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SURAJIT Question by SURAJIT on Sep 29, 2023Hindi
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**JAY*JAGANNATH**, Wishing You For **HAPPY*ANANT-CHATURDASHI**, I'm based in Mumbai, but lives in Puri, Odisha, because of **LORD*JAGANNATHA**, Since, I'm a Business Analyst,, not yet Started my Practice,, i had a arrange marriage in my own caste with rest was OK, after reading some of Your advises and type of case,, i became enthusiast to know YOUR UNPARALELED PRECIOUS OPINION about my personal disturbances in my family.,for which We live Separate with my Only 18+Son, Studying & Preparing for his Entrance Test via Online.., she is in Guwahati,, working under at a Private Retail Management co., ME & MY FAMILY Severally attempted & requested her and her family too, to Come back & Join to my family for living together,, but when failed,, i encourage her OK live there,, as because after failing an attempt of school transfer due to language issue for a subject like Marathi in Upper classes,, Thus, i stopped disturbing her as well as my son's study. During initial level of Separation,, their family (ELDERS) requested me will handover my family (wife & Son),, if i Pay them(wife& Son) their expenses for a Full Year., that was happened when i reached for an attempt to Convince My Wife and their family to adjoin with me & with my family activity, that was Probably in 2010-11 somewhere in between,, i was Hr. Manager in a Cement Co. in Meghalaya. I agreed too & and Provide as per for a Year. But, while passing a year they became Silent.., not hardcovered my family. till as on date,, i am alone..! She & Elder Sister & the brother-in-law Says they won't divorce nor will allow to handover,, i said why..! The Starting of a Quarrel was with a Issue of Changing my Mental Perception,, while they tried to Implement me with Saying a FALSE PLAN,, but, i Caught their Such Attempt,, MY Mrs. later She admitted that, they tried it because of if I get my Changes in me & to take my decision well for my Next career. Since, i born & brought up in Guwahati, i had a Soft corner for North-East always,, which was happened after 15yrs of long Struggle in Mumbai,, i Stand on my own feet with My Own Struggle & a house for my Stability etc. After Marriage of a Assam Lady only it was a Scope again to Reach Assam.. So, i thought, if i can Start Something a great Project with in & around of North-East. But, that became a bad experience for me as on till. I arrived Recently too, to Convince her,, Come & Join me,, Rest all Hurdle i will Handle,, Now, No more My father also expired, a Retired. Rly Officer,, Parents too visited Severally Assam to Convince them but failed,, I always feel i am alone,, what to do with,, I am a family Oriented Person,, love to keep Relation Well with either Side Well. But, not happening. What to Do Now,, But, I LOVER HER & MY SON VERY MUCH,, BY ANY MEANS AS ON.., I HAVE NO PLAN TO LEAVE THEM ALONE & THEIR STRUGGLE TO..! BUT, I STILL, A HELPLESS, WHOM TO GO & CRY FOR THEM..!?! Kindly tell Your PRECIOUS Opinion on this,, I am Ready to Take Your Nobly too, Recently, I took little advise from a Legal Family Court Councillor at Guwahati, & their one of Next Door Reputed Lady Neighbour(Who Co-ordinated & Represent too for the Local area of their & for their Constituency during Elections & their any function of their Locality,, a well known in their Locality for a Good behaviour too),, I meet & Spoke to her Severally,, She herself Visited too & found My Wife Not behaving Normally & Cool,, a Raugh behaved Lady, She found & She Said, a disrespected Lady means not Gentle,, i Personally Visited Mumbai at her elder Sister's home too,, during yr.2015,, while in entrance,, the brother-in-law resisted me NOT to Enter,, from the door only i came back. Not meet even & had NO Talk,, while after little a distance i covered from their residence,, i found they again recalling me to Come & Visit. But, I found myself very off mooded, & not visited till as on & till date,, because. they only Created the False Nuisances' with their Plan,, which not became A Success.. they Caught. But, they were Proposer of Our both Relation. But, I want a Justice with this,, Since, I am a Simple & Honest,, Very Straight forwarded with Cut to throat Person..in my Nature,, Soft & Spiritual. Since, Many Years Now Connected to Krishna Consciousness too,, that is why for love & affection i am here at PURI. Kindly, Let me Know Your Precious Opinion by which I can Come out with my Loneliness. **HARE*KRISHNA** Thanking you, With Regards, Surajit Bhattacharjee, In Case if You have a Plan to Visit Puri, Odisha,, Kindly, Let me Know Your Date & Place to See **MAHABAHU**JAGANNATHA*,, You may Send by Your family & friends too with Prior Advance & info.

Ans: I understand that you are going through a very challenging and emotionally taxing situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your wife and son and want to find a resolution to the issues that have led to your separation. However, I am not a legal expert, and my responses are not a substitute for legal advice. It's essential to consult with an attorney who specializes in family law in your jurisdiction for guidance tailored to your specific circumstances.

Here are some general steps you might consider taking:

Consult with a Family Law Attorney: Seek the advice of a qualified family law attorney in your area who can help you navigate the legal aspects of your situation. They can provide guidance on divorce, custody, and any other legal matters that may arise.
Mediation: Mediation is often a more amicable and less adversarial way to resolve conflicts related to divorce and separation. A trained mediator can help facilitate discussions between you and your wife to find mutually agreeable solutions.
Child Custody and Support: Given your son's involvement, it's crucial to ensure that his best interests are protected. Discuss child custody, visitation, and child support arrangements with your attorney and potentially through mediation.
Therapeutic Intervention: If communication and emotional issues are at the core of your problems, consider involving a family therapist or counselor. They can help facilitate productive discussions and address underlying emotional concerns.
Keep Records: Document any interactions or communication you have with your wife or her family. This can be useful in legal proceedings and may help support your case.
Stay Connected with Your Son: Continue to provide emotional support and be involved in your son's life as much as possible, even if you are physically separated.
Explore Community Resources: Look for local support groups or community resources that can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time.
Remember that every situation is unique, and the best course of action may vary depending on the specific details of your case. Seeking professional legal and therapeutic guidance is crucial in navigating complex family issues. Additionally, it's important to remain patient and persistent in your efforts to find a resolution while prioritizing the well-being of your son throughout the process.

