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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 20, 2023Hindi
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Hello I am married 42 male. I m in love with a lady who is also married for the last 2 yr . We met through matrimony prior both of our marriage in 2015. She has many relationships till date with colleagues and also with her husband boss. Inspite of knowing this , I am unable to come out of the relationship. Also she used to tell me she doesn't love me.i hv already spent around 1.5 lakhs for buying gifts

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

You are indulging in a very toxic relationship and my only advice is to get out of it as quickly as possible. First off, it's unethical. You are married and that makes it cheating. Secondly, the woman is clearly not in love with you, and she has been vocal about it. You are wasting your time, energy, and money on someone who does not care for you. I am sorry that you have to go through this, but it's the truth.

Best Wishes!
Asked on - Dec 21, 2023 | Answered on Jan 02, 2024
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Sir I know. My wife too know this and she is too supporting me to come out. But I madly love her. I tried to discontinue all contact many times but every time she tells u are my best friend...bla bla. She told me that she has been physical with 3 college friend and 2 colleagues of her and her husband. For her husband promotion, she slept with his boss too. Inspite of knowing all these, I love her. I had not been in any physical relationship with her.tried everything including meditation.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am glad you came clean to your wife and she is helping you come out of this mess. I am sure you know this, but still, I'd like to point out that you are a lucky man to have a partner such as your wife. Focus on that.

You might be in love but you are also married and that makes your love unethical. And meditation does not help in all things, and it's a tough feat to achieve. I suggest you see a marriage counselor or seek therapy yourself. There's no shame in seeking help. You left your concerns and questions here for me, and that's seeking help too. That is a good start. Now I recommend you see a professional who can help you with structured guidance. Before your marriage falls to pieces, I highly recommend taking proactive steps. Sometimes we can't do it alone and that's when licensed therapists come in. Please think about seeing one.

Best Wishes!

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I am 43 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some reason they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide.
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It is refreshing to see someone so selfless as you. I understand and appreciate your love and how much you are ready to sacrifice for her. However, I would like to offer a suggestion – it's crucial to prioritize your own mental and emotional health in this situation. While it's unfortunate that she is dealing with challenges in her marriage, resorting to having an affair might not be the most constructive way to cope.

I suggest that she and her husband explore the option of seeking professional help through a marriage counselor. This could help them navigate the complexities of their relationship and make an informed decision about whether to continue their marriage or part ways. In case they decide to separate, it would be valid for you two to start a relationship and pursue a happy life together. But if they decide to remain married, I fear that you might end up sacrificing your own chance at a fulfilling love life. I realize that you might be okay with it, but it isn't fair to you.

I encourage you to have an open and honest discussion with her before committing to anything, ensuring that your feelings and well-being are also taken into account.

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I am 43 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some reason they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide
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Ans: Considering your background in HR and your preference for career stability, pursuing an executive Ph.D. could indeed be a strategic choice to enhance your qualifications and open up opportunities in both the government and academic sectors. With an executive Ph.D. in HR or a related field, you could pursue senior-level positions in government agencies or public-sector organizations responsible for human resource management, labor relations, or organizational development. Government roles such as HR Director, Personnel Manager, or Policy Analyst may offer stability, benefits, and opportunities for career advancement. An executive Ph.D. qualifies you to teach at the university level and conduct research in your area of expertise. Consider pursuing opportunities as a professor or lecturer in colleges or universities, teaching courses in HR management, organizational behavior, or related fields. Engaging in research projects, publishing scholarly articles, and participating in academic conferences can enhance your credibility and contribute to your career growth as an academic. Use your expertise and academic credentials to develop and deliver executive education programs, workshops, or training sessions for professionals in HR and management. Collaborate with universities, business schools, or corporate training institutes to design customized programs tailored to the needs of organizations and executives. Establish your own consulting firm or join a consulting organization that specializes in providing advisory services to businesses, nonprofits, or government agencies. Roles in program management, policy advocacy, or capacity building may align with your expertise and offer opportunities to make a positive impact on society. 

