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Manvander Question by Manvander on Aug 11, 2022Hindi
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Hey ma'am, I got into a relationship with a girl in 2019. In the beginning it was all good.
We both were committed to each other and we always promised each other of marrying but then I cheated on her.
She was still with me and forgave me and we moved on.
But then lockdown happened and I thought if we can't meet then we should at least be connected virtually most of the time so that she doesn't think I don't love her anymore.
She got irritated by it because her mental peace was not okay in lockdown and I thought I should support her by calling her and texting her all the time.
And now 6 months ago in December 2021 she blocked me.
I tried to sort it but couldn't communicate.
Three months ago we communicated and she told me everything how she got irritated and I told her that it’s both our fault that we didn't communicate.
So now when I know I was at fault can we start again?? She is saying now I am looking for someone better.
I love her ma'am. And I am still committed to marry her.
All her friends, her family, her sister know that I love her so much and they want us to be together but she is just blindly saying she wants someone else.
I can't live like this. Everyone in our circle says the way I handle her mood swings and all no one can do that. But I don’t know how to make her realise.
To be honest ma'am I don't want to lose her. I love her ma'am. Kindly help me ma'am
Thanks

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Dear MP,

It might be a message from her to you to move on.

It could be because of her losing trust on you. Lockdown has changed the way that we think, feel and act and most of us have had a major overhaul in our lives.

You might have to win her trust back rather than just thinking that you love her and that she must understand this.

Maybe she is still hurt which means you need to go that extra mile to rebuild your relationship.

But if she has moved on and wishes that you move on as well, kindly respect this and move on.

All the best!

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Hi Love Guru. Please keep my identity as anonymous as possible.  I have few issues going on in my mind and want your suggestions. First, to get out of block and unblock chain. I met a girl who is my brother’s friend in 2017. We started chatting on FB, then exchanged numbers. We had a rapport till six months. There was a unique attachment between us during that period. Not chatting with her for even one day would make me uneasy. In October 2017, her engagement was fixed. I was normal, knowing that there cannot be much between us except being in contact. One day, at the end of our talk, she said, Love you. I laughed, saying “What nonsense that you always call me with different weird names. Now, after your engagement is fixed, you are telling me this.” Then, she blocked me on WhatsApp and I really felt like I was in a cage. Then, after a few days, she unblocked me. She got engaged but, after a few months, her engagement broke. We then again got in good contact. After few months her marriage got fixed. Now she is married. After her marriage, our contact was very, very less as priorities changed. I proceeded with my studies and job and she carried on with her personal and professional life. Two months back, she called me and said I am bored and feeling irritated with life so I called you to freshen my mind. I was also happy talking to her. I am that kind of introvert person who opens up with few and she was among them. For one or two weeks, we used to talk 30 to 45 minutes daily. Suddenly, she blocked me on WhatsApp. I called her and she behaved like a stranger to me -- like who’s this, I don’t know you, who you are and she ended the call and blocked me. Till date, she has blocked me. I think there are many things she is hiding from me -- from why her first engagement broke to marring another guy who is not of her caste when she is from a conservative family  Post her engagement, there were many times she blocked and unblocked me. She is running in my mind. I want to get rid of her. Please suggest how and what shall I talk to her so I get an end to this. Thank you for bearing to read all this. My second issue is I think I am addicted to pornography. Two to three years back, I used to watch a lot of porn and would prefer MILF porn, ie senior pornstars videos. I think, due to this, I don’t get much attracted to girls of my age. I respect them but I think, because of my addiction, I see females elder to me attractive rather than females of my age. Please help. Suggest how I shall get out of this as this also affects me academically, personally and professionally. Thank you, Anon
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Dear Anonymous,

I don’t think you really have any serious problems in your life at all; it’s your perceptions that are all wrong.

Let me straighten this out for you, one issue at a time.

First off, you have one weird, unpredictable friend who once told you she loved you and then went and married someone else.

Not once have you stated that you are in love with her or have feelings for her. In fact, when she said she loved you, you brushed it off.

She contacts you when she’s bored and cuts you off when she’s not.

And now, it’s come to the point where you really need to be the one blocking her and not the other way around...

You want to get rid of her? Block her once and for all. And if she still manages to get in touch, tell her politely that you have had enough of this one-sided friendship and not to contact you again.

Second, about what you think is a porn ‘addiction’... An addiction is something that interferes with your normal life, career and relationships. It’s an obsession that consumes you every waking hour.

And, from what you’ve said, I don’t think you’re watching such volumes of pornography every day, are you?

