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Boudhayan Question by Boudhayan on May 01, 2023Hindi
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I am married since 2010 but me and my wife do not get along.We live together for the sake of our 8 year old son.Last year I fell in love with a new female colleague who joined our office. We used to speak very warmly to each other and she shared a lot of details with me about her past life such as her childhood.We would flirt with each other playfully and share details of our daily life.She is also married with a child but she doesn't spend too much time with her husband and seems very independent.I felt like she liked me too. However after 4 months she suddenly said that she looked at me as her office colleague and was not interested in personal conversations. I have sent her many messages on Whatsapp asking her about the reason behind her indifference and she reads everyone of them. She hasn't blocked me but she doesn't respond. Even when I go to her directly she talks to me in a cold manner.But she also asked me about my mother's health when she heard that my mother was undergoing cancer treatment.I am unable to understand why is she acting like this and I also cannot let go of her.Can you please explain what is going on

Ans: Dear Boudhayan,
Office romances are fleeting ones that offer some respite from the routine home environment.

Obviously being married, it comes with it's own set of challenges with having to hide text messages, calls...it's stressful for you and her as well. Did you consider that her being cold now maybe because her husband might have found out OR that she is having a hard time juggling two lives. Out of marriage experiences can be draining...

Instead of seeking solace elsewhere, have you made an honest attempt to work on your marriage? Give that a fair chance first...Stepping out of marriage is an easy thing than working on a marriage which has a clot of challenges...but since you have decided to stay together for the sake of your 8-year old, you might as well work on your relationship with your wife...start with basic communication and seek the help of a professional if necessary...you maybe surprised that things have worked out...if not, then you can see, what can be done...

Intense connections like marriage or a relationship require a lot of time and energy...
Respect what the other lady might be going through...give her time and space to sort out what is happening at her home...also, she cares enough to ask you about your wellbeing...Be happy with what IS and do give your marriage an honest rebuilding...

All the best!

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I am a 53 year old man living alone away from family for 6 years. My wife has affair with her boyfriend and they are in physical relations also. Suddenly I got attracted to one female colleague. We became friendly. Suddenly that lady has stopped talking to me. Being a matured man I don't want anybody's life to be spoiled but not able to cope up with her ignorance to me. Please suggest how to cope up with the situation.
Ans: Hello Ajay

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. It can be challenging to navigate through feelings of loneliness and betrayal, and it's natural to seek out companionship and connection.

It's important to remember that just because someone is friendly with you doesn't necessarily mean they're interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. It's possible that your colleague has simply realized that she doesn't feel the same way about you and is choosing to distance herself to avoid leading you on.

If you're struggling to cope with her sudden change in behavior, it may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and motivations. Are you genuinely interested in this person as a friend, or were you hoping for something more? It's important to be honest with yourself and with others about your intentions.

If you do find that you have feelings for this person and are struggling to move on, it might be helpful to seek out support from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with guidance and strategies for coping with feelings of rejection and moving forward in a healthy way.

Finally, it's important to remember that everyone has their own journey and experiences, and it's not your responsibility to try to save someone from their own problems or make them happy. Focus on taking care of yourself and cultivating healthy relationships with those who reciprocate your feelings and respect your boundaries.

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I am 49 years male, married and having two kids aged 16 years and 13 years. My relations with my spouse are not smooth since many years and we don't have physical intimacy and don't have sex with more than five-six years. I am attracted towards a girl aged about 30 plus years working in my office. We used to go around after office hours, had some coffee and chat and then I dropped her at her residence. I have expressed my love to her and she has responded that she will be my friend forever and don't want to disturb and ruin my family. I was okay with this as I was mentally happy to have her as my friend. But from few days, she has started ignoring me and giving late replies to my messages. I asked her to meet after office hours but she refused on one pretext or other. For few days, we don't have any communications. I was very disturbed and depressed about her behaviour. I even asked the reasons why she has changed, but she replied that she has not... Now, we are exchanging only rare few official messages...... I am so much shocked that I am not even finding courage to ask her to meet.... I fear I might lost her......Kindly advise me
Ans: Look, at some point this girl is going to meet another man and start dating or get married. This change in her behaviour may be indicative of the fact that she has already met someone. And she is aware of your feelings for her, so is probably keeping her distance. My advice is to focus on your own marriage and family, please visit a counsellor and try getting your relationship with your wife back on track. This may be a blessing in disguise for you.

