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Hello Mam, It is so nice of you that you're providing an insight into problems of everyone and letting them lighten their problems they have in their relationships.
I am married for two years and would like to ask if it is okay for my wife to visit her mom every two months for two weeks or above, sometimes even a month. Her mom stays nearby in the same city, is it logical for her to do such thing?
I have also asked my colleagues, their wives visit their mother's not so frequently, even if they live in same city.
This situation is hampering my relationship with my wife, while in her context she does it because she wants some time alone with me but the problem is there is a relative (male) of her who looks after some property of my wife in other state. I've caught that person (he's married with two kids) red handed sending romantic songs (kuch aisa kar kamaal ke tera ho jaun) to my wife. This person had a fling with my wife earlier and my wife always prefers to talk to him at her mother's place and never in front of me. When I asked her to talk to him in front of me, she denied directly.
So whenever she visits her mother I'm always insecure and want her back at my place as soon as possible because I've seen call records of my sister-in-law. That person calls on her number and my wife says she talks to him just for the sake of property.
Currently while writing this e-mail she is at her mother's place and is not willing to come back. We are in a state of quarrel.
Please guide me the right direction.
Thanking you in anticipation.

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Dear GS,

Thank you so much for your acknowledgement on my work.

I don’t know if it’s okay for a wife to visit her parents every once in a while, or frequently.

I guess this is between each married couple who kind of form some sort of understanding on what’s okay and what’s not.

Clearly, you are not comfortable with her spending so much time as it possibly eats into your couple/ family time.

If expressing this hasn’t helped, you obviously can’t force her to see things your way. But what really bothers you perhaps should be the focus of your communication to her.

The other person who takes care of her property, clearly seems to have some plans; maybe your wife understands this or enjoys this attention, is something that you need to speak her about.

It's possible that its harmless flirting, but yes, flirting is flirting, and it can turn into something serious especially if the woman is not expressing her displeasure over it. Till then the man feels encouraged to keep going on.

This situation is what needs to be addressed first…talk to her mother…does she know this as well?

Talk to your wife and express that not having a boundary, is making you feel insecure…also, check if you are over-reacting to the situation…having said this, if you feel a certain way, I validate it and it needs to be addressed by your wife.

Also, why does she choose to spend time away from you?

Why does she like talking to the other man?

How is the emotional and physical connect between the two of you?

It’s worth it to ask yourself these questions…a lot may emerge, and you might have a clear path of action ahead of you.

Clear your mind and Act…All the best!

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Ans: I understand that you are going through a very challenging and emotionally taxing situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your wife and son and want to find a resolution to the issues that have led to your separation. However, I am not a legal expert, and my responses are not a substitute for legal advice. It's essential to consult with an attorney who specializes in family law in your jurisdiction for guidance tailored to your specific circumstances.

Here are some general steps you might consider taking:

