank

Gives good fixed interest

Joint account allowed

Interest paid quarterly

Maximum limit per person is fixed

4. Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS)
Gives monthly income from interest

Suitable after retirement

Can be opened in joint name

Combine it with other schemes for income

5. RBI Floating Rate Savings Bonds
Tenure is 7 years

Gives interest every 6 months

Rate changes every 6 months

Good for medium term savings

Safe as backed by RBI

Health Insurance – Must Be Reviewed
Your current cover is Rs. 5 lakh

This is low for two people above age 40

Hospitalisation costs are rising fast

One illness can exhaust entire cover

Action Plan:

Buy a top-up health insurance of Rs. 10–15 lakh

It will cover costs beyond base policy

Premium is low if taken now

Also consider critical illness rider

Take individual or family floater as per suitability

Emergency Fund – Maintain Continuously
You already have 6-month emergency fund

That is very good

Keep it in sweep-in FD or short-term RD

Use only for medical or urgent needs

Review every year

Income Planning Post Retirement
After retirement, your savings must give monthly income.

Create 3 Buckets:

1. Short Term – 1 to 2 years

Keep in FD or savings

For daily expenses

2. Medium Term – 3 to 7 years

Use 5-year time deposits

Use SCSS and POMIS

3. Long Term – 8 to 20 years

Use PPF maturity

Use floating rate bonds

Reinvest matured deposits

This bucket system helps manage income flow easily.

Taxation in Retirement
Interest from FD, SCSS, and POMIS is taxable

PPF maturity is tax-free

Plan withdrawals to stay below taxable slabs

Use both PANs to split income

You can claim senior citizen tax rebates

Use Form 15H if income is below exemption

Asset Protection and Nomination
Ensure all accounts have nominations

Keep joint names where possible

Maintain written records of investments

Store documents in safe folder

Share details with spouse

Make a simple Will if needed

Regular Review of Plan
Your financial plan should not be rigid.

Review it every 2–3 years

Update if costs increase

Track inflation and healthcare costs

Make sure your documents and health cover are valid

If you ever feel the need to grow faster:
Then you may consider 5–10% exposure in safe mutual funds
But only after talking to a certified financial planner
For now, focus on safe and steady savings

If You Change Mind About Mutual Funds Later
You currently avoid mutual funds. That is respected.
But just in case you consider it in future:

Avoid direct funds. Why?

They give no guidance

You have to manage portfolio alone

There is no review support

Wrong actions in panic can cause big losses

Regular funds through a certified MFD offer:

Human support

Emotional discipline

Goal-based approach

Portfolio tracking and rebalancing

So always invest with a certified financial planner
If you ever open mutual fund SIPs in future

Step-by-Step Plan for You Now
Save regularly in PPF

Add new 5-year time deposits every year

Track and review your FDs

Buy Rs. 10 lakh top-up health insurance

Build SCSS and POMIS buckets after age 60

Use RBI bonds for long-term support

Keep emergency fund updated

Don’t keep money idle in savings account

Plan for monthly income structure post-retirement

Create nominations and written financial record

Finally
You both are already ahead in terms of clarity and discipline.
No loans, no dependents, and your own house is a strong foundation.

Now your goal is to save enough to maintain this peace forever.
Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore will give that stability.
It must be saved and spread across safe options over next 10–15 years.

You don’t need mutual funds or shares if your comfort is in safety.
But you do need consistent saving, reviewing, and health protection.

Take simple steps. Avoid complex or high-return promises.
Stay with Government-backed and time-tested choices.
Let your lifestyle stay simple and your future secure.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2025Hindi
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Sir I am 50 years old male having CTC of 70 LPA in private non pensionable job, wife is government employee with 20 LPA salary with pensionable job Investing 70 K per month in MF with portfolio of 1.3 cr, PPF of 22 lakhs in both account, Four LIC policies, Family Star Health Cover of 15 lakh and Term plan of 50 lakh each. Having 35 Lakhs in Salary Saving account with 7 lakh in FD with some physical gold ornaments of 30 lakhs and property of 1cr How to plan rest of career and retirement
Ans: At age 50, with a strong income and asset base, you are in a good position. Your wife has a government pension. You have no mention of loans. This is excellent.

You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly in mutual funds. Your mutual fund portfolio is Rs. 1.3 crore. You have Rs. 22 lakh in PPF. You also have four LIC policies. There is Rs. 35 lakh in a savings account and Rs. 7 lakh in FD. You also hold Rs. 30 lakh worth of physical gold and own property worth Rs. 1 crore.

