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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 09, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu...i hv been reading ur expertise to solve the issues of people and am really impressed. We have been married for 19years now and have a son and daughter .From the start of the marriage my wife have been inclined towards her mother and her family paying less or no heed to us. Circumstances were also favorable to her and she always got the opportunity to stay close and visit her parents often which i did not mind.We lived in Mumbai and she is from Chennai.After marriage my mom-in-law used to continuosly interfere into our lives by calling her and she used to act as per her suggestions only which led to problems as she was a puppet in the hands of my Mom-in-law. Moreover since my mom-in-law was not in good health my wife tried not to over rule as she did not want her mom to feel sick as she doesnt like to be over ruled or by pass failing which she goes on hunger strike and stop taking tablets spoiling her own health. Due to this reason everybody has been appeasing her.Initially i thought to ignore but slowly it started to affect my family as well as my wife started to see things thru my mom-in-laws perspective and find faults in everything. We shifted to overseas to stay away from all these and we really had a good life for 10 years there but since i lost job during covid i had to shift base to India for my son's education but she chose to stay back there with my daughter as she is working there.I too felt that let her spend some time so that i could settle things in India and call her but it is more than 2 years now and she refuses to come back and dont even care for us and neither call us as family. I tried to involve my in-laws to convince her but they are also playing a diplomatic game and doesnt want to go against their daughter's wish.Due to this attitude of my mom-in-law their own daughter-in-laws have been staying away and since my in-laws stay alone my wife feels that she is the only support system for her parents but it has come on my life's sacrifice. She has been ignoring us and even i kept moving for the sake of my family and children instead of respecting my feelings she has become more adamant now.Her brother is also seperated from her wife and he also looks forward for a support system from my daughter and my wife and they seem close ignoring myself and my son.We have been trying to convince her thru all means but she is caring. Even i feel that it is futile to force someone into relationship but she unknowingly spoiling my family and deprieve my son the mother;s love and also depreive my daughter from affection and love.Due to this my son has also stopped expecting from her and my daughter treats me as a stranger due to long distance. Pls suggest the way forward. Shud i wait for things to improve or leave as it is.I am 47 now and she is 45..told her that let us enjoy the best things in life rather than regretting later but she does not understand.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Logic does not appeal to your wife!
What can you do with someone who is adamant about ruining her own family life? It's purely clouded judgement on her part on what to do and not!
With more people dependent on your wife for support, she has found a way of moving even more away from you...what I do not understand is: how is she able to do that to your son?

Either the two of you talk this out and take firm decisions OR accept that this is how it's going to be...sooner or later, she will realize what is happening and will become more aware of her priorities. But, being where you are is painful and it will stress you even more...So, find a way to talk things out is a step that you can take NOW!

Impress upon her as to how important it is keep the family together as a unit for the children to grow in a healthy manner and also how much this time investment will help the two of you as a couple.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 07, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I am 31 years old.. married for one and a half year, it was an arranged marriage, when my father came he was well and clear that my daughter studies or works for long hours she don’t like household chores but she earns well so can pay for help.. that time my mother in law was all happy and said I will help her, she’ll be like my child and all that... my husband also used to assure me that you will be treated really well, if you are working no body gonna point out, we are very modern. My mother in law is very modern she used to wear jeans and shorts and her Devrani lived in ghunghat... My mother in law hates everyone in her family, devarani, jethani, nanad, her own late mother in law father in law, her own mother, father, brothers, sisters, their spouses, their children... everyone. Yet my husband doesn’t understand she is doing wrong, I come from a big family... people fight and next day come back together... here it’s very very hard to survive in this negativity. Once I went home, because here I wasn’t getting enough time to study due to household chores... then behind me she created scenes telling .. your wife has disrespected me, didn’t eat anything for 15-20 days then my husband got angry on me... we fought and he blocked me, no contact between us for months. My parents came once to talk but she was too loud and insulting that they got sure we are NOT sending back our daughter to such house. Then our relatives interfered, sat together and found out there was no major problem everybody laughed.. saying we are not able to find any issue, but my mother in law still kept on complaining for continuously 4 hours... she was all negative.. I can back home, I know all I have to do is ignore her rest everything is okay to live by.. But I have lost trust on my husband,I know if he left me once, he can leave me again....living here is very difficult with all the hate, nobody comes to house for dinners.. it’s alone and hateful. I don’t say anything because that will only elevate the problem. It’s hell living here.. they all sit together and talk and when I go everyone shuts.. although I don’t care what that are talking about, I don’t give a rat’s ass even if they’re bitching about me. It’s just all negative and I wanna run away from here.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What is your question for me here?
I have got the point that there is a lot of hate and negativity at your in-laws place and that it is far different from how you were raised. Also, that your husband blindly sides with his mother bothers you. But I will try and put things in perspective and make suggestions here.