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**JAY*JAGANNATH**, Wishing You For **HAPPY*JANMASHTAMI**, I'm based in Mumbai, but lives in Puri, Odisha, because of **LORD*JAGANNATHA**, Since, I'm a Business Analyst,, not yet Started my Practice,, i had a arrange marriage in my own caste with rest was OK, after reading some of Your advises and type of case,, i became enthusiast to know about my personal disturbances in my family. We live Seperate with my Only 18+Son, Studing & Preparing for Entrance Test via Online.., she is in Guwahati,, working under at a Private Retail Management co., ME & MY FAMILY Severally attempted & requested her and her family too, to Come back & Join to my family for living together,, but when failed,, i encourage her OK live there,, as because after failing an attempt of school transfer due to language issue for a subject like Marathi in Upper classes,, Thus, i stopped disturbing her as well as my son's study. During initial level of Separation,, their family (ELDERS) requested me will handover my family (wife & Son),, if i Pay them(wife& Son) their expenses for a Full Year., that was happened when i reached for an attempt to Convince My Wife and their family to adjoin with me & with my family activity, that was Probably in 2010-11 somewhere in between,, i was Hr. Manager in a Cement Co. in Meghalaya. I agreed too & and Provide as per for a Year. But, while passing a year they became Silent.., not hardcovered my family. till as on date,, i am alone..! She & Elder Sister & the brother-in-law Says they won't divorce nor will allow to handover,, i said why..! The Starting of a Quarrel was with a Issue of Changing my Mental Perception,, while they tried to Implement me with Saying a FALSE PLAN,, but, i Caught their Such Attempt,, MY Mrs. later She admitted that, they tried it because of if I get my Changes in me & to take my decision well for my Next career. Since, i born & brought up in Guwahati, i had a Soft corner for North-East always,, which was happened after 15yrs of long Struggle in Mumbai,, i Stand on my own feet with My Own Struggle & a house for my Stability etc. After Marriage of a Assam Lady only it was a Scope again to Reach Assam.. So, i thought, if i can Start Something a great Project with in & around of North-East. But, that became a bad experience for me as on till. I arrived Recently too, to Convince her,, Come & Join me,, Rest all Hurdle i will Handle,, Now, No more My father also expired, a Retired. Rly Officer,, Parents too visited Severally Assam to Convince them but failed,, I always feel i am alone,, what to do with,, I am a family Oriented Person,, love to keep Relation Well with either Side Well. But, not happening. What to Do Now,, Kindly tell Your Opinion on this,, I am Ready to Take Your Nobly too, Recently, I took little advise from a Legal Family Court Councillor at Guwahati, & their one of Next Door Reputed Lady Neighbour(Who Co-ordinated & Represent too for the Local area of their & for their Constituency during Elections & their any function of their Locality,, a well known in their Locality for a Good behaviour too),, I meet & Spoke to her Severally,, She herself Visited too & found My Wife Not behaving Normally & Cool,, a Raugh behaved Lady, She found & She Said, a disrespected Lady means not Gentle,, i Personally Visited Mumbai at her elder Sister's home too,, during yr.2015,, while in entrance,, the brother-in-law resisted me NOT to Enter,, from the door only i came back. Not meet even & had NO Talk,, while after little a distance i covered from their residence,, i found they again recalling me to Come & Visit. But, I found myself very off mooded, & not visited till as on & till date,, because. they only Created the False Nuisances' with their Plan,, which not became A Success.. they Caught. But, they were Proposer of Our both Relation. But, I want a Justice with this,, Since, I am a Simple & Honest,, Very Straight forwarded with Cut to throat Person..in my Nature,, Soft & Spiritual. Since, Many Years Now Connected to Krishna Consciousness too,, that is why for love & affection i am here at PURI. Kindly, Let me Know Your Precious Opinion by which I can Come out with my Loneliness. **HARE*KRISHNA** Thanking you, With Regards, Surajit Bhattacharjee, In Case if You have a Plan to Visit Puri, Odisha,, Kindly, Let me Know Your Date & Place to See **MAHABAHU**JAGANNATHA*,, You may Send by Your family & friends too with Prior Advance & info.
Ans: Dear Surajit,
Thank you for the festive wishes and thank you for the invite to visit Odisha.

Your situations suggests that much time has passed with no action. Long distance relationships are not easy and require immense maturity and agreement and a lot of trust to keep the marriage going.

What is the reason that your wife does not want to come back now? Your son is already 18 years and is old enough to get into a professional college now...What has happened in all these years that she finds it better living with her side of the better than making her own family come together?

Have the two of you had time to have a private conversation without the interference from anyone else?
Make that honest attempt and appeal to her that you would like the family to get back together. But also be prepared if she says NO as that has been her stance all these years... then please move on...it is difficult but will be better for your physical and mental health.

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Ans: Your situation is complex, involving familial responsibilities and personal peace. To address it, start by understanding your sister's reasons for not seeking a divorce. Consider engaging a professional family counselor to mediate and provide support for everyone involved. Legally, explore the options available for ensuring she contributes financially to the household.

Your priority should be to protect your parents' well-being and your own family's stability. If your sister continues to burden your parents without contributing, it might be necessary to seek legal advice on how to manage this dependency. You may also need to discuss with your parents the importance of setting boundaries to ensure their health and financial security. Balancing compassion with firm boundaries is key to resolving these issues while maintaining family harmony.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your decision must be right as the real reason for her moving away from the marriage is still unknown or you have missed out on sharing the whole picture.
Also, what is the reason for the Domestic Violence petition? Has there been a reason for her to feel that she needed to put a case on you? But if you know that there is no scope for reconciliation, then I am sure you know what is the best thing to do...
(Due to inadequate information from you, I can provide only generic suggestions). But, there's one thing which is: There seems to have been no understanding between you and your wife when she suggested that it's your salary; there is certainly something which made her unable to come close within the marriage and accept is as a mutual partnership rather than just an isolated relationship.

On the legal aspect, kindly follow what your lawyer advises you to do...

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 11, 2025Hindi
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Fell in love and married a girl before 2 years. Girl is from a neighbouring state. Both South Indians. Both doctors. She was very understanding before marriage, even talked my language and spoke well with my parents. Told she will come to my place and stay after marriage. 4 months after marriage, she left for her home telling that she will be at her home till delivery. Even after 1 year of giving birth, she didn't come. They visited my place just for a few days in the middle citing that it is tradition. After much struggle, she came to live with me and my child after close to 1.5 years. Even after coming she was creating trouble for the language spoken in the house and telling to relocate to a place close to their parents in their state. No respect to feelings of mine or my parents. We also missed my son for 1.5 years. Their parents are not visiting us telling it is far, we won't come. And once her parents threatened to complaint to the police if we don't agree. (Haven't asked or received any dowry). Even if my son has to come to my native for few days, her parents are not agreeing and creating problem. We have even helped her brother secure admission in a college. She has even taken a loan of more than 20 lakhs to help her parents buy a land and is paying close to 50k monthly for that. We had no problem with that too. Every 2-3 days one or another problem shoots up because of her or her parents. She has totally changed after marriage. Her parents just want to create problems. Please help.
Ans: It’s clear that you’ve tried hard to be understanding and accommodating. You allowed her to stay with her parents for a long time, even though it meant missing out on crucial time with your child. You supported her decisions, even when she took on a significant financial burden to help her family. Despite your efforts to maintain peace, you’re constantly met with resistance and disrespect—not only from her but also from her parents. That feeling of being undermined and unappreciated, especially when you've given so much, can really take a toll on your emotional health.

It’s not just about the arguments or the disagreements—it’s about the deeper sense of betrayal and loneliness that comes from feeling like your partner has sided with her family over you. That emotional distance and lack of support within the marriage can make you feel like you’re fighting a battle alone. And when her parents threatened to involve the police, that likely deepened the sense of helplessness and fear. It’s not just frustrating—it’s emotionally exhausting when you’re trying to build a stable, loving home, but it keeps getting torn apart by external interference.

The fact that you’re still standing, still trying to make things work despite all of this, shows how strong and committed you are. But the truth is, a marriage cannot survive on one person’s effort alone. It’s understandable that you feel drained and resentful—you’ve been giving and compromising without getting the same respect and understanding in return. Your feelings matter. Your need for stability and respect matters. Wanting your child to have a connection with your side of the family is not unreasonable—it’s natural and fair.