Consult with a Family Law Attorney: Seek the advice of a qualified family law attorney in your area who can help you navigate the legal aspects of your situation. They can provide guidance on divorce, custody, and any other legal matters that may arise.
Mediation: Mediation is often a more amicable and less adversarial way to resolve conflicts related to divorce and separation. A trained mediator can help facilitate discussions between you and your wife to find mutually agreeable solutions.
Child Custody and Support: Given your son's involvement, it's crucial to ensure that his best interests are protected. Discuss child custody, visitation, and child support arrangements with your attorney and potentially through mediation.
Therapeutic Intervention: If communication and emotional issues are at the core of your problems, consider involving a family therapist or counselor. They can help facilitate productive discussions and address underlying emotional concerns.
Keep Records: Document any interactions or communication you have with your wife or her family. This can be useful in legal proceedings and may help support your case.
Stay Connected with Your Son: Continue to provide emotional support and be involved in your son's life as much as possible, even if you are physically separated.
Explore Community Resources: Look for local support groups or community resources that can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time.
Remember that every situation is unique, and the best course of action may vary depending on the specific details of your case. Seeking professional legal and therapeutic guidance is crucial in navigating complex family issues. Additionally, it's important to remain patient and persistent in your efforts to find a resolution while prioritizing the well-being of your son throughout the process.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 09, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu...i hv been reading ur expertise to solve the issues of people and am really impressed. We have been married for 19years now and have a son and daughter .From the start of the marriage my wife have been inclined towards her mother and her family paying less or no heed to us. Circumstances were also favorable to her and she always got the opportunity to stay close and visit her parents often which i did not mind.We lived in Mumbai and she is from Chennai.After marriage my mom-in-law used to continuosly interfere into our lives by calling her and she used to act as per her suggestions only which led to problems as she was a puppet in the hands of my Mom-in-law. Moreover since my mom-in-law was not in good health my wife tried not to over rule as she did not want her mom to feel sick as she doesnt like to be over ruled or by pass failing which she goes on hunger strike and stop taking tablets spoiling her own health. Due to this reason everybody has been appeasing her.Initially i thought to ignore but slowly it started to affect my family as well as my wife started to see things thru my mom-in-laws perspective and find faults in everything. We shifted to overseas to stay away from all these and we really had a good life for 10 years there but since i lost job during covid i had to shift base to India for my son's education but she chose to stay back there with my daughter as she is working there.I too felt that let her spend some time so that i could settle things in India and call her but it is more than 2 years now and she refuses to come back and dont even care for us and neither call us as family. I tried to involve my in-laws to convince her but they are also playing a diplomatic game and doesnt want to go against their daughter's wish.Due to this attitude of my mom-in-law their own daughter-in-laws have been staying away and since my in-laws stay alone my wife feels that she is the only support system for her parents but it has come on my life's sacrifice. She has been ignoring us and even i kept moving for the sake of my family and children instead of respecting my feelings she has become more adamant now.Her brother is also seperated from her wife and he also looks forward for a support system from my daughter and my wife and they seem close ignoring myself and my son.We have been trying to convince her thru all means but she is caring. Even i feel that it is futile to force someone into relationship but she unknowingly spoiling my family and deprieve my son the mother;s love and also depreive my daughter from affection and love.Due to this my son has also stopped expecting from her and my daughter treats me as a stranger due to long distance. Pls suggest the way forward. Shud i wait for things to improve or leave as it is.I am 47 now and she is 45..told her that let us enjoy the best things in life rather than regretting later but she does not understand.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Logic does not appeal to your wife!
What can you do with someone who is adamant about ruining her own family life? It's purely clouded judgement on her part on what to do and not!
With more people dependent on your wife for support, she has found a way of moving even more away from you...what I do not understand is: how is she able to do that to your son?

Either the two of you talk this out and take firm decisions OR accept that this is how it's going to be...sooner or later, she will realize what is happening and will become more aware of her priorities. But, being where you are is painful and it will stress you even more...So, find a way to talk things out is a step that you can take NOW!