Furthermore, unless you’re into grannies, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being attracted to women older than you... everyone has a type!

If after everything I’ve said you still fancy you have problems, I’d suggest visiting a therapist. But before spending that kind of money, think long and hard about what I’ve said and decide for yourself whether you think you need it.

 

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 13, 2023

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I started a relationship with a girl. First we thought it just a relationship no marriage. But as days going we fell deep into each other that we cant live without each other. I found one thing that she loving more than needed. Im so scared of her, what will she do if i run out of her life for my marriage. This thought killed me. So I decided to leave her without telling a reason. I left her with a small issue. I really dont want to loose but i had to. I just said good bye, she also said good bye. Later i never texted her. She too never texted me. But after 2 months i felt guilty of leaving so i came back to her. Previously her parents decided to marry her to their son in law. I know this when were in relationship. So after our breakup i came back to her. But she said no to me because she is committed with her brother in law. I cant take this. Its killing me. After i said good bye she never tried to contact me for patch-up. Even no texts. Her brother in law told her that im ready to marry you. So she too said i too like you and im also ready to marry you. But their marriage will happen in 2026. I told her that untill marriage please be with me and this is our deal when we started our relationship. But she said no. I begged her many times but she always said no to me. And still now i cant believe that she said no to me. All this happened 3 months ago but still i cant forget her. Recently she deleted my number also. Everything making me feel low. What should i do now?
Ans: Dear Srikanth,

To me, it sounds like you broke up with her. No, you ghosted her. How you put her on trial isn't clear to me, given the fact that you stopped contacting her after a mere goodbye and no proper explanation. Why did she not try to contact you? Maybe she has enough self-respect to restrain herself from doing so; I cannot speak for her but judging the events, you were the one who broke up and you need to own up to it.

Moving on to her deciding to get married- I am assuming she told you she's happy to marry her intended; if so, please accept the reality and move on. Next, why is she not agreeing to be in a relationship with you till the time she gets married? To expect otherwise from any sane, self-respecting person is delusional.

You knew that the two of you could not end up together and took a decision; immature as it was, your intentions were good. Similarly, your ex chose to move on. I don't see either of you making any considerable mistakes here. Both were right in their ways, except for the "you leaving her without a word" part. It is time you move on, and let her live her life in peace. You might feel low for a while, but nothing feels worse than hurting the people you once loved, and compelling your ex to commit to you when she doesn't want to is the same as hurting her. Make the right choices.

Best Wishes!

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Nov 22, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ravi, I am currently in relationship of almost 7 years but after the COVID there was some conflict or no contact with my partner just because of a scenario. I always used to order some food for her at his flat. Let me clear one things we were in a long term relationship that time. So I ordered food and she got the order then called me in the night with a different voice tone, I said yes then It felt odd. Then she said someone is here I will call you back. Then she didn't so I called her after 2 hour she rejected and after sometime messaged me on whatsapp that deleted everything our chats and conversation because she caught by his brother (who is 10 years older than her), she told me to not contact her she will call or message only. I got scared I deleted all chats because her brother is so rude and arrogant. After 10 days she called me and said we are not going further with this relationship now on we will not be in touch, I was devastated by listening these things so I tried my best to make her understand that I will talk to your parents or brother but she denied NO and said I will again talk with bro. After these scenario she tried not to contact me and I kept trying to reach out to her via messanger because she has blocked me from everywhere. I cried alot in first 2 month then I started to link all those things that she said and try to find out the matter ( note - she got lot of friends) so I found that she in her flat then I got the tickets and go there to see what is happening I waited for the whole day then in the evening I go upstairs and open the doors, she got scared h and stunned by seeing me and I saw a guy in the flat they having hookah then I said give me my stuff and ask her to talk for the final tine 10 min downstairs. She said not now then didn't came. I took my stuff nd leave the next day I tried to over come this situation nd reaching out to his bro but didn't get connected. She also called me the next day nd her frnd but I was not able to talk. After we got disconnected for sometime. And I am a person who always wanted to know the truth behind the things because I can't live with these traumas in my mind so I tried contacting her asked lot of time why did you do that nd all but kept denying that he is just a friend. After sometime on day she came with sone massages nd saying my mom is not good nd there is nothing going well in my house plss sorry nd all so I took it normally but after sometime we got attracted again little bit then realise that we can try atleast once to be together. I know she loves me but I don't like her priorities she always put his frnds over me. Idk what to do pls tell me the way to cop up with this thing. Also I still have in mind that she has something to tell me about that boy but not telling me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand how challenging it must be for you; I get that you are considering giving it another shot, but please be careful. If there is any doubt, anything at all, do address that right now before you are knee-deep in the relationship again. I suggest you tell your partner to first sit and clear out everything that happened before you two broke up and explain how you need a clean slate and for that, you have to know the truth.