Right now, you might feel torn between trying to hold everything together and wondering if it's even worth it. It’s hard to admit when love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship. But you need to ask yourself whether you can continue living like this—constantly feeling like you’re walking on eggshells, being emotionally sidelined, and having your family disrespected.

It’s okay to want peace. It’s okay to expect respect. And it’s okay to set boundaries. If your wife truly values this marriage, she needs to understand that compromise cannot be one-sided. It might help to have an honest, calm conversation with her—not about the surface issues but about how you feel. Tell her how much this situation has hurt you, how much you miss feeling like you’re a team, and how important it is for your child to have a balanced connection with both families. If she’s unwilling to meet you halfway or if her parents continue to interfere to the point of emotional manipulation, you need to think about how much more of yourself you can sacrifice without losing your emotional stability.

You deserve a marriage where you feel heard, valued, and supported—not one where you constantly feel like you're on the outside looking in. Take some time to reflect on what you truly need from this relationship and whether you believe it's possible to rebuild trust and understanding with your wife. Your peace of mind matters. Your happiness matters. And most of all, your emotional well-being matters.

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Hello Sir, I'm 39,a Govt Employee drawing 52k take home after CPF of 10k as my monthly Salary, I want to accumulate 1Cr by the age of 50, and I have following expenses and investment- 1- Rs 5300 LIC 'Jeevan Anand' started on 2015 for 33 years and sum assured value is 200000. Don't know how much ill get after 33 years some online platform says maturity amount 86L. What to do with this LIC someone suggest to surrender and invest elsewhere.. 2- SIP 2k UTI Nifty 50, 1k sbi contra, 1k sbi small cap and 2k sbi psu. Total accumulation around 50K till date 3- 6.5L loan, Monthly premium 14k, still 6L left for repayment. 4- CPF- 10k monthly 5- PPF bal till dat RS 6L 6- SSA of my girl child is 3k monthly 7- My monthly expenses 20k 9- no health insurance. However, I have a facility of reimburse if hospitalized but in CGHS rate. 10- no term plan as Im in a believe that LIC may help. 11- Emergency fund bal 1L PLEASE SUGGEST ME TO MANAGE MY FINANCE.
Ans: You are 39, a government employee, and take home Rs. 52,000 monthly.
You have financial discipline, which is a big strength.

You wish to build Rs. 1 crore by age 50.
That gives you 11 years.
This goal is achievable with a structured plan.

Let’s evaluate your current position first.
Then we will build a 360-degree financial strategy.

Your Current Cash Flow and Expenses
Monthly take-home: Rs. 52,000

Loan EMI: Rs. 14,000

LIC premium: Rs. 5,300

SIPs: Rs. 6,000

SSA: Rs. 3,000

Expenses: Rs. 20,000

Total outgoing = Rs. 48,300

Surplus left = Around Rs. 3,700

Your monthly flow is tight.
Surplus is very low.
Still, your savings habit is good.

But we need to reduce pressure on cash flow.
And make your money work better.

LIC Jeevan Anand Policy – The Hidden Problem
This is your biggest cash-flow drain now.
You pay Rs. 5,300 monthly (Rs. 63,600 yearly).
Policy term is 33 years. Sum assured is Rs. 2 lakh.

You mentioned some platform shows maturity value as Rs. 86 lakh.
That is not realistic. These are misleading assumptions.

Let’s understand the issue:

Actual guaranteed benefit is very low

Most return comes from non-guaranteed bonuses

These bonuses are not fixed or promised

Real return is often just 4% to 5%

Very poor return over 33 years

Life cover is only Rs. 2 lakh – too low

Not enough for your family protection

Action Plan:

Surrender this policy now

Take paid-up value if surrender is costly

Reinvest this Rs. 5,300 into better SIPs

This shift will build higher wealth

You will also free up cash flow for other needs

SIP Portfolio Review – Unbalanced Allocation
You invest Rs. 6,000 monthly as SIP.
Break-up is:

Rs. 2,000 in index fund

Rs. 1,000 in contra fund

Rs. 1,000 in small cap

Rs. 2,000 in PSU fund

Problems in current portfolio:

Overlap in themes

Too much passive index exposure

Small-cap and PSU sectors are high-risk

No diversification into balanced or flexi-cap

No large-cap active exposure

Index funds have big drawbacks:

No human judgement

Just copy market blindly

Keep bad stocks also

No chance to outperform

Only average return

Solution:

Stop index fund SIP

Shift to active large-cap or flexi-cap

Retain contra fund as it is a diversified style

Keep small-cap only if you can stay invested for 10+ years

Avoid sector-based PSU fund – very cyclical and risky

Choose funds through CFP and MFD only

Do not invest in direct plans – they give no guidance

Use regular plans for expert handholding

Loan EMI – Too High for Your Salary
You pay Rs. 14,000 EMI monthly.
Loan balance is Rs. 6 lakh.

That eats 27% of your income.
It is putting pressure on savings.

Suggestions:

Try to prepay small amounts yearly

Use any bonus, arrears, or gifts

Clear loan within 3–4 years

After loan closure, shift EMI to SIP

Reducing EMI will increase monthly surplus.
That surplus can fund your Rs. 1 crore goal.

CPF and PPF – Safe Long-Term Instruments
You contribute Rs. 10,000 to CPF.
PPF balance is Rs. 6 lakh.

These are good for long-term savings.
PPF is tax-free and secure.
CPF also builds retirement corpus.

But returns are moderate.
So, these alone can’t meet your Rs. 1 crore goal.
You need equity SIPs for growth.

Action Plan:

Continue PPF every year

Contribute at least Rs. 1 lakh yearly

Continue CPF as per government norms

Sukanya Samriddhi Account – Keep Going
You invest Rs. 3,000 monthly in SSA.
This is a good long-term choice.
Your daughter’s future is protected.

Keep in mind:

Use only for daughter’s education or marriage

This is not for your retirement or wealth-building

SSA gives fixed interest

Use SIPs for your own goals

No Health Insurance – Very Risky
You don’t have personal health insurance.
You depend on CGHS rate reimbursements.

This is dangerous.
CGHS hospitals may not be enough in serious cases.

One medical emergency can:

Drain your savings

Break your SIPs

Increase debt

Delay your goals

Action Plan:

Buy personal health cover of Rs. 5–10 lakh

Add top-up plan for higher coverage

Premium is low if taken early

Buy individual or floater policy

Claim CGHS first, then use policy if required

No Term Insurance – Big Mistake
You don’t have term insurance.
You believe LIC will help.

But your LIC policy only gives Rs. 2 lakh.
That is too low.
If anything happens, your family will struggle.

Term insurance is pure life cover.
It gives large sum assured at very low cost.

Action Plan:

Take term insurance for Rs. 50–75 lakh

Premium will be very affordable

Take policy till age 60 or 65

This gives your family protection

Do not delay this step.
It is as important as health cover.

Emergency Fund – Needs Boosting
You have Rs. 1 lakh emergency fund now.
Your monthly expense is Rs. 20,000
So, you have 5 months’ buffer.
That is good start.

