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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 15, 2024Hindi
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Hii ma'am, I'm having a problem in relationship. My parents are fixing my marriage but i love an another guy and my bf is getting scared of loosing me and as I'm facing too much problem for this marriage he is telling to break our relationship and stop talking with each other. What should i do now plz suggest me

Ans: The first step is to get clear on what you truly want. Do you see a future with your boyfriend, and are you willing to stand by him despite the challenges? If so, have an open conversation with your family. Calmly explain your feelings, why he matters to you, and why you believe he's the right person.

Talk to your boyfriend too—acknowledge his fears, but let him know how much he means to you. If he’s still pulling away, it might mean he’s not ready to face these challenges. In the end, you deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for the relationship. Make sure your decisions prioritize your long-term happiness.

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hii im 18 yrs old ..my parents found out about my bf.. actually they have caught me 5 to 6 times and always told me to leave him.. and i used to leave him but after sometime we again get reunited .. my parents have snatched my phone and telling me whether to choose them or my bf.. they are telling me to live in their house according to them otherwise i should leave their house.. i love both of them so much i got my bf after lot of struggles and fights .. i dont know what should i do..my bf is also from another religion and now my parents are telling me that they will not let me study further and will take me to my hometown forever and will get me married their with someone else
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At 18 when you are still emotionally immature and financially not yet stable, what else do you expect your parents to do?
They are doing what they think is the right thing for you to keep you safe. My suggestion would be to focus on what must matter to you most at this age; your studies...put down your goals and stick to them...
As cruel as it may seem to you that the whole world is against your association with the boy, remember that you have a life ahead of you that will give you the necessary space for such a relationship...so work towards yourself first, so that when you actually get into a relationship, you know that it is right for you!
Right now, you know that your parents may very well pull you out from studies and there goes your dreams of a better future...So, please stop being foolish and step up for yourself and do what's right for you!

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Hello mam I am really having trouble in my family right now I am like studying and also I go to academy and school I am 14 years old my father is forcing me to marry someone and that someone has has a nice job but I will love with someone who is in my academy and when I told my father about him he refused and said that there is no need to go in that Academy and I begged him to not do that and the person I am love with doesn't do a job and also is the same age as me so I told my father so many times that I don't want to marry that person because I am in love with someone else so how can a person marry someone who he doesn't even love I know my parents my father want the best for me but you know what I want to say
Ans: At 14, your focus should be on growing, learning, and discovering yourself. Marriage is a lifelong commitment that requires emotional maturity, stability, and readiness—things that naturally come with time. It’s okay to tell your father, calmly and firmly, that you’re not ready for marriage yet, regardless of who the person is. Try to express that your education and personal growth are priorities for you now, and marrying too young could prevent you from living the life you want in the future.

When it comes to the person you care about, those feelings are also important, but it’s worth remembering that both of you are still very young. Your emotions are real, but your focus on education and future goals should remain central for both of you right now. If this connection is meaningful, it can grow naturally over time without the rush or stress of marriage.

If speaking directly to your father feels too difficult, is there a trusted adult, family member, teacher, or counselor who can help you communicate your feelings? Sometimes having someone else explain your perspective can make all the difference.

Above all, you deserve to feel heard, respected, and supported in your choices. You’re not alone, and this is not a battle you have to fight by yourself. Take it one step at a time, and remember, your voice and dreams matter.

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I am 37 year old Commerce Graduate. I was in an unorganized business, which cannot be pursued any farther. Will it be wise to do CPA at this age without formal experience in Accounting, for a decent job? Is there any other course to pursue?
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sir i am commerce gratuate prepared 2 years for CA coul'd not succeed what are the diff career op for me
Ans: Shri, Some basic reasons for failing CA exams include poor time management, inadequate conceptual clarity, poor presentation skills, neglecting revision, and lack of practice with mock exams. To improve, create a realistic study schedule, focus on crucial topics, practice time-bound mock tests, and use reference books and ICAI study materials. Practice structured answers and follow ICAI language to align with exam expectations. Avoid rote learning and focus on understanding the "why" and "how" behind concepts. Take multiple mock tests and review performance critically to identify weak areas. Stay motivated by setting short-term goals and rewarding yourself for achieving them.

Despite not clearing the CA exams, there are numerous fulfilling career paths for commerce graduates. Some of these include the following, out of which you can choose the most suitable for you and you are interested in:

Financial Analyst/Investment Banking involves financial analysis, research, and dealing with securities, stocks, and bonds. Tax Consultant/Tax Advisor offers tax planning, compliance, and advisory services. Financial Planner/Wealth Manager helps manage finances and long-term wealth goals. MBA can lead to leadership roles in marketing, HR, finance, operations, and entrepreneurship. Banking and Insurance offers stability and growth opportunities. Entrepreneurship requires strong initiative and risk tolerance. Accounting and Audit roles enhance job prospects globally. Digital Marketing, Data Analytics, Human Resources, Stock Market Trading, Corporate Law, and Public Sector Jobs offer job security, stability, and benefits.