If you suspect cheating in the past breakup, be cautious about getting back together and thinking it through. Do you want to patch things up because you love her or is the idea of being together again more comfortable than the idea of having to move on? We go back to the same person, even if it's toxic for us because there's comfort in familiarity, not because it's the best choice. It's time for introspection. Also, don't feel guilty about saying no to getting back together if it's not the right decision for you. Whether it was family issues or infidelity, she chose what seemed best for her at the time, and it's okay for you to do the same.

Best Wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2023Hindi
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Hi, myself is 31 years old guy and I was in relationship with the women (collegue of mine in previous company) who is married and had 1 son and she is 9 years elder then me. Basically I was going through a tough time as I had breakup in 2017 and started drinking and smoking which usually everybody does after a heartbreak. In year 2019 she got to know about my drinking habits and she starting giving her time to me so that I stop all this things. She used to behind me to stop all these things but gradually after a year or so we started developing feelings for each other. We used to talk to a lot like almost we used to share everything and in year 2020 we got into relation and we proposed each other. Everything was fine till 2021. In year 2021 I went for a group picnic where my Ex was also present and my biggest mistake was that I didn't shared this thing with her but she got to know this from one of our common collegue who was also part of the picnic & after that disaster started in our life. She started doubting me that I am still in relation with my Ex but I was not there & continuously I have to prove myself that I don't have any feelings for my ex & I love you only. I was ready to do anything for her even just to surprise her I travel to her city where she went on vacation to her parents house. But unfortunately that was the last time we were together the moment I came to my hometown things started getting worse as she again started doubting me and in anger I just burst on her and after that she stopped talking and bcz of which I went into a depression and due to which I was completely mess was not able to do anything in my life except drinking. Now it has been 2 years that we don't talk except only on some occasion she calls or msg. Still I am having the same feeling for her which I had 3 years back & I need her back in my life. Please suggest me what should I do in this scenario.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear you are facing such challenges in your life. Doubt and jealousy can ruin a relationship and your relationship is proof of that. While you might not have had bad intentions when you did not reveal your ex being present in the gathering with you, it is also understandable that your partner's trust suffered a crack which finally gave away completely. The thing to learn here is that open communication could have saved you all these sufferings. But that's all in the past. Right now you are separated from your partner and I assume she is not interested in getting back together. Your question should not be how to get her back, but rather how can I move on. Your job is not to convince her but to convince yourself that this is for the best. And it truly is; no relationship can survive in the shadows of doubt.

Focus on yourself. Spend time with your friends. Understand that you made a tiny mistake but you tried your best to convince your partner of your loyalty to her; it did not work out but you are not to blame. Some things just don't, and your relationship was one of those things. Forgive yourself if you feel guilty for not disclosing the situation to your partner. You know you were not a cheater and it's no longer your job to convince her of that. Give yourself ample time to grieve the loss and accept that it's lost. Don't keep looking for ways to get back together or you will never move on. It will hurt in the beginning but it will get better soon. Once you feel better, go out and meet people. I am not saying your ex-partner wasn't great but trust me, there are more people out there, who are amazing; they will help you not just heal but also grow.

It's time to let go.

Best Wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2025Hindi
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Hello Sir/Mam. I have a question related to investment in equity mutual fund.My wife and I both comes under zero percent tax bracket but we both do job and there is chance that in future we both can come in tax slab. I want to invest in equity mutual fund for long term around 18 years or more.there is long term capital gain tax applicable on these fund on redemption.does there is any saving of tax if I invest in these mutual fund on my mom or dad names because they will always remain in 0 percent tax slab?
Ans: It shows your care for long-term wealth creation. You are considering legal ways to reduce tax outgo on mutual fund investments. That is a good initiative. But this kind of decision needs to be taken only after checking all angles. Let’s analyse your situation with full clarity and depth.

Your Objective Is Clear and Appreciated

You plan to invest in equity mutual funds.

Your goal is to invest for 18 years or more.

You and your wife are working now.

Currently in the 0% income tax slab.

In future, you may enter taxable slabs.

You want to know if investing in your parents’ names helps save capital gain tax.

It is thoughtful that you want to plan for future tax impact today.
That foresight is good and appreciated.

Let’s now analyse the idea of investing in parents’ names from all angles.

Capital Gains Tax Rules for Equity Mutual Funds

You mentioned correctly about capital gain tax on equity mutual funds.