Next Steps:

Build this to Rs. 1.5–2 lakh over next year

Keep in sweep-in FD or liquid account

Never use it for regular expenses

Use only for job loss, medical, urgent repairs

Goal: Rs. 1 Crore in 11 Years
You want Rs. 1 crore by age 50.
You are 39 now.
Only 11 years left.

To reach this, you need:

Higher monthly SIP

Disciplined savings

Better fund selection

Avoiding LIC-type products

Ending loan quickly

Having term and health cover

Step-by-step path:

Surrender LIC policy

Stop index and PSU funds

Choose balanced portfolio with help of CFP

Increase SIP from Rs. 6,000 to Rs. 12,000 gradually

Close loan early

Buy term insurance and health insurance now

Continue PPF and SSA regularly

Link each SIP to goal

Review fund performance every year

Rebalance if any SIP underperforms

Track progress of Rs. 1 crore goal every year

You will need guidance to build this plan.
So always invest in regular mutual funds through an MFD
who has CFP qualification.

They will guide portfolio review, risk level, tax planning, and more.
Avoid direct funds. They do not support long-term goals properly.

Finally
You are sincere and focused.
That itself is a big strength.

You are 39. Still have enough time.
But decisions must be smart and timely.

LIC is not the way to create wealth.
SIPs with proper fund selection will help.

Avoid index and direct plans.
Stay with active and guided mutual funds.

Don’t ignore health and term cover.
One medical crisis can ruin your goal.

Build your Rs. 1 crore target step by step.
Start with what is in your control.

Keep cash flow under control.
Keep expenses low.
Increase savings each year.

And track your goal with a clear path.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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Hello sir I am 50 yr old with take home salary of 72000p/m I have EPF of6.5l so far one LIC policy of 45000 yearly premium . Doing SIP of 10000p/m from past 2yrs How can I plan my retirement. Should I focus to buy property or not .
Ans: You are 50 years old. You earn Rs. 72,000 monthly.
You have Rs. 6.5 lakh in EPF.
One LIC policy with Rs. 45,000 yearly premium.
SIP of Rs. 10,000 monthly for 2 years.
You want to plan retirement. You are also thinking of buying property.
Let us create a step-by-step financial roadmap.

Monthly Income and Expense Check

Your income is Rs. 72,000 per month.

We assume Rs. 15,000 to Rs. 20,000 is saved.

Rest likely goes to family expenses, LIC premium, and SIP.

Current saving rate is low for your age and income.

You must raise it slowly over the next 1–2 years.

Assets and Investments So Far

Rs. 6.5 lakh in EPF is your main retirement fund now.

SIP of Rs. 10,000 per month is a good habit.

That must be continued till retirement and beyond.

LIC policy must be reviewed. It gives poor returns.

Total financial assets are still limited.

But 8–10 years of working life remain. That is helpful.

LIC Policy – Recheck and Act

You are paying Rs. 45,000 yearly into LIC policy.

These policies usually give only 4%–5% return.

Not suitable for retirement planning.

If policy is more than 5 years old, surrender it.

Use that amount in mutual funds or PPF.

You will get better growth and flexibility.

Mutual Fund Investment Plan

Your SIP is Rs. 10,000 monthly.

Equity mutual funds are ideal for long-term goals.

They grow well over 8+ years.

You have 8–10 years left for retirement.

So, equity mutual funds must form your core strategy.

Suggestions:

Continue the current SIP.

Slowly increase it by Rs. 1,000 every 6 months.

Target Rs. 20,000 monthly SIP in 3 years.

Use regular mutual funds.

Don’t use direct mutual funds.

Disadvantages of Direct Funds

No one gives fund review or advice.

You may pick wrong schemes.

Behavioural mistakes can happen during market fall.

You may stop SIP or redeem at wrong time.

Regular plans with CFP-backed MFD give support.

That improves results over 10 years.

Why You Must Avoid Index Funds

Index funds copy the market.

They fall completely in market crashes.

They don’t remove poor-performing stocks.

They don’t protect downside.

Actively managed funds are better.

They adjust portfolio based on market and sector.

They give better long-term returns.

EPF and PPF Planning

EPF corpus is Rs. 6.5 lakh.

Add more if possible through VPF.

This gives safe, tax-free return.

Start PPF if you have not already.

Put Rs. 5,000 monthly in PPF if budget allows.

This gives retirement stability.

Emergency Fund is Important

Keep at least Rs. 2–3 lakh aside as emergency fund.

Do not touch SIP or EPF for sudden needs.

Use a liquid mutual fund or sweep-in FD.

This avoids breaking long-term investments.

Health Insurance and Term Plan

Take a health insurance of Rs. 5–10 lakh.

Employer cover may stop after retirement.

Buy now when healthy. Premiums are low at 50.

If you have dependents, take a term plan.

Cover of Rs. 25–50 lakh is enough.

Retirement Corpus Target

You need Rs. 1.5 crore by age 60.

This is minimum for Rs. 30,000–40,000 monthly income.

You already have some base.

Balance must come from mutual funds and EPF.

SIP growth and discipline will help you reach goal.

Should You Buy a House?

You asked about buying a property.

Property is not suitable for retirement funding.

It is illiquid.

It does not give monthly income unless rented.

Selling takes time and cost.

Property has taxes and maintenance.

Better to rent in retirement, not own.

Use funds for retirement income tools.

What to Do Instead of Property

Increase SIP in mutual funds.

Diversify across large-cap, flexi-cap, and hybrid funds.

Build monthly income source through SWP after age 60.

SIP becomes your wealth builder.

Avoid stress of home loan or property EMI.

Retirement Action Plan in Bullet Points

Continue Rs. 10,000 SIP in equity mutual funds.

Increase SIP by Rs. 1,000 every 6 months.

Target Rs. 20,000 monthly SIP in 3 years.

Surrender LIC policy if it is 5+ years old.

Shift that to mutual fund or PPF.

Start PPF with Rs. 5,000 monthly if possible.

Build Rs. 2–3 lakh emergency fund in liquid fund.

Buy health insurance of Rs. 5–10 lakh immediately.

If family depends on you, buy term insurance.

Avoid buying property now. Focus on liquid retirement assets.

Use only regular mutual funds through Certified Financial Planner.

Avoid index and direct mutual funds completely.

Finally

You still have 8–10 active working years.
This is enough to build a solid retirement base.
Do not waste money in LIC or property.
Do not take unnecessary loans.
Avoid RD and FD for retirement.
Equity mutual funds are your main tool.
Grow SIP every year.
Track your goals with a Certified Financial Planner.
Keep insurance and emergency fund in place.
Live simply. Invest wisely. Retire peacefully.

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Hello Sir, I am 32 years old and my investments are. SIP of monthly Rs 26000/- (Small, Mid, Large Cap and Debt Fund) Current value of SIP is Rs 2500000, XIRR 24.5% SIP in Gold Rs 3000 per month, Current Value Rs 45000 SIP in Stock Rs 3000 per month Current Value Rs 55000. SIP on name of Mother Rs 15000 SIP Monthly Current Value Rs 2.75Lakh. PF Value Rs 800000 Plot current value Rs 3500000 Own House No Loan or EMI My Salary Is Rs 75000 and monthly expense is Rs 15000Rs And the rest money is saved as Emergency fund which is around 2.5 Lakh. Please suggest.
Ans: Your disciplined SIPs, clear expense tracking, and zero home loan show excellent financial habits. Let’s review everything in depth from a complete 360?degree perspective and guide you forward.