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I am 58 years old working in a central government office. I have a junior female colleague who is 43 years old. We have been working together for the past fifteen years and travel together on official tours. She will always be jovial and I enjoy her company. Both were married and have children as well. I like her very much and love her as well. Recently, I developed strong feelings for her. I expressed the same to her through emails and WhatsApp and by showing special attention and care. When I presented her a special jewelry gift on her birthday, she refused to accept the same. Despite my repeated pleas and requests, she refused and when I made an emotional appeal to her on my birthday, she finally accepted and do not know till now what she has done with it! Ever since I expressed my love to her, she withdrew from me and started to avoid me. I got the message! But, I am unable to forget her and all these happenings. I feel like not being able to live without her and her thoughts. In spite of my appeals to her to forgive me and my requests to her to express herself on what she feels about me and these happenings, she maintains stoic silence and never reacted so far. I am unable to read her. Because of this, my work also suffers. I am unable to bear her moving away from me, even though she limited to speaking to me only on profession-related matters. At the same time, my feelings towards her increase day-by-day. I am unable to tolerate this new situation and just can't forget her. Just wondering if I did a mistake by expressing myself to her. I love her so much that every moment I think of her. Please advice on how to overcome this!
Ans: What you are going through is surely not fun, having said this it is not uncommon to get attracted to someone else despite being in a committed relationship.

You have shared how you feel to the lady in concern, she has responded by letting you know of her disinterest in exploring this further. You claim you love her, if so, you will want the best for her which means if she does not wish to reciprocate then you should respect what she is asking.

As for your likeness towards her is nice, but its important to convert this likeness into respect.

I would recommend joining an activity or engaging in something fun to do from learning dancing to reading books to gardening or even doing a social service. Make sure your mind is occupied at all times.

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Hi rediff guru, I have a son who is 9 years old and for him I have been investing in 10k every month in HDFC children gift fund. I have a daughter who is 2 years old and I would like to start investing for her too. Should I invest in the same HDFC children gift fund (10K per month) or should I invest in the Sukhanya Samriddhi Yojana (1.5 lks per annum) Looking for something which will give better returns in the next 15 years also tax free. Please help
Ans: Investing for your children's future is commendable, and it's essential to choose the right investment option based on your financial goals and preferences. Here's a comparison between HDFC Children's Gift Fund and Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY) to help you make an informed decision:

HDFC Children's Gift Fund:

Offers the flexibility of investing in equity and debt instruments, providing the potential for higher returns over the long term.
Returns are subject to market risks but may outperform traditional fixed-income investments like SSY, especially over a 15-year horizon.
Taxation: Long-term capital gains (if any) are taxed at 10% without indexation benefit, applicable if gains exceed Rs 1 lakh in a financial year.
Not specifically designed for tax benefits, but potential returns could outweigh tax implications.
Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY):

Specifically designed for the girl child's education and marriage expenses, offering guaranteed returns and tax benefits under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act.
Currently offers a higher interest rate compared to most fixed-income instruments, providing assured returns.
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Hello Ulhas joshi sir, All our corpos mostly 90% is in debt(in the form of FDR's, SSSC, LIC etc) and rest 10% in MF and ULIP. I am 32 years and my mother is 61 years. I am working professional in tier 2 city and mother is retired from government job. I am seeking a financial advice to balance out the investments in debt and want some exposure in equity by investing through MF's. We have a total of 3 cr in debt and approx 40 lacs in equity market. Please suggest us the suitable mix so that our corpus would also grow and expenses would also meet out. Our total expenses per month would be around 35 K. Please also suggest the names of mutual funds to start investing?? Regards, Bharat Manik
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It's commendable that you're looking to diversify your investments and seek growth opportunities in equity markets. Here are some suggestions to achieve a balanced portfolio:

Asset Allocation:
Considering your age difference and risk tolerance, you may adopt a balanced approach to asset allocation.
Allocate a significant portion of your portfolio (around 60-70%) to debt instruments to provide stability and income generation, especially considering your mother's retirement.
Allocate the remaining portion (around 30-40%) to equity investments to benefit from potential growth opportunities over the long term.
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Sir I have investing right now Parag Parikh flexi cap 2k,Nifty Total Market Index Fund 2k,ICICI Prudential Multi Cap Fund 1K,Nippon India Small Cap 1k,Tata Digital fund 500.Request your advice am I right in track for investing MF.
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Parag Parikh Flexi Cap: This fund offers diversification across market segments and has a flexible investment approach. It's a good choice for long-term growth potential.
Nifty Total Market Index Fund: Investing in an index fund provides broad market exposure and low expense ratios. It's suitable for passive investors seeking market returns.
ICICI Prudential Multi Cap Fund: This fund invests across large, mid, and small-cap stocks, providing diversification and potential for higher returns. It complements your portfolio well.
Nippon India Small Cap: Small-cap funds have the potential for high growth but come with higher volatility. Ensure you're comfortable with the risk associated with this fund.
Tata Digital Fund: Investing in thematic funds like digital funds can offer exposure to high-growth sectors. However, they tend to be more volatile and may not suit all investors.
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Hi, I have a question about the expense ratio in mutual funds. I have invested in direct mutual funds both Parag Parikh ELSS (expense ratio - 0.69%) & Parag Parikh Flexi Cap (expense ratio - 0.57%). I have invested 25000/- each in both funds, one of my friend suggested to invest in any one of the funds as this will affect the returns for in longer period, and I am planning to invest for another 10 years in both funds. Question: Is it okay to be invested in both funds, I'm aware that the funds overlap, but I want to check on the expense ratio difference in the cost for 10 years. Can you please help me understand the calculation so that I can make a better decision? Expense ratio is calculated for the amount that I invest, either I invest 50k in one of the funds or split 25k each in both funds having a difference of 0.12% in expense ratio. How much of this will affect the end corpus and how is that I can calculate for the other mutual funds that I'm currently investing in? please suggest me on this.
Ans: You're absolutely right, even a small difference in expense ratio can affect returns over time. Here's how to analyze your situation and the impact of expense ratios:

Impact of Expense Ratio on Returns:

The expense ratio is a percentage of your investment deducted annually to cover fund management fees. A lower expense ratio means more money stays invested and has the potential to grow through compounding.

Calculating the Cost Difference:

Annual Cost Difference: Multiply the expense ratio difference (0.12%) by your total investment amount (25000 + 25000 = ?50,000). So, 0.12% * ?50,000 = ?60 per year.

Cost Difference over 10 Years: Multiply the annual cost difference (?60) by the number of years (10). This gives you ?600 as the total expense ratio cost difference over 10 years.

Is ?600 Significant?

While ?600 might seem small, it's crucial to consider the power of compounding over 10 years. Let's say you earn an average annual return of 12%. Here's a simplified comparison:

Investing in Both Funds: Your total return after 10 years would be impacted by the expense ratio difference of ?600. There's a chance you might have slightly more if you invested in the single fund with the lower expense ratio.

Investing in One Fund: This scenario eliminates the expense ratio difference, potentially leading to a slightly higher return due to slightly more money compounding over time.

Making an Informed Decision:

Diversification Benefit: Both Parag Parikh ELSS and Flexi Cap represent different fund categories (ELSS & Flexi Cap). Holding both provides diversification, which can help mitigate risk.

Expense Ratio vs. Diversification: The diversification benefit of holding both funds might outweigh the small cost difference in expense ratios.

Consider Overall Portfolio: Analyze your entire investment portfolio. If you have other diversified funds, then holding both Parag Parikh funds might be redundant.

Calculating for Other Funds:

Use the same method mentioned above. Find the expense ratio difference between the funds you're comparing and multiply it by your investment amount to get the annual cost difference. Then multiply by the number of years you plan to invest.
Recommendation:

It's difficult to definitively say whether consolidating is best. Here are some options:

Maintain Both Funds: The diversification benefit might be valuable. Track the performance of both and re-evaluate if one consistently underperforms.

Consolidate: If you have other diversified funds, consider consolidating to the fund with the lower expense ratio.

Invest More in Lower Expense Ratio Fund: Increase your investment proportionally in the Parag Parikh Flexi Cap (lower expense ratio) to potentially gain a slight edge over time.

Consulting a Financial Advisor:

A financial advisor can analyze your entire portfolio, risk tolerance, and goals to provide a personalized recommendation.

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Age 37, investing from last 1 year.I want to review my portfolio.Also want to add 5000 more sip should I add new fund or increase in existing funds. Current portfolio. Parag pareg flexi cap-7500 Hdfc index sensex plan-7500 Nippon small cap-4500 Tata small cap-2500 Kotak emerging equity -7500 Investment horizon -12+ years
Ans: Considering your investment horizon and existing portfolio, here are some suggestions for reviewing and potentially adding SIP:

Portfolio Review:
Parag Parikh Flexi Cap: Continue holding as it offers diversification across market segments.
HDFC Index Sensex Plan: Since it's an index fund, it provides stability and diversification. Consider reviewing its performance relative to its benchmark.
Nippon Small Cap and Tata Small Cap: Small-cap funds are volatile but have potential for high returns. Monitor their performance closely.
Kotak Emerging Equity: Evaluate its performance and consistency compared to peer funds in the same category.
Adding Rs 5,000 more SIP:
Consider adding to existing funds to maintain portfolio diversity and avoid overconcentration.
Since you already have exposure to small-cap and flexi-cap funds, you may consider adding to a large-cap or mid-cap fund to further diversify your portfolio.
Alternatively, you could explore adding a multi-cap fund to gain exposure across different market segments within a single fund.
New Fund vs. Existing Funds:
Assess the performance and potential of your existing funds before deciding to add to them.
If you're satisfied with the performance of your current funds and believe they still have growth potential, consider increasing your SIP amounts in them.
However, if you're looking to further diversify or explore new investment opportunities, adding a new fund with a different investment objective or strategy could be beneficial.
Consultation:
Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to review your portfolio and receive personalized advice tailored to your financial goals and risk tolerance.
Regularly reviewing your portfolio and making adjustments as needed will help ensure that your investments remain aligned with your long-term financial objectives.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2024Hindi
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am 40 plan to get 1cr in next 10 year how much invest? Please suggest which mutual funds are good
Ans: To accumulate 1 crore in 10 years, you need to calculate the required monthly investment based on your expected rate of return. Here's a general approach:

Determine the expected rate of return: Based on historical data, a reasonable expectation for annual returns from equity mutual funds could be around 12-15%.
Use a financial calculator or online SIP calculator to find the monthly investment required to reach 1 crore in 10 years at your expected rate of return.
Once you have the required monthly investment amount, consider allocating it across a diversified portfolio of mutual funds. Look for funds with a track record of consistent performance, experienced fund managers, and aligned investment philosophy.
Since you have a 10-year investment horizon, you can afford to take some risk for potentially higher returns. Consider a mix of equity-oriented funds such as large-cap, mid-cap, and multi-cap funds to diversify across market segments and manage risk effectively.
Regularly review your investments and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your financial goals, market conditions, and risk tolerance.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner for personalized advice tailored to your specific needs and goals.
By investing systematically in mutual funds and staying disciplined with your investment strategy, you can work towards achieving your goal of accumulating 1 crore in 10 years.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2024Hindi
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I am planning to investing Rs 30000 in SIP. My funds are Parag parikh flexi cap- 5000, motilal oswal nifty 150 midcap index fund- 4000, icici prudential value discovery fund- 3000, mirae large and midcap fund - 6000, quant small cap- 4000, uti index fund - 6000. Can you pls suggest me one more fund/sector where I can invest rest of the amount. My goal is 10+ years.
Ans: Considering your existing portfolio, here's a suggestion for investing the remaining amount of Rs 6,000 in a SIP:

Since you already have exposure to flexi-cap, mid-cap, large & mid-cap, small-cap, and index funds, you may consider diversifying further into a sectoral fund for potential growth opportunities.
Sectoral funds focus on specific sectors of the economy such as banking, technology, healthcare, etc. Depending on your risk appetite and investment outlook, you can choose a sector that aligns with your beliefs about future growth prospects.
Conduct thorough research on the performance, historical returns, and outlook of various sectors before making a decision. Consider factors like economic trends, government policies, and global market conditions that may impact the chosen sector.
Remember to maintain a balanced portfolio by not allocating too much to a single sector. Diversification across sectors can help reduce risk and enhance long-term returns.
Regularly review your investments and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your financial goals, market conditions, and risk tolerance.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner for personalized advice tailored to your specific needs and goals.
By diversifying your SIP investments across different sectors and asset classes, you can potentially maximize returns while managing risk effectively over the long term.

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Hi Experts, I am 35 years old and having SIPs in below mutual funds ICICI prudential Long Term equity fund (Tax Saving) Direct Plan Growth - SIP - Rs 3500 Axis Long term Equity Direct plan Growth (tax Saving)- SIP - Rs 3500 SBI Small Cap - SIP - Rs 3000 Mirae Asset Tax Saver Fund Direct growth - SIP - Rs 3500 Parag Parekh Flexi Cap Fund Direct Growth - SIP - Rs 7000 Axis Mid Cap Direct Plan Growth - SIP - Rs 5000 Nippon India multicap fund -SIP- Rs 10000 My total SIP is around Rs 36000 across all. I would like to invest Rs 15000 more on SIP. I know my small cap allocation is low because some one has scared me of small cap because of volatility. Can you suggest where can I invest extra Rs 15000 per month SIP. I have recently top up my mutual fund SIPs. I am looking for long time investment.
Ans: It's commendable that you're regularly investing through SIPs and looking to further diversify your portfolio. Here's a suggestion for investing an additional Rs 15,000 per month:

Since you're concerned about volatility in small-cap funds, consider allocating a portion of the additional Rs 15,000 to large-cap or multi-cap funds for stability and downside protection.
Look for funds with a proven track record of consistent performance and experienced fund managers. Consider factors like expense ratio, fund size, and portfolio composition when evaluating options.
Given your long-term investment horizon, you can afford to take some risk for potentially higher returns. Hence, consider allocating a portion of the additional SIP amount to mid-cap or small-cap funds for growth opportunities.
Remember to maintain a balanced portfolio across different market segments and asset classes to manage risk effectively.
Regularly review your SIP investments and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your financial situation or market conditions.
Consult with a Certified Financial Planner to receive personalized advice tailored to your specific needs and goals.
By diversifying your SIP investments across different market segments and staying disciplined with your investment strategy, you can maximize the potential for long-term wealth creation while managing risk effectively.

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