Now, understand that certain families are the way that they are and unfortunately you have come into a place where people are isolated from one another and talk behind each other's backs.
Are you in a position to change all of this especially when you have realized that your husband isn't someone who is on your side?
So, when you can't change something, the only way to get through all of this peacefully is to accept it. But, that is the things that you are struggling with already and yes, it is understandable from your point of view.
Have an honest conversation with your husband; I am sure he is interested in making his marriage work too. That's the first step to actually make him aware that all this is affecting you.
Let's say, he is not bothered by it all and continues to go about all of this without realizing that he has a wife and he is also responsible towards the marriage, try and suggest getting to a professional (But do realize that the professional will not be able to change the way your husband's home functions). This is only getting the bond between you and your husband stronger so that you can be on the same side weathering the environment around you.
Now, if he refuses this intervention...then the onus is on you...what and how you see your life is totally a choice that you must make.

All the best!
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Hi Anu, After reading a lot of your responses I started to believe that you probably have a solution to my complex problem I am 42 yr old and wife 40 and we live in AUS. We have 2 beautiful, smart kids 11 and 7. She is a nice person but not very smart to think what should we care and what not care and live a happy life. A few years ago my mom from India used to visit how used to complain about my in-laws about how rude they are how they not keep in touch at all and all that. This is absolutely true because I saw that myself. But my wife being a loving daughter thinks none of that is true and my mom is lying. 10 years ago my dad passed away after 2 months of lot of suffering from cancer, my wife was pregnant here at the same time in AUS. I had to go to India to spend with time with my dad during his last days.One unbelievable truth is when I was performing funeral rituals on on side my father in law was telling all my close visitors that I am not talking/calling much to my wife during these days to AUS. All those guests told me about it. But my father-in-law says that he never said those things to visitors and they are all lying. My wife firmly believes that they are all lying. When I talked to him in person he agreed that he said those things. He is never nice to our family. He never even offered help to my family when my dad was suffering. All that a side, realizing that me and my family is disturbed a lot, none of my family members are saying anything to her just so that we are happy and nothing bothers us. It's been 2 1/2 years like that. But she is not ready for forget what happened in the past and live a happy family life. Despite suffering I myself tell her to forget all that happened and I never talk about past things. But she still clings on to those thoughts. My kids are suffering now. To keep my family happy, I try to make fun , talk to her, go places and all that. But with those past thoughts she turned into a heartless person. Please help. Tell me where, what and how can I/we fix this.
Ans: Dear Harsha,
Thank you for the acknowledgement.
My suggestion to you: Start afresh!
Digging what happened only puts your wife in the spotlight...maybe she wasn't at her best and things went downhill, but it will not give her the chance to rework things and integrate back into the family.
So, press the RESET button and along with the kids, focus on your family...what her father said or not, what someone should have done or not; let it be done and dusted.
For relationships to work and move, both parties involved, must make that choice to leave the past behind, else the shadows keep growing and casting a cloud over something that is healthy and has a chance to grow beautifully.
Does this make sense here? If I tell you to go down the path and confront her about her father, she will get defensive and this thing will get ugly and perhaps backfire.
Are you willing to start afresh is the question here? If YES, what will this do for you? Now, you know what to do...