Current Investment Snapshot

SIP total Rs?26,000/month across small, mid, large?cap, debt funds.

Current SIP corpus typically around Rs?25?lakhs with XIRR 24.5%.

SIP in gold Rs?3,000/month, current value ~Rs?45,000.

SIP in direct stock Rs?3,000/month, current value ~Rs?55,000.

SIP by mother in your name Rs?15,000/month, current value ~Rs?2.75?lakhs.

Provident Fund (PF) balance ~Rs?8?lakhs.

Plot worth ~Rs?35?lakhs.

Own house, loan/EMI free.

Salary Rs?75,000/month, monthly expense Rs?15,000.

Emergency fund ~Rs?2.5?lakhs.

You have strong savings capacity of ~Rs?60,000/month. You manage money well. Let me assess each area and give balanced suggestions.

1. Portfolio Diversification and Allocation

Your equity SIP (Rs?26?k + Rs?3?k direct stock + Rs?15?k mother’s SIP) is ~Rs?44 k/month.

Debt SIP is only part of the Rs?26 k; exact split unclear.

Gold SIP is small, giving just Rs?45 k so far.

PF is long?term debt component.

Plot is illiquid; avoid more real estate.

Assessment:

Equity exposure is high and performing great.

Debt exposure seems low; balance is needed.

Gold holding small; can be increased modestly for diversification.

PF offers retirement cushion but adds to debt component.

Suggestions:

Aim for equity 60%, debt 30%, gold 10% allocation.

Increase debt SIP by Rs?5–10 k/month (dynamic bond, corporate bond, flexi-debt fund).

Increase gold investment to Rs?5–7 k/month till allocation reaches 8–10%.

Continue equity SIPs as they yield high XIRR.

Reallocate mother’s SIP distribution if concentrated in one fund.

2. Importance of Debt Exposure

Debt funds offer stability, liquidity, lower risk.

At present, your exposure is limited.

During market volatility, debt cushions equity downside.

Why it matters:

You have a sharp portfolio tilt to equity.

Market corrections could reduce corpus significantly.

Debt helps smooth returns over down cycles.

Action plan:

Start SIP in dynamic bond fund or corporate bond fund.

Allocate Rs?5–10 k/month depending on comfort.

Review debt holdings once every 6–12 months.

3. Gold Allocation Strategy

Current gold SIP is small (Rs?3 k/month).

Current market value ~Rs?45 k; you just began.

Gold reduces portfolio correlation with equity.

Advantages of more gold:

Acts as inflation hedge.

Provides downside protection.

Steps:

Increase gold SIP to Rs?5–7 k/month.

Continue until gold reaches ~8–10% of your portfolio.

Use an actively managed gold fund or sovereign gold bond via mutual fund route.

Avoid broad ETFs or passive index instruments only.

4. Direct Stock SIPs

You invest Rs?3?k/month in direct stocks.

Currently holding ~Rs?55?k in direct stock.

Observation:

Direct stocks are risky compared to funds.

Lack diversification puts you at higher risk.

Suggestion:

Consider shifting direct stock allocation to an actively managed equity fund.

If you continue stocks, review each holding for performance and risk.

Use direct stock SIP amount as opportunity to boost gold or debt SIP.

5. Portfolio via Mother’s Name

You invest Rs?15?k/month in your mother’s name.

Current value Rs?2.75?lakhs.

Considerations:

This likely is for tax optimization or family wealth transfer.

Gains on her account involve her tax slab.

Gift rules apply; ensure withdrawal rules understood.

Guide:

Clarify long-term goal of mother’s investment.

If wealth creation, keep it but monitor funds and asset allocation.

Make sure it is a regular SIP with clear review cycles.

Adjust fund mix if her risk tolerance differs from yours.

6. Emergency Fund Status

You hold Rs?2.5 lakhs in emergency corpus.

Monthly expenses only Rs?15?k.

This covers ~16 months of expenses.

This is excellent.

Covers any medical, job-loss or unexpected need.

Keep it in liquid fund, sweep-in FD or savings account.

Do not use emergency corpus for investments or non-urgent purposes.

7. Retirement and Long Term Goals

You have strong equity exposure in SIPs, gold, PF.

PF Rs?8 lakh gives good base for retirement.

Continue PF contributions.

But consider adding retirement-dedicated equity fund.

Select actively managed multi-cap or large-cap fund.

Start Rs?5–10?k/month SIP post balancing debt/gold.

Helps in building long-term growth beyond PF returns.

8. Tax Planning and Mutual Fund Realisations

With rising equity, consider long-term gains tax rule.

Equity fund LTCG above Rs?1.25 lakhs taxed at 12.5%.

Debt fund gains taxed as per your tax slab.

Plan redemptions with tax efficiency in mind.

Use gains only if needed for goals or rebalancing.

Plan redemptions each year to stay under Rs?1.25 lakh gain.

9. Actively Managed Funds vs Index Funds

You mention funds but did not mention index funds.
Still, good to explain differences.

Why prefer actively managed funds:

Managers select good stocks and exit bad ones.

They customise sectors based on market conditions.

Avoid blind performance swings that track index.

They help in goal-oriented investing.

Disadvantages of index funds:

Purely track index; no expert intervention.

Include weaker stocks which reduce returns.

Underperform in sideways or downturn markets.

Do not offer flexibility in asset selection.

Thus continue choosing actively managed funds via regular plans guided by CFP advice.

10. Regular Plan vs Direct Plan Investment Route

I assume your SIPs are through direct or regular plans.
Let me clarify this choice.

Direct Plan cons:

You must manage investments alone.

No guidance for rebalancing or monitoring.

Emotional decisions often lead to poor timing.

Benefits of Regular Plan via CFP:

Professional monitoring and risk mgmt.

Ensures behavioural discipline during market volatility.

Periodic reviews help meet evolving goals.

Regular plan cost difference often offset by better returns and support.

Continue with regular plan route for consistency and financial planning support.

11. Real Estate Holding

You own a plot worth ~Rs?35?lakhs but no EMI or house loan.
As per request, I won’t suggest real estate investment.

Note:

The plot is non?liquid and non?yielding asset.

It does not help in income or portfolio rebalancing.

Keep it but avoid buying more plots or property.

12. Insurance and Risk Coverage

You did not mention insurance. This is a crucial gap.

Life Insurance:

Even without dependents, life cover is essential.

Helps in paying plot loan, EMI, taxes, or future home costs.

Buy a pure term plan of Rs?50–75?lakhs.

Do not buy ULIP or endowment plans.

Health Insurance:

Get individual floater or family cover Rs?5–10?lakhs.

Medical costs can impact investments quickly.

Personal Accident:

Low-cost but useful for disability or injury.

Helps in case of temporary income loss.

These protect your financial stability and preserve investments.

13. Cash Flow and Budget Perspective

You earn Rs?75?k/month and spend only Rs?15?k.

You invest Rs?44?k/month in SIPs and savings.

You invest additional Rs?44 k/month.

That leaves hard cash ~Rs?16 k for discretionary use.