Impress upon her as to how important it is keep the family together as a unit for the children to grow in a healthy manner and also how much this time investment will help the two of you as a couple.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 25, 2024Hindi
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Me and my wife are happily married for 10 years and having a twins 4 years before. This incident happened 8 years ago, when my wife and her cousin visited the home town for a temple function they reconnected with this guy who is their old friend ( a distinct relative also), this person had an interest on my wife before marriage and my wife rejected. Now this person is married and having one kid. when they reconnected my wife's cousin used to do conference calls along with this person and my wife. My wife asked me is it ok to talk. i said yes it is fine but just maintain a healthy boundary. So she wont attend all the calls from them. Attended some conference calls for 5 to 15 min and dropped the call saying my husband don't like me in phone too much. this happened weekly once or twice for 2 month(maximum 10 calls). they also had a watsapp group, in that they had friendly chat between them, mostly between wife's cousin and that person. My wife's reply was very less. but when i was going through the messages they are not flirty messages, there i saw my wife saying very positive about our relationship and her cousin also agreed to that saying they are the best couples. but that person has addressed my wife's cousin and my wife occasionally as honey and dear. but both of them ignored and not asked them to stop calling like that. when i checked this with my wife she said that person calls everyone as honey/dear even her sisters and other cousin. Even he calls my wife's mother sometimes honey (she is very aged 60 years).it is habitual for him so she found no meaning in that and she is not bothered to correct that. this is not even a issue for her that's why she did not discuss this with me. that's why she ignored. i asked her to stop talking to him. My wife told she already stopped talking with him as he tried to make personal calls as she did not like it. that time the wats group also not active so she exited from the group and blocked his number. Recently we came to know that one of the relative girl got into affair with this person and this person got divorced due to that. 1. Does the words like honey can be used in friendly way. i have many friends in other gender i never used honey even though i used 'dear' occasionally. As he used this word with my wife, Does this make my wife less pure than other women. Is this cheating ? 2. I cant come in to terms with the fact my wife talked to a person who is a womanizer. does this affect my wife's reputation in the society. they never met in person other than this temple function reconnect.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Let me address your queries one by one.
1. Yes, honey or dear can be friendly too. I cannot tell for sure if he was being friendly or flirty, but these are very common terms.
2. How can him calling your wife, or him being of questionable character make your wife “less pure than other women”? I am not sure how these two are even connected. She spoke highly about your relationship, never engaged in one-on-one conversation with the guy, and even stopped talking to him when he tried to call her separately. What is making you question your wife’s character still?
3. No. This isn’t cheating. Not on your wife’s part. Maybe the man did not have good intentions, but your wife did not indulge him. Even if we look at it from 100 different angles, this is not cheating.
4. When your wife spoke to him, none of you knew about his affair and his character. Then how is she responsible for it? And how is she responsible for his misdeeds anyway?
5. No, this does not affect your wife’s reputation in the society. Again, ask yourself, what is her fault in all of this? You are yourself saying they never met in person, never had a one-off conversation, etc.
Please understand that this man’s behavior is a reflection of his character, not your wife’s. It’s unfair of you to blame her or doubt her.

Hope this helps.

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Me and my wife are happily married for 10 years and having a twins 4 years before. This incident happened 8 years ago, when my wife and her cousin visited the home town for a temple function they reconnected with this guy who is their old friend ( a distinct relative also), this person had an interest on my wife before marriage and my wife rejected. Now this person is married and having one kid. when they reconnected my wife's cousin used to do conference calls along with this person and my wife. My wife asked me is it ok to talk. i said yes it is fine but just maintain a boundary. So she wont attend all the calls from them. Attended some conference calls for 5 to 15 min and drop the call saying my husband don't like me in phone too much. this happens weekly once or twice for 2 month. they also had a watsapp group, in that they had friendly chat between them, mostly between wife's cousin and that person. My wife reply was very less. but when i was going through the messages they are not flirty messages, there i saw my wife saying very positive about our relationship and her cousin also agreed to that saying they are the best couples. but that person has addressed my wife's cousin and my wife occasionally as honey and dear. but both of them ignored and not asked them to stop calling like that. when i checked this with my wife she said that person calls everyone as honey/dear even her sisters and other cousin.it is habitual for him so she found no meaning in that and she is not bothered to correct that. thats why she ignored. i asked her to stop talking to him. My wife told she already stopped talking with him as he tried to make personal calls as she did not like it. that time the wats group also not active so she exited from the group and blocked his number. Recently we came to know that one of the relative girl got into affair with this person and this person got divorced due to that 1. Does words like honey can be used in friendly way. i have many freinds in other gender i never used honey even though i used 'dear' occassionaly. As he used this word with my wife, Does this make my wife less pure than other women's. is this cheating ? 2. I cant come in to terms with the fact my wife talked to a person who is a womanizer. does this affect my wife's reputation in the society. they never met in person other than this temple function reconnect.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What is cheating and what is not is purely based on the Book of Rules that each of us have within us; it comes from the way we have been raised on a diet of 'right' and 'wrong' AND from our own experiences.
While validating whether a particular rule works well or not, just put in into context and see it.
- Does that rule keep you away from actually seeing things more openly?
- Does that rule keep you occupied with small things that hold no value?

