Hello Madam I am married from 6 months, I am confused weather I should produce kids or not, because I think producing a kid brings financial and emotional responsibilities to us. Can you advise what should I do, because I don't want to come under society pressure, please share your expert advise Thank you

Ans: The child to be born is coming from the different dimension
That spirit is deciding factor in drawing the time and space.When the time arrives
You will be ready mentally and physically
Sometimes taking these decisions too much into our mind is not healthy. Listening to the heart bring in peace

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Why on Earth would you want more kids? I wonder how you plan on beaing inflation and provide for their growing needs, education and other financial commitments, of course unless you are a very wealthy person and you can afford it.
What's with 2 male and 1 female kid? Just saying; gender determination tests are illegal and is a punishable offense in India.

Okay, what does your wife have to say about it? She's 22 and already a mother to 2 boys...does she want any more children? This is something that the two of you must discuss...
You need to look at your financials and then also speak with your wife on if she would want to spend at least one decade giving birth and 2 more decades raising all of them. You know, it's nice to be surrounded by a lot of children Sir, and that's why nieces and nephews came along...

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It seems like a conversation you should have with your partner, especially given his current job status. Consider the finances and the life changes that would come with having another child. Both of you need to be committed to the idea and work together to sort out any possible problem.

Best Wishes.

Ans: When it comes to having children, your hesitation makes sense. Bringing a child into the world is a profound decision that requires emotional readiness and practical planning. If you’re feeling unsupported or uncertain about your husband’s ability to contribute—financially, emotionally, or practically—it’s wise to pause and reflect. Your decision to delay this step shows your self-awareness and your commitment to creating a stable and nurturing environment for a child. That’s admirable.

Your concern about his career trajectory is another important factor. A marriage thrives on mutual effort, and it’s reasonable to expect your partner to take responsibility for his own growth and stability. However, it’s also worth exploring why he’s been unable to sustain a job. Is it a matter of confidence, market conditions, or something deeper like a lack of motivation or direction? If he hasn’t been taking things seriously, as you’ve mentioned, it’s important to have a frank and compassionate conversation about how this is impacting both of you.

At the same time, his love for you seems genuine, and it’s important to recognize that. His suggestion for you to change your job might stem from a place of care, possibly concern for your health or the toll of shift work. However, if your current job provides financial stability and satisfaction, you need to weigh that against his concerns. Ask yourself: is this request aligned with what’s best for you both, or is it coming from his own discomfort with his current situation?

As you navigate these emotions, take some time to reflect on your core needs and values. What does partnership mean to you? Are your current frustrations a temporary phase, or are they reflective of deeper, long-term patterns in the relationship? It’s also worth considering whether he is open to making real changes. Has he shown willingness to take responsibility for his career and future? Does he listen to your concerns and actively work toward addressing them?

It’s okay to have moments where you question why you’re in this relationship—doubt doesn’t mean failure. It means you care enough to want something better for both of you. If you feel the love is worth fighting for, then it’s essential to have honest, open conversations with your husband. Express your feelings without blame and seek to understand his perspective as well. Couples counseling can also be a valuable tool to help you both navigate these challenges together and find a path forward.

However, if you find that the emotional and practical gaps in the relationship persist despite your efforts, it’s okay to ask yourself whether this partnership is meeting your needs. You deserve to feel supported, valued, and secure in your marriage. Whatever decision you make, let it come from a place of self-respect and a desire to build the life you truly want. You’re not alone in this, and reaching out for guidance shows how deeply you care about making the best decision for your future.