All the best!
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I am 38 years old. I have been living abroad since I was 21 years old. I have been focused on my career since then. I got married in 2021 in India and just after 4 months living in India, we again moved abroad. This country was new for me and my my wife, but my brother was already settled in this country with his family. As I was living away from my family for many years, me and my wife decided to live in a joint family with my brother’s family. However, I was quite busy adjusting to my new job, my wife couldn’t adjust well to my side of the family, my brother, his wife and my mother. After living together with everyone for a year, me and my wife decided to live separately from my side of the family. Now after 5 months my wife became pregnant and we both wanted to have a child. So even though my family was quite close and could have supported us during this time. I decided to sponsor my in laws on a visa so that my wife could feel supportive during this time. We had a girl child and I have avoided to communicate to my family during this one year so that my wife doesn’t get any stress or anything from my family. However as soon as we had a child, I have invited my mother and my brother family to visit my daughter. Now my in laws have started quarreling with me once in a while. And they convinced my wife to go to India with them. My wife has been living in India since last 6 months, they would never let me see my daughter over the phone call, and whenever I called them they would ask me for the money/gifts. Let me add to that when I went abroad, my wife was not working initially and I used to give her 30% of my salary and I used to bear all the expenses. When my in laws started living with us, I over heard them talking if I continued having relationship with my side of the family, she would buy her a home in India and take my daughter away from me. Now recently I came to India to get everything sorted, I do not think my wife would be willing to come with me without my in laws. How could I convince her to start over and repair our relationship for us and our beautiful daughter.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure you see a pattern in your wife's actions. At the risk of sounding judgemental, I will say: She does like to get her way in most things.
How else do you explain that when she is stressed keep them away and when she needs, she wants them back?
How can you expect to have support from your side of the family when you two decided to alienate them?
How does it work when she decided to stay back with her family with absolutely no regard that you as father will want to be close to your daughter?
How do you explain that they secretly conspire to take your daughter away from you if you involve your family?

Do you not see the immaturity of how they have very systematically alienated you from your family and your daughter?

To be able to put things together, your wife really needs to get away from her parents. They seem to hold the strings and have no qualms about spoiling their daughter's life...Bring her out of that family and move to a location that is not easily accessible to them; as in maybe back abroad, so they are not in and out of your home. Start building your relationship with your wife by being a hands-on father and that may also give her an idea as to the person that you are. You must be appreciated for the person that you are...Give this a shot!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir, hope you’re doing well. My age is 33. I am investing 40K via SIP in MF in 5 different funds, 20K per month as EPF, 50K NPS annually, 28K EMI - 20 years for 2nd flat for investment, 1st flat home loan completed, 9K car loan for 5 years, also doing SIP 5K in momentum ETF on my own, health insurance from company side(5L) plus additional 5L but no term or life insurance yet. How am I doing financially? Scope of improvement? Please let me know
Ans: You are making commendable progress in financial planning at the age of 33. Your diversified investments and insurance indicate a proactive approach. Let us evaluate your situation and identify areas for improvement.

Current Financial Highlights
SIP in Mutual Funds (Rs. 40,000): This is a disciplined step towards wealth creation.

EPF Contribution (Rs. 20,000): Provides a stable retirement base.

NPS Contribution (Rs. 50,000 Annually): Strengthens retirement planning with tax benefits.

EMI for Second Flat (Rs. 28,000): Shows commitment to asset building.

Car Loan EMI (Rs. 9,000): Necessary, but car loans are liabilities, not assets.

Momentum ETF SIP (Rs. 5,000): Innovative but high-risk strategy.

Health Insurance (Rs. 10 Lakh): A good backup for emergencies.

No Term or Life Insurance: This is a critical gap that needs immediate attention.