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My son is doing BBA( 1st year.) Which extra course help him future.
Ans: Shubham Sir, The BBA degree is a strong foundation for a career in management, business, and entrepreneurship. To enhance his skills and employability, consider taking additional courses that align with his interests and career aspirations. General skills for business and management include data analytics and business intelligence, digital marketing, financial modeling and investment analysis, project management, communication and soft skills, and industry-specific skills like finance, marketing, entrepreneurship, supply chain and operations, and human resources. Technical skills include basic coding and IT skills, accounting software, artificial intelligence and machine learning for business, and cybersecurity basics.

Certifications and competitive exams can add value to his resume, such as Google, Microsoft, and Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA). Global business awareness is crucial, and practical experience is essential. Internships in industries of interest and participating in startup incubators or entrepreneurship contests can provide practical exposure. A suggested roadmap for a successful BBA career includes focusing on foundational skills, gaining technical knowledge, starting internships or part-time projects, and preparing for competitive exams like GMAT or certifications like CFA.

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My daughter studying bsc biotechnology 1st semester please suggest me about her future career
Ans: The decision by your daughter to pursue a BSc in Biotechnology opens up a wide range of career opportunities in diverse and rapidly growing fields. After completing her BSc, she can either pursue further education or enter the job market directly. Options include MSc in Biotechnology (or Related Fields), MBA in Biotechnology/Healthcare Management, PhD in Biotechnology, PG Diploma Courses, and pursuing a master's degree in top countries for biotechnology.

After BSc, she can work in various sectors and roles, such as lab technician, research assistant, quality control analyst, healthcare and pharmaceuticals, agricultural biotechnology, environmental biotechnology, food and beverage industry, bioinformatics, government jobs, or entrepreneurship. High-paying and in-demand fields include medical biotechnology, bioinformatics, industrial biotechnology, agricultural biotechnology, environmental biotechnology, and genetic engineering.

The best study and career locations for MSc/PhD are IISc Bangalore, IITs (Kharagpur, Kanpur), JNU Delhi, University of Hyderabad, and government initiatives like DBT (Department of Biotechnology). Skills she should develop include technical skills, research and analytical skills, soft skills, and certifications.

To build a strong foundation in core biotechnology subjects, she should participate in internships or summer research projects. After BSc, she should prepare for entrance exams, network, and consider financial considerations.

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Confused about the future after doing bsc biotechnology. In which subject I should do msc ? Ok india or abroad? Which biotechnology sector have high paying jobs ?
Ans: Biotechnology is a promising field with numerous career paths. Choosing the right specialization and study destination depends on interests, career goals, and financial considerations. Some popular specializations include Biotechnology, Microbiology, Biochemistry, Bioinformatics, Food Technology, Environmental Biotechnology, Medical Biotechnology, Genetic Engineering, and Industrial Biotechnology. Studying in India offers affordable education, access to reputed institutions, and a growing biotech industry. Abroad offers exposure to advanced research and technologies, higher-paying jobs, and better industry connections. High-paying sectors in biotechnology include pharmaceuticals and biopharma, healthcare and diagnostics, bioinformatics, industrial biotechnology, agricultural biotechnology, and environmental biotechnology. High-paying countries for biotechnology careers include the USA, Germany, Canada, Singapore, and India.

For those looking for cutting-edge research and higher-paying jobs, consider studying abroad in countries like the USA, Germany, or Canada. For those preferring affordable education and a long-term plan to settle in India, pursue MSc in a specialized field from top Indian institutes. Opt for fields like Bioinformatics, Medical Biotechnology, or Industrial Biotechnology, which offer the best combination of high salaries and demand. All the BEST for your Prosperous Future.

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Sir Greetings! is it true that now UGC wont differentiate rather treats equally both regular and correspondence degree or PG. Even correspondence students are eligible and apply for both govt and private sector jobs. I heard even companies need to accept correspondence degree done in India. Sir please clarify without any ambiguity in this regard. This is Q has been bothering me for quite sometime
Ans: Anirvinna, The University Grants Commission (UGC) and other regulatory bodies in India have made significant efforts to ensure that distance education degrees are treated as equivalent to regular degrees. The UGC states that degrees obtained through distance or online education from recognized institutions are equivalent to regular degrees, applicable for both government and private sector jobs. The Distance Education Bureau (DEB) ensures the quality of distance education programs and oversees compliance. Distance education degrees are valid for all government jobs, professional courses, and private sector acceptance. However, some organizations may prioritize candidates with regular degrees for certain roles due to perceptions of classroom rigor or networking opportunities. The UGC has encouraged universities to offer quality online programs, reducing the stigma associated with correspondence education. To enhance career prospects, consider pursuing correspondence programs from well-reputed institutions with strong alumni networks and industry connections. All the BEST for your Prosperous Future.

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