Here’s how tax works now:

If you redeem after one year, it is called Long Term Capital Gain.

LTCG above Rs.1.25 lakh in a financial year is taxed at 12.5%.

Short Term Capital Gains (sold within one year) are taxed at 20%.

This tax is applied only on profits, not on total amount withdrawn.
So yes, tax saving is possible if you plan redemptions wisely.

Will Investing in Parents’ Name Help Save Tax?

At first glance, yes, investing in parents’ names may help reduce tax.
Because your parents are always expected to be in 0% tax bracket.

But we must not see only one side.
Let’s assess other angles also.

Benefits If Done Properly

If fund is held in your parent's name, then capital gain tax is calculated for them.

If they are below taxable slab, and LTCG is below Rs.1.25 lakh, no tax is payable.

Even above that, tax may be saved by spreading redemptions.

So yes, technically, this can help reduce tax legally.

But this only works if you follow all rules and documentation carefully.

Risk of Clubbing Provisions

Income tax law has a rule called “Clubbing of Income”.
This applies when you gift money to someone but control remains with you.

In your case, if:

You invest in mutual fund in your mother or father’s name,

But you keep control and benefit from that investment,

Then income tax department can “club” the income in your hands.

So capital gain will be added to your taxable income.
Then your tax saving plan may fail completely.

However, clubbing does not apply when you gift money to parents.
It applies only when gifting to spouse or minor child.

So in your case, clubbing of income will not apply if gifted to parents.
That gives one green signal to this idea.

But still, only gifting is not enough. More care is needed.

Ownership and Control Must Match

Even if clubbing does not apply, ensure these conditions:

Money should be gifted clearly to your parent.

Gift deed can be done, even if not registered.

The mutual fund folio should be in their name.

They must be primary and only holder of folio.

PAN, bank account, KYC should be in their name.

All transactions and redemptions should go through their bank account.

They should be aware of the investment.

If all these are followed, then the ownership is clean.
Then capital gain will be taxed in their hands.
That way, your tax-saving strategy will be strong and correct.

Practical Challenges You Must Understand

Though tax saving is possible, there are some practical challenges:

If your parents are not financially savvy, they may not track the fund properly.

You may need to support them in documentation, signatures, redemptions.

If any emergency occurs, you may face delay in accessing funds.

If something happens to them, the investment will be part of their estate.

Then legal process like transmission and succession will be needed.

Joint holders can help but should be structured properly.

If too much amount is kept in parent’s name, later family disputes may arise.

So even if it helps save tax, execution must be very careful.
Legal clarity and paperwork must be perfect.

Compare Tax Saving vs. Operational Simplicity

You are trying to save 12.5% LTCG tax on long-term gains.
That tax is only on the gain amount, and only above Rs.1.25 lakh.

For example:

If capital gain is Rs.2 lakh, only Rs.75,000 is taxed.

Tax on that is Rs.9,375 only.

Now, compare this small saving with:

Effort of creating separate folio

Managing another PAN and KYC

Following proper gifting route

Tracking tax filing in parent’s name

Managing fund if parent is not tech-friendly

Handling succession if parent passes away

In many cases, the extra effort may not be worth the tax saved.

So you must balance tax saving with ease of control and operation.

Should You Transfer Future SIPs Also to Parents’ Name?

If you plan to invest SIPs for next 18 years, you may think to start those in parent’s name too.

But this brings added complication:

Their age is increasing. Health risks may affect operations.

You may lose easy access to your own long-term money.

Goal ownership gets diluted.

You may not feel emotionally safe in using the funds later.

Tax rates and laws may change in future.

They may also come under taxable income due to FD or other income.

So yes, technically, it is possible.
But it is not always the best path.

A Better Tax Planning Strategy for You

Instead of shifting everything to parent’s name, you can:

Keep investing in your and your wife’s name.

Split investments equally to use both Rs.1.25 lakh LTCG exemption.

Plan redemptions properly over years.

Avoid redeeming large amount in one financial year.

Use goal-linked withdrawals, not random redemption.

Track performance and capital gain in each folio.

Consult Certified Financial Planner to plan exit well.

That way, you stay in full control.
And still reduce long-term tax impact efficiently.

If You Still Want to Invest in Parents’ Name

Then follow these points carefully:

Make a clear gift to parent through cheque or NEFT

Use their PAN and Aadhaar for KYC

Open mutual fund folio in their sole name

Use their email and phone for communication

Bank account should be in their name only

Make them nominee-wise clear

Create Will or succession plan for legal clarity

Keep transaction record of gift amount

By doing this, you build strong documentation.
And avoid future tax queries or disputes.