Areas of Concern
1. High Loan Commitments
EMI for the second flat and car loan may strain cash flow.
The second flat as an investment can yield lower returns than mutual funds.
2. Lack of Term Insurance
Your dependents would face financial insecurity in your absence.
A term plan with at least 15 times your annual income is essential.
3. Momentum ETF Investment
ETFs are passive investments and lack active fund management benefits.
High volatility can lead to inconsistent returns.
4. Diversification of Investments
While your mutual fund SIPs are good, ensure they cover all categories: large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and hybrid.
Overconcentration in one type of fund or asset class can impact returns.
5. Insufficient Emergency Fund
Emergency savings for 6-12 months of expenses is crucial.
6. Tax Efficiency
Your investments and loan repayments must be optimised for tax savings.
Leverage Section 80C and 80D benefits effectively.
Recommendations for Improvement
1. Review Loan Strategy
Focus on prepaying the car loan as it carries no wealth-building advantage.
Reassess the investment potential of the second flat. If returns are poor, consider selling it and reinvesting in mutual funds.
2. Purchase Term Insurance
Opt for a term plan with Rs. 2 crore coverage.
Term insurance is cost-effective and ensures family security.
3. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Diversify across actively managed funds, avoiding over-reliance on ETFs.
Consult a Certified Financial Planner to refine your portfolio.
4. Enhance Emergency Fund
Save Rs. 2-3 lakh in liquid funds or high-interest savings accounts.
Use this only for unforeseen expenses.
5. Increase Health Insurance
Add a top-up plan of Rs. 10-15 lakh for better coverage.
6. Avoid Momentum ETFs
ETFs do not benefit from active management.
Actively managed funds outperform in volatile markets.
7. Plan Tax Efficiency
Invest up to Rs. 1.5 lakh under Section 80C in ELSS funds.
Claim additional tax benefits under Section 80D for health insurance premiums.
Retirement Planning
Increase your NPS contribution to Rs. 1 lakh annually.
Diversify retirement planning by investing in hybrid funds for stability.
Children’s Education and Marriage
If you have or plan to have children, start early with SIPs in child-specific funds.
These investments should align with the time horizon for each goal.
Actionable Steps
Prepay the car loan at the earliest.
Reevaluate the second flat for potential sale and reinvestment.
Start a term insurance policy immediately.
Build a robust emergency fund.
Review and diversify your mutual fund portfolio with expert guidance.
Increase health insurance coverage for better security.
Avoid ETFs and shift focus to actively managed mutual funds.
Final Insights
You are on the right path but need adjustments for financial security and growth. Address the gaps in insurance and diversify your investments further. By following these steps, you can achieve financial freedom with better peace of mind.

Best Regards,

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My age is 47 and I have invested 7.75 lakh in multiple stock and its grow arround 10 lakh from the past 2.5 years. I have 5.5 lakh home loan remaining . Should I withdraw these money and repay the home loan first and after that increase the SIP of that amount of mf .my current mf sip amount is 30k pm. Please suggest
Ans: Your query reflects careful consideration of financial priorities. Let's analyse whether using your stock investments to repay the home loan is the right step.

Evaluate the Existing Stock Portfolio
Your stock portfolio has grown from Rs 7.75 lakhs to Rs 10 lakhs in 2.5 years.

This indicates a strong return of approximately 29%. If these stocks have long-term growth potential, continuing to hold them might be advantageous.

Consider whether these stocks align with your risk tolerance and long-term financial goals.

Impact of Repaying the Home Loan
Your remaining home loan is Rs 5.5 lakhs. Paying this off will eliminate your EMI burden.

Repaying the loan early saves on interest costs, but assess the prepayment charges, if any.

Compare the effective interest rate on your home loan with the expected annualised return from your stock portfolio.

Home loan interest rates are usually lower compared to stock market returns over the long term.

Increasing SIP After Loan Repayment
Repaying the loan frees up EMI money that can be channelled into mutual fund SIPs.

By increasing SIPs, you benefit from disciplined investing and rupee cost averaging.

Use the additional SIPs to diversify into funds aligned with your risk profile and financial goals.

Considerations for Long-Term Wealth Creation
Mutual funds, especially actively managed ones, provide better diversification than direct stocks.

Your current SIP of Rs 30,000 per month is a good start. Increasing this amount post-loan repayment accelerates wealth creation.

Actively managed funds can outperform index funds through skilled fund management. Avoid direct funds unless you have deep knowledge and time to manage investments.

Evaluating Stock Liquidation
Selling your stocks could trigger capital gains tax. For gains above Rs 1.25 lakh, you will pay LTCG tax at 12.5%.

Factor in transaction costs and tax implications before selling.

Retain stocks that have strong fundamentals and growth prospects. Sell only non-performing or high-risk holdings.

Holistic Financial Planning
Build an emergency fund covering 6-12 months of expenses if you don’t already have one.

Ensure you have adequate life and health insurance coverage for your family’s security.

Maintain a balanced portfolio with exposure to equity, debt, and alternative assets.

Monitor your investments regularly and rebalance them to align with changing goals and risk tolerance.

Final Insights
If your home loan interest is significantly higher than potential stock returns, repayment is wise.

Otherwise, consider maintaining the stock portfolio and continuing your SIPs.

A mix of both strategies—partial loan repayment and increased SIPs—may offer balanced benefits.

