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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 18, 2023

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yashasvi Question by yashasvi on Apr 14, 2023Hindi
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Hello , I am jee aspirant and it feels like I ruined my carrer because of involving in dating and stuff.. and now i feel helpless because nothing is in my hand . I feel guilty for not standing upto my parents expectations. If I talk about the love life it feels like it was the worst decision. Now I feel stressed and depressed . What shoul I do?

Ans: It's understandable to feel overwhelmed and stressed about your situation. It's important to remember that you are not alone, and there are steps you can take to move forward and improve your situation.

Firstly, it's important to address your feelings of guilt and shame. It's normal to make mistakes and have experiences that don't align with our parents' expectations or our own goals. It's essential to recognize that these experiences do not define your worth or value as a person.

It's also crucial to take care of your mental health. Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and develop coping strategies. Additionally, taking care of your physical health through exercise, healthy eating, and proper sleep can help improve your mood and overall well-being.

As for your career, it's not too late to get back on track. You can take steps to improve your academic performance and study habits. Consider seeking out additional resources, such as tutoring or study groups, to help you achieve your goals.

Finally, it's important to remember that your love life does not have to define your career or future. Many successful people have had relationships and experiences that didn't align with their career goals, but they were able to persevere and succeed. You can do the same by focusing on your goals and taking the necessary steps to achieve them.

Overall, it's important to take things one step at a time and to focus on the present moment. With time and effort, you can overcome your challenges and achieve your goals.

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I am jee aspirant and couldn't clear it . I was sure that in 2nd attempt i will do it for sure but when I saw the results they broke my courage. I convinced my self its ok u have many other options but after seeing my cbse 12th results its hard that there is any option left for me. I thought for bits pilani but I am not getting aggregate above than 75% . Now , I have no courage to start again . I am depressed what should I should do. There isn't any single day that I am not scolded for my marks and mistakes . Even now my parents aren't that much supportive like they were . It feels like just because u can't clear ur entrance exam , ur everything is judged. My parents are saying of taking drop but its hard for to take a drop. I don't know what should I do. Every day its getting hard to live thinking that again someone will come and make me count my mistakes.
Ans: Dear Yashasvi,
You win some, you lose some...that is LIFE...

Instead of feeling down and out, pick yourself up and figure out what you want to do next...what are the other options that you are yet to consider. feeling sorry for yourself is not going to push you to make a future.
You can't change what's happened but you can certainly choose how you want things to move ahead...
So shake this low feeling and feeling sorry for yourself off and seek the advice of a senior who you look up to or someone in your family who can guide you on the next steps.
It helps involving someone to help you at this time as you are deep into it already. This person can play the role of giving you independent advice and suggestions without judging you.

1. Seek someone who is a role model to guide you
2. Look ahead instead of harping on what has happened
3. Use failure as a form of feedback from where you can learn
4. Spend at least a month away from academics to rework strategies on how to study effectively
5. Smile through challenges as they only help you grow

And if you still feel that your parents are being supportive, do let them know that you need more of their love and care.

All the best!

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hi so in 4 days im giving my jee exam and havent prepared well at all my parents hv high hope on my but i started scoring very bad due to love trap and now i really wana get into gr8 college but all the teachers around me are so very unsupoortative i get cornered by them today also i fianted in class after coresspodent called my name as i scored low..im such a disappointment in life wt should i even do?
Ans: It can be hard to deal with such a lot of stress, especially when you don't have any help. Just try the following suggestions: If not a teacher, talk to a family member, friend, or even a psychologist. Putting your feelings into words can help lighten the load.
Take care of your body by getting enough rest, water, and small foods. Fainting is a sign that your body is under a lot of stress.
Breathing exercises: When you feel stressed, try taking deep breaths. It can calm you down. There is still time to change what you might not have done as you had hoped. Focus on getting better in key and scoring areas for the next four days, based on your past preparation. Stick to NCERT for inorganic chemistry. Here, you can study physical chemistry formulas and organic reactions. Do not try to be perfect right now. Pay close attention to making sure you cover enough. Some people around you may have let you down, but that doesn't mean they don't value you. One test doesn't completely describe your life. If JEE doesn't go as planned, there are still other ways to have a great job. Don't give up hope if it doesn't happen. You can always choose between state engineering schools, private universities, or taking a year off to get ready with more help. Even though things are hard for you right now, this is not how you will always feel. Even people who are very good at what they do have low points. Don't give up on yourself, even if you feel lost. You still need to do a lot of things. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future. Follow RediffGURUS to know more on 'Careers | Health | Money | Relationships'.

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Hi, Sir. My son is taking admission in BMS College of Engineering, Banglore. It is best for ECE?. Please advise me. Thanks
Ans: Prasanna, B.M.S. College of Engineering’s Electronics & Communication Engineering programme is a NAAC A++–accredited, NBA Tier-I recognised course with a four-year curriculum and an expanded annual intake of 420 students, reflecting its commitment to meeting growing industry demand. The department maintains modern VLSI, embedded-systems, digital signal-processing and IoT labs, supported by a Siemens-backed Industry-4.0 centre and high-performance computing clusters, enabling hands-on learning and interdisciplinary projects. Faculty hold Ph.D. qualifications and lead active research in wireless communication, nanomaterials and AI-driven signal analytics, with over 350 research scholars across fourteen VTU-recognised centres. Over the past three years, ECE branch-wise placement consistency has ranged between 80% and 95%, driven by recruiters such as Texas Instruments, Qualcomm, Cisco, Infosys and Bosch, while robust alumni networks and corporate partnerships underpin strong internship pipelines and industry immersion. Outcome-based education, industry-aligned curricula and proactive upscaling of seats ensure both academic rigour and broad access for aspiring electronics engineers.