Don’t Forget About Behavioural Discipline

If you keep investing in your own name, you track it more seriously.
You take responsibility for growth, goals and review.
Parents may not be emotionally connected to the fund’s long-term goals.
They may redeem early or withdraw on someone’s suggestion.
This breaks your compounding journey.

So, sometimes paying a little tax is better than losing long-term focus.

Also, with a Certified Financial Planner, you can design a low-tax withdrawal plan.
No need to shift ownership to parents just for saving tax.

Final Insights

Tax planning should be part of investment planning.
But it should not drive all decisions alone.
Saving Rs.10,000 tax but losing peace of mind is not smart.
Your idea is right. But execution needs full care.

If you decide to invest in parent’s name, follow gifting route properly.
And maintain clarity in ownership and operations.

But for most cases, staying in control and planning exits well works better.
You and your wife can easily enjoy Rs.2.5 lakh combined LTCG exemption every year.
That itself gives huge tax-free withdrawal potential.

Also, tax rules change every 3–5 years.
So keep reviewing your strategy with your Certified Financial Planner.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 08, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 29, 2025Hindi
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I am 34 year old male earning 80k per month .home loan emi 20k..ssy for my 3 year old daughter monthly 10k... investing in ppf monthly 10k...sip 2.5k monthly..nps 3.5 k monthly gold etf 3k monthly.. outstanding home loan amount 14lakhs...now I have lumpsum of 5laks is it wise decision to partly pay my home loan or to invest in mutual fund to create wealth...next question the investments I am making today is enough to secure my daughter future for her studies and marriage or do I need to change anything pls guide on that ...I also have a term insurance
Ans: You are already making disciplined efforts.
Now let’s look at your situation from all angles.

Your Current Investment Snapshot
Salary: Rs 80,000 per month

Home Loan EMI: Rs 20,000

SSY: Rs 10,000 monthly for daughter

PPF: Rs 10,000 monthly

NPS: Rs 3,500 monthly

SIP (Mutual Funds): Rs 2,500 monthly

Gold ETF: Rs 3,000 monthly

Term Insurance: Already in place

Lump sum: Rs 5 lakh in hand

Home Loan Outstanding: Rs 14 lakh

You are saving around Rs 29,000 each month outside of EMI.
This is a solid start.

Should You Part Pay Your Home Loan?
Pros of part prepayment now:

You save a lot of interest over time

You reduce your EMI burden for future

It brings peace of mind and security

Good if job stability is uncertain

Cons of part prepayment now:

You lose opportunity to earn better returns

You reduce liquidity buffer in hand

You miss compounding benefit of mutual funds

Now, the rate of home loan is around 8–9%.
Good mutual funds can give better long-term returns than this.

But you don’t have an emergency fund right now.
That is more important than prepaying loans or investing.

What You Should Do With the Rs 5 Lakhs
Split the amount into 3 purposes:

1. Emergency fund: Keep Rs 1.5 lakhs in savings account or FD

This gives peace during job loss or medical emergency

Use only during true need

2. Mutual fund investment: Use Rs 2.5 lakhs for long-term growth

Choose actively managed equity mutual funds

Avoid index funds and ETFs

Index funds copy the market.

They don’t protect during market crash.

Actively managed funds are guided by experts.

These adapt to market changes quickly.

3. Loan prepayment: Pay Rs 1 lakh to reduce principal

Ask bank to apply it toward principal

This lowers your interest burden

It also shortens tenure quietly

This split will give you balance between safety and growth.

Is Your Current Investment Enough for Daughter?
SSY Rs 10,000 monthly is a strong start.
This will mature when she turns 21.
Use this only for marriage or backup.

But for education, add mutual funds.

Higher education costs will go up

Abroad studies may cost Rs 50–80 lakhs

SSY is not enough alone

Add SIPs for education goal

Increase SIP gradually to Rs 5,000–6,000 per month.
Invest through MFD with CFP certification only.
Don’t go for direct plans.
Direct funds seem cheap, but offer no personalised advice.
You miss rebalancing and asset allocation help.

Regular funds with MFD offer better tracking and handholding.

Your Retirement Needs and Strategy
At 34 years, you have 26 years left for retirement.
Current NPS is only Rs 3,500 per month.
You need to grow it to at least Rs 10,000 monthly over time.
Also increase PPF after SSY ends.

Mutual funds are your main wealth builders.
Don't rely on Gold ETF alone.
Gold works for protection—not growth.
Limit gold allocation to 10–15% only.