Engage a Certified Financial Planner for a tailored strategy that ensures long-term financial success.

Best Regards,

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Chief Financial Planner,

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 04, 2024Hindi
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I am 38 years old and i wanted to take the retirement at the age of 45. I need to understand whether i have enough money to handle my monthly expenses after retirement. These are the details of my Assests :- a) Flat - 03 Cr. b) Flat where i am staying - 2.5 Cr. c) Working space - 40 Lakhs d) Ancestral Home - 2 Cr. e) Shop - 30 Lakhs f) FD - 50 Lakhs g) PF - 32 Lakhs h) MF = 10 Lakhs Expenses a) Health Insurance - 20Lakh (Premium around 35,000/year ) b) LIC Premium - 78,000 / Year (running for last 08 years) c) Monthly expenditure – maintenance , grocery , petrol , car insurance etc , school fees = 85,000 INR d) Monthly Electricity Bill , water , etc = 12000 INR e) Unforeseen expenditure = 10000 INR /Month h) SIP = 65,000 Per Month I) Foreign Trip – 02 times a year = 4.5 Lakhs Overall Expenses/Monthly = 35000+78000+85000*12+12000*12+10000*12+65000*12+450000 = 2,627,000 = 218,000 /Month Current Monthly Salary -03 Lakhs/month Keeping in mind that I need at least 70-80 Lakh for my daughter higher studies . Seeing the inflation of 7% -- Shall I ok to take the retirement at 45 and pursue my dream . If yes then please suggest whether i can sustain for my remaining life .
Ans: Your goal of retiring early at 45 is ambitious yet achievable with careful planning and realistic adjustments. Let us evaluate your situation step-by-step.

Key Highlights of Your Assets and Liabilities
Real Estate Portfolio:

Two flats (Rs 3 Cr + Rs 2.5 Cr = Rs 5.5 Cr).
Working space: Rs 40 Lakhs.
Ancestral home: Rs 2 Cr.
Shop: Rs 30 Lakhs.
Total Real Estate Value: Rs 8.2 Cr.
Financial Assets:

Fixed Deposit (FD): Rs 50 Lakhs.
Provident Fund (PF): Rs 32 Lakhs.
Mutual Funds (MF): Rs 10 Lakhs.
Total Financial Assets: Rs 92 Lakhs.
Breakdown of Your Expenses
Annual Fixed Costs:

Health Insurance Premium: Rs 35,000.
LIC Premium: Rs 78,000.
Monthly Expenditures (groceries, utilities, etc.): Rs 1,07,000 x 12 = Rs 12,84,000.
SIP Contributions: Rs 65,000 x 12 = Rs 7,80,000.
Foreign Trips: Rs 4.5 Lakhs.
Total Annual Expenses: Rs 26,27,000.
Monthly Equivalent: Approximately Rs 2.18 Lakhs.

Future Commitments
Daughter’s Education: Rs 70-80 Lakhs (10-12 years away).
Inflation Impact: Annual expenses will grow at 7%.
Longevity Considerations: Plan for at least 40 years post-retirement.
Evaluation of Current Wealth vs Retirement Needs
Sustainability of Expenses:
Post-retirement, monthly expenses of Rs 2.18 Lakhs will rise significantly due to inflation. At 7%, expenses may double every 10 years.

Income from Assets:

Real estate offers limited liquidity unless sold or rented out.
FD, PF, and MF will serve as primary sources of income.
Relying only on Rs 92 Lakhs of liquid assets may not be sustainable for 40 years.
Suggestions for Financial Alignment
1. Liquidity Planning

Convert some real estate into liquid assets.
Sell non-productive properties like the shop or working space.
Invest proceeds in actively managed mutual funds for better inflation-adjusted growth.
2. Expense Management

Evaluate reducing foreign trips to once a year post-retirement.
Assess if LIC policies are yielding good returns. If not, surrender and redirect funds to mutual funds.
3. Investments for Inflation-Adjusted Growth

Increase investments in mutual funds.
Consider balanced and hybrid funds to balance growth and stability.
Allocate funds in a diversified manner across equity, debt, and international mutual funds.
4. Contingency and Health Coverage

Maintain an emergency fund equivalent to 12 months' expenses.
Review health insurance coverage to ensure it meets future medical needs.
5. Daughter’s Education Fund

Set up a dedicated portfolio with Rs 50-60 Lakhs for her education.
Invest in diversified equity mutual funds to achieve the target in 10-12 years.
Can You Retire at 45?
With your current savings and lifestyle, early retirement is challenging unless you:

Monetise part of your real estate portfolio.
Reduce discretionary expenses like frequent foreign trips.
Invest aggressively for inflation-adjusted returns.
Ensure a retirement corpus of at least Rs 8-10 Crores by 45.
What to Do Next?
Consult a Certified Financial Planner to design a personalised strategy.