Recommendation: With its top-tier accreditation, cutting-edge laboratories, growing student intake, and sustained placement record, the recommendation is to proceed with ECE at BMSCE as a strong foundation for core-electronics and emerging IoT/AI roles; complement coursework with certification courses and active participation in departmental research clusters to maximise employability. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, my son is getting in iit goa cse, iiit bangalore cse, nit surathkal ece and rvce cse. Pls give the preference order.
Ans: Katikala Madam, All four institutes excel in accreditation, faculty expertise, infrastructure, industry linkages, and placement consistency. IIT Goa’s CSE department, backed by NAAC A++ accreditation, features dedicated AI and cloud labs and records a 90.7% BTech placement rate in 2024 with recruiters like Adobe, Siemens, and Google. IIIT Bangalore (NAAC A+) offers state-of-the-art high-performance computing and data-science facilities, achieving an average CSE placement consistency of approximately 84% over the last three years, with top recruiters such as Apple, Amazon, and Microsoft. NIT Surathkal’s ECE programme, an Institute of National Importance with NBA accreditation, maintains specialized VLSI and signal-processing labs and has achieved branch-wise ECE placement rates of 96.4% in 2023 and 72.7% in 2024, drawing recruiters like Microsoft, Samsung, and Qualcomm. RVCE’s CSE (NAAC A+) boasts modern cybersecurity and IoT labs and demonstrates a three-year CSE placement average around 88% (93% in 2023, 75% in 2024), with key hires from Cisco, PayPal, and Qualcomm. Institute reputation steers global recognition: IIT Goa and IIIT Bangalore offer strong national eminence, NIT Surathkal affords robust core engineering tradition, and RVCE provides urban industry access and alumni networks.

Recommendation: Prioritize IIIT Bangalore CSE for its sustained placement consistency and premier industry ties; next, choose IIT Goa CSE for cutting-edge AI labs and rising placement rates; follow with NIT Surathkal ECE for established core-electronics strength; and select RVCE CSE last for its urban internships and solid recruiter diversity. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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There are some councellor who give priority to government Engineering college over private. Nit's and IIIT'S are new in market in our time when I became an engineer there where no such government colleges if I am not wrong and every one use to be mad about Bangalore colleges like MSRIT, SIT, BMS BIT . They say private colleges are for for those who get less percentage and for children's who are from affluent family and students who wants to waste their parents money. Some of the few IIIT'S and nit's are in such a remote place that any parent would think twice before sending his child over there. I am so confused what to do my child is getting TEIR 1 IIIT'S and TEIR 3 NIT'S and top private engineering colleges with good facilities and better City. So am i wrong if I choose DAIICT, MSRIT, BMS over IIIT'S and NIT'S??
Ans: Government engineering schools like IITs, NITs, and IIITs are recognized as important institutions with direct funding from the central government and the freedom to manage themselves, which helps them maintain high academic standards, follow top international course guidelines, and support strong research programs as set by laws made by Parliament. Getting accredited by NAAC (for the whole institution) and NBA (for specific programs) ensures that these institutes keep improving their quality, are accountable to their stakeholders, and gain international recognition through agreements like the Washington Accord, while also requiring them to participate in NIRF for transparency in their results. These institutions maintain extensive laboratories—spanning high-voltage, clean-room, sensor networks, composites, AI/ML and pilot-plant facilities—and prioritize outcome-based learning, industry-ready internships, and faculty with robust Ph.D. and industry credentials. Their placement consistency routinely exceeds 85–95% for core branches, bolstered by alumni networks and nationalized recruiter tie-ups across PSUs, Fortune 500 firms, and global R&D hubs. In contrast, established private colleges such as DAIICT, MSRIT, and BMS BIT deliver student-centric environments with modern campuses, focused specializations, flexible electives, and strong corporate partnerships within urban centers. They offer competitive placement cells yielding 80–90% branch-wise offers, agile curricula aligned to emerging domains (e.g., data science, fintech, cybersecurity), and scholarship schemes tailored to merit and need. While private institutes may incur higher fees, they often compensate with smaller cohorts, industry?embedded projects, and vibrant campus life. Geographic location and city?level opportunities influence internships and student well?being, making metropolitan campuses appealing for networking and soft?skill development. Recognize the enduring value of government institutes for foundational research, global rankings, and subsidized excellence while acknowledging private colleges’ strengths in specialized curricula, urban connectivity, and agile pedagogy. Choose an IIIT/NIT seat if your child values research freedom, strong accreditation, and a good national reputation; if not, opt for top private colleges like DAIICT, MSRIT, or BMS BIT for their specialized programs, connections to local industries, and reliable job placement rates. Ensure choice reflects both institutional quality and your child’s long-term goals. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

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