Build a retirement corpus of Rs 2–3 crore minimum.

Suggestions to Improve Further
Increase SIP every year by 10–15%

Shift lump sum to mutual funds in 3–5 instalments

Use STP (Systematic Transfer Plan) for that

Review goals once every 6 months

Track fund performance yearly with MFD help

Use FD only for emergency and short goals

Avoid ULIPs, endowment, or combo plans

Keep all insurance and investment separate.

Avoid These Mistakes
Don’t invest in direct mutual funds

Don’t use index funds blindly

Don’t invest more in gold than required

Don’t delay term insurance update when salary grows

Don’t stop SIPs during market dips

Don’t ignore inflation while planning daughter’s future

Discipline + Review = True Growth

Final Insights
You are doing great for your age and income.
Your habits are already strong.
Now add clarity, balance, and regular review.

Keep 3 goals separate:

Daughter's education (SIP + MF only)

Daughter’s marriage (SSY can be used)

Your retirement (NPS + MF + PPF)

Don’t mix goals and investments.
Grow SIPs as salary increases.
Keep emergency fund always ready.
Review with a certified financial planner every year.

Rs 5 lakhs should be used wisely—part for safety, part for growth.
That’s how wealth is built and family protected.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 08, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 05, 2025Hindi
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Sir, want to make a lumpsum investment around 10 lakhs.My aim to have atleast 18-22%XIRR in coming 15-20 yrs.which funds with having low nav , high Alpha and H ratio should I choose??
Ans: You have clearly thought through your investment expectations. It is good to see that you are aiming for long-term wealth building. Now let’s analyse and guide you in detail with a 360-degree approach.

Clarity on Your Investment Objective

You have Rs.10 lakh to invest as lump sum.

Your goal is 18–22% XIRR over 15–20 years.

You are seeking low NAV funds with high alpha and high Sharpe Ratio.

The desire for strong long-term returns is absolutely fair.
However, the expectations of 18–22% XIRR consistently over two decades need thoughtful evaluation.

Understanding Long-Term Equity Return Expectations

Historically, good equity funds give 12–15% XIRR over long-term.

18–22% range is aggressive and may not be consistent.

Equity markets are volatile. They need time and patience.

Over 15–20 years, compounding works well.
But expecting 18–22% every year may lead to disappointment.
It is better to expect 12–15% XIRR. Anything above that is bonus.

The Truth About Low NAV Funds

Many investors think low NAV means cheap or better value.

But NAV is not like share price.

NAV shows fund’s per unit value. That’s it.

A fund with Rs.10 NAV is not cheaper than one with Rs.200 NAV.
What matters is how the fund grows, not where it starts.

So, do not choose funds just based on low NAV.
Instead, focus on the fund’s performance, consistency, risk-adjusted return, and fund house strength.

What Does High Alpha and Sharpe Ratio Mean

High alpha means fund is beating its benchmark well.

Sharpe ratio shows return vs. risk taken by the fund.

Higher Sharpe ratio means better risk-adjusted return.

So yes, choosing funds with high alpha and Sharpe ratio makes sense.
But they should be consistently high over 5–10 years.
One-year or short-term alpha is not reliable.

You should also see downside protection, past bear market behaviour, and fund manager continuity.

Important Factors for Fund Selection

Instead of chasing only metrics, look at:

Long-term performance: minimum 7–10 years history

Rolling returns: consistency over time, not point-to-point

Fund manager’s experience and track record

Sector diversification and portfolio quality

Volatility and risk control ability of the fund

A fund with lower return but stable and consistent is better than a risky high return fund.

Why Not Index Funds

Some investors suggest index funds due to low cost.
But index funds just copy the index. They don’t beat the market.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No downside protection in falling markets

Returns only match the index, never exceed

Blind allocation to sectors and stocks

Not suitable if you seek 18–22% XIRR

In contrast, actively managed funds aim to beat the index.
They adapt based on market trends, sector shifts, and economic changes.

With proper selection and regular tracking, active funds can deliver alpha.
So if your goal is high XIRR, avoid index funds.

Why Not Direct Plans

Some investors invest in direct mutual funds without guidance.
But direct funds lack personalised support, rebalancing, and review.

Disadvantages of direct funds:

No one helps track, switch, or reallocate your money

No behaviour control during market corrections

Investors may panic or make wrong decisions

Returns may suffer due to wrong timing

Instead, invest via regular plans under a Certified Financial Planner.
You get portfolio monitoring, expert guidance, and emotional support.
This helps you stay disciplined for 15–20 years.