I guess, you must think of it: is this really cheating? When your wife says that she has stopped talking to him, what makes you still obsess over it?
Also, her rule book says that 'honey' and 'dear' might not be a big thing...Plus, how can she control what another person says...yes, she could have objected and she didn't but not that she played on it.

See, the second doubts have crept in, the mind goes all over the place...even if there are no flirty messages, you will still find something problematic to confirm that what you were thinking in the first place.
So, maybe you need to look within to understand if there are jealousies and insecurities within you and that is what is occupying your mind. If Yes, then address this; speak with your wife and it's fine to tell her that you feel hurt and that you don't like it. When you are frank, a lot of things get sorted out...she may very well understand your point of view...and on your part, as you have said: she used to reply less and not respond much to him...
Do you want unnecessary thoughts drive a wedge in your marriage? Speak it out and things fall in place...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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HI mam, i am 55 year old married staying with wife & two daughters & i am earning a good salary, no loans nothing & we can live happily. My wife bit under educated ( 12 std) & she has some health issues also (arthritis from past one year) & getting treatment. We are living separately from my parents from the past 17 years. My wife does not like my mother ( 80 years with old age health issues) coming to my home since my wife commanded by my mother when we were staying with my parents 17 years back. Still she has that old days struggle in her mind & there is a clash between me & my wife whenever my mother comes to my home. So many times I told her to forget all old bad days memories live today's happy life which she never wants to forget. My father passed away 04 years back & my mother comes to my home whenever there is a function or due to health issue stays for hardly about 15-20 days in a year. How to resolve this issue & get back happiness in my family.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I wish it were easy to forget...and it's a matter of choice whether we want to keep the past behind us or bring it again and again in out present moment. If your wife does not choose to keep the past behind, it is going to be a huge nightmare for you and especially you constantly having to mediate between your mother and wife.
Yes, since your mother stays only for a few days with you in a year, it is fair of you to expect your wife to 'adjust'...But she is unwilling, so what do you do?
If you can afford to keep your mother in a separate room and have someone care for her just for those 20 days, it will keep your wife away and having to do anything with your mother. So, your mother's needs are taken care of AND your wife has nothing to do with her.
You cannot force anyone to like someone else and that's what is happening at your home. Your wife has her reasons and your mother would have had hers when she was playing the active role of a mother-in-law. Let bygones be bygones. You want your mother to be treated well for that short time in your home; then give her just that...But without expecting that your wife is going to agree to anything. Instead, do what you need to for your ageing mother but keep your wife off the responsibility...That should keep both sides satisfied...
Life is filled with curve balls; you just learn to navigate then better every time...

All the best!
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Sir, which college will be better considering study environment and faculty quality nit agartala or rgipt amethi
Ans: Raj, NIT Agartala, a centrally funded Institute of National Importance, maintains a faculty-to-student ratio of 1:10–1:15 with 92% of its 208 permanent faculty holding PhDs and an average teaching tenure of 15 years; its 365-acre campus, nestled in serene greenery 24 km from Agartala, offers state-of-the-art labs (SEM/TEM, X-ray diffraction), a digital library with 84 000+ volumes, well-maintained hostels, and vibrant student clubs fostering academic and extracurricular balance. RGIPT Amethi, also an Institution of National Importance, reports a more varied faculty-student ratio (1:20–1:100) with many PhDs and 20–25 years of industry experience, complemented by modern petroleum-focused labs, a fully Wi-Fi–enabled 47-acre residential campus, and strong mentorship via clubs and counselling services; however, certain departments cite less teaching depth and a smaller research portfolio, though infrastructure reviews rate 4.4/5 and faculty 4.1/5 for approachability and support.