Use a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) post-retirement for regular income.

Periodically review investments to ensure they are aligned with inflation and market dynamics.

Final Insights
Early retirement requires careful planning, disciplined investing, and realistic expense management. Your current assets are a strong foundation, but adjustments are needed for long-term sustainability. With proper strategy and prudent financial decisions, you can achieve your dream of retiring at 45.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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I was doing monthly SIP to Axis small cap fund and UTI Flexicap fund for last 4 years. But these 2 funds are not performing well. I want to switch to other funds of same category and I'm thinking of Quant Small cap and HDFC Flexicap. Are these good funds for long term (5-6 years)? Do you have any other fund in mind for suggestion?
Ans: Your decision to invest through SIPs is praiseworthy. It builds disciplined savings and offers rupee cost averaging. Your concern about performance shows an active approach towards wealth creation.

The Axis Small Cap Fund and UTI Flexicap Fund may not be delivering as expected. This could be due to market cycles, sectoral exposure, or fund management changes. Evaluating alternatives is a proactive step.

However, switching funds requires careful assessment to ensure alignment with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Let’s explore this from multiple perspectives.

Evaluating Fund Performance
1. Small-Cap Funds:

Small-cap funds are highly volatile but can deliver excellent returns over time.
Quant Small Cap Fund has been a top performer in recent years.
However, it follows an aggressive strategy, which may not suit every investor.
2. Flexicap Funds:

Flexicap funds are versatile as they invest across market capitalisation.
HDFC Flexicap Fund is a consistent performer with experienced fund management.
It provides a balanced approach to growth and stability.
Challenges of Direct Plans
Direct funds save on distributor commissions but come with their challenges:

You need in-depth research to choose and monitor funds.
Regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) offer professional guidance.
CFPs ensure your investments align with your financial goals.
It’s advisable to use a regular plan with the support of a CFP.

Benefits of Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds outperform index funds in volatile markets.

Fund managers use insights to identify growth opportunities.
Active funds offer better returns during market corrections or specific sector trends.
Switching to actively managed funds is a sound decision.

Taxation Considerations
Switching funds involves redemption, triggering taxes.

For equity mutual funds, LTCG over Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.
Redeem strategically to optimise tax liability. Consult a CFP for effective tax planning.

Recommendations for a 360-Degree Solution
1. Assess Your Risk Appetite:

Small-cap funds are suitable for aggressive investors with a high risk tolerance.
Flexicap funds offer a safer option for moderate risk-takers.
2. Long-Term Perspective:

Ensure the selected funds align with your 5-6 years horizon.
Small-cap funds may need a longer timeframe to realise potential.
3. Diversify Investments:

Avoid concentrating in one category. Combine large-cap, mid-cap, and hybrid funds.
Diversification reduces risk and ensures balanced growth.
4. Periodic Review:

Evaluate fund performance every six months.
Replace funds only when underperformance persists across multiple market cycles.
5. Consult a CFP:

A CFP will help you design a portfolio that matches your goals.
They offer personalised advice and save you from unnecessary churn.
Funds to Explore
Although specific fund suggestions are avoided, ensure these criteria when selecting:

Consistent performance over 3-5 years.
Low expense ratio in regular plans.
Experienced fund management and strong parentage.
Final Insights
Switching to Quant Small Cap and HDFC Flexicap can be considered. However, evaluate them alongside other funds with similar objectives. Maintain a diversified portfolio and consult a CFP for tailored guidance.