The cost difference is worth the value added.
A small fee ensures long-term confidence and correct allocation.

Best Strategy for Your Rs.10 Lakh Lump Sum

Since you are investing a lump sum, avoid full one-shot exposure into equity.
Even though horizon is long, entering gradually is better.

Here is a better path:

Step 1: Park Rs.10 lakh in a suitable ultra short term or low duration fund

Step 2: Use STP (Systematic Transfer Plan) to move money to equity over 12–18 months

Step 3: Choose 2–3 well-diversified active equity mutual funds

Step 4: Monitor every year with a Certified Financial Planner

Step 5: Rebalance based on market cycle and fund performance

This phased entry reduces market timing risk.
Also gives better average buying cost.

Which Type of Funds to Choose

Avoid small cap or sectoral funds for lump sum.
They are volatile and need tactical allocation.

Instead, select:

Large & Mid Cap Funds

Flexi Cap Funds

Focused Equity Funds

Multi Asset Funds (for some balance)

These fund categories give:

Diversification

Good upside

Controlled downside

Flexibility for fund manager

With long-term investing, these fund styles build wealth steadily.
They also protect better during market falls.

You don’t need too many funds.
Just 2–3 high-quality ones are enough.

Things to Watch as You Invest

Always link your investment to goal, not just return.

Monitor the funds every year for consistency.

Avoid churning. Let compounding do the work.

Don’t react emotionally to short-term falls.

Stay invested fully for 15–20 years.

Avoid temptation to switch often.
Discipline and patience bring more return than constant change.

MF Tax Rules to Keep in Mind

When you exit your equity mutual funds:

If held for over 1 year:

LTCG above Rs.1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

If sold within 1 year:

STCG taxed at 20%

Plan your redemptions properly.
Spread withdrawals over years to save tax.
Avoid redeeming in panic.

Role of Certified Financial Planner in Long-Term Investing

To reach 18–22% return, fund selection is not enough.
You need portfolio design, rebalancing, emotional support, and tax planning.

This is where a Certified Financial Planner helps:

Suggest best funds for your profile

Plan STP for smooth entry

Review and rebalance every year

Prevent emotional exits

Track performance vs. your goal

Provide goal-based reports

A guided long-term approach works better than random investing.
Your planner acts like your investment partner.

Mistakes to Avoid

Please avoid the below traps:

Don’t invest full lump sum in equity at once

Don’t choose funds based on low NAV

Don’t focus only on return, ignore risk

Don’t pick direct funds without expert help

Don’t expect 20% yearly return every year

Don’t react to market noise

Don’t keep changing funds too often

Avoiding mistakes is as important as choosing good funds.

What You Should Do Now

Decide on your 15–20 year goal clearly

Park Rs.10 lakh in short-term fund

Start STP into 2–3 strong equity mutual funds

Choose funds with high alpha, Sharpe, and 10-year performance

Avoid index and direct plans

Invest via regular plan through Certified Financial Planner

Review every year with professional help

Stay invested for long term patiently

Expect 12–15% XIRR, not 22%

Let compounding work quietly

Finally

Your intent to invest long-term is excellent.
A Rs.10 lakh investment over 20 years can grow substantially.
Even at 12–15% XIRR, it can create good wealth.
Stay disciplined, invest right, and follow a guided path.
Choose actively managed funds, and avoid risky shortcuts.
Returns will follow when strategy is sound.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 08, 2025

Money
what should i do i have having 2 lakh debt and no source of income and not having any savings or money in my hand how i manage to pay them and no friends and other people are helping me to pay
Ans: It needs a clear and strong action plan.
Right now, your goal is simple—get stable, earn income, and repay.

Let’s look at it from all angles.

Accept the Situation Without Blame
You have Rs 2 lakh loan.

No income. No savings. No support.

This can feel heavy. But it can be handled.

You are not alone. Many have faced this and come out.

You must now focus only on practical steps.

Stop the Debt From Growing
Talk to the lender immediately.

Ask for a pause on EMI or lower interest.

Don’t delay. Hiding will worsen your situation.

If it is credit card debt, avoid minimum payments.

Ask for settlement option if needed.

Document every conversation with lender.

Try converting high interest into low EMI if possible.

No More Borrowing Anymore
Don’t borrow from anyone now.

Don’t take payday or app loans.

Don’t give in to online loan offers.

They increase your stress and risk.

Break this debt chain now.

Focus only on earning and repaying what’s due.

Start a Job or Work Immediately
Even small income is better than no income.

Start with temporary, part-time or gig work.

Choose food delivery, customer care, retail helper, warehouse, or typing jobs.