Recommendation: For personalized mentorship, interdisciplinary research exposure, and a tranquil green campus with robust computing and core-engineering labs, choose NIT Agartala. If petroleum-industry alignment, modern residential facilities on a compact campus, and themed labs for energy sectors are your priority, opt for RGIPT Amethi. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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I'm currently in 11th standard,I need to secure a good rank in jee.kindly help me with some plans
Ans: Sudhir, Beginning JEE preparation in Class 11 provides a two-year runway to master concepts, practice extensively, and build exam confidence. Follow this four-phase plan:

Phase 1 (Semester 1 of Class 11):

Map the complete JEE Main & Advanced syllabi across Physics, Chemistry, Math (11th & 12th NCERT).

Create a weekly timetable allocating 5 days to school plus 2 days for JEE topics; use 50-minute Pomodoro slots with 10-minute breaks.

Prioritise core Class 11 topics: Kinematics, Mechanics, Thermodynamics (Physics); Chemical Bonding, Basic Organic (Chemistry); Quadratics, Sequences (Math) — master theory and NCERT examples before harder problems.

Maintain a “Doubt Log” to clear queries within 24 hours via peers or online forums.

Phase 2 (Semester 2 of Class 11 to Summer 2026):

Begin chapter-wise practice: solve topic tests of 30–50 questions from coaching modules or reputable books (H.C. Verma, O.P. Tandon, R.D. Sharma).

Take biweekly sectional mocks (one subject at a time) under timed conditions; analyse errors by type and maintain an error-analysis sheet.

Build short-notes and formula flashcards; revise daily for 15 minutes.

Integrate school studies with JEE prep: align school tests with JEE concepts to reinforce both.

Phase 3 (Class 12 Year, Summer 2026 to Summer 2027):

Cover Class 12 syllabus with the same rigorous approach. Alternate subjects daily to avoid fatigue.

Schedule full-length JEE Main mocks every fortnight; JEE Advanced mock every month from January 2027 onward. Use analytics to identify weakest chapters and adapt your timetable.

Implement a 30-day final revision plan covering each topic thrice, with daily rapid-revision slots and weekly topic tests.

Phase 4 (Final 2 Months Pre-Advanced):

Switch to 70% mock tests and 30% rapid revision.

Take one full Advanced mock each week, review immediately with mentors.

Maintain mental well-being: 7–8 hours sleep, 20 minutes exercise, mindfulness breaks, and periodic breaks for hobbies.

Other Top 10 Private-University Engineering Entrance Exams (back-ups):
BITSAT, SRMJEEE, VITEEE, COMEDK UGET, KIITEE, LPUNEST (LPU NEST), AEEE (Amrita), AUEEE (Amity), SITEEE (SIT), DSAT (Dayananda Sagar Aptitude Test) and also Shortlist 5-6 Private Engineering Colleges which you prfer and which accepts JEE/Your School Board Scores.

Recommendation: Commit to a disciplined, concept-first study routine from Class 11 onward, complementing school with JEE-focused learning, regular mocks, and targeted revisions. Register early for one or two backup private-university exams to diversify admission options while pursuing excellence in JEE preparation. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir which is the best college for cse at my KCET rank of 22k, right now my eye is on BMSITM( YELAHANKA), or aerospace in MSRIT is there any other Good college i would get if i sit for three rounds
Ans: Durga, At a KCET rank of 22,000 in the General category, BMSITM Yelahanka and MSRIT Aerospace remain out of reach for CSE or ECE, but several reputable Bangalore institutes offer strong CSE programs within this rank bracket: BNMIT Bangalore is NBA- and NAAC-accredited, guided by PhD-qualified faculty in advanced computing and networking labs, and posted CSE closing ranks of 16,776–19,255 over the last three years with 80–90% placements through its active Career Development Cell. Acharya Institute of Technology (Hessarghatta Road) is AICTE-approved, NBA/NIRF-ranked, provides modern software-engineering and data-science labs, and sees CSE closing ranks of 23,530–27,543 with 75–85% placement consistency. Atria Institute of Technology’s CSE program accepts ranks up to 30,000–40,000, features dedicated AI/ML and full-stack development labs, and maintains 70–80% CSE placements via industry tie-ups and internships.