Let’s now plan the rest of your working career and your retirement years step by step. This plan is 360-degree. It focuses on protection, investments, cash flow, retirement income, and legacy.

Build a Strong Emergency Fund First
You must protect against job loss or health crisis.

You already have Rs. 35 lakh in savings.

Keep only Rs. 6 to 9 lakh as emergency fund.

Shift the rest to suitable debt mutual funds.

This gives better returns than a bank account. But it remains safe and accessible.

Review and Strengthen Insurance Cover
Your current health cover is Rs. 15 lakh for family.

You need at least Rs. 30 lakh now. Include super top-up.

Health care costs are rising every year.

Your term insurance is Rs. 50 lakh each.

At your income level, this is low.

You should increase your cover to at least Rs. 1.5 crore.

Take cover only till age 60.

Your wife has a pension. But if anything happens to you before that, term insurance will protect her future.

Check All LIC Policies in Detail
You hold four LIC policies. These must be reviewed closely.

If they are:

Traditional endowment plans,

Money-back policies, or

Investment-cum-insurance plans,

Then they are not suitable now. These plans give low returns (around 4–5%). They lock your money. They mix insurance with investment.

Suggested action:

Surrender policies after checking surrender value.

Reinvest the amount into mutual funds.

Take help from a Certified Financial Planner.

This will improve returns and simplify your investments.

Evaluate Your Mutual Fund Portfolio
You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly in mutual funds. You already have Rs. 1.3 crore invested.

That is a strong and valuable base. But it must be reviewed.

Key things to check:

Are you holding too many funds?

Are any funds consistently underperforming?

Is your asset allocation correct?

A Certified Financial Planner can help review and clean your portfolio.

Prefer Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds
You must avoid index funds now. They are not suitable for serious wealth goals.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No human decision-making.

Cannot exit weak sectors.

Follows the market blindly.

Benefits of actively managed funds:

Fund manager adjusts based on market changes.

Can avoid bad companies.

Can protect during market crashes.

At this life stage, protect your capital. Don’t leave it to chance.

Avoid Direct Funds, Choose Regular Funds With CFP Guidance
Direct mutual funds save on expense ratio. But they don’t give advice.

Problems with direct funds:

No help during market corrections.

Hard to do rebalancing yourself.

No support for goal-based planning.

Advantages of regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner:

Better fund selection.

Risk management.

Rebalancing when needed.

Your large portfolio deserves expert attention.

How to Use Your Rs. 35 Lakh in Bank
This cash is underperforming. You should not let money sleep.

Suggested plan:

Keep Rs. 6–9 lakh as emergency.

Move Rs. 8–10 lakh to debt mutual funds.

Invest Rs. 15–20 lakh in hybrid mutual funds.

This balance helps with short and medium-term goals. And reduces tax.

Avoid putting this money in real estate. It is illiquid and costly.

PPF Can Be Held As Low-Risk Asset
You both have Rs. 22 lakh in PPF. Continue till maturity.

PPF is safe. But it is not enough for retirement alone.

Do not over-allocate here. Limit future contributions to Rs. 1.5 lakh per person per year.

Use mutual funds more for long-term growth.

Convert Physical Gold to Productive Assets
You hold gold worth Rs. 30 lakh. Gold is good for safety. But it doesn’t grow or pay income.

Issues with gold:

Price is volatile.

No regular income.

Risk of theft or damage.

Suggested steps:

Keep Rs. 5–8 lakh for emotional value.

Sell rest in small parts.

Invest proceeds in mutual funds.

Do this over 1–2 years. Don’t rush the exit.

You Don’t Need New Property Investment
You already own Rs. 1 crore property.

Avoid more property purchases. Reasons:

Long holding period.

Low liquidity.

High transaction cost.

Maintenance hassles.

Use mutual funds instead. They are flexible and tax-efficient.

Define Retirement Goals and Timeline
You are 50 now. Let’s say you want to retire at 60.

Ask yourself:

What monthly income do you want after retirement?

How much do you need every year till age 85 or 90?

Will you downsize your lifestyle later?

Answering this helps define your retirement corpus target.

Estimate Future Expenses and Inflation
Let’s assume you want Rs. 2 lakh per month after retirement. In future, due to inflation, you may need Rs. 3–3.5 lakh monthly.

So, your retirement corpus must be large enough.

You must build this from:

Mutual fund corpus.

PPF maturity.

Converted gold value.

SWP income.

Your wife’s pension will help. But don’t depend only on that.

How to Structure Your Retirement Portfolio
Divide your retirement assets in three parts:

Growth Bucket:

Equity mutual funds.

For next 15–20 years.