Try home tuitions, ironing services, cooking support, packaging work.

Check Swiggy, Zomato, Blinkit, UrbanClap, Taskmo, Amazon Flex.

Try YouTube channels or blogs for zero-investment side income ideas.

Any job is a good start.
From zero, even Rs 500 a day is a win.

Sell What You Can Spare
Check if you have any small gold jewellery.

Sell unwanted gadgets, phone, speakers, old laptop.

Sell furniture or clothes you don’t need.

Use Facebook Marketplace, OLX, Quickr.

Even Rs 10,000–15,000 can give relief.

Use this money to pay part of debt.
This builds lender confidence.

Join Government Free Skilling Programs
Join PMKVY (Pradhan Mantri Kaushal Vikas Yojana).

Many courses are free with placement help.

Learn data entry, tailoring, mobile repair, electrician, housekeeping.

Check nearest govt ITI or District Skill Center.

One certificate can get a Rs 8K–15K/month job.
That’s enough to begin repaying.

Reduce Your Monthly Costs
Shift to very low-cost living for next 6–12 months.

Ask relatives for temporary stay if possible.

Don’t eat out. Avoid transport costs.

Use ration shops and free food centers.

Borrow clothes, avoid buying new ones.

Don’t buy on EMI or credit.

Every rupee saved helps you rebuild.

Handle Mental Pressure Calmly
Financial crisis hurts confidence.

Take daily walks. Practice deep breathing.

Write down 3 actions every morning.

Focus only on that.

Your mental health is your real asset.
Strong mind = strong comeback.

Free Help You Can Try
Approach NGOs giving emergency help.

Try Milaap, GiveIndia, Ketto for verified assistance.

Join local self-help groups.

Ask old teachers, colleagues, or ex-employers.

Even strangers can support if you ask with clarity.

Once You Earn, Follow This Plan
Start by saving Rs 500 monthly.

Keep Rs 5,000–10,000 as emergency fund.

Pay Rs 1,000–2,000 monthly to lender.

Once income stabilizes, pay faster.

After clearing debt:

Start SIPs through certified MFD only.

Never invest in direct mutual funds.

Don’t use index funds or ETFs.

Actively managed mutual funds give better results.

Use regular funds with MFD advice.

Invest for future—not under panic.

Don’t Invest in ULIPs or Policies
If someone sells you insurance + investment plan, avoid it.

They are high-cost and give low returns.

No LIC, ULIP, or endowment for now.

Just focus on savings and mutual fund SIPs.

You need simple, flexible plans, not fancy products.

Don’t Fall for Quick Money Scams
Don’t try crypto or forex for quick returns.

Don’t join MLM or chain business schemes.

Don’t pay anyone who promises fast loan approval.

Anything that looks magical will take your money away.

Final Insights
You are strong for asking for help.

Many fear to face it. You are not hiding.

Your comeback will begin with action—not emotion.

Today is your first day of financial rebuilding.

You will repay the Rs 2 lakh. Slowly but surely.

You will build Rs 5 lakh in next 3–5 years.

And more after that.

Keep this plan close. Follow it daily.
You will rise again—step by step.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Nayagam P P  |8247 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 08, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 08, 2025Hindi
Career
Sir,I am getting spit ece and dj sanghvi cse.Which will be the best option for me?.In both the colleges I am getting tfws seat through mhtcet
Ans: Both Sardar Patel Institute of Technology's Electronics & Communication Engineering and DJ Sanghvi College of Engineering's Computer Science & Engineering are offered at NAAC-accredited institutions with strong infrastructure, qualified faculty, industry-linked internships and dedicated placement cells. SPIT Mumbai's ECE program benefits from autonomous status, advanced VLSI and communication labs, mandatory six-month internships and achieved an 82–95% placement consistency over three years. DJ Sanghvi's CSE program holds NAAC A-grade accreditation, features specialized AI/ML and software development labs, semester-long internships and recorded a 96% CSE placement rate with an average package of ?10.78 LPA in 2023-24. Both institutions offer TFWS seats for eligible Maharashtra state candidates with family income below ?8 lakh, providing complete tuition fee waiver throughout the four-year duration. The scheme reserves 5% of total sanctioned seats as supernumerary seats, ensuring cost-effective quality education.

recommendation
For superior software development opportunities and higher placement consistency, recommendation is DJ Sanghvi CSE under TFWS. If specialized electronics and communication training with strong hardware industry exposure appeals more, choose SPIT ECE under TFWS. Both options provide excellent value through the tuition fee waiver scheme. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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