Assessment:

You maintain a high savings ratio and low expenses.

This gives you flexibility to adjust SIPs.

But be careful not to stretch end of month spends.

14. Balanced Growth Strategy

Current asset split roughly:

Equity (funds + stock) ~65–70%

Debt (PF) ~15–20%

Gold ~2%

Real estate ~10–15%

Cash (emergency) ~5%

To build balance:

Boost debt to 30%, gold to 8–10%, keep equity 60%.

Use SIP increases for debt and gold.

Maintain ratio by rebalancing yearly.

15. Regular Reviews and Adjustments

Review portfolio every 6 months.

Assess if debt or gold need topping up.

Check if equity returns still outperform.

Adjust allocations back to target mix.

16. Monitoring Mutual Fund Performance

Evaluate each fund’s performance vs category peers.

Check fund manager tenure and strategy.

Watch expense ratio, risk parameters.

Replace underperforming or high risk fund.

17. Planning for Long-Term Goals

As you progress, consider next big goals:

Retirement around age 60–65.

Floating wedding or child marriage planning.

Career break or foreign travel or sabbatical.

Use time-bound SIPs or targeted funds:

10-year fund for travel/home renovation.

15-20-year fund for retirement.

Use actively managed equity and debt combinations for goal-based SIP.

Final Insights

To summarise:

You have excellently built wealth via disciplined SIPs.

Enhance portfolio balance by adding debt and gold exposure.

Replace direct stock SIP with fund option or periodic review.

Check mother’s SIP fund mix and objective.

Maintain high emergency fund and keep expanding insurance.

Avoid index funds, real estate additions, and direct plans.

Use regular plan route via CFD?guided fund picks.

Continue investing the surplus wisely and review periodically.

With this 360?degree approach, you’ll grow steadily and safely.

You’re doing very well. A few fine?tuning steps now will secure healthy and diversified financial growth.

Would you like help choosing suitable debt and gold funds, or reviewing your current equity portfolio?

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Hi sir i am 34 years i was started SIP 5000 in following category 1)Uti nifty 50 index fund 1000 (2) Parag parikh flexi cap 1000 (3) motilal oswal mid cap 500 (4) HDFC mid cap 500 (5) Nippon India small cap 1000 (6) bandhan small cap 1000 plz suggest my portfolio
Ans: You are 34 years old. That gives you long investment time.
You have started your SIP journey early. That is a strong first step.

You are investing Rs. 5,000 monthly in six different funds.
Your current SIP allocation covers different categories.
This includes index, flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

Let’s now analyse your SIP portfolio from every angle.
We will keep it simple, professional, and easy to follow.

Portfolio Allocation Overview
Your SIP is spread as:

Rs. 1,000 in Nifty 50 Index Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Flexi Cap Fund

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Mid Cap Fund B

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund A

Rs. 1,000 in Small Cap Fund B

Total SIP = Rs. 6,000 monthly.
Let’s now assess each component.

Problems with Index Fund Allocation
You have invested in an index fund.
This is a passive fund. It copies an index like Nifty 50.

Disadvantages of index funds:

No active stock selection

Poor quality stocks can stay in portfolio

Cannot exit bad sectors during crisis

Cannot avoid risky or falling companies

Gives average market return, never better

No cushion during market crash

No fund manager to guide investments

Why actively managed funds are better:

Expert fund manager selects quality stocks

Regular review and change of holdings

Avoids weak performing sectors and stocks

Aims for higher return than index

Adjusts portfolio based on market and economy

Gives better risk-adjusted return over time

Action Point:

Stop SIP in index fund

Start SIP in an actively managed large-cap or flexi-cap fund

Choose through a certified financial planner for better planning

Direct Plans – A Serious Concern
If you are using direct funds, that is a problem.
You have not mentioned this, but we must explain.

Disadvantages of direct mutual funds:

No help from any MFD or Certified Financial Planner

No one to review performance regularly

You may not rebalance when needed

You may panic in market fall and withdraw early

You may miss new opportunities

No goal tracking or future value estimation

Why regular plans through MFD with CFP are better:

You get human guidance

Helps in emotional decisions during market panic

Portfolio review done every 6–12 months

Helps plan for goals like house, retirement, or child’s future

Tax planning done smartly

Helps increase SIP over time as income grows

Action Point:

If you are using direct funds, switch to regular funds

Take support from CFP-certified MFD

You will gain much more than the lower expense ratio of direct plans

Fund Overlap – Mid Cap and Small Cap
You are investing in:

Two mid cap funds

Two small cap funds

That creates overlap in risk and sectors.
Mid and small caps are more volatile.

Problems with duplication:

Same type of stocks in two funds

More funds, but not more diversification

Managing becomes harder

May dilute performance

Action Point:

Keep only one good mid cap fund

Keep only one small cap fund

Use saved SIP for a large and mid-cap or balanced fund

You are only 34.
So you can take exposure to mid and small cap.
But it must be balanced and structured.

Flexi Cap Fund – A Good Core Holding
Flexi cap fund is useful in any portfolio.
It allows fund manager to invest in all segments.
Large, mid, and small caps are all used smartly.

Benefits of Flexi Cap:

Offers diversification in one fund

Reduces need for too many funds

Fund manager moves across sectors and caps

Suitable for both beginners and long-term investors

Action Point:

Keep SIP in flexi cap fund

If possible, increase allocation slightly

Flexi cap can be your core portfolio fund.

Asset Allocation Gaps
You are fully invested in equity funds now.
This is okay for long-term goals only.

But you must create some balance.
Later, you will need debt or hybrid funds also.

Why asset allocation matters:

Equity gives growth, but is volatile

Debt gives stability, but low return

Mix of both gives smoother journey

Important during market crash or job loss

Action Point:

Add a balanced advantage fund when SIP increases

Use it to reduce portfolio risk gradually

Plan using help of a certified financial planner

Goal-Based Planning – Missing in Portfolio
Your current SIP does not mention your financial goals.
That is risky. Money without a goal is directionless.

Each SIP must have a purpose:

Buying house

Retirement planning

Child’s education

Emergency corpus

Vacation or vehicle

Without goal tagging, you may withdraw early
or may not know how much to invest.

Action Point:

Define your goals clearly

Tag each SIP to one goal

Estimate future cost of each goal

Adjust SIP amount every year as income grows

Monthly SIP Amount – Review and Plan
Rs. 6,000 SIP is a good start.
But you must increase it regularly.

You are 34. You may work for 25 more years.
You must save more every year.

Action Plan:

Increase SIP by 10% every year

Link SIP increase with salary increase

Shift extra SIP to funds suggested above

Review portfolio every 12 months

This will help build wealth in the long term.

Taxation Awareness
When you sell mutual funds in future, tax applies.
You must plan your redemptions properly.