Income Bucket:

Hybrid mutual funds with SWP.

Start post retirement.

Safety Bucket:

Debt mutual funds.

For early retirement years.

This approach gives you income, stability, and long-term growth.

Set a Monthly Retirement SIP Plan
You are investing Rs. 70,000 monthly. Increase this by 10% every year.

Split like this:

Rs. 40,000 in equity mutual funds.

Rs. 20,000 in hybrid funds.

Rs. 10,000 in short-term debt funds.

This gives a balanced risk and reward structure.

Understand Retirement Taxation
From 2024, mutual fund taxation is updated.

Equity mutual fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh per year are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term equity gains are taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per income slab.

You can use SWP post retirement to manage tax impact better.

Avoid annuity plans. They are not flexible and give low return.

Write Your Will and Do Estate Planning
You are building assets. You must plan for easy handover.

Write a simple Will now.

Mention all assets, insurance, mutual funds, property.

Register the Will legally.

Keep copies with trusted people.

Also ensure all nominations are updated.

This protects your family and avoids legal trouble later.

Work-Life Planning Beyond Money
Decide when you want to stop working.

Think about what you want to do after retirement.

You can also do part-time or consulting work.

Keep your mind and health active post 60.

Plan finances so that you have freedom and no pressure.

Review Everything Every Year
Once you set the plan, do regular reviews:

Check mutual fund performance.

Review goals and allocations.

Increase SIP with income growth.

Shift from equity to debt as retirement nears.

Get annual review from a Certified Financial Planner.

This helps you stay on track and take better decisions.

Finally
You are doing very well. You are 50, with high income and strong assets. But now is the time to protect and grow wisely.

Review LIC and insurance first.

Use idle cash for better returns.

Don’t invest in more property.

Convert part of gold into mutual funds.

Build a structured retirement plan with clear buckets.

Avoid index funds and direct funds.

Take guidance from a Certified Financial Planner regularly.

This is your most powerful earning phase. With the right actions, your retirement can be peaceful, independent, and stress-free.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
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I am 40 years old, having a income of 1.36 lakhs a month excluding EPFO and NPS. Having a home loan of 80L, paying a EMI of 1L per month. Getting a rental income of 9k. EPFO savings are 12L. In mutual funds 5L. No other savings. My regular maintenance is becoming difficult, I have no children yet.
Ans: At 40, with a stable income and EPFO corpus, you have already laid some foundation. However, your current cash flow strain due to home loan EMI needs focused restructuring. Let’s go through your financial life from a full 360-degree angle and offer simple, practical guidance.

Monthly Income and Loan Commitments

You earn Rs. 1.36 lakhs monthly (excluding EPFO and NPS).

Rental income adds Rs. 9,000, so total monthly inflow is Rs. 1.45 lakhs.

Your EMI is Rs. 1 lakh per month. That’s nearly 69% of your monthly inflow.

This is a very high EMI-to-income ratio.

This pressure is affecting your monthly maintenance and savings.

Assessment:

Your current EMI eats away most of your cash flow.

This creates stress in regular budgeting and long-term savings.

There is a need to reduce fixed monthly obligations.

EPFO Savings Review

You have Rs. 12 lakhs in EPFO.

This is your long-term retirement reserve.

Do not touch this corpus unless there is a real emergency.

EPFO grows slowly but safely with compounding.

Continue contributions as it builds a pension safety net.

Do not treat this as liquid wealth. It is your retirement pillar.

Mutual Fund Investments Assessment

You have Rs. 5 lakhs in mutual funds.

This is a valuable liquid asset in your current situation.

You didn’t mention SIP or type of funds, so we will give a general insight.

Suggestions:

If the funds are sectoral or thematic, consider exiting them.

If the funds are actively managed diversified equity, hold them.

Avoid using this fund for daily expenses unless very urgent.

This Rs. 5 lakh is your flexible reserve. Keep it for liquidity planning.

Do not redeem all at once unless EMI crisis worsens.

Loan Burden and Cash Flow Structuring

Right now, the EMI burden is your biggest concern.

Insights:

Rs. 1 lakh EMI on Rs. 1.45 lakh income is risky.

You are left with only Rs. 45,000 for all expenses and savings.

That gap causes stress in your monthly living.

Options to Consider:

Explore extending home loan tenure to reduce EMI.

Even if it increases total interest, it gives you breathing space.

You can prepay partially once income improves later.

Talk to your bank about EMI restructuring or balance transfer.

A lower EMI now will improve your monthly cash position.

No Children Yet – Opportunity to Stabilise Finances

Without kids, you have fewer financial liabilities for now.