Recommendation: Prioritise BNMIT Bangalore for its balanced accreditation, faculty expertise, specialized CSE labs, and consistent 80–90% placements. If you seek a broader intake with strong AI/ML modules, choose Acharya Institute of Technology. For assured admission flexibility and solid infrastructure, consider Atria Institute of Technology. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir please set the priority order IIT Hyderabad chemical , IIIT Hyderabad ECE , or IIT Bombay metallurgical engineering
Ans: Aryan, IIT Hyderabad’s Chemical Engineering (NAAC-A+, NBA-accredited) features a holistic curriculum spanning core process engineering, sustainable materials, and nanotechnology, supported by high-end labs (DSC, X-ray diffractometer, electrochemical workstations) and a faculty-to-student ratio of 1:10; however, only 59.57% of B.Tech students secured placements in 2022–23 with strong internship pipelines but moderate recruiter diversity. IIIT Hyderabad’s ECE (A++ NAAC) delivers specialized labs in VLSI, wireless systems, and embedded computing under research-active PhD faculty, achieving a 98.8% B.Tech placement rate in 2024 with 411 of 414 students placed, and an average package of ?21.39 LPA, driven by extensive industry tie-ups and innovation hubs in AI and data science. IIT Bombay’s Metallurgical Engineering (NIRF #3, NBA-accredited) offers state-of-the-art materials synthesis and characterization facilities, led by renowned researchers, and records a 70.37% placement rate in 2024 with top recruiters from metals, energy, and aerospace sectors. All three maintain active placement cells, mandatory internships, and strong research-industry collaborations.

Final recommendation:
For highest placement consistency, cutting-edge innovation labs, and industry-driven ECE roles, prioritise IIIT Hyderabad ECE. Next, choose IIT Bombay Metallurgical Engineering for its premier NIRF ranking, multidisciplinary materials research, and solid core-engineering placements. Lastly, consider IIT Hyderabad Chemical Engineering for its flexible curriculum and emerging research ecosystem. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 04, 2025Hindi
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Sir i have got COE at thapar. (Personally would have preferred CSE. But anyways..) should i also try the IIT Madras BS degree alongside my thapar studies? Or just Thapar will be more than sufficient?
Ans: Thapar Institute's Computer Engineering (COE) program is NAAC A+ and NBA-accredited with ABET endorsement, delivered by PhD-qualified faculty across 15+ specialized computing and electronics labs, featuring a curriculum in both software and hardware domains. The program achieved an 83% UG placement rate in 2023, with 334 recruiters offering 1,884 job offers and COE students receiving similar industry recognition as CSE graduates, with both branches sharing comparable placement statistics and recruiter diversity including Google, Amazon, Microsoft, and Deloitte. IIT Madras' BS in Data Science and Applications is an online degree with NAAC A+ status, featuring flexible learning through four levels (Foundation, Diploma, BSc, BS) over 4-8 years, taught by IIT faculty with cutting-edge AI/ML, data science, and programming curricula. The program reported 60% on-campus placements in 2024-25 with an average package around ?10 LPA, highest reaching ?25 LPA, and 240 companies recruiting students including tech giants and emerging startups. UGC guidelines permit simultaneous pursuit of one full-time physical degree and one online degree, making this combination legally feasible for motivated students.

Final recommendation:
Focus exclusively on Thapar COE for guaranteed 83% placement consistency, robust campus infrastructure, industry-integrated labs, and proven recruiter engagement without the additional workload burden. Adding IIT Madras BS alongside COE may dilute academic focus, reduce performance in either program, and offer marginal placement advantages given Thapar's strong industry positioning. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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