Latest tax rules:

Long Term Capital Gain (LTCG) on equity above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

Short Term Capital Gain (STCG) taxed at 20%

Debt mutual fund gain taxed as per income slab

Action Plan:

Track holding period of every SIP

Don’t sell early unless urgent

Redeem smartly after holding 1–3 years or more

Discuss tax impact with your CFP

Step-by-Step Suggestions
Exit index fund SIP

Stop duplicate mid cap and small cap SIPs

Retain one flexi cap fund

Increase SIP in flexi cap slowly

Add balanced fund as SIP grows

Define and tag goals clearly

Review portfolio once every year

Shift to regular plans via CFP-guided MFD

Avoid emotional withdrawals in market fall

Plan taxes before redemption

Increase SIP as income rises

Don’t add too many funds in future

Keep portfolio simple and balanced

Track and rebalance every year

Finally
You are on the right path.
You started early. That’s a huge advantage.

But your portfolio has overlapping funds.
And one passive index fund that limits growth.

Your asset allocation is tilted fully to equity.
That is fine for now. But not forever.

You also must link SIPs to your life goals.
Only then the journey becomes meaningful.

Direct plans and index funds don’t help long term.
They look cheap but lack planning support.

A certified financial planner will guide with clarity and direction.
SIPs must grow with your income and life needs.

Keep discipline. Avoid panic. Invest with purpose.
This is how you create wealth and peace.

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i m 49 years old, earning 2L pm, I have a Hsg Loan of 55L, Car Loan of 10L & Education Loan of 21L, I m investing 40000 pm in Direct Stock SIP. I Have 54L in Mutual Funds, 60L in Equities, Have 1 office, 2 Homes, Have 25.65 L In PPF & FDR is 41L, I want to retire by 57? How to maxmise my Investment so that i van earn 2.5l pm after 57
Ans: You are 49 years old and earning Rs. 2 lakh per month. You want to retire at 57 and get Rs. 2.5 lakh per month after retirement.

You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks. You have loans totalling Rs. 86 lakh. You hold Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds, Rs. 60 lakh in equities, Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF, and Rs. 41 lakh in FDs. You also own one office and two homes.

This is a good base. You are doing many things well. Now, let us build a detailed 360-degree plan. The goal is to become debt-free, protect wealth, and build steady retirement income.

Clean Up and Prioritise Your Loans
Housing loan is Rs. 55 lakh. This is your biggest burden.

Car loan of Rs. 10 lakh is short-term. It doesn’t build assets.

Education loan of Rs. 21 lakh must also be cleared before retirement.

Your EMIs are reducing cash flow. They delay investments.

Action Plan:

Use your FD of Rs. 41 lakh to part-prepay loans.

First close the car and education loan.

Then reduce principal on the housing loan.

Don’t touch equity or mutual funds to close loans.

Loan interest rates are higher than FD returns. So, use FDs wisely to save interest.

Your Emergency Fund Must Be Defined
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. You don’t need to keep all.

Keep only 6 to 12 months of expenses:

Rs. 6–8 lakh is enough in liquid mutual funds.

Move the rest to medium-term hybrid funds.

This gives better returns than FD and keeps liquidity.

Your PPF is a Safety Net, Not Growth Engine
You have Rs. 25.65 lakh in PPF. That is very good.

PPF is safe. But it gives fixed return. It cannot beat inflation fully.

Action Plan:

Let PPF continue till maturity.

Don’t depend on it for major post-retirement cash flow.

Use it for emergency buffer or short income gaps.

It adds stability to your overall portfolio.

Direct Stocks Need Regular Supervision
You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month in direct stocks.

You also hold Rs. 60 lakh in equity stocks.

This is a large allocation. Direct stocks carry higher risk.

Action Plan:

Reduce new direct stock SIP to Rs. 10,000 monthly.

Shift Rs. 30,000 monthly into diversified mutual funds.

Review equity stocks every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.

This reduces concentration risk. And adds professional fund management.

Avoid Direct Mutual Funds, Shift to Regular With CFP
You didn’t mention if you use direct mutual funds. If yes, you must switch.

Problems with direct funds:

No expert guidance.

No goal tracking.

Emotional mistakes during market ups and downs.

Benefits of regular plans through CFP:

Professional reviews.

Help with goal mapping.

Timely switches and rebalancing.

You need clarity, not confusion, especially before retirement.

Stay Away from Index Funds
Index funds may look attractive. But they are not good at protecting wealth.

Problems with index funds:

No defence during market crashes.

No flexibility in asset allocation.

Blindly follow market without judgement.

Actively managed funds are better:

Skilled fund managers manage risk.

Can avoid weak sectors.

Have better long-term performance.

At this age, avoid passive investing.

Avoid Real Estate as Future Investment
You already own:

One office.

Two homes.

That is more than enough.

Don’t invest more in real estate:

Poor liquidity.

High maintenance.

No regular income.

Instead, build your retirement plan through mutual funds and debt-free assets.

Create Retirement Buckets Now
You want to retire at 57. You want Rs. 2.5 lakh per month income.

You need three buckets:

Growth Bucket:

Equity mutual funds.

For years 10–25 post-retirement.

Helps beat inflation.

Income Bucket:

Hybrid mutual funds with SWP.

Gives monthly income from age 57.

Safety Bucket:

Debt mutual funds.

For years 1–5 after retirement.

This model spreads your risk and builds income flow.

Use Your FD Money Smartly
You have Rs. 41 lakh in FD. Use it like this:

Rs. 8 lakh – emergency fund.

Rs. 10 lakh – pay off car and education loan.

Rs. 10 lakh – invest in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 13 lakh – slowly move to equity funds.

This gives you growth and also reduces debt.

Don’t let FD money sleep. Make it work.

Build Corpus for Retirement Income of Rs. 2.5 lakh Monthly
You have 8 years to retirement. You will need a large corpus.

Assume your target is Rs. 4–5 crore by age 57.

Your current assets can get you close:

Rs. 54 lakh in mutual funds.

Rs. 60 lakh in stocks.

Rs. 25 lakh in PPF.

Rs. 41 lakh in FD.

Office property may give rental income.

But loans reduce the compounding. So, clearing them is urgent.

What Monthly Investment Is Required Now
You must invest Rs. 75,000–1 lakh monthly for the next 8 years.

Suggested split:

Rs. 30,000 in diversified equity funds.

Rs. 20,000 in hybrid mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in debt mutual funds.

Rs. 10,000 in global or thematic funds.

Rs. 10,000 in healthcare or balanced advantage funds.

Don’t do this on your own. Do it with a Certified Financial Planner.

Don’t Depend on Rental Income Alone
You have two homes and an office. Rental income is not always stable.

Tenants may leave.

Property may remain vacant.

Maintenance and repairs are costly.

Keep real estate only for partial support. Not as main income source.

Start SWP Plan for Income After Retirement
Don’t use annuities. They lock your money and give low returns.

Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) from mutual funds.

Advantages of SWP:

Fixed monthly income.

Tax-efficient structure.

Control over money.

Flexibility to change amount anytime.

Start SWP from age 57. Plan now to create the corpus.

Taxation After Retirement Needs Planning
Mutual funds have updated tax rules.

Equity mutual fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains taxed as per income slab.

Use SWP from hybrid and debt funds to keep tax low.

Keep mutual fund withdrawals within limit to stay tax-efficient.

Don’t Forget Will and Nomination Planning
You have many assets. These must pass smoothly to family.

Write a Will now.

Update mutual fund nominations.

Add nominee in FDs and PPF.

Share asset list with spouse.

This prevents legal problems for your family later.

Check Your Health and Term Cover
You didn’t mention health insurance or term insurance.