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Sir, i 'm currently doing b. Sc in biotechnology NEP from University of jammu ... What can i do after this course after getting b. Sc degree... What 're its career options? ... Tell about this co
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I want to work in cosmetic industry. Is it better to do major in chemistry or do chemical engineering? Which has high scope? Also is their any scope in chemical engineering in upcoming years? And how is the pay like? Other than chemical engineering wh8ch has highest demand and salary?
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I worked for a private PMC company with appointment letter later after four months they were unable to pay salary and assured us by mails and what's up messages that, they are having some financial problems and requested to continue and pending salaries would be released soon and later stopped taking calls, We have resigned but they have not settled our account and now again become active. What action can be taken.
Ans: It's unfortunate that you're facing this situation with your former employer. Gather all relevant documentation related to your employment, including your appointment letter, emails, WhatsApp messages, and any other communication regarding salary payments and promises made by the company. Having a record of these interactions will be crucial for any potential legal action. Reach out to the company via email or written correspondence to remind them of the outstanding salary payments and request immediate settlement of your dues. Clearly outline the amount owed, the period for which you worked without compensation, and any promises or assurances made by the company regarding payment. If the company fails to respond or refuses to settle your dues, consider seeking legal advice from a labor lawyer or legal aid organization. They can assess your situation, advise you on your rights and options, and help you take appropriate legal action to recover your unpaid wages. Depending on the jurisdiction and labor laws in your area, you may have the option to file a formal complaint or grievance with the relevant labor department or regulatory authority. Provide them with all relevant documentation and information about your case, and they may investigate the matter and take action against the company if warranted. If you see other employees are also affected by unpaid wages or mistreatment by the company, then consider organizing collectively to amplify your voices and increase pressure on the company to resolve the issue. This could involve forming a group, sharing information and resources, and coordinating efforts to seek redress through legal channels or public advocacy. Throughout this process, it's important to protect your rights and avoid taking any actions that could jeopardize your legal standing or future claims against the company. Keep records of all communications, consult with legal experts, and be prepared to assert your rights if necessary. Stay informed about any developments related to the company, including changes in ownership, financial status, or legal proceedings. This information may affect your ability to recover unpaid wages or seek other forms of recourse.

Remember that recovering unpaid wages can be a complex and challenging process, but by taking proactive steps, seeking appropriate guidance, and advocating for your rights, you can increase your chances of obtaining a favorable outcome.
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It's been a year since I completed my engineering in mechanical engineering. I am currently unemployed. I keep sending resume through LinkedIn, indeed, monster. I only get rejection replies. I have lost confidence in everything. What i specialised and has more interest is mechanical design and simulation, but majority companies prefer experienced candidates. For my other plans to work out i initially needed a job for money as well as for experience. It's very depressing and i am kind of letting go my dreams. I feel I am very incapable of even find a job after a course. What difference do I make with those who took a year off to clear remaining arrears.
Ans: It's understandable to feel frustrated and discouraged when facing challenges in your job search, especially when you're passionate about a specific field like mechanical design and simulation. However, it's essential to remember that setbacks are a natural part of the job search process, and they don't define your worth or capabilities. While gaining work experience may seem challenging at the moment, you can focus on enhancing your skills and knowledge in mechanical design and simulation. Consider enrolling in online courses, workshops, or certification programs related to CAD software, finite element analysis (FEA), computational fluid dynamics (CFD), or other relevant areas. Reach out to professionals working in mechanical design and simulation roles through LinkedIn or industry events. Request informational interviews to learn about their career paths, experiences, and insights into the industry. Building relationships with professionals in your field can lead to job opportunities, mentorship, and valuable advice for your career. Look for internships, co-op programs, or entry-level positions that offer opportunities to gain hands-on experience in mechanical design and simulation. While these roles may not always be advertised, reaching out to companies directly or through your network can help you uncover hidden opportunities and demonstrate your enthusiasm and commitment to the field.

Remember that finding a job after completing your engineering degree is a process that takes time and persistence. Stay committed to your aspirations, continue investing in your skills and knowledge, and remain open to new opportunities that come your way. With determination and perseverance, you can overcome obstacles and find success in your chosen field.
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