Remember, long-term investing is not about chasing returns but achieving your goals. Stay disciplined, and review your portfolio regularly.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |7078 Answers  |Ask -

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Hi, I am 36 years old, married & have 1 child (3 years old). My & wife and I have combined income from a salary of 4 lakh post taxes. We are investing in the following funds & have an investment horizon of more than 15 years. Wife Aditya BSL Pure Value - 2k DSP Value Fund - 4k HDFC Small Cap - 2K JM Financial Mid Cap - 10K Kotak business cycle - 5k Kotak Emerging Equity fund - 2K Motilal Oswal large and Midcap - 10k Motila Oswal Business Cycle Fund - 10k My Self Bandhan Core Equity - 2k Baroda BNP India Consumption - 3k Franklin India Prima - 4k HDFC Mid Cap Opportunity - 2k HSBC Small Cap - 5k Kotak Special Opportunity Fund - 10K Nippon India Flexi Cap - 7.5 SBI small cap - 4k White Oak capital Large and Mid - 7.5k ICICI prudential India opportunity -10k Equity Market - 25K SGB - 10K LIC - 5.2K. I'm looking for the same investment till next 15 years. Definitely will increase the MF amount every year. I'm looking for at least 15+ Cr corpus at the age of 55. Please guide me with the existing investment
Ans: Your portfolio demonstrates impressive discipline and diversification. Your strategy aligns well with your long-term goals. Let’s evaluate your investments from different perspectives to enhance your financial journey.

Income and Savings Allocation
You and your spouse have a combined post-tax income of Rs 4 lakh monthly. This indicates a healthy cash flow for both expenses and investments.

You are currently investing a significant portion of your income. It’s commendable and reflects your commitment to wealth creation.

Ensure you have adequate emergency funds in place. Ideally, maintain 6–12 months of household expenses in liquid assets like bank deposits or liquid funds.

Regularly increase your investments in line with your income growth. This will help mitigate inflation and maintain financial discipline.

Portfolio Diversification
Your portfolio includes large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and thematic funds. Let’s analyse its structure:

Equity Funds: Your portfolio has a good mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds. However, there may be an overlap in holdings due to multiple funds in similar categories.

Thematic and Sectoral Funds: These add potential for higher returns but come with higher risk. Maintain their allocation within 10–15% of your portfolio.

Direct Stocks (Equity Market): A Rs 25K monthly allocation here adds direct exposure. This is suitable if you have expertise and time to track individual stocks.

Debt and Gold: Investments in Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs) and LIC provide stability. However, LIC policies may have lower returns compared to other instruments.

Steps to Optimise Your Portfolio
1. Reduce Fund Overlap
Multiple funds in similar categories can lead to duplication. Consolidate funds with similar investment styles.

For example, instead of holding several mid-cap funds, select one or two strong performers.

2. Evaluate LIC Policy
LIC is a low-return investment compared to equity funds. If you hold traditional LIC policies, consider surrendering them after a cost-benefit analysis.

Reinvest proceeds into mutual funds for better compounding over 15+ years.

3. Balance Asset Allocation
Equity investments dominate your portfolio, which is suitable for your time horizon.

Continue allocating 10–15% to debt and gold for stability. Use a debt mutual fund for better tax efficiency than LIC policies.

Keep reviewing asset allocation annually based on life events or market conditions.

4. Increase Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) Amount
Increase SIPs by at least 10–15% annually to match income growth.

This disciplined approach ensures consistent wealth accumulation.

5. Review Fund Performance Regularly
Monitor fund performance every 6–12 months. Exit funds underperforming their category for over two years.

Choose funds managed by experienced fund managers with a proven track record.

6. Tax Efficiency
LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. Keep this in mind while redeeming equity funds.

Use the tax-harvesting strategy by redeeming gains below Rs 1.25 lakh annually to minimise tax liability.

Insurance Coverage
Ensure you and your spouse have adequate term insurance covering at least 10–15 times your annual income.

A health insurance policy for the family is crucial. Consider a super top-up policy for additional coverage.

Avoid investment-linked insurance products. Term insurance is cost-effective, and mutual funds provide better returns.

Child’s Future Planning
Start a dedicated SIP for your child’s education and marriage. Allocate funds in diversified equity schemes.

Goal-based investing helps in disciplined savings and keeps you on track.

Retirement Planning
Your target corpus of Rs 15+ crore by age 55 is realistic.

Focus on equity for growth. Add balanced funds or flexi-cap funds for moderate risk-adjusted returns.

