Hii i am 40 years married man and last 2 years i am in relationship with a married women , we also like each other she also confessed me she love me, in starting we talk long time by phone , she give more effort to meet with me she call me to came his home when she alone but from 3-4 month she not giving that effort to meet with me and not come near me we just talk on mobile we meet some time but not closser like earlier , i am not understanding where is going wrong pls suggest

Ans: Dear Boudhayan,
Office romances are fleeting ones that offer some respite from the routine home environment.

Obviously being married, it comes with it's own set of challenges with having to hide text messages, calls...it's stressful for you and her as well. Did you consider that her being cold now maybe because her husband might have found out OR that she is having a hard time juggling two lives. Out of marriage experiences can be draining...

Instead of seeking solace elsewhere, have you made an honest attempt to work on your marriage? Give that a fair chance first...Stepping out of marriage is an easy thing than working on a marriage which has a clot of challenges...but since you have decided to stay together for the sake of your 8-year old, you might as well work on your relationship with your wife...start with basic communication and seek the help of a professional if necessary...you maybe surprised that things have worked out...if not, then you can see, what can be done...

Intense connections like marriage or a relationship require a lot of time and energy...
Respect what the other lady might be going through...give her time and space to sort out what is happening at her home...also, she cares enough to ask you about your wellbeing...Be happy with what IS and do give your marriage an honest rebuilding...

All the best!

Ans: Hello Suman,
It sounds like there have been significant changes in your relationship dynamics, especially with your wife's focus on her career and the physical distance between you due to your work in Malaysia. Even though your wife may not be responding to your calls, it's important to continue trying to communicate with her. Express your concerns and feelings openly and honestly, but also try to listen to her perspective without judgment.Try to understand your wife's perspective and the reasons behind her behavior. It's possible that she may be feeling overwhelmed with her responsibilities or experiencing other challenges that are affecting her responsiveness. Consider seeking the assistance of a marriage counselor or therapist who can facilitate communication and help both of you work through your issues. A neutral third party can provide guidance and support in resolving conflicts and rebuilding your relationship. Reflect on what you want for your future and what you're willing to do to salvage your marriage. Consider your own needs and priorities, as well as those of your son. If possible, try to spend quality time together when you visit India or when your wife can join you in Malaysia. Building positive experiences together can help strengthen your bond and rekindle your connection. Lean on friends, family, or support groups for guidance and emotional support during this challenging time. Having a strong support system can help you navigate through difficult situations.Take care of yourself emotionally, physically, and mentally. Focus on activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and don't hesitate to seek professional help if you're feeling overwhelmed or distressed.
Ultimately, rebuilding a relationship takes time, effort, and commitment from both parties. It's important to approach the situation with empathy, patience, and an openness to change.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It could be one of these:
1. Hormonal changes related to age OR certain medications that she maybe taking
2. A disconnect between the two of you OR lack of emotional connection
3. Boredom in the bedroom OR lack of something new in sexual intimacy

The best way to work through challenges relating to sex and sexual intimacy is for both partners to sit down and be honest with each other and talk it out. It's possible to sort out issues once you know what could be causing them, right?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's a wonder as to why she would suddenly be different from what you have been used to. It's also natural to pinpoint it to her reconnecting with her school friend if there is no other recent changes or events that might have caused her to act very different. The best is to ASK...she may not even be aware of her behavior change or the impact certain things are having on you.
While you have that chat, it will give you a fair understanding of what is going on with that friend of hers.
Communication is better than Assumption and in your case, it's best to talk things through...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/