If you don’t have:

Take family floater health cover of Rs. 20–25 lakh.

Add super top-up if needed.

Take term insurance till age 60 if family depends on you.

Insurance gives safety to your wealth plan.

Finally
You are in a powerful position. You have high income and many assets.

But loans, scattered assets, and stock exposure can reduce growth.

Take these actions now:

Clear loans with FD.

Reduce direct stock exposure.

Shift to mutual funds with guidance.

Build 3-bucket retirement plan.

Invest monthly with proper asset allocation.

Plan your SWP income after retirement.

Secure health and term insurance.

Make your Will and nominations today.

Retiring at 57 with Rs. 2.5 lakh monthly income is possible.

But only with discipline, action, and expert guidance.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hello sir, I've 1.2Cr home loan under construction,I do 1L ppf and 50k NPS. I'm looking to use 80EE exemption-50K on loan interest HRA-3L in old regime 54F- no capital gain tax 80C-1.5L old regime Please help to choose the correct regime suitable for me. (Salary -25+)
Ans: You’re taking wise steps with PPF, NPS, home loan, HRA, and capital gains goals. Let’s analyse thoroughly from a 360° financial and tax view.

Income and Deductions Overview

Your salary is Rs. 25+ lakhs per annum.

You contribute Rs. 1 lakh to PPF annually.

You also invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS yearly.

Home loan is Rs. 1.2 crore under construction.

You intend to use:

Section 80EE interest deduction up to Rs. 50,000.

HRA deduction of Rs. 3 lakh under old regime.

Section 54F to avoid capital gain tax.

Section 80C full limit of Rs. 1.5 lakh under old regime.

Understanding Both Tax Regimes

Let’s compare old and new tax regimes:

Old Regime

Higher tax slabs but allows full deductions.

You can claim PPF, NPS, home loan interest (section 80EE), HRA, 80C and 54F.

This lowers taxable income significantly.

New Regime

Lower tax slabs but fewer exemptions.

You lose deductions like HRA, 80C, 80EE, NPS (partial), 54F.

Only NPS under Section 80CCD(2) employer contribution is allowed.

Limited scope for reducing taxable income.

Deductions in Your Case

Let us evaluate critical deductions one by one:

1. Home Loan Interest (Section 80EE)

Eligible deduction up to Rs. 50,000 annually.

You are planning to claim this under old regime.

Under new regime, this deduction is not available.

2. HRA (House Rent Allowance)

You claim Rs. 3 lakh annually under old regime.

Not allowed under new regime.

3. Section 54F (Capital Gain Exemption)

If you sell any long-term asset and invest in home, you can save capital gains tax entirely.

Applicable under old regime only.

4. Section 80C Deduction

Total of Rs. 1.5 lakh including PPF, ELSS, life insurance premium, EPF etc.

You invest Rs. 1 lakh in PPF.

Remainder can be filled with approved instruments.

Old regime allows this full deduction, new regime does not.

5. 80CCD (NPS)

You invest Rs. 50,000 in NPS.

This comes under 80CCD(1B), allowed in old regime.

New regime only allows employer contribution (section 80CCD(2)), not employee’s.

Tax Impact Comparison

Your situation is well aligned for old regime benefits.
You have multiple deductions resulting in significant tax relief.

Under Old Regime You Can Claim:

Home loan interest under 80EE.

Full HRA up to Rs. 3 lakh.

Full 80C deduction of Rs. 1.5 lakh.

Section 54F if capital gains arise and are reinvested.

NPS under 80CCD(1B).

This makes your taxable income much lower.

Under New Regime:

You lose HRA, 80C, 80EE, 54F, NPS deductions.

Only basic exemption and standard deduction apply.

Tax will be higher due to loss of deductions.

You would pay far higher taxes under new regime than old.

Other Financial Planning Considerations

Let us now look beyond taxes to ensure your financial strength grows.

Emergency Fund

Maintain at least six months of household expenses.

Ideal corpus would be Rs. 3–5 lakh given your loan obligations.

Use liquid mutual funds or bank deposits.

Do not touch this for non-emergency.

Home Loan Strategy

Home loan under construction means you can claim interest only after possession for income tax.

But for tax planning, you can estimate future deductions.

After possession, allocate max interest under 80EE and HRA if you rent.

Continue PPF and NPS simultaneously to sustain deductions.

Retirement Corpus

You already invest in PPF and NPS.

That is a good retirement foundation.

You may also start SIP in actively managed equity mutual funds, via regular plans.

This helps grow retirement wealth beyond PPF/NPS.

Avoid index funds. They deliver only average returns. Actively managed funds adapt to market cycles.

Why Prefer Regular Plans via CFP Over Direct Funds

As your Certified Financial Planner, I ensure your portfolio is reviewed regularly.

Regular plans give guidance, rebalancing, and goal tracking.

Direct plans require you to handle rebalancing and timing alone.

Investors in direct plans often make emotional mistakes, like entering or exiting at wrong times.

With a CFP, you get discipline and professional support.

Scenario Examples

Let us see how things fit:

If You Choose Old Regime:

You get Rs. 1 lakh PPF, Rs. 50k NPS, Rs. 50k home loan interest, Rs. 3 lakh HRA, Rs. 1.5 lakh 80C, and 54F benefits.

Your taxable income drops significantly.

Likely lower total tax than new regime.

If You Choose New Regime:

Only standard deduction and no other exemptions.

You lose Rs. ~6–7 lakh worth of deductions.

Taxable income increases and tax liability rises.

Since your deductions exceed the increased tax difference, old regime is financially wiser.

Practical Steps for You

Choose Old Regime for this financial year.

Continue PPF and NPS contributions.

Claim home loan interest under 80EE.

Maintain HRA records to claim Rs. 3 lakh.

Plan 54F use when you sell assets and invest in property.

Track total investment under 80C and ensure full allocation.

After home possession, still claim interest under section 24 and HRA if renting.

Additional Growth and Protection Plans

Looking ahead, also consider these 360° aspects:

Insurance Needs

Ensure you have life cover and health insurance.

If no term plan exists, buy pure term plan for minimum Rs. 1 crore.

Have family floater health policy with Rs. 5–10 lakh cover.

Accident cover is inexpensive but useful.

Retirement SIPs

Add actively managed equity SIPs of Rs. 5k–10k if cash flow allows.

Keep old regime until major deductions are consistently used.

Revisit regime option every year.

Loan Repayment Strategy

After possession, consider increasing EMI or making lump sum prepayment when possible.

Reducing loan principal reduces total interest and speeds up debt-free status.

Emergency Corpus Build-Up

Set aside monthly savings for emergencies.

Ideal to reach at least Rs. 3 lakh.

Use for sudden job loss or medical crisis.

Final Insights

Old regime suits your situation best due to strong deduction profile.

Continue as you are with PPF, NPS, home loan interest and HRA claims.

Use 54F when capital gains arise and reinvest.

Stick to actively managed mutual funds via regular plans for growth.

Strengthen insurance, emergency corpus and loan repayment.

Review this annually and adjust as your situation changes.

Your planning is strong and thoughtful. With disciplined execution now, you can enhance tax savings and build long-term wealth. Should we work on balancing cash flow post-construction or selecting mutual fund categories next?

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

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