Avoid early withdrawals to benefit from compounding over 15+ years.

Thematic Investments
Funds like business cycle or thematic funds are high-risk. Keep allocation limited to avoid concentration risks.

Evaluate the suitability of these funds every three years.

Risk Management
Your equity allocation indicates a high-risk appetite. Reassess your risk profile every 3–5 years.

Avoid emotional decisions during market volatility. Stay focused on long-term goals.

Final Insights
Your financial discipline and long-term approach are excellent. Optimising your portfolio with fewer funds and higher SIP amounts will improve efficiency. Regular reviews and a clear focus on goals will ensure success.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 21, 2024

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Hello sir, I am 49 years old male, investing rs 30000 permonth in sip since 2016 October. Getting 3lacs per month after tax deduction. Has a house loan of 40lacs 19years more with monthly emi of 40k. Has 25lacs star health insurance. Needs around 40lacs per year for 3 years for my son's abroad education from next year.... And planning to retire at 55. Kindly guide me to invest for a retirement plan (2 lacs monthly pension) and sons education. Thank you.
Ans: Your financial journey is commendable. Investing Rs 30,000 per month through SIP since 2016 is a disciplined approach. Balancing a house loan, education goals, and retirement is crucial. Let's craft a structured strategy for your priorities.

Current Financial Snapshot
Monthly Income: Rs 3 lakhs (post-tax).

House Loan EMI: Rs 40,000 monthly.

Health Insurance: Rs 25 lakhs coverage.

Education Goal: Rs 40 lakhs annually for 3 years starting next year.

Retirement Goal: Rs 2 lakhs monthly pension from 55 years.

Priority 1: Son’s Abroad Education
Your son’s education requires Rs 1.2 crore in 3 years.

Allocate current SIP investments towards this goal.

Use a mix of short-term debt funds and balanced hybrid funds.

Redeem SIPs closer to need, considering market trends.

Avoid taking high-risk equity exposure for this short-term goal.

Any surplus income or bonuses should be added to this goal.

Priority 2: House Loan Management
Your loan has a 19-year tenure, costing Rs 40,000 monthly.

Avoid prepayments now to prioritize education.

Post-education, consider reducing the loan tenure by increasing EMI.

This will help you save significant interest over the loan period.

Priority 3: Retirement Planning
You plan to retire at 55, requiring Rs 2 lakhs monthly.

This translates to Rs 24 lakhs annually post-retirement.

Inflation-adjusted corpus needed: Rs 6-7 crore (approximate).

Steps to Build the Retirement Corpus:

Increase SIP contributions once education expenses reduce.

Use a mix of large-cap, flexi-cap, and multi-cap mutual funds for growth.

Keep 10-15% allocation in debt funds for stability.

Review and rebalance the portfolio annually.

After 55, shift corpus to systematic withdrawal plans (SWPs) for regular income.

Suggestions for Health Insurance
Your Rs 25 lakh health insurance cover is decent but may be insufficient.

Add a super top-up plan of Rs 25-30 lakhs.

This will safeguard you against rising medical costs.

Contingency Fund
Maintain a fund for emergencies, equal to 6-12 months of expenses.

This should cover household costs and EMI.

Invest in liquid funds or fixed deposits for easy access.

Tax Planning
Your investments should align with the new tax rules.

For equity mutual funds, LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains from equity funds attract 20% tax.

Debt funds gains are taxed as per your income slab.

Factor these into your withdrawals for education or retirement.

Investment Approach
Use actively managed funds to outperform benchmarks.

Avoid index funds due to limited flexibility in volatile markets.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner for expert guidance.

Regular plans offer the added benefit of professional advice.

Insurance Review
Evaluate your insurance policies.

If you hold LIC or ULIP policies, consider surrendering and reinvesting in mutual funds.

This will optimize returns for long-term goals.

Recommendations for the Next Steps
Education Fund: Reallocate existing SIPs to low-risk funds.

Retirement Fund: Increase SIP contributions gradually after education expenses.

Health Insurance: Enhance coverage with a super top-up plan.

Emergency Fund: Build a liquid corpus for unforeseen needs.

Finally
Your disciplined approach is inspiring. Focusing on these steps will ensure your goals are met. A Certified Financial Planner can provide personalized strategies.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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