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yashasvi Question by yashasvi on May 17, 2023Hindi
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I am jee aspirant and couldn't clear it . I was sure that in 2nd attempt i will do it for sure but when I saw the results they broke my courage. I convinced my self its ok u have many other options but after seeing my cbse 12th results its hard that there is any option left for me. I thought for bits pilani but I am not getting aggregate above than 75% . Now , I have no courage to start again . I am depressed what should I should do. There isn't any single day that I am not scolded for my marks and mistakes . Even now my parents aren't that much supportive like they were . It feels like just because u can't clear ur entrance exam , ur everything is judged. My parents are saying of taking drop but its hard for to take a drop. I don't know what should I do. Every day its getting hard to live thinking that again someone will come and make me count my mistakes.

Ans: Dear Yashasvi,
You win some, you lose some...that is LIFE...

Instead of feeling down and out, pick yourself up and figure out what you want to do next...what are the other options that you are yet to consider. feeling sorry for yourself is not going to push you to make a future.
You can't change what's happened but you can certainly choose how you want things to move ahead...
So shake this low feeling and feeling sorry for yourself off and seek the advice of a senior who you look up to or someone in your family who can guide you on the next steps.
It helps involving someone to help you at this time as you are deep into it already. This person can play the role of giving you independent advice and suggestions without judging you.

1. Seek someone who is a role model to guide you
2. Look ahead instead of harping on what has happened
3. Use failure as a form of feedback from where you can learn
4. Spend at least a month away from academics to rework strategies on how to study effectively
5. Smile through challenges as they only help you grow

And if you still feel that your parents are being supportive, do let them know that you need more of their love and care.

All the best!

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Ans: It can be hard to deal with such a lot of stress, especially when you don't have any help. Just try the following suggestions: If not a teacher, talk to a family member, friend, or even a psychologist. Putting your feelings into words can help lighten the load.
Take care of your body by getting enough rest, water, and small foods. Fainting is a sign that your body is under a lot of stress.
Breathing exercises: When you feel stressed, try taking deep breaths. It can calm you down. There is still time to change what you might not have done as you had hoped. Focus on getting better in key and scoring areas for the next four days, based on your past preparation. Stick to NCERT for inorganic chemistry. Here, you can study physical chemistry formulas and organic reactions. Do not try to be perfect right now. Pay close attention to making sure you cover enough. Some people around you may have let you down, but that doesn't mean they don't value you. One test doesn't completely describe your life. If JEE doesn't go as planned, there are still other ways to have a great job. Don't give up hope if it doesn't happen. You can always choose between state engineering schools, private universities, or taking a year off to get ready with more help. Even though things are hard for you right now, this is not how you will always feel. Even people who are very good at what they do have low points. Don't give up on yourself, even if you feel lost. You still need to do a lot of things. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future. Follow RediffGURUS to know more on 'Careers | Health | Money | Relationships'.

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Ans: Priyanka Madam, by now your son must have been allotted/not allotted any seat by BITS. Please update the status for today. However, please note, A BITSAT score of 245 situates you within the previous two years’ closing-score bands for core engineering streams at the Pilani, Goa, and Hyderabad campuses. At Pilani, the B.E. Chemical Engineering cutoff ranged from 224 in 2023 to 247 in 2024, placing your 245 close to the 2024 threshold and comfortably above 2023’s mark; B.E. Civil Engineering closed at 213 and 238, making admission highly probable; and B.E. Manufacturing Engineering cutoffs of 220 and 243 indicate a strong likelihood of allotment. At Goa, Chemical Engineering closed at 239 in 2024 and 248 in 2023, and Civil around – (not offered in 2024) – but Pilani-equivalent streams suggest safe admission; Manufacturing cutoffs mirror Pilani trends, bolstering your prospects. At Hyderabad, Chemical Engineering cutoffs of 238 and 209 over the two years ensure a secure allotment, while Civil Engineering’s 235–204 band similarly favors your score; Manufacturing at Hyderabad showed closing marks near 218–251, indicating moderate probability. Across campuses, Civil and Manufacturing remain reliably within reach, Chemical at Pilani may require waitlist movement but is feasible given historical fluctuations, and all three streams at Hyderabad and Goa present strong chances. Additional seats open during special iterations further enhance admit probabilities.

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