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Torn Between Arranged Marriage and Love: What Should I Do?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 23, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 15, 2024Hindi

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Hii ma'am, I'm having a problem in relationship. My parents are fixing my marriage but i love an another guy and my bf is getting scared of loosing me and as I'm facing too much problem for this marriage he is telling to break our relationship and stop talking with each other. What should i do now plz suggest me

Ans: The first step is to get clear on what you truly want. Do you see a future with your boyfriend, and are you willing to stand by him despite the challenges? If so, have an open conversation with your family. Calmly explain your feelings, why he matters to you, and why you believe he's the right person.

Talk to your boyfriend too—acknowledge his fears, but let him know how much he means to you. If he’s still pulling away, it might mean he’s not ready to face these challenges. In the end, you deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for the relationship. Make sure your decisions prioritize your long-term happiness.

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Hi Mam, Actually I am self independent girl. I am not financially dependent on anyone. I am good in my career. I have a boyfriend the relationship is been 10 years. lastyear when i told my parents i wanted to get married to him, my parents opposed it . now they have fixed my marriage with someone else , i tried to tell the person who is going to get married to me that i am in relationship and i am not able to overcome with that. i am not interested in this marriage. The boy who is going to get married to me told all the details what i have informed to him regrading my relationship to my parents . and also he is saying me that he is going to give me a good life he wanted to marry me only. what should i do now even my parents wanted me to get married to the person who they have arranged wedding .But i am really not interested.

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Maam i am in relationship but my parents is not agree with them they are forcing me to do marriage with other but I can’t they have their mind set I can’t leave him also and can’t leave family also because today i am independent and earning because of them plz help me maam

Ans: Dear Preeti,
In almost most the questions that I receive on similar issues as yours, my suggestion has usually been: parents disagree due to certain beliefs that they have on culture, traditions, faith, financial status differences and so, actually talk to them about what actually is worrying them. That could be a start point for you.

Then of course, the reason as to why you chose this person cannot simply be: I like him and so...when you speak with your parents, they are going to need not just information but also a lot of reassurance as to why the boy is right one for you. Do ask you partner to step in to actually help in this situation with your parents. Let them get to know one another...You need to start somewhere to see what works and what does not and what absolutely will not! Then you can modify the manner in which you approach the situation; start somewhere...And oh, do not feel obligated to your parents and make decisions about your life. Instead know that they care for you and have done what parents do for their children.

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Question by niveditha - Jan 27, 2025

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hi maam im in love with a guy who i met in hyd im 24 nd he is 28 we wanna marry eachother and we love eachother alot maam he comes from a hindu family and i come from a christian family in my family there are 16 members who have had love marriages nd are happy in their respective lives but when it comes to me my parents and my family always force me to get married to a guy of their choice i have been dealing with all this since 1 year i took help of my relatives also who have had love marriages but no body is ready to listen to me and they r threatening to kill my boyfriend im not at all happy with all this situations maam im getting panic attacks nd not able to sleep peacefully at night my family r calling my bf nd threatening to kill him im crying begging pleading but no body is supporting me or listening to my words nd my entire family r brainwashing me to leave my bf and get married to a christian guy my mom always let my family get interfere in my personal and professional life and seperate me from my career nd my bf they did it maam now my mom and my family r not letting me focus on my career and my mom forcefully bought me to my native place nd took my mobile also nd not letting me see my bf meet him or talk to him and not letting me work and my parents nd my family are mentally harassing me everyday to leave my bf maam what should i do plz help

Ans: Dear Niveditha,
What can you do? Your family is still living under the rock. Your phone has been taken as well! There is no way for you to even consult with your boyfriend and sort the issue out, I guess.
The only thing I can think of is your safety and his at this point in time. You really need to think of what your family is doing; what are these threats? Are they for real?
If there's a way to communicate with your boyfriend, tell him to lay low for a while and you do the same. At times, giving slight rest to a problem can allow people around to become a bit calmer after which you can possibly talk to them and then come to a decision.

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