This is a good time to correct your financial base.

Suggestions:

Use this phase to reduce debt and build savings.

Plan for children’s future only after stabilising your monthly flow.

Build an emergency fund slowly for any upcoming life change.

Maintain health insurance to cover any medical risk.

Emergency Fund – Build Slowly and Steadily

You have not built an emergency fund yet.

With a high EMI, emergency funds become even more important.

Steps to Build It:

Target Rs. 1.5 to Rs. 2 lakhs as first milestone.

Begin by saving Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 7,000 monthly.

Keep it in a liquid mutual fund or sweep-in FD.

Do not touch it for any non-emergency reason.

No Mention of Insurance – This Needs Immediate Action

You haven’t mentioned life or health insurance. This is risky.

Life Insurance:

You need a term insurance policy urgently.

Coverage should be minimum Rs. 50 lakhs to Rs. 1 crore.

Buy a pure term plan. Do not combine insurance with investment.

This will protect your family if anything happens to you.

Health Insurance:

Buy a standalone health policy, minimum Rs. 5 to 10 lakhs.

Don’t depend only on employer insurance (if any).

Medical emergencies can drain your mutual fund or EPFO.

Accident Cover:

Consider a low-cost personal accident policy.

Covers disability or injury. Helps in case of work loss.

Expense Management Tips

With a tight EMI, cutting unnecessary costs becomes vital.

Suggestions:

Track all monthly expenses. Cut any luxury or non-essential spends.

Avoid credit card EMIs or personal loans.

Set a monthly spending limit for lifestyle costs.

Focus on cash-based budgeting till EMI burden is eased.

Do not borrow more for investment or luxury.

Future Financial Planning – Step by Step

Let’s now look at the mid and long-term strategy:

Short Term Goals (Next 1-3 Years):

Reduce EMI to manageable level.

Build Rs. 2 lakh emergency fund.

Start small SIPs again once EMI is reduced.

Mid Term Goals (3-7 Years):

Plan for children if you wish to start a family.

Create a health reserve corpus separately.

Increase SIP gradually as EMI burden comes down.

Long Term Goals (After 7+ Years):

Continue growing your EPFO.

Add mutual fund SIPs for retirement.

Target equity funds with active management.

Avoid index funds. They don’t give outperformance.

You need active fund managers to manage market changes.

Why Actively Managed Mutual Funds Are Better Than Index Funds

Let us clarify some important points.

Disadvantages of Index Funds:

Index funds just follow the market. No decisions are made by experts.

They include bad-performing stocks also.

No protection in down market cycles.

Returns are average, not optimal.

Benefits of Actively Managed Funds:

Skilled fund managers pick quality stocks.

Bad performers can be removed.

Fund strategy changes with market conditions.

Better for long-term wealth and goal-specific plans.

You should always choose regular plans through Certified Financial Planner.
Direct mutual funds may look cheaper but come with hidden risks.

Why Avoid Direct Mutual Funds Route

Many investors think direct funds give better returns. This is half truth.

Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

You lose personal tracking and guidance.

No help for portfolio correction or goal mapping.

Most direct investors underperform due to bad timing decisions.

Emotional decisions ruin long-term goals.

Why Choose Regular Plan via Certified Financial Planner:

You get guidance and regular review.

Risk tolerance and goals are aligned correctly.

Portfolio rebalancing is done smartly.

Errors are avoided, saving more in long run.

Taxation Awareness for Mutual Fund Investments

Since you hold equity mutual funds, be aware of the latest tax rule:

Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.

Don’t redeem funds blindly. Use them only after tax check.
A Certified Financial Planner helps you with better tax-efficient planning.

Step-by-Step Action Plan for You

Speak with your home loan provider. Check if EMI can be reduced.

Create Rs. 5,000 monthly emergency fund plan.

Pause all new investments till EMI becomes manageable.

Buy a Rs. 50 lakh term life insurance plan urgently.

Get Rs. 5 lakh family floater health insurance today.

Do not redeem your mutual funds now. Hold as emergency support.

Avoid further real estate buying. Focus only on repaying this loan.

Avoid risky investments, direct equity or trading.

Once EMI is reduced, resume SIPs in active mutual funds.

Stay invested through regular plans guided by a CFP.

Reassess your plan every 6 to 12 months.

Finally

You have already taken brave steps by investing and managing a home loan alone.
But the current EMI burden is too high for healthy financial life.
Focus on correcting the loan EMI, protecting with insurance, and building emergency savings.
Do not let market noises push you into wrong investments now.
Take one step at a time, with clarity and calmness.
Your financial recovery and growth are possible